Accidents On Purpose? And How To Handle This DCM?

[Blackcat31]

What a ridiculous situation to have to have gone through....all over a little bit of clean up.

I am continually amazed at the lengths children will go to in order to manipulate their environment and the level of acceptance parents will stoop to in order to support, reinforce and condone that kind of behavior.

[Play Care]

Wowza! Hopefully that big serving of humble pie changes things for the better::

[Laurel]

Thank goodness she showed up when she did.

Letting her 'see' him in action and her seeing how the other children willingly helped out was like a picture being worth a thousand words.

You did great!!!

Laurel

Edited to add: I especially like when you asked her what she would have praised him for in the last 30 minutes. Perfect.

[daycarediva]

Thank goodness she showed up when she did.

Letting her 'see' him in action and her seeing how the other children willingly helped out was like a picture being worth a thousand words.

You did great!!!

Laurel

Edited to add: I especially like when you asked her what she would have praised him for in the last 30 minutes. Perfect.

My dh did too, he was in the kitchen (nap is our lunch together time) and said it took a LOT not to laugh.

I really couldn't think of ANYTHING to praise him for, and it just came out. If he had even picked up ONE thing, I could have said "Oh great job dcb, just a few more to go!" nothing. LOL!

[countrymom]

omg i'm so glad mom saw what was going on and i'm glad she was embarressed and that the other kids made her feel like poo. I hope she fixes his problem for some reason I think she will.

[Laurel]

My dh did too, he was in the kitchen (nap is our lunch together time) and said it took a LOT not to laugh.

I really couldn't think of ANYTHING to praise him for, and it just came out. If he had even picked up ONE thing, I could have said "Oh great job dcb, just a few more to go!" nothing. LOL!

Laurel

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

:: What a great update!

[BumbleBee]

Oh, and I know some will disagree, but if a child throws something here in a fit, they can pick it up themselves, or I will help them. This means taking them and doing hand over hand assistance. And then they can sit in a time out.

Yep - here to.

Not trying to threadjack but:

My 20 month old dcb, "jaws", is notorious for refusing to pick up. I went to assist him one day and he attempted to bite my hand. I may have moved my hand just in time for him to bite his own arm. Killed 2 birds with one stone. He quit biting after that and started picking up when I told him to.

[cheerfuldom]

kudos to the OP for waiting it out with this mom....best thing that ever could have happened to mom was to see her kid in action.

[TheGoodLife]

honestly it sounds like both mom and child are not a good fit for your program

My DCK DO not have to share. How would that mom feel if she was eating and ice cream cone and you walked up and took a bite out of it. She did say everyone has to share right? UGH.

I have dc rules that I send home with families when before they start. These rules are for the kids to abide by and for the parents to back. If the parents don't agree with them, they dont attend here.

I really don't know what to say about the potty accidents. When kids do it on purpose here, I try to ignore it and move on.

I think that if you are consistent with your method of leaving the mess for him to have to clean up each time and not give in, then he will get it.

I had a dck age 4 throw all of his green beans on the floor. he took 45 minutes to clean them up. he screamed the whole time saying he hated me and he was not going to. I ignored him and he cleaned it up. He did the same thing two days later and again same thing. He has not done it since then.....

I wanted to edit to say.....I just realized that he is so part time...I don't think that this kid will ever get it. Not enough of the same routine....

I would love a copy of your rules that you send home to your DCPs, if you would be willing to share! That sounds like a great tool to give to parents!

[Heidi]

Yep - here to.

Not trying to threadjack but:

My 20 month old dcb, "jaws", is notorious for refusing to pick up. I went to assist him one day and he attempted to bite my hand. I may have moved my hand just in time for him to bite his own arm. Killed 2 birds with one stone. He quit biting after that and started picking up when I told him to.

My 20 mo is "Chompers". He tried to bite me once while I was removing his shoes against his will. Too bad I don't think as quickly as you do...