Follow Up On Thief DCG...Opinions?

[lovemykidstoo]

Yes....I had my mother keep an eye on her the entire time. DCD picked up on friday evening and payed me, then he said - Thanks. See you monday.

So I assumed they had made the right choice and chosen to keep her home so I was glad I didn't need to say anything about it.

Wrong. She came. I couldn't turn her away at the door in front of all the other parents and party kiddos. I didn't have the heart.

Then last night I get a call from a parent asking if we had found her DD's change purse. Seems to have mysteriously disappeared out of her dance bag.

Obviously I need to fire my mother as a body guard...

Have mentionned to DCM who told me she would look for it.

**Scream!**

Well that stinks that you were pretty much relieved that she wasn't coming to the party only to have her show up. Think dad didn't want to handle that conversation with you so he said see ya Monday? You know how men hate conflict! Where was the party? Are you pretty sure it was her that took it? That is bulls**t if she did.

[sharlan]

Stealing from you is wrong. Stealing from a guest in your home is way out of line. I'm sorry, I understand money is tight, but it's time to let this one go.

[Soccermom]

Well that stinks that you were pretty much relieved that she wasn't coming to the party only to have her show up. Think dad didn't want to handle that conversation with you so he said see ya Monday? You know how men hate conflict! Where was the party? Are you pretty sure it was her that took it? That is bulls**t if she did.

I think he was avoiding the conversation. He likely disagreed with the choice to send her to the party but was letting DCM call the shots...OR he is not aware of what is going on.

I can't say she took it for sure...I trust that DCM will return it if she did. My mother tells me she kept a close eye on her...but that is the problem with a stealer..you no longer trust them and every time something is misplaced you suspect that it was taken and get angry.


Sharlan- I agree. Either that or I will need to start taking some medication to deal with the stress.... She was here today and I didn't even want to go to the washroom because I wasn't sure what she would do while I was in there. I suspect her all the time, every move she makes I am watching her. She is always watching me too and sneaking about. My own kids were trying to talk to me and I could not even really pay attention too much because she is so sneaky...she will use that moment to swipe something.

[Bookworm]

I agree with Sharlan. If you to have to watch her to the point where you can't even focus on a conversation with your kids, it's time for her to go.

[lovemykidstoo]

I think he was avoiding the conversation. He likely disagreed with the choice to send her to the party but was letting DCM call the shots...OR he is not aware of what is going on.

I can't say she took it for sure...I trust that DCM will return it if she did. My mother tells me she kept a close eye on her...but that is the problem with a stealer..you no longer trust them and every time something is misplaced you suspect that it was taken and get angry.


Sharlan- I agree. Either that or I will need to start taking some medication to deal with the stress.... She was here today and I didn't even want to go to the washroom because I wasn't sure what she would do while I was in there. I suspect her all the time, every move she makes I am watching her. She is always watching me too and sneaking about. My own kids were trying to talk to me and I could not even really pay attention too much because she is so sneaky...she will use that moment to swipe something.

I don't know, the more I read the stories that you tell us, I'm leaning more of letting her go. Especially if she took that change purse. That would be a definate exit!

[daycare]

What if your kids catch YOU allowing it to pass? Where will their trust lie in you at that point?
I don't think your decision to give her another chance, or even work with her is necessarily a bad one, but hiding it from your kids, when they already feel betrayed? That could have some incredibly long reaching consequences.

I agree with this...