Ridiculous Questions/Expectations...

[DaisyMamma]

THAT was my question . But she whole heartedly thought that I was required to provide it. I tried explaining to her that she needed to call them back and get clarification because I was allowed to serve it but that the mom needed to supply it, not me. She never called back. ::

Why would you want to have your kid drinking someone else's bodily fluids anyway?

DCM: My dad says dcb needs two baths a day, since i will be dropping him off at 6am can you give him his morning bath and i will give him his evening bath? SO GET UP EARLIER AND BATHE HIM

DCM: Please dont let anyone touch or kiss my DCG on the face, that really bothers me. UMMM, OKAY

DCM: I have a cousin who is a police officer so i can check background checks and arrest records, etc. GREAT FOR YOU, DO YOU WANT TO GO AHEAD AND GET A COPY OF MINE NOW? ITS ON FILE

DCM: (Calls one night after dcb has been enrolled 3 weeks) We just finished moving in to our new apartment, we havn't had time to go grocery shopping yet and there is no food in the house, dcb (7y) is very hungry and he wants chinese food, oh, and i dont have any cash, do you think i could get your debit card number so that i could order dcb chinese food and then pay you back on friday? NO! IF YOU WOULD LIKE I WILL BRING YOU SOME GROCERIES, YOU STILL HAVEN'T PAID FOR THIS WEEK AND IT IS ALREADY WEDNESDAY. (she was my first client, i never heard from her again. Wanna know the real kicker? She was one of the head ladies at or CPS Office, go figure.......

OMG!
What's wrong with people?!

[frgsonmysox]

I've been given permission to swat a child on the butt (which doesn't seem all that weird, just not in the scope of what I would EVER do).

I think one of my interview kickers was the one who put me on the spot about CPR protocals for an infant. I totally flubbed the question...but was really offended by being put on the spot. That mom also nursed her son (yay!) during the interview...using the "pull down the shirt from the top and leave the whole boob hanging out" method. Um, okay...nursing is great, but you *can* do it discretely...

Oh, and "So, the children are in the kitchen with you while you make lunch, right?" Um...nope, I just got done telling you that while I make lunch they play in the playroom *right beside the kitchen*. I can see most of the room from most of the kitchen. They are *right there*. And yes I do gate them out of the kitchen while I cook...it's safer that way. And the law in my state is "visual OR auditory range" so I'm perfectly fine doing that.


Those are probably the craziest, though I may have blocked some doozies out of my memory.

REALLY?! THATS your craziest? You'd hate me. I nurse all the time, uncovered, everywhere, and I generally pull it out over the top. ALL my daycare families have witnessed this, I've done it during all my interviews, and no one seems bothered. It's a boob. It's not a big deal.

You guys are making my day. I thought it was just me that goes through these things!

I had a mom bring another Mom's breakstmilk here too to feed to her baby. They are friends and I get that, but was not comfortable with someone else body fluids being brought into my home. Yikes, what if she had HIV or hepatitis or something?

you are a bit uneducated about nursing. I'm sorry, but this is a huge deal to me. THIS is what I'm studying, to become an IBCLC. There is so much negativity and misconceptions about nursing...

But the comment about the USDA and nursing had me CRACKING up.

[Starburst]

Why does she think her husbands sperm count has anything to do with now? You already got the kid, unless they are trying to tell you that they used a sperm donor? or they want another kid and want to know if you know anyone willing to donate (husband/bf)?

And If he is so relaxed about this she must tell EVERYONE about it- "Hi Mr. Mailman, did you know my husband has a low sperm count? BTW I want another kid, would you like to support the cause?".

Oops I quoted the wrong quote (though that would make a good reality tv show prank) and it wont let me edit I ment to quote:

Okay this wasn't actually a request but it was outrageous. I had a mom come for an interview and she revealed her husband's sperm count with him standing right there. He seemed to act like this was a normal conversation. The interview went well until I asked for the name of his previous daycare. She seemed very nervous at that point. The interview ended and she never called back.

