How Do I Leave a Group?

[countrymom]

It is VERY hard to be supportive at times when it seems there is always someone who is offended by something you say, imply or sometimes don't even say but others think you meant.

Rather than this board being MORE supportive, I think it needs to be LESS sensitive about everything and not always assume everything is personal or a dig at them....kwim ?

Yes agree on the sensitive thing. like last week when the post was made about the psycho dcb, who cares what was used in the title. Because if I met some of you in person you would probably call your dck's by other names ! so why can't we post about how we really feel. Why can't we argue, even after the whole post with michelle (sorry have to use you as an example) she still stayed on, the thread is now forgotten and we all move on.

And I love how crazy this board gets, sometimes its so nice to argue and
makes me feel better, thats life, if you are so sensitive over every little thing, then I really question how you provide care for children who can push buttons.

And this is a place where there are normal people, its rare that you find fake people on this board. Sure there is drama, but it aint any worse than some of the drama the parents bring. If you can't express how you really truley feel on this board well then there really isn't a need for a board.

[Blackcat31]

like last week when the post was made about the psycho dcb, who cares what was used in the title.

PERFECT example.

People should have taken into context the poster. She was a regular member who most of us know to have loving, caring and professional posts.

I HIGHLY doubt she was trying to be offensive when she titled her thread the way she did.

Now had an unregistered posted said something similar, it would have been hard to make the distinction between being funny, snarky or for real because we don't know most "unregistered" posters.

I think everyone needs to lighten up a bit and learn to go with the flow....life is so much more fun, enjoyable and positive if you learn to roll with it!

[registered]

Wow, I didn't expect that. I don't mean to cause drama but I just asked a simply question. Two years ago, I came here for support and I feel things didn't work out the way I had hoped. I'm truly apologizing for any frustrations I have caused here. It is time for me to move on.

Blackcat, I want to say thank you for your answer and understand my reasons.

Take care and God Bless.....

[Lyss]

Wow, I didn't expect that. I don't mean to cause drama but I just asked a simply question. Two years ago, I came here for support and I feel things didn't work out the way I had hoped. I'm truly apologizing for any frustrations I have caused here. It is time for me to move on.

Blackcat, I want to say thank you for your answer and understand my reasons.

Take care and God Bless.....

Sorry to see you go. Hopefully things will calm down or a break is what you needed and eventually you return. :hug:

I think the original question was a legit one, the op was asking about the groups not forum. There's no "leave group" option that I've seen, so it wasn't as if op was out of line or asking about the forum.

Anyway best of luck op!

[Blackcat31]

Wow, I didn't expect that. I don't mean to cause drama but I just asked a simply question. Two years ago, I came here for support and I feel things didn't work out the way I had hoped. I'm truly apologizing for any frustrations I have caused here. It is time for me to move on.

Blackcat, I want to say thank you for your answer and understand my reasons.

Take care and God Bless.....

I know why you felt the need to want to leave but I do wish you would reconsider. You have always been a positive contributor to the forum and even if you don't get much from it, you surely give twice as much!

I do understand though if you still choose to leave. I will be sad though to see you go.

[crazydaycarelady]

I think everyone needs to lighten up a bit and learn to go with the flow....life is so much more fun, enjoyable and positive if you learn to roll with it!

Yes, this sounds great!

[Michelle]

Yes agree on the sensitive thing. like last week when the post was made about the psycho dcb, who cares what was used in the title. Because if I met some of you in person you would probably call your dck's by other names ! so why can't we post about how we really feel. Why can't we argue, even after the whole post with michelle (sorry have to use you as an example) she still stayed on, the thread is now forgotten and we all move on.

And I love how crazy this board gets, sometimes its so nice to argue and
makes me feel better, thats life, if you are so sensitive over every little thing, then I really question how you provide care for children who can push buttons.

And this is a place where there are normal people, its rare that you find fake people on this board. Sure there is drama, but it aint any worse than some of the drama the parents bring. If you can't express how you really truley feel on this board well then there really isn't a need for a board.

I agree with this..
I like real providers who have real problems and talk about how their dck's really are ...nobody has perfect kids,home,spouses,daycares,moods,feelings, and lives.
I think most providers has experienced the three kids throwing their food,then someone slips on the food, then that person drops whatever was in their hands on Sally then Sally is crying and then food throwers are crying because they want their food, then a parent walks in at that exact moment...of course
Let's get real and supportive and laughing again like we used to be.lovethis

[nannyde]

Wow, I didn't expect that. I don't mean to cause drama but I just asked a simply question. Two years ago, I came here for support and I feel things didn't work out the way I had hoped. I'm truly apologizing for any frustrations I have caused here. It is time for me to move on.

Blackcat, I want to say thank you for your answer and understand my reasons.

Take care and God Bless.....

I always read about coming here for support. I have never thought of this site as a support site. That's a narrow view.

I think it's a universal site where ALL things daycare are discussed. Sometimes supportive but a discussion board first and foremost.

Maybe I'm wrong. I see WAY too much support here when support should NOT be given. Support can be a dangerous thing... dangerous to kids. Use it wisely.

[My3cents]

I always read about coming here for support. I have never thought of this site as a support site. That's a narrow view.

I think it's a universal site where ALL things daycare are discussed. Sometimes supportive but a discussion board first and foremost.

Maybe I'm wrong. I see WAY too much support here when support should NOT be given. Support can be a dangerous thing... dangerous to kids. Use it wisely.

Can you explain yourself more please? I agree about it being a universal site, but the bolded part I am a bit fuzzy on....think I get what your saying but just want to clearify.

