How Do I Leave a Group?

[Blackcat31]

Is anyone else a little put off by the moderators letting forum users know that they know who everyone is? I know some people on the forum let everyone know who they are and are cool with that, but I think the majority of people on here would like to be able to post anonymously. I read at least a few posts a week where regular users sign out for privacy when discussing a sensitive matter and a few posts a week posted by unregistered or guests that are legitimate posts. I respect their right to be privacy and I don't like reading over and over again that "we know who they are." The way it is done sounds rude and condescending.

My reply to Needavac was NOT meant to sound rude or condescending.

I am sorry if you felt it read that way.

She stated that I probably knew who it was and it (the OP's post) must make sense to me and I simply replied that is does.

IMO, I don't see how that comes across as rude and condescending at all. :confused:

I most certainly would NEVER give up who an unregistered poster is and would NEVER violate that kind of privacy. EVER.

I have also NEVER advertised that mods know who unregistered posters are although it does and has come up within a thread.

......and in all honesty, we don't ALWAYS know.

It isn't like there is a big flashing neon sign saying so.

I also don't see where moderator's are advertising that they know who unregistered poster are.

This is a public forum and in reality, there really is no such thing as internet privacy.

[NeedaVaca]

My reply to Needavac was NOT meant to sound rude or condescending.

I am sorry if you felt it read that way.

She stated that I probably knew who it was and it (the OP's post) must make sense to me and I simply replied that is does.

IMO, I don't see how that comes across as rude and condescending at all. :confused:

I most certainly would NEVER give up who an unregistered poster is and would NEVER violate that kind of privacy. EVER.

I have also NEVER advertised that mods know who unregistered posters are although it does and has come up within a thread.

......and in all honesty, we don't ALWAYS know.

It isn't like there is a big flashing neon sign saying so.

I also don't see where moderator's are advertising that they know who unregistered poster are.

This is a public forum and in reality, there really is no such thing as internet privacy.

Blackcat-just so you know, I didn't think your post was rude or condescending towards me Just a reminder that all people are not computer/internet savvy & maybe some people don't realize all the forum has to offer which was why the OP posted a thread about leaving instead of PM'ing you.

[Kelly P]

Is anyone else a little put off by the moderators letting forum users know that they know who everyone is? I know some people on the forum let everyone know who they are and are cool with that, but I think the majority of people on here would like to be able to post anonymously. I read at least a few posts a week where regular users sign out for privacy when discussing a sensitive matter and a few posts a week posted by unregistered or guests that are legitimate posts. I respect their right to be privacy and I don't like reading over and over again that "we know who they are." The way it is done sounds rude and condescending.

Sounds like somebody is offended. Why does everything have to bother somebody? Dont post if you r worried about privacy. I never assum anything on the internet is private and definately not public forums.
Even if i post as my username or unregistered... My username isnt the real me either so i dont see what difference it makes. The best way to protect yourself is dont post personal stuff

[Country Kids]

Last week it came up "Providers using Prescription Drugs" thread that it is not that hard for mods to figure out who the unregistered people are that are posting. A couple post on this actually were in that thread.

Another member said that they would leave if their information was ever given out or something along that lines.

I think that is were the mods knowing our information is coming from possibly.

https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=62034

[Michelle]

sigh
I think we all need to get together, go on a cruise,have the time of our lives,laugh,dance, and get to know each other and then come back on here.
I guarantee there would be no more fighting or attacking on this board.

3 importants things to remember that I have learned:
1. don't assume a post is negative..you don't know the tone
2. don't gang up on a member.....(maybe ask her in a pm if there is something going on today) she might have had a death in the family or trouble with a teen..or her dh
3. not everyone does things the same way and there is nothing wrong with that!
( I have learned that people can take the bus with kids and be safe doing it)
I have always been terrified of the bus and have not been on one in 25 years!

I hate it when people fight, I hate it when someone gets ganged up on and I hate it when someone on this board tells a member to go ahead and leave and act like they won't be missed!
We are care givers and I emphasize the word care

[dave4him]

LOL... see if this was a board full of men this whole topic would have ended like twenty posts ago. :P

[MyAngels]

LOL... see if this was a board full of men this whole topic would have ended like twenty posts ago. :P

That is so not true ::. My DH participates with a couple of forums and those guys are worse than any group of women ::.

[MyAngels]

I'm curious as to who all the moderators are, and exactly what member information they have access to?

It seems like there are quite a few moderators here.

[craftymissbeth]

I'm curious as to who all the moderators are, and exactly what member information they have access to?

It seems like there are quite a few moderators here.

This is a great question... considering how on most forums I've been on the moderators are clearly labeled as moderators. It's usually next to their username when they post.