[SilverSabre25]

REALLY?! THATS your craziest? You'd hate me. I nurse all the time, uncovered, everywhere, and I generally pull it out over the top. ALL my daycare families have witnessed this, I've done it during all my interviews, and no one seems bothered. It's a boob. It's not a big deal.

I'm sorry I offended you so much...? It wasn't a big deal, it was just surprising. I wouldn't hate you...I don't have a problem with it, it just seemed a bit...over the top...to do at a daycare interview when you've known someone for less than fifteen minutes. She did it directly after the flubbed CPR question and she was looking at me out of the corner of her eye, and I got a definite vibe that she was doing it quite deliberately to see my reaction. I didn't react at all, I kept it all internal, but the interview slid totally downhill from there.

FWIW, I'm glad to see you back around the forum; I've missed you We need more AP-inspired providers 'round here. Most of them seem to leave.

[nannyde]

I'm sorry I offended you so much...? It wasn't a big deal, it was just surprising. I wouldn't hate you...I don't have a problem with it, it just seemed a bit...over the top...to do at a daycare interview when you've known someone for less than fifteen minutes. She did it directly after the flubbed CPR question and she was looking at me out of the corner of her eye, and I got a definite vibe that she was doing it quite deliberately to see my reaction. I didn't react at all, I kept it all internal, but the interview slid totally downhill from there.

FWIW, I'm glad to see you back around the forum; I've missed you We need more AP-inspired providers 'round here. Most of them seem to leave.

The AP providers leave in part because they don't make it too long doing child care.

I'm SO ready for an interviewee to do the public breast feeding deal-e-o in my house. I got got with that over Thanksgiving when my son and I visited my cousin... at the Thanksgiving dinner table to boot and in front of my twelve year old son.

I'm ready now... I won't get got again.

Next time this happens I'm going to video tape it of my my nifty new Galaxy Note 2 and instantly put it up on Facebook, Youtube, and link it to my twitter. That's gonna go viral immediately.

Whip out the breast in FULL VIEW and I'm going to whip out my camera in FULL view. Time to GO PUBLIC.

Game on happyface

[Holiday Park]

Daisymomma breastmilk donation is far healhier than formula feeding. With that said , I do know noy everyone knows they can get donor milk or even find a donor in their area tomeet their child's constant needs, without having to pay shipping costs etc...
A lot of moms DO make sure the donor has a medical file on hand proving. What she has/soesn't have n regards to disease and immunities. I do. I have donated, wet nursed a daycare baby (mom asked me to and I felt honored to help out) , and am currently using donor milk for my son until I can re-build my own supply back after a major decrease from being too busy working to pump.

[SilverSabre25]

The AP providers leave in part because they don't make it too long doing child care.

I'm SO ready for an interviewee to do the public breast feeding deal-e-o in my house. I got got with that over Thanksgiving when my son and I visited my cousin... at the Thanksgiving dinner table to boot and in front of my twelve year old son.

I'm ready now... I won't get got again.

Next time this happens I'm going to video tape it of my my nifty new Galaxy Note 2 and instantly put it up on Facebook, Youtube, and link it to my twitter. That's gonna go viral immediately.

Whip out the breast in FULL VIEW and I'm going to whip out my camera in FULL view. Time to GO PUBLIC.

Game on happyface

Actually I think the AP type providers don't stick around the forum because the forum is very disapproving of that style of caregiving...I know a lot of AP providers 'round me who have been in the business for quite awhile.

[Holiday Park]

The worst request I have ever had is from my own sister . When my niece was around 14-18months she didn't want anyone saying the word NO because of it being "negative" . "Tah-Tah" was the replacement phrase. I love that child almost like my own but she is now 2.5 and my sister still can't discipline her and she is such a mess .
The second craziest thing was a mom of a 12 month girl during interview asked if I had a full size crib to use, because she had never been in a pack in play before. To rock her to sleep and give her a bottle in the crib, because she will cry so hard she will throw up if she is made to cry at all and not rocked&held to sleep. I said no and that was the end of that.
Edited to say oops I meant to say if se would cry&throw up if she was NOT rocked&held to sleep.

