Spin Off From Parents Thread

[Michelle]

I was really disappointed to see that the thread was closed!
It was about the parent complaining about her provider transporting her son.

First of all I do agree that the provider should not have taken the kid to her sons game if she knew the parent said "no."

All of my parents have agreed to let me transport( I wouldn't take them if they didn't)
Anyways my daughter is in softball and there have been some times when I took some of my day care kids to her games at night. Not only did the kids love it but my daughter had an awesome cheering team! They even made her a banner! Some of the parents even sprang for dinner and I took lots of pictures and my daughter felt so special. She goes through a lot being born into this daycare. She sacrifices and gives, plays with them, gives them all her beautiful clothes that she outgrows,and just thinks of these kids as all her little brothers and sisters.

This is one of the things that family daycare is all about.
If you don't want your child apart of a wonderful family and to be treated like a unique and special part of someones family.. then get a nanny or put them in a cookie cutter center.. at the center , they will get their diapers changed, be fed, and come home with crafts but I have seen the sad look in kids eyes that come from these type of places... but they won't transport your kid and you can rest assured he will not be in a car crash.

We take our kids to Aquariums, museums, Zoo's, Farmers markets, etc. and they really enjoy it and learn from these trips.
How sad for a child that doesn't get these experiences. I do know that parents can take them to these places. but the op in the other tread said she is a single parent with very little money and no family close.
We have even attended some of the dck's games, concerts, birthdays,baby dedications... etc. so just my opinion

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

It seems like you're implying that children only have wonderful, valuable early childhood experiences with those who take them to an abundance of places. I never transport the children by a vehicle (the only places we go to are the local parks) and choose to have others come to us.

I would never say that it is sad that the children in my care don't visit all of the places you listed with me. Many of them visit those places with their families. They certainly don't have a sad look in their eyes while here (despite us, apparently, acting like a daycare center/Preschool facility).

:confused:

[Cradle2crayons]

With me living in a low income rural area, many of my kids extensive childhood experiences only include the occasional fishing. My parents can't afford to take their kids anywhere. If they don't do it here, they don't get to do it. I think my kids have experienced firsts in so many things since they started coming here.

That being said, I do understand why some people don't transport, all for various reasons. But the OP was right about some things, all of my daycare kids came here with that same sad look you've described. Now, it's long gone. I do love experiencing all these firsts with them, even though I completely understand why some others can't or don't. It's that sparkle in their eyes when we arrive at the campground. It's that giggle when we walk into the zoo. Its that look of amazement that my personal children had, when I took them to do their "firsts". But what's even worse is that even though I never missed a first, these kids parents have missed them all. One family because of laziness, the rest because of finances. But for whatever reason they missed the firsts, I love being the one who gets to witness them.

[Michelle]

I am speaking from a FCC provider that transports perspective.
So many people bash us ( the current tread going on right now from unregistered)
I wanted to respond in the other forum but it was closed for some reason.

If FCC providers are not able to transport, there's nothing wrong with that. I am just speaking up for us that do.

[Jewels]

"The lady who was complaining"
What a rude way to put that, I'm sorry.

When my son was born I did not give my provider permission to transport in a car, I didn't like anyone driving my son anywhere, I didn't even like grandmas driving them, I have loosened up a bit with that, and learned to have more trust, but number #1 I don't trust any one to buckle my kid up as safely as I do, I am a nut about proper car seat safety, and yes to transport you have to be trained, but I still don't trust that every provider still does this, even with the training, taking my kid on a freeway in a car to a museum or something was just never something I was comfortable with when he was in daycare, my daycare didn't do this so it wasn't a big deal.

I trusted my daycare completely, but I never would want a call at work saying my son was in a car accident, freaked me out, yes he could fall and hurt himself at the house, but its different!

I hate my kids being drove around by their grandparents, my husbands mom tells us all the time...."you guys put them in those seats way to tight, it doesn't need to be like that" I always respond with that it does to keep them safe, and I always put them in myself if I'm there, but I guarantee you she loosens it when she does it , which is why she rarely transports them.

I do not take my daycare kids anywhere we can't walk to, I just would never want the liability of getting into an accident with so many little ones that aren't mine, going to a museum with all my daycare kids I also wouldn't do, I would feel way to stressed doing a constant head count, but then again I have 12 kids here, and its just not safe.

I am not saying anything about it being bad to transport, but its not complaining to not want someone driving your kid.

[Michelle]

With me living in a low income rural area, many of my kids extensive childhood experiences only include the occasional fishing. My parents can't afford to take their kids anywhere. If they don't do it here, they don't get to do it. I think my kids have experienced firsts in so many things since they started coming here.

