How Do I Leave a Group?

[countrymom]

This is an annoying thread. It's annoying because the question of how to leave a group is just, well, unnecessary. Just don't come back. Go to your member info and delete it. Delete all your previous posts.
Secondly, if you feel the need to announce to the entire forum that you are leaving, why wouldn't you log in as yourself. What difference does it make to everyone that "unregistered" is leaving. No one knows who you are so no one can be prepared for not hearing from you anymore. A simpler thing would have been to privately message a moderator and tell them and ask them any questions you had.
Thirdly, as far as people knowing your personal information, that's all on each individual. This is the internet, everything you ever type, picture you post, anywhere is out there and accessible by anyone who may want to see it or have the knowledge on how to access it. I'm pretty sure the Moderators are trying to say that they just know who is posting as unregistered. As in that if I posted as unregistered they would know it was Daycaremum, that's it, not that they knew every little personal detail about me!!
People have to know that even in closed sites, people can copy and paste anything you've typed, take a screen shot, even take a photo of their computer screen!! What you type and post is out there, don't kid yourself that there are any truly "private" sites.
This whole thread is strange.

happyface finally someone else who gets it.

[Sugar Magnolia]

I hereby nominate this thread........
"Most Ridiculous"

[Michelle]

I think what some people are afraid of is what happened to Dave and some other poster quite awhile ago..
I remember an old thread called something like.."be careful what you say on here" something like that... and I guess someone got mad at her and found out where she lived and sent licensing to her daycare.

I don't know what it was all about but she said she didn't do anything wrong, she just said not to trust anyone.

This is why people post anonymous or registered.

[Blackcat31]

I think what some people are afraid of is what happened to Dave and some other poster quite awhile ago..
I remember an old thread called something like.."be careful what you say on here" something like that... and I guess someone got mad at her and found out where she lived and sent licensing to her daycare.

I don't know what it was all about but she said she didn't do anything wrong, she just said not to trust anyone.

This is why people post anonymous or registered.

That is WRONG then. If you think posting anything on a public forum even if posting as anonymous is really anonymous, then you are mistaken.

Once you post anything on the internet, the World Wide Web owns it and it can be traced, copied or linked back to you...just like daycaremum said.

Only YOU can be responsible for what info about yourself is out there. It has NOTHING to do with this forum, members (both known and unknown) or moderators.

Only YOU can control what YOU put out there.

What happened to Dave happened on Facebook and Facebook is nothing but social sharing and telling the world stuff (NOT all FB users are like this)

Also what happened to the other poster you are referring to is that she poste something about a family she cared for. Something she should NEVER have posted on a PUBLIC forum and the family she was posting about came across the post and turned her in. Again that had nothing to do with the moderators or members of this forum.

The only person responsible for that happening was the original poster. If she had anything to say about a family in care, she should have done so discretely and in a way that did not identify her or the family.

[mema]

I hereby nominate this thread........
"Most Ridiculous"

[Michelle]

That is WRONG then. If you think posting anything on a public forum even if posting as anonymous is really anonymous, then you are mistaken.

Once you post anything on the internet, the World Wide Web owns it and it can be traced, copied or linked back to you...just like daycaremum said.

Only YOU can be responsible for what info about yourself is out there. It has NOTHING to do with this forum, members (both known and unknown) or moderators.

Only YOU can control what YOU put out there.

What happened to Dave happened on Facebook and Facebook is nothing but social sharing and telling the world stuff (NOT all FB users are like this)

Also what happened to the other poster you are referring to is that she poste something about a family she cared for. Something she should NEVER have posted on a PUBLIC forum and the family she was posting about came across the post and turned her in. Again that had nothing to do with the moderators or members of this forum.

The only person responsible for that happening was the original poster. If she had anything to say about a family in care, she should have done so discretely and in a way that did not identify her or the family.

ok I didn't even know what happened in those cases, I was just using them as an example as to why people want to really be anonymous.
I know that if someone is going to hurt themselves or someone , then you have to report it.

[Blackcat31]

I was just using them as an example as to why people want to really be anonymous.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I completely understand WHY people want to be anonymous on the internet in general.

I just think that if they actually believe they are, then that is just silly.

[Lucy]

I realize things got a bit muddled here, but I'd like to clarify that I wasn't suggesting that anyone's secret identity would be TOLD to anyone. Not in any way, shape, or form. My only thing was on that "other" thread where it kept getting drilled that "we have voodoo powers", "we know who you are", "yes, we can see IP numbers and figure out your identity" -- all with a winky winky behind it. And then a brief description how they can do some sleuthing and FIGURE OUT who you are. It just hit me as kind of "well, la dee da, who cares". It was just that it was repeated several times like bragging or something. It came off (to ME) like the Anonymous person would be embarrassed to discover that she tried to conceal her identity, but a select group of people were peering behind her mask. That's all. I'm not in any way suggesting something untoward happens here. I just don't think it needs to be TALKED about over and over. Actually, not at all IMO.

I'm a mod on another board, so I do know that we can see IP's. I just wouldn't say what (to ME) amounts to "Ha, ha!! I know who you are!!! Neener neener!!!"