I personally come here for many reasons.....

ideas

questions, helps,information

to give advice. I like helping others and have been doing this for many years in different venues. The advice I give is always take it or leave it advice, because we are all unique in what we do and how we do it.

isolation from other adults during the day

views of other people, women.

boredom

many of you have become "friends" that I will never see but I think about and care, esp those that put it out there.

support, no matter if it is support I want to hear or support I don't want to hear. It still makes me think

worldly news- how to handle my pent up feelings on different things that have happened......examples- the school shooting, the Boston Marathon

Drama- I get ****ed up into the drama debates just as much as everyone else does. I try not to but I do.

Personal growth.

#1 reason is my kiddo's. I want to be the best daycare I can be to these kids.

[melilley]

The only advice I have is to please stay in contact with your friends on here either through email, text or messenger

I think most of the ladies here are genuine and loving friends
I think everyone needs to read posts 3 different ways..lets say you are at the store and some lady comes up to you and says:

"Hey nice hat" (snarky)
"Hey nice hat" ( lovingly)
"Hey nice hat" ( laughing)

in person, you can tell by the tone of voice what they mean..
but online... you can't ..so just give people the benefit of doubt
I joke around a lot and my kids friends say I am lovingly sarcastic..
After some time, members will get to know each others personalities and there would not be so much drama on here if people didn't want to pick each other apart

I hope you can stay and give us another chance!
:hug:

This is SO true! I'm guilty of this and this has also happened to me. Just last week I posted a question and something someone said could be construed as rude so I commented that it was rude, but it turns out they didn't mean to sound rude. Also, someone on here has taken something that I have said the wrong way, I was being nice, but they thought otherwise and that person never responds to anything I say anymore. But with all the members on here and all the different personalities, it's bound to happen although I wish it didn't!

[NeedaVaca]

I still don't really get this post? I mean I do but I don't:confused: If a person decides to leave the forum and wants people to know then they would have posted under their user name. If they decided to leave and didn't want people to talk about it they would have just PM'd a moderator, after being on the site for 2 years they would know how to do that. I'm sure Blackcat knows who the poster is and it must make sense to her

[Blackcat31]

I'm sure Blackcat knows who the poster is and it must make sense to her

It does.

I still don't really get this post? I mean I do but I don't:confused: If a person decides to leave the forum and wants people to know then they would have posted under their user name. If they decided to leave and didn't want people to talk about it they would have just PM'd a moderator, after being on the site for 2 years they would know how to do that.

Some people have been members here for a long time but that doesn't mean they are avid posters or even visit the site regularly.

Members come from all areas of the world and from all walks of life so not everyone understands how forums work or that accounts can't be deleted, modified or closed.

I've talk to members who have been here awhile and still don't know how to use PM or other functions of the forum that some of us use regularly or understand easily...kwim?

Some people also choose to navigate the forum in a different manner than others.

For example, did you know that you can choose to have posts appear on your screen in linear form with the oldest threads appearing first. Or linear with the newest threads shown first.

You can also have a signature or a different avatar than the ones provided.
You can put people on your ignore list and this stops them from PM'ing you and makes their posts invisible to you.

You can also make it so that your "appearance" on line is invisible to others as if you aren't on-line or logged in at all.

You can subscribe to threads via e-mail or PM. You can also dictate how many posts show up on one page at a time.

There are many options to the forum that most members don't utilize or even know how to work them...some don't even know those options are there at all so........

Not everyone walks in the same pair of shoes and sometimes, it is necessary to simply ask.

NOTHING wrong with that IMHO.

[Former Teacher]

Can you explain yourself more please? I agree about it being a universal site, but the bolded part I am a bit fuzzy on....think I get what your saying but just want to clearify.

I personally come here for many reasons.....

ideas

questions, helps,information

to give advice. I like helping others and have been doing this for many years in different venues. The advice I give is always take it or leave it advice, because we are all unique in what we do and how we do it.

isolation from other adults during the day

views of other people, women.

boredom

many of you have become "friends" that I will never see but I think about and care, esp those that put it out there.

support, no matter if it is support I want to hear or support I don't want to hear. It still makes me think

worldly news- how to handle my pent up feelings on different things that have happened......examples- the school shooting, the Boston Marathon

Drama- I get ****ed up into the drama debates just as much as everyone else does. I try not to but I do.

Personal growth.

#1 reason is my kiddo's. I want to be the best daycare I can be to these kids.

I am guilty of MANY of these ::

That being said: I am here all the time, I just don't log in that much. Nothing personal. It's just that sometimes things are better left unsaid ::

I will try to post more often. I do love you all :hug:

[Leanna]

Is anyone else a little put off by the moderators letting forum users know that they know who everyone is? I know some people on the forum let everyone know who they are and are cool with that, but I think the majority of people on here would like to be able to post anonymously. I read at least a few posts a week where regular users sign out for privacy when discussing a sensitive matter and a few posts a week posted by unregistered or guests that are legitimate posts. I respect their right to be privacy and I don't like reading over and over again that "we know who they are." The way it is done sounds rude and condescending.

[Cradle2crayons]

Is anyone else a little put off by the moderators letting forum users know that they know who everyone is? I know some people on the forum let everyone know who they are and are cool with that, but I think the majority of people on here would like to be able to post anonymously. I read at least a few posts a week where regular users sign out for privacy when discussing a sensitive matter and a few posts a week posted by unregistered or guests that are legitimate posts. I respect their right to be privacy and I don't like reading over and over again that "we know who they are." The way it is done sounds rude and condescending.

I agree 10000000000%