My husband (who is my partner at our daycare center) lost his mom this week. She had been quite ill for months, but did not survive her trip to the hospital. This week in May we usually do at least one craft project, make cards and do mom-themed coloring pages. My poor husband just can't bring himself to do it, too much, too soon, too emotional for him. I was going to quietly let it go, but now feel like I will disappoint all my moms. They know his mom died, but should I explain myself? Yes, I know it's not the kids fault my husband lost his mom, but I just can't put him through it. Selfish? Maybe, but he's my husband and he is grieving. He just doesn't want to. Will the parents understand?
Can't Bring Ourselves To Do Mothers Day Crafts....Will Parents Understand?
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Hubby trumps daycare kids. The parents should understand. Otherwise, could you perhaps do the craft with the kids while DH sits that one out? If not, then I say put your husband first. Really, it isn't solely up to you to provide mother's day presents/crafts to all the moms. The families should all have something in place as well, so I wouldn't sweat it too much. I'm very sorry for your loss.- Flag
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oh wow, this is hard. Is he there all the time? Can you do something when he is not there?
Otherwise, I think I might just do something super easy to send home that the kids dont have to do anything to make.....so its not an activity in front of your hubby. Nice framed pictures of the kids? One year I do those side-by-side plastic frames (very cheap) and you can do a picture on one side and a poem about mom on the other. Just put together when your husband is busy in the evening or something and discretely tuck in bags on the way out that Friday.- Flag
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Hubby trumps daycare kids. The parents should understand. Otherwise, could you perhaps do the craft with the kids while DH sits that one out? If not, then I say put your husband first. Really, it isn't solely up to you to provide mother's day presents/crafts to all the moms. The families should all have something in place as well, so I wouldn't sweat it too much. I'm very sorry for your loss.
And i am sorry for your loss, May God grant you and your family strenght in this time of need. Nothing is more important then your husband and kids.- Flag
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Thanks Zoe. I just feel bad for the kiddos. Maybe we can just paint pictures and lay off the mothers day theme.- Flag
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oh wow, this is hard. Is he there all the time? Can you do something when he is not there?
Otherwise, I think I might just do something super easy to send home that the kids dont have to do anything to make.....so its not an activity in front of your hubby. Nice framed pictures of the kids? One year I do those side-by-side plastic frames (very cheap) and you can do a picture on one side and a poem about mom on the other. Just put together when your husband is busy in the evening or something and discretely tuck in bags on the way out that Friday.- Flag
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It was an unexpected death, but we are open and working through it. He is ok when he is here, keeping busy and surrounded by our wonderful students. (it is much worse when we get home at night). You would think the parents would be grateful for being open, so the lack of craft should be ok. No one will be rude cheerful, I am sure of that.- Flag
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(((((hugs))))) to you and your husband for your loss.
I honestly refrain from making any craft or special items for Mother's or Father's Day(s) as many children do not have a mother or father figure in their lives.
My role here is to care for these children while facilitating good social skills and independence.
IMPO, I see no reason for arts/crafts to "celebrate" holidays or special days that FAMILY should be incorporating into the children's lives.
Your DCK's are going to notice tha tyou are your husband are grieving so I think it would better and somewhat theraputic for you and your husband to continue on with your daily acitivites as you normally do.
Again, hugs and good thoughts sent your way. I can't imagine losing my mother and especially so close to Mother's Day.I will keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thanks sharlan. He never likes doing mothers day crafts, because ironically, his father died on Mothers Day eighteen years ago.- Flag
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(((((hugs))))) to you and your husband for your loss.
I honestly refrain from making any craft or special items for Mother's or Father's Day(s) as many children do not have a mother or father figure in their lives.
My role here is to care for these children while facilitating good social skills and independence.
IMPO, I see no reason for arts/crafts to "celebrate" holidays or special days that FAMILY should be incorporating into the children's lives.
Your DCK's are going to notice tha tyou are your husband are grieving so I think it would better and somewhat theraputic for you and your husband to continue on with your daily acitivites as you normally do.
Again, hugs and good thoughts sent your way. I can't imagine losing my mother and especially so close to Mother's Day.I will keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.
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