4 year Old Cries At Dropoff OMG

[Willow]

She is 4. She gets it. I'd point blank tell her, "If you cry at drop off, you will not go with us to the aquarium to see the fish. If you walk in nicely, then you will go with us to the aquarium. I hope you make a good choice."
If she tantrums I would absolutely exclude her. I'd also be looking her sternly in the eye and saying, "All done with crying." and not allow her to participate in fun activities like the others said if she does come in tantruming. If you can't be nice, then you don't get to have fun with the others. She isn't 1. She is 4 and manipulating this situation to her full advantage. Make it less fun for her.

[Crystal]

I'd put her to bed upon arrival. I'd say to her, in front of Mom, "This behavior is telling me you are tired. You need to lay down and rest until you feel rested enough to join the group" And then I'd lay her down until she quit. I would do it every single time.

And, yes, I'd take away privileges like field trips as well.

[MrsSteinel'sHouse]

Personally, if she acts that badly at drop off (over an hour of screaming/whining/crying) she wouldn't be participating in anything but nap and meal times at my house.

I'm sorry that might sound harsh but this little girl needs a reality check so she understands that the world does not revolve around her and that the amount of fun she has is 100% dependent on her.

Exactly. Some kids need to see that line is there.. black and white with BIG consequences!

[AllDeezBabies]

She came today. Mom didn't walk in she had to drag her in. She kicked my sliding closet door so hard it has a big crack down the middle. I told mom damage to personal property will not be tolerated. She needs to bring her when she is settled and I showed her the way out.

Mom calls me from the outside of my door saying she is pulling them from care because she thinks dcg is being abused here.:: I told her she can pull her no problem. I opened the door and asked dcg if she has ever been hit or treated wrong while here, dcg says no. I gathered the children's belongings and handed them to mom. As they were leaving dcb says "I love you Ms. C" and gives me a hug dcg immediately stops crying.

Now she is calling me non stop. I'm not answering. I need the income but I'm not willing to get it this way.

[daycare]

She came today. Mom didn't walk in she had to drag her in. She kicked my sliding closet door so hard it has a big crack down the middle. I told mom damage to personal property will not be tolerated. She needs to bring her when she is settled and I showed her the way out.

Mom calls me from the outside of my door saying she is pulling them from care because she thinks dcg is being abused here.:: I told her she can pull her no problem. I opened the door and asked dcg if she has ever been hit or treated wrong while here, dcg says no. I gathered the children's belongings and handed them to mom. As they were leaving dcb says "I love you Ms. C" and gives me a hug dcg immediately stops crying.

Now she is calling me non stop. I'm not answering. I need the income but I'm not willing to get it this way.

oh dear that is just horrible...I am so sorry you are going through this....I am sending you some of my back bone strength....stay strong and hang in there...

[Crystal]

Document and get ready for a visit. If she is threatening that she suspects abuse, your big NO to her may cause her to retaliate and make false accusations against you.

Good luck. :hug:

[AllDeezBabies]

oh dear that is just horrible...I am so sorry you are going through this....I am sending you some of my back bone strength....stay strong and hang in there...

Thank you so much. My feelings are truly hurt. I did so much for this family and to be repaid like this ****s.

[AllDeezBabies]

Document and get ready for a visit. If she is threatening that she suspects abuse, your big NO to her may cause her to retaliate and make false accusations against you.

Good luck. :hug:

I made a call to my licensing rep after it happened. I also faxed over to her the correspondence log for this parent. Thank you so much

[Blackcat31]

She came today. Mom didn't walk in she had to drag her in. She kicked my sliding closet door so hard it has a big crack down the middle. I told mom damage to personal property will not be tolerated. She needs to bring her when she is settled and I showed her the way out.

Mom calls me from the outside of my door saying she is pulling them from care because she thinks dcg is being abused here.:: I told her she can pull her no problem. I opened the door and asked dcg if she has ever been hit or treated wrong while here, dcg says no. I gathered the children's belongings and handed them to mom. As they were leaving dcb says "I love you Ms. C" and gives me a hug dcg immediately stops crying.

Now she is calling me non stop. I'm not answering. I need the income but I'm not willing to get it this way.

for handling it so professionally! Well done!!

You are right....sometimes income forces providers to put up with a lot more than they should and in my personal opinion that simply ****s....

No amount of money is worth it in some cases and in this one, I'd have to say you are coming out ahead by not having to deal with that anymore.

Wowza!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I'd put her to bed upon arrival. I'd say to her, in front of Mom, "This behavior is telling me you are tired. You need to lay down and rest until you feel rested enough to join the group" And then I'd lay her down until she quit. I would do it every single time.

And, yes, I'd take away privileges like field trips as well.

Brilliant!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

She came today. Mom didn't walk in she had to drag her in. She kicked my sliding closet door so hard it has a big crack down the middle. I told mom damage to personal property will not be tolerated. She needs to bring her when she is settled and I showed her the way out.

Mom calls me from the outside of my door saying she is pulling them from care because she thinks dcg is being abused here.:: I told her she can pull her no problem. I opened the door and asked dcg if she has ever been hit or treated wrong while here, dcg says no. I gathered the children's belongings and handed them to mom. As they were leaving dcb says "I love you Ms. C" and gives me a hug dcg immediately stops crying.

Now she is calling me non stop. I'm not answering. I need the income but I'm not willing to get it this way.

Please invoice them for the damage done to your door as well. That is RIDICULOUS!

[Familycare71]

She came today. Mom didn't walk in she had to drag her in. She kicked my sliding closet door so hard it has a big crack down the middle. I told mom damage to personal property will not be tolerated. She needs to bring her when she is settled and I showed her the way out.

Mom calls me from the outside of my door saying she is pulling them from care because she thinks dcg is being abused here.:: I told her she can pull her no problem. I opened the door and asked dcg if she has ever been hit or treated wrong while here, dcg says no. I gathered the children's belongings and handed them to mom. As they were leaving dcb says "I love you Ms. C" and gives me a hug dcg immediately stops crying.

Now she is calling me non stop. I'm not answering. I need the income but I'm not willing to get it this way.

RUN DON'T WALK!!! Wow!! I don't see that one coming!!!

[Familycare71]

I'd put her to bed upon arrival. I'd say to her, in front of Mom, "This behavior is telling me you are tired. You need to lay down and rest until you feel rested enough to join the group" And then I'd lay her down until she quit. I would do it every single time.

And, yes, I'd take away privileges like field trips as well.

Love this btw- think its what I would have done!

[Cradle2crayons]

I'd send her a demand for payment of two weeks notice, a termination letter, and a bill for damages. To be due in full IMMEDIATELY.

[Unregistered]

I'd send her a demand for payment of two weeks notice, a termination letter, and a bill for damages. To be due in full IMMEDIATELY.

And do it TODAY dated because when DHS comes to your door, you'll have documentation ready to go.

Additionally, I would tell mom to TEXT you. I'd text and say "I see you have been calling, did you forget something here?" And let her sink herself by begging you back> When she does that, save the text. When DHS comes over, show them that obviously, you couldn't have abused the kid because if so, why would mom beg you back? Exact type of situation happened to me, and the parent DID call dhs on me but then I let her put all her dirty laundry in writing.