Ridiculous Questions/Expectations...

[nannyde]

REALLY?! THATS your craziest? You'd hate me. I nurse all the time, uncovered, everywhere, and I generally pull it out over the top. ALL my daycare families have witnessed this, I've done it during all my interviews, and no one seems bothered. It's a boob. It's not a big deal.

I wouldn't hate ya. I'd tape ya.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Daisymomma breastmilk donation is far healhier than formula feeding. With that said , I do know noy everyone knows they can get donor milk or even find a donor in their area tomeet their child's constant needs, without having to pay shipping costs etc...
A lot of moms DO make sure the donor has a medical file on hand proving. What she has/soesn't have n regards to disease and immunities. I do. I have donated, wet nursed a daycare baby (mom asked me to and I felt honored to help out) , and am currently using donor milk for my son until I can re-build my own supply back after a major decrease from being too busy working to pump.

happyface Absolutely. There is no comparison. You go mama!

[Angelsj]

Actually I think the AP type providers don't stick around the forum because the forum is very disapproving of that style of caregiving...I know a lot of AP providers 'round me who have been in the business for quite awhile.

Thank you. I think you are pretty dead on.

Been doing this "AP" style for over 35 years and still going strong. Not everyone does things the same way, and it is ok, but my way works for me and the high handed attitude around here sometimes about what is the "right" way gets a little annoying.

[littlemissmuffet]

happyface Absolutely. There is no comparison. You go mama!

Actually, there are more and more studies showing that there is very little long-term significant differences in formula-fed babies vs BM fed babies.

[MissAnn]

Actually, there are more and more studies showing that there is very little long-term significant differences in formula-fed babies vs BM fed babies.

BM fed just sounds so wrong.... ::

[Lavender]

I've donated breastmilk! I donated to a friend's daughter (friend could not nurse) enough to last her the first 3 months. I donated to a foster child who was born preemie who could not tolerate formula, and I donated to a friend's 31 week preemie from birth until 5ish months old.

This thread is hilarious! I work in a daycare center so we don't get so many crazy things. There is one child whose parents come in with a new diaper changing routine every week it feels like. It's usually something like "change 1x per hour, wipe with wet wash cloth, dry with special drying wash cloth, apply these products in this order ___, then put on diaper as loose as humanely possible (ensuring a blowout almost every time of course).

[just_peachy]

Thank you. I think you are pretty dead on.

Been doing this "AP" style for over 35 years and still going strong. Not everyone does things the same way, and it is ok, but my way works for me and the high handed attitude around here sometimes about what is the "right" way gets a little annoying.

I'm new here and I noticed that immediately. My oldest is 7, I practiced AP before I even knew it was a "thing." Discovered Dr. Sears when he was about 6 months old and never went back.

It CAN work in a daycare setting. I have modified some things and streamlined others, but, as with anything else, practice makes perfect!

I almost deleted my account a couple of times because the anti-AP slant started to get to me, but I reminded myself that WE ALL DO WHAT WE THINK IS BEST and I truly believe that. What more could a DCP ask for? Besides, I've picked up way more positive from around here than negative.

[Live and Learn]

The AP providers leave in part because they don't make it too long doing child care.

I'm SO ready for an interviewee to do the public breast feeding deal-e-o in my house. I got got with that over Thanksgiving when my son and I visited my cousin... at the Thanksgiving dinner table to boot and in front of my twelve year old son.

I'm ready now... I won't get got again.

Next time this happens I'm going to video tape it of my my nifty new Galaxy Note 2 and instantly put it up on Facebook, Youtube, and link it to my twitter. That's gonna go viral immediately.

Whip out the breast in FULL VIEW and I'm going to whip out my camera in FULL view. Time to GO PUBLIC.

Game on happyface

Why so hostile? You went to your cousin's house and she breast fed in her own house. IN HER OWN HOUSE!! I nursed my twins until they were two and a half. I'm a busty gal. The only way to nurse them both comfortably for me was on the sofa with a footstool. Guess what? People who visited my house saw my boobs sometimes. Big woooooop!!

I've been to family member's houses were they said and did things that weren't illegal but I found personally offensive. Do I whip out my IPhone and up load a video to the Internet? Of course not ...that is ridiculous!!! What purpose would that serve?

I just wonder why you are so hostile toward a mom who is breastfeeding her own baby (in her own house) when that is what the leading experts suggest we all do? Just because it is something you didn't, wouldn't, couldn't do does not make it wrong for others to do.

[nannyde]

Why so hostile? You went to your cousin's house and she breast fed in her own house. IN HER OWN HOUSE!! I nursed my twins until they were two and a half. I'm a busty gal. The only way to nurse them both comfortably for me was on the sofa with a footstool. Guess what? People who visited my house saw my boobs sometimes. Big woooooop!!

I've been to family member's houses were they said and did things that weren't illegal but I found personally offensive. Do I whip out my IPhone and up load a video to the Internet? Of course not ...that is ridiculous!!! What purpose would that serve?

I just wonder why you are so hostile toward a mom who is breastfeeding her own baby (in her own house) when that is what the leading experts suggest we all do? Just because it is something you didn't, wouldn't, couldn't do does not make it wrong for others to do.

