My Own Son and A DCM - Feeling Upset!!!!

[bunnyslippers]

My five year old had a show at school today. He was told beforehand that he would NOT be coming home after the show, and was a little upset about it. Parents were also told that we would not be allowed to speak to our kids after the show, just a wave goodbye.

Fast forward to the show. It was almost done, and the fire alarm in the school went off. Not a drill (turns out not a fire, either). All of the parents and students have to file out the doors. My husband is a firefighter, so my son is hyer aware of fire.

The show is announced as over, and the parents all head out to their cars. The students were all filing in. My son's class walked right by us, and he was at the end of the line, crying hysterically with a bloody nose. His teacher was holding his hand, but he was bleeding. I walked a ways with him (I know it was against the rules, but he was bleeding and the mom in me took over). He got more upset, saying he wanted to go home.

I was in the process of calming him down when a teacher - and also a DCM - came up behind me, swooped him away and said, "You need to go. YOu know you can't do this." She pulled him away from me, as he was screaming and crying.

I got in my car and went home. He is still at school, and my heart is broken. I know he will be fine, but I hate the way the whole thing happened.

Talk me off the ledge, ladies!

[SquirrellyMama]

I can't talk you off the ledge. I'd be quite mad. The kid was bleeding and you don't know why. I think you had every right to be with your son at that moment. You weren't trying to break the rules just because.

Do you get along with DCM?

K

[jokalima]

I am sorry, this sounds terrible, I feel bad for you and you son

I just can't understand this and in a way it scares me, I've been talking to my husband about homeschooling and this makes me think about it even more seriously. I just don't understand why they would take him away from you? If it was me, when the fire alarm started going, I would have forgotten all rules and went to pick up my son and take him with me... I mean, the way I read what you say is like when they are in school, the school has more power and control over your kid than you do? I am just in shocked with this and if I understood wrong I am sorry. I mean he was bleeding and it was wrong from you to go to your crying child?

[Blackcat31]

Uh huh NO WAY!!! If that was MY child, I would have said "Excuse me but the rules are for kids who are well or unhurt, mine is hurt. I will take it from here" and then would have.

NO ONE is going to tell me I cannot soothe, comfort or be with my child when something like that is happening!

I would be very upset with that DCM as like I said, the situation went from normal to chaotic pretty fast so rules no longer applied.

[Country Kids]

First of all-Why can't you have contact with your own child?

That would soooooooooooooooooo bother me!

Second-why couldn't your child go home with you?

That wouild also bother me.

I guess not understanding the whole situation its hard to answer. I know though my child wouldn't attend a school where I couldn't have contact or take them if needed.

I would probably have grabbed my son BACK and told the mom/teacher that until I knew what happened and that he was OK, I would not be LEAVING. Any more issues would be taken up with the PRINCIPAL not anyone else.

[SquirrellyMama]

I am sorry, this sounds terrible, I feel bad for you and you son

I just can't understand this and in a way it scares me, I've been talking to my husband about homeschooling and this makes me think about it even more seriously. I just don't understand why they would take him away from you? If it was me, when the fire alarm started going, I would have forgotten all rules and went to pick up my son and take him with me... I mean, the way I read what you say is like when they are in school, the school has more power and control over your kid than you do? I am just in shocked with this and if I understood wrong I am sorry. I mean he was bleeding and it was wrong from you to go to your crying child?

We do home school so I am not unbiased. As soon as they tried to take child away from me I would have had them out of school.

K

[Crazy In Mo]

Holy hell! I think it's insane that they told you he couldn't come home with you..... Or even talk to you! That would NOT have flown with me my baby would of most definitely been coming home with me if they were bleeding and upset! I bet your heart is broke:/ that's very sad.... I'm sorry

[bunnyslippers]

I am so glad you agree with me...makes me feel better!

The reason for the rule about not going to your child is because it was a k-2 program, in the gym. There were over 600 adults present. It was a safety concern, bc the teachers were worried they wouldn't be able to keep track of all the kids in that big of an environment. That part actually makes sense. After the CT shooting, school safety has become a hot topic.

I am friendly with this DCM...that being said, she can be kind of a tight a** and thinks she is ALWAYS right. Kind of a bully type. And not warm and fuzzy at all.

I have seriously been crying since I got home. My poor little man!

[Loveyoustinkyface]

Oh, I feel for you. Hopefully you will feel better after your son gets home and you can talk with him.

I would try to explain to him ("cup half full") that you were both so lucky to see each other after the false alarm. And you loved the school presentation.

I would call the principal and discuss HOW this should have been handled. I am not saying that the way it happened was right, and explain how it must have felt for your son. And that you were there and could have helped the teacher so she could tend to the rest of the class.

{{HUGS}}

[daycarediva]

Oh your poor baby!!! (and you!!)

I think the dcm was out of line. In the least she could have let you walk with him/her back to the nurses office and gotten him checked out.

Can you imagine if roles were reversed and you did that to her son/daughter? I mean, SERIOUSLY. Your little guy was bleeding and you weren't allowed to comfort him?

I would be BEYOND mad, and VERY upset.

I hope your ds is ok!!!

[ABCDaycareMN]

I would call the principal and discuss HOW this should have been handled. I am not saying that the way it happened was right, and explain how it must have felt for your son. And that you were there and could have helped the teacher so she could tend to the rest of the class.

{{HUGS}}

A call to the principal is a must! There is no reason why you couldn't tend to your hurt child even with their set rules. That is not ok. My child comes first! I probably would have signed him out right then and there! No one talks to me like that.

I hope your son is ok.

[makap]

OMG I am upset for you! No one would EVER tell me that I can not comfort my son in this type of situation! I would be pulling him out of school so fast and homeschooling.
Is this a dcm of yours? Meaning you care for her child while she teaches?

I would be terming based on this! I don't think I would be able to provide care for her anymore. I would be too livid!

[Willow]

I'd have flipped the mother heifer out.........



Since you didn't I give you permission to call the school and flip the mother heifer out on the principal right now

[canadiancare]

ON a completely unrelated note and to show where my head is....I thought you were going to announce your son was seeing one of your daycare parents.


I am sorry you had to leave with that stress. Kids who are hurting need to be taken care of. If a daycare kid slipped on the way up the steps at drop off and skinned their knee I wouldn't kick the parent out for trying to comfort them.

[SquirrellyMama]

ON a completely unrelated note and to show where my head is....I thought you were going to announce your son was seeing one of your daycare parents.

That was my first thought also