That being said, I do understand why some people don't transport, all for various reasons. But the OP was right about some things, all of my daycare kids came here with that same sad look you've described. Now, it's long gone. I do love experiencing all these firsts with them, even though I completely understand why some others can't or don't. It's that sparkle in their eyes when we arrive at the campground. It's that giggle when we walk into the zoo. Its that look of amazement that my personal children had, when I took them to do their "firsts". But what's even worse is that even though I never missed a first, these kids parents have missed them all. One family because of laziness, the rest because of finances. But for whatever reason they missed the firsts, I love being the one who gets to witness them.

You should have seen the look on one of my finicky parents faces when her son said" Mommy I pet a shark today!" Priceless...::::

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

"The lady who was complaining"
What a rude way to put that, I'm sorry.

When my son was born I did not give my provider permission to transport in a car, I didn't like anyone driving my son anywhere, I didn't even like grandmas driving them, I have loosened up a bit with that, and learned to have more trust, but number #1 I don't trust any one to buckle my kid up as safely as I do, I am a nut about proper car seat safety, and yes to transport you have to be trained, but I still don't trust that every provider still does this, even with the training, taking my kid on a freeway in a car to a museum or something was just never something I was comfortable with when he was in daycare, my daycare didn't do this so it wasn't a big deal.

I trusted my daycare completely, but I never would want a call at work saying my son was in a car accident, freaked me out, yes he could fall and hurt himself at the house, but its different!

I hate my kids being drove around by their grandparents, my husbands mom tells us all the time...."you guys put them in those seats way to tight, it doesn't need to be like that" I always respond with that it does to keep them safe, and I always put them in myself if I'm there, but I guarantee you she loosens it when she does it , which is why she rarely transports them.

I do not take my daycare kids anywhere we can't walk to, I just would never want the liability of getting into an accident with so many little ones that aren't mine, going to a museum with all my daycare kids I also wouldn't do, I would feel way to stressed doing a constant head count, but then again I have 12 kids here, and its just not safe.

I am not saying anything about it being bad to transport, but its not complaining to not want someone driving your kid.

I am the same way as a parent.

[itlw8]

I agree we all have our strong points... I do not transport. Infact I had to sign a waiver with the care ins that I would not transport childcare children I did not want to pay for a commercial policy.

My groups parents take the kids lots of places and share those ideas with the other parents.

BUT They paint, play in mud, with worms and bugs, garden, dress up as fairies and many other creative experiences. Many of those things they would never do at home.

[TheGoodLife]

"The lady who was complaining"
What a rude way to put that, I'm sorry.

When my son was born I did not give my provider permission to transport in a car, I didn't like anyone driving my son anywhere, I didn't even like grandmas driving them, I have loosened up a bit with that, and learned to have more trust, but number #1 I don't trust any one to buckle my kid up as safely as I do, I am a nut about proper car seat safety, and yes to transport you have to be trained, but I still don't trust that every provider still does this, even with the training, taking my kid on a freeway in a car to a museum or something was just never something I was comfortable with when he was in daycare, my daycare didn't do this so it wasn't a big deal.


I hate my kids being drove around by their grandparents, my husbands mom tells us all the time...."you guys put them in those seats way to tight, it doesn't need to be like that" I always respond with that it does to keep them safe, and I always put them in myself if I'm there, but I guarantee you she loosens it when she does it , which is why she rarely transports them.

AMEN! I try to get the seat belts as tight as possible- I hate seeing how loose other people have theirs- they are supposed to be too tight to fit more than 2 fingers in!!! I get paranoid about my own Mom driving my girls around, (which she hates, I know, and she is very responsible, but I still feel that way!)

[Michelle]

I agree we all have our strong points... I do not transport. Infact I had to sign a waiver with the care ins that I would not transport childcare children I did not want to pay for a commercial policy.

My groups parents take the kids lots of places and share those ideas with the other parents.

BUT They paint, play in mud, with worms and bugs, garden, dress up as fairies and many other creative experiences. Many of those things they would never do at home.

that's awesome! happyface

[momofboys]

I do transport but I typically care for only 1-2 families at a time. I only have 3-4 DC kids a day by choice. I believe most parents chose me b/c I do some local field trips (library/park, etc) all within 1-2 miles of our small town. Now if I chose to be "full" & had 6 kids I can't imagine transporting. I think it would be too stressful /complicated. Last year I cared for a family who needed care until 6-6:30 2 days/wk. We are a baseball family & they gave permission for me to take their kids with us to games. Parents liked it & kids enjoyed the games. I had one teacher mom who used to brag to her friends about the great things/places her kids were able to experience b/c we did field trips. Obviously you can still be a great provider & stay home all day but some parents seek out those of us who leave for outings.