Hostile would be a very very mild summary of my opinion on this after being blindsided by someone who exercised her rights at my 12 year old sons expense.

I don't know how you got that my cousin was bf'ing her kid in her own home. Her youngest is 15 :-)

[Live and Learn]

over Thanksgiving when my son and I visited my cousin... at the Thanksgiving dinner table to boot and in front of my twelve year old son.

your words

[nannyde]

your words

I didn't say it was my cousin and that she was feeding her own child in her own home. I said I got got AT my cousins house at Thanksgiving.

[nannyde]

your words

https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=21638&highlight=thanksgiving

I posted the story starting in the eighties in that thread. I have three/four posts about it.

[melilley]

1. Wanted me to not use the word NO, and to keep the other kids from saying NO (wanted me to use uh-uh-uh)... I told her NO ::.
2. Asked if it was ok with me to feed their son homemade organic food ... sure no problem ... oh wait, she wanted ME to MAKE homemade organic food for her kid. NO.
3. Wanted me to hold her child when she slept. NO.
4. Asked if I would take their child at 4:30 am (I opened at 6 am). NO.
5. Asked that I not nap a 9 month old. NO.
6. Vehemently argued with me about how she was sure that the USDA program REQUIRED me to supply breast milk.
7. Asked that I not breastfeed my infant in front of her 4 month old because it would "make him jealous" .
8. Asked me what I did with the DCK's when I had to go to the bathroom, I answered with "What do YOU do with your kids when you have to go to the bathroom?" ... she moved on to the next question.

Ok, I had to laugh at the breast milk remarks! Come on!

[Live and Learn]

I think many people reading your description of events in this thread (not the one from years ago) might assume as I did that it was the cousin nursing in her home.

I personally find your cousin's deceased husband's stepfather's daughter or extended relative immodest but since you brought it up in your older thread......:confused:you had never spoken to a twelve year old about breast feeding?:confused:

It not the breast feeding part of the story I find shocking but that you, a nurse, had never spoken to your twelve year old about this. Im sure he has either witnessed it or at least heard about it before that Thanksgiving. Twelve year old boys talk. Three of my sons are teens.

Again, I think that young mom was less modest than she should have been. I just don't understand your hostility in breast feeding in general.

[nannyde]

I think many people reading your description of events in this thread (not the one from years ago) might assume as I did that it was the cousin nursing in her home.

I personally find your cousin's deceased husband's stepfather's daughter or extended relative immodest but since you brought it up in your older thread......:confused:you had never spoken to a twelve year old about breast feeding?:confused:

It not the breast feeding part of the story I find shocking but that you, a nurse, had never spoken to your twelve year old about this. Im sure he has either witnessed it or at least heard about it before that Thanksgiving. Twelve year old boys talk. Three of my sons are teens.

Again, I think that young mom was less modest than she should have been. I just don't understand your hostility in breast feeding in general.

You assume a LOT.

First, this wasn't a "young" mother. She is a FORTY year old woman with FOUR kids and the oldest is a FULL grown adult. Get the visual now? Why in the world would you assume she was YOUNG?

She's been on this planet long enough to KNOW better than to behave like that in front of a total STRANGER pre-teen male child at a dang holiday dinner. You aren't shocked by that?

Secondly, my kid is twelve. Of course I haven't discussed breast feeding with him. Why the HECK would I do that and what the HECK does that have to do with me being a nurse?

I haven't discussed formula with him.
I haven't discussed stage two baby food with him.
I haven't discussed puff cereal with him.
I haven't discussed hepatitis with him.
I haven't discussed weapons of mass destruction with him.
I haven't discussed toenail care of the elderly with him.

Want me to go on?

He's a pre teen who is currently up at the lake with a fishing rod trying to catch a bass in the middle of March in Iowa. That's how much HE knows.

Can you POSSIBLY conceive how completely REDICULOUS it would be for me to discuss BREAST FEEDING with him? Why the hail would I do that? What difference does it make to him? Why in the world would I bring something like that up to a young boy when NOTHING in his life whatsoever has to do with infants? He's hopefully YEARS away from being a parent.

Maybe I SHOULD give him an education. Maybe I need to teach him the art of education escalation. Maybe I need to help him develop a plan to GET an education the NEXT time a Mama is exposing her breast while feeding her little precious in public. Maybe I should encourage him to seize the opportunity and get that education by sitting three dang feet away and asking
lots
and lots
and LOTS
of questions. Maybe I should encourage him to video and share via his Facebook, twitter, and youtube with that handy dandy "where are you located" button so he can invite others to come and share the public experience with him, the baby, and Mama. That would work great in the mall!

Maybe I should encourage him to share HIS feelings about the experience him and the viewing public get during little darlins feeding to the feeding Mommy. He's real chatty and he has an opinion about everything.

It's natural and best for the baby and all. Why shouldn't he have a total experience and share that experience with his little world and the big wide world? Why would he need to learn about this from me when there are so many real life mommies out there doing the real thing? Let the public breastfeeders field his education in this matter.... They are surely more adept at it then his mama nurse would EVER be.

Yathink? Time to "go public" and "in your face".

That can go both ways. Maybe he needs to learn that.