Again, that's just how it came off TO ME. I wasn't trying to stir anything up in the least. And I'm also not in any way concerned about people knowing who I am. I've never posted anonymously, but even if I did, I don't care if a few people know who I am. Just don't keep saying you know who I am. It makes others curious, and starts a whole side drama (like this thread ), and I would not doubt that some members would PM a mod and ask her to reveal the secret. It's just silly to me. That's all.

Now carry on. All is well. :hug:

[Crystal]

hmmmm......WELL, I am not a moderator and 99% of the time, if a MEMBER is posting as unregistered, I can figure out who it is. People have certain ways of saying things or using the same typos or misspelling that give it away.

The previous thread that you are talking about, as well as the one about "sister wives"....well, I THINK I know who the actual members are that posted THEM. When I suspected who they were, I went back and searched some of their older posts, and SURE ENOUGH, there were very similiar posts about the same topics made by those members. These are not NEW members, and they posted anonymous to start drama....or as many would say, they were being TROLLS. Yeah, I know who you are

So, when the mods said in that most recent thread that they could identify the actual member.....perhaps they were doing it so those LONG TIME members would KNOW that they had been "found out" and would stop trying to create controversy on the forum.

For that, I say THANK YOU TO OUR FABULOUS MODS!!!! You do a great, and thankless job for no monetary compensation and I APPRECIATE YOUR EFFORT AND DEDICATION TO KEEPING THIS A DRAMA FREE FORUM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE!!!!!! happyface

[Live and Learn]

I think that the current moderators do a great job but there was a time on this forum that a couple of the moderators were in my opinion abrasive and condescending and I'm glad that they aren't mods anymore. As I recall it was during this time that a member was signing on as herself and then signing on as unregistered and then creating drama. Michael and the mods were all over it which is great. Unfortunately though one of the moderators (who is still a current poster) mentioned in an open thread that she knew which state the cheater/ faker poster lived and created even more drama. She named the state to shame the poster/cheater/faker. All of that could have happened in PM in my opinion.

Thanks current mods for doing a great job.

[Former Teacher]

I think that the current moderators do a great job but there was a time on this forum that a couple of the moderators were in my opinion abrasive and condescending and I'm glad that they aren't mods anymore. As I recall it was during this time that a member was signing on as herself and then signing on as unregistered and then creating drama. Michael and the mods were all over it which is great. Unfortunately though one of the moderators (who is still a current poster) mentioned in an open thread that she knew which state the cheater/ faker poster lived and created even more drama. She named the state to shame the poster/cheater/faker. All of that could have happened in PM in my opinion.

Thanks current mods for doing a great job.

OT: I remember a former moderator from a LONG time ago who would cause drama with her snide little comments. Get upset. Then delete them herself. Michael took away her status as a moderator which is great I think. She is still here but hasn't posted in a long time.

P.S.

Thanks for all the nice comments! :hugSunny:

[Live and Learn]

I think I remember that too. But it's not the same moderator incident I'm thinking about. The person I'm think about posted as recently as yesterday. Maybe even today as I haven't read many threads today. My point being though that moderators can and have abused power even on this site but Michael has been on it. Thanks again.

[Crystal]

Haha...nah, liveandlearn is talking about me. I used to be a mod.....and at one time some things got a little bit heated and I said some things I shouldn't have. The poster I said those things to asked me to remove them and I did.

Then I made a public apology and Asked to have my moderator priveleges removed.

I messed up AND THEN I owned it.

Glad you brought it up liveandlearn.......cuz that's what I did. I Lived and I Learned!!!!

[Live and Learn]

:confused:::FUNNY! I dont remember that.:confused:::

I was remembering something and SOMEONE else. I wasn't wanting to dredge anything up. I was pointing out that moderators are human and that in the past moderators have outed people's state of residence on the open forum. (I wish I could remember that old thread name.) You probably remember it. As I remember it the poster/faker/cheater was posting under a couple of different names and as unregistered. Under one persona she lived in xyz state and under the other persona she lived in abc. She was stirring up craziness and voicing different contradicting opinions. Too strange. Then the mod called her out on it and said something like "hey miss poster/faker/cheater I see you live in abc state and blah blah blah."

My OT point being that the faker/cheater was WRONG! But the mod was too for outing the faker/cheater's user's state of residence.

[Crystal]

:confused:::FUNNY! I dont remember that.:confused:::

I was remembering something and SOMEONE else. I wasn't wanting to dredge anything up. I was pointing out that moderators are human and that in the past moderators have outed people's state of residence on the open forum. (I wish I could remember that old thread name.) You probably remember it. As I remember it the poster/faker/cheater was posting under a couple of different names and as unregistered. Under one persona she lived in xyz state and under the other persona she lived in abc. She was stirring up craziness and voicing different contradicting opinions. Too strange. Then the mod called her out on it and said something like "hey miss poster/faker/cheater I see you live in abc state and blah blah blah."

My OT point being that the faker/cheater was WRONG! But the mod was too for outing the faker/cheater's user's state of residence.

:confused:::FUNNY! I don't remember that:confused:::

Can you post a link to that? I must have missed it.