[ABCDaycareMN]

The AP providers leave in part because they don't make it too long doing child care.

I'm SO ready for an interviewee to do the public breast feeding deal-e-o in my house. I got got with that over Thanksgiving when my son and I visited my cousin... at the Thanksgiving dinner table to boot and in front of my twelve year old son.

I'm ready now... I won't get got again.

Next time this happens I'm going to video tape it of my my nifty new Galaxy Note 2 and instantly put it up on Facebook, Youtube, and link it to my twitter. That's gonna go viral immediately.

Whip out the breast in FULL VIEW and I'm going to whip out my camera in FULL view. Time to GO PUBLIC.

Game on happyface

What is AP style of Childcare?

[SilverSabre25]

What is AP style of Childcare?

That would be caregiving based on/inspired by Attachment Parenting Principles. I also am heavily influenced by RIE/Magda Gerber's (http://www.janetlansbury.com) teachings, which while different from Attachment Parenting, is very compatible and similar in many ways.

I find that most people on here get hung up on the "Parenting" in Attachment Parenting and also assume that it's a ******** set of rules and a black and white "either you do it all or you do none" sort of thing, when in fact it's more of a mindset and it's very easy to use many AP principles in a child care setting, if you want to.

[Lyss]

I had a parent ask me how I was going to "put [my] DD 2nd" and make her DD feel "special" when she is here. Ummm my DD will never feel "2nd" and I have other DCKs that need to feel "special" too. Plus this DCG "had" to be held to sleep and carried around (no back/front pack, as she feels "restricted") when not playing and was "never" to play alone

NEXT!

[Holiday Park]

A lot of them don't beleive in sleep training of any kind, and feel its best to by "intuition" instead of any kid of childcare training/parenting books. I have done both AP and mon and went back to non, ater reading some parenting books and becoming more educated about the importance of having a schedule and sleep training from an early age (if done early enough cio is usually not needed) . People are always impressed by my childrens acheivements and what I've done with them , and how dh&I interact with them. But when they dont meet my kids or actually see how we parent and only know that i do sleep train , beleive in cio ( if needed) , strollers, cribs, even spanking I look like this horribly strict mean parent that must not love my children , and oh the poor kids must be suffering and unhappy. I personally feel judged by AP parents on the internet (and have been verbally attacked ) on the parenting forums like babycenter . Maybe they feel judged here , who knows.

[nannyde]

I had a parent ask me how I was going to "put [my] DD 2nd" and make her DD feel "special" when she is here. Ummm my DD will never feel "2nd" and I have other DCKs that need to feel "special" too. Plus this DCG "had" to be held to sleep and carried around (no back/front pack, as she feels "restricted") when not playing and was "never" to play alone

NEXT!

There it is

I'll be happy to accomodate that if you give me a grand a week. Then we would all be getting special.

[ABCDaycareMN]

That would be caregiving based on/inspired by Attachment Parenting Principles. I also am heavily influenced by RIE/Magda Gerber's (http://www.janetlansbury.com) teachings, which while different from Attachment Parenting, is very compatible and similar in many ways.

I find that most people on here get hung up on the "Parenting" in Attachment Parenting and also assume that it's a ******** set of rules and a black and white "either you do it all or you do none" sort of thing, when in fact it's more of a mindset and it's very easy to use many AP principles in a child care setting, if you want to.

Thanks for that clarification.

[Unregistered]

Actually I think the AP type providers don't stick around the forum because the forum is very disapproving of that style of caregiving...I know a lot of AP providers 'round me who have been in the business for quite awhile.

I agree.