[Country Kids]

The ones I know off the top of my head are:

BlackCat
Daycare
Silversabre
Former Schoolteacher

I think maybe one more but not sure-:confused:

Sorry if I missed anyone!

[Lucy]

Is anyone else a little put off by the moderators letting forum users know that they know who everyone is? I know some people on the forum let everyone know who they are and are cool with that, but I think the majority of people on here would like to be able to post anonymously. I read at least a few posts a week where regular users sign out for privacy when discussing a sensitive matter and a few posts a week posted by unregistered or guests that are legitimate posts. I respect their right to be privacy and I don't like reading over and over again that "we know who they are." The way it is done sounds rude and condescending.

Yep....

[Lucy]

My reply to Needavac was NOT meant to sound rude or condescending.

I am sorry if you felt it read that way.

She stated that I probably knew who it was and it (the OP's post) must make sense to me and I simply replied that is does.

IMO, I don't see how that comes across as rude and condescending at all. :confused:

I most certainly would NEVER give up who an unregistered poster is and would NEVER violate that kind of privacy. EVER.

I have also NEVER advertised that mods know who unregistered posters are although it does and has come up within a thread.

......and in all honesty, we don't ALWAYS know.

It isn't like there is a big flashing neon sign saying so.

I also don't see where moderator's are advertising that they know who unregistered poster are.

This is a public forum and in reality, there really is no such thing as internet privacy.

I completely believe you when you say you would never reveal someone's identity. The following is not necessarily directed at Blackcat, as I can't remember who the mod was that I'm about to talk about, and it doesn't matter. Actually, I couldn't even tell you offhand who the mods even are!

Ok, while I wouldn't use the words "rude" and "condescending", necessarily, it did strike me as a tad bit cringe-worthy on a past thread (sorry, cannot for the life of me remember the topic, but it was within the last couple weeks... I think?) when a mod went on and on (in MY opinion it was on and on... I'm sure the mod didn't feel like it was) about how, with research and some sleuthing, they can figure out who an anonymous poster is.

I was almost embarrassed for "Anonymous" by it all. Who cares??!!?? Congratulations that you have that power, but it really shined a bright light in Anonymous's face and, I bet, made the majority of readers very curious as to who she was. Probably to the point of PM'ing a mod to ask if she'd spill the beans.

We shouldn't focus on trying to see behind their mask. That isn't why they asked a question or brought up a subject. If I posted something anonymously, it would really embarrass me to know that the mods were checking me out trying to discover my hidden identity. Give them the privacy they are clearly asking for.

I didn't want to say anything at the time, but since someone brought it up here, I know I wasn't the only one who felt that way.

Off the soapbox. Just wanted to say what I felt, that's all.

[Country Kids]

I completely believe you when you say you would never reveal someone's identity. The following is not necessarily directed at Blackcat, as I can't remember who the mod was that I'm about to talk about, and it doesn't matter. Actually, I couldn't even tell you offhand who the mods even are!

Ok, while I wouldn't use the words "rude" and "condescending", necessarily, it did strike me as a tad bit cringe-worthy on a past thread (sorry, cannot for the life of me remember the topic, but it was within the last couple weeks... I think?) when a mod went on and on (in MY opinion it was on and on... I'm sure the mod didn't feel like it was) about how, with research and some sleuthing, they can figure out who an anonymous poster is.

I was almost embarrassed for "Anonymous" by it all. Who cares??!!?? Congratulations that you have that power, but it really shined a bright light in Anonymous's face and, I bet, made the majority of reader's very curious as to who she was. Probably to the point of PM'ing a mod to ask if she'd spill the beans.

We shouldn't focus on trying to see behind their mask. That isn't why they asked a question or brought up a subject. If I posted something anonymously, it would really embarrass me to know that the mods were checking me out trying to discover my hidden identity. Give them the privacy they are clearly asking for.

I didn't want to say anything at the time, but since someone brought it up here, I know I wasn't the only one who felt that way.

Off the soapbox. Just wanted to say what I felt, that's all.

Was it the thread I posted a few posts back? I know there was talk on that one about knowing things and it went back and forth between some posters/mods.

[Michelle]

LOL... see if this was a board full of men this whole topic would have ended like twenty posts ago. :P

glad to see you Dave
:hug:

[daycare]

I'm a mod. I saw it and I commented on that thread about it.

Honestly I don't even do much anymore as a mod now that Michael has changed the format for unregistered to post.

Before I used to maintain spam control, but now it does not exists.
I for one have never and would never even think about trying to play investigation to try and find out who's posting unregistered

I post unregistered at times because I want "some" privacy, so I feel that I should owe that same respect to others as well and leave them be

To my knowledge if any of the mods on here were abusing their mod privileges I know Michael would remove their status.