[Crystal]

It seems like you're implying that children only have wonderful, valuable early childhood experiences with those who take them to an abundance of places. I never transport the children by a vehicle (the only places we go to are the local parks) and choose to have others come to us.

I would never say that it is sad that the children in my care don't visit all of the places you listed with me. Many of them visit those places with their families. They certainly don't have a sad look in their eyes while here (despite us, apparently, acting like a daycare center/Preschool facility).

:confused:

Thank you, I agree. I felt that the OP was kind of insulting to those who don't take children places. They can (and should) have those expereinces with their family, just as easily as they can with me (actually, more easily).

[Crystal]

I am speaking from a FCC provider that transports perspective.
So many people bash us ( the current tread going on right now from unregistered)
I wanted to respond in the other forum but it was closed for some reason.

If FCC providers are not able to transport, there's nothing wrong with that. I am just speaking up for us that do.

I don't think anyone bashed providers who transport. The whole thread was about transporting without permission, THAT is what the "bashing" was about.

[mom2many]

I was really disappointed to see that the thread was closed!
It was about the parent complaining about her provider transporting her son.

First of all I do agree that the provider should not have taken the kid to her sons game if she knew the parent said "no."

All of my parents have agreed to let me transport( I wouldn't take them if they didn't)
Anyways my daughter is in softball and there have been some times when I took some of my day care kids to her games at night. Not only did the kids love it but my daughter had an awesome cheering team! They even made her a banner! Some of the parents even sprang for dinner and I took lots of pictures and my daughter felt so special. She goes through a lot being born into this daycare. She sacrifices and gives, plays with them, gives them all her beautiful clothes that she outgrows,and just thinks of these kids as all her little brothers and sisters.

This is one of the things that family daycare is all about.
If you don't want your child apart of a wonderful family and to be treated like a unique and special part of someones family.. then get a nanny or put them in a cookie cutter center.. at the center , they will get their diapers changed, be fed, and come home with crafts but I have seen the sad look in kids eyes that come from these type of places... but they won't transport your kid and you can rest assured he will not be in a car crash.

We take our kids to Aquariums, museums, Zoo's, Farmers markets, etc. and they really enjoy it and learn from these trips.
How sad for a child that doesn't get these experiences. I do know that parents can take them to these places. but the op in the other tread said she is a single parent with very little money and no family close.
We have even attended some of the dck's games, concerts, birthdays,baby dedications... etc. so just my opinion

I understand what you are saying about the dcks having some fun & different experiences when a provider is able to transport. I took dcks to football & soccer games and track and field events when my boys were involved in sports. We also did park days, trips to the beach and zoo. They loved going places and enjoyed the sporting events alot!

I would never agree to watch a child if I was unable to transport...although now I rarely go places with all of the kids, because we downsized to a car with 6 seats.

I understand and respect that some parents are uncomfortable with other people driving their children places and that is their perogative. I think that is why it's so important for providers and parents to be on the same page and find somone that is a good fit for them! In the past, I lost clients because it was a deal breaker for them knowing I needed to take kids to school and that was okay. Everyone has different wants & needs!

[countrymom]

I was really disappointed to see that the thread was closed!
It was about the parent complaining about her provider transporting her son.

First of all I do agree that the provider should not have taken the kid to her sons game if she knew the parent said "no."

All of my parents have agreed to let me transport( I wouldn't take them if they didn't)
Anyways my daughter is in softball and there have been some times when I took some of my day care kids to her games at night. Not only did the kids love it but my daughter had an awesome cheering team! They even made her a banner! Some of the parents even sprang for dinner and I took lots of pictures and my daughter felt so special. She goes through a lot being born into this daycare. She sacrifices and gives, plays with them, gives them all her beautiful clothes that she outgrows,and just thinks of these kids as all her little brothers and sisters.

This is one of the things that family daycare is all about.
If you don't want your child apart of a wonderful family and to be treated like a unique and special part of someones family.. then get a nanny or put them in a cookie cutter center.. at the center , they will get their diapers changed, be fed, and come home with crafts but I have seen the sad look in kids eyes that come from these type of places... but they won't transport your kid and you can rest assured he will not be in a car crash.

We take our kids to Aquariums, museums, Zoo's, Farmers markets, etc. and they really enjoy it and learn from these trips.
How sad for a child that doesn't get these experiences. I do know that parents can take them to these places. but the op in the other tread said she is a single parent with very little money and no family close.
We have even attended some of the dck's games, concerts, birthdays,baby dedications... etc. so just my opinion

I have to agree so much. I have taken the dck's to soccer games, talent shows, student of the month. I'm telling you my kids have the loudest cheering squad ever. All the parents let me and understand that I like to attend my childrens stuff too. But on the other hand, these dck's also learn to behave in public and learn to be great sports too, why wouldn't a parent want that for a child.