I Dont Like DCB VENT (Logged Out) Am I Alone?

[daycare]

Are you regulated in your state?

If so, aren't the parents required to have a health exam done every 6 months until the child is 2, or don't you have that there?


I can imagine what a challenge this is...I have been in your situation, although it was an older child. I admire that you are still able to give him good care.

even with a health exam, parents don't always express their concerns to the doctor, especially if they are in denial. If the doctor does not know what is really going on, the doctor will not know how to help the child and family. they can't tell that something is wrong just by looking at the child.

My niece was always at the doctors if she pooped funny. She has a lot of things wrong with her, autistic to name a few and her mom never mentioned anything to the doctor when she went because she was in denial. It was not until she turned 4 did the doctor finally realize that there was something wrong.

[DCP]

Oh my goodness so not alone! I have one now and have had for 3 years that the voice of the child makes me cringe. The child does not "talk" the child whines..everything!!!
Food is always an issue - potty training..issue..crafts..issue....just everything is an issue with this child. She has been noted to be the Gothic type when she gets older by others that have met her LOL...she does not "play" well like the others and gives everyone looks all the time...
Even other clients that attended birthday parties that the same child attended spoke of the child's behavior and the parent's response. They wondered if the child acted the same way here....
The child's mother asks for help constantly..but never takes the advice

Soon the child will be in school...and sadly I can not wait!!!

[Meeko]

You are not alone! I recently posted about a 6 year old girl I have had in my care since she born. I felt bad because I wasn't in the least bit sorry to see her go when they moved because ...bottom line.....I don't like her. She was willful and spiteful and mouthy and terribly spoiled. I told every one I had Angelica from "Rugrats" in my care!

Human beings have a chemistry with people that we can't help. I have a brother-in-law that makes me want to strangle him just by being in the room! I adore all my husband's other siblings...go figure.

So don't worry! You're human! I hope you feel better that you are not alone. I felt much better after people reassured me I wasn't a terrible person because I was happy to see the child go.

[JJPlaycare]

This honestly made me laugh out loud because sadly I have been there MANY times! I just told my husband a few months ago is it bad that I am getting to the point that I think I only like my own kids? Now obviously that was a stretch, well kind of! Of course I would I raised them, whats there not to love! :: If we all liked eachother or were all the same the world wouldn't go round, keep your head up and try your darndest to find a replacement because its not easy to live your life feeling like that and he needs someone who whole heartedly loves him! I know you care for him as you would any other child, but children do have senses and can feel fakeness and he deserves the real thing! (((((HUGS)))) to you and hang in there in the mean time! One thing that has helped me is to focus on the good things through out the day! Try to find at least 5 good things about him daily and not focus so much on the bad, the gross, the ugly, the annoying! This will help you get through your days I promise and always remember hes just a baby and hes really not out to get you!

[Unregistered]

Try to find at least 5 good things about him daily and not focus so much on the bad, the gross, the ugly, the annoying! This will help you get through your days I promise and always remember hes just a baby and hes really not out to get you!

Good tip with the 5 good things! Haha- I laughed when I read "he's not out to get you!" Some days I swear he's like Stewie from Family Guy, plotting against me (not literally, but ya'll know about those days I'm talking about).

[Bookworm]

I have 2 DCBs like this. No matter how hard I try, I just can't click with these two. The same with their parents. I have days when this really bothers me but for some reason the connection won't happen. And it doesn't help when one of them is there EVERYDAY from open to close. He NEVER misses a day. Not a one. At least with the other DCB, he mom is very good about keeping him home when she is off and genuinely loves spending time with him. They never get invited to any of the other kids B-Day parties or invited on play dates and it really is sad.

I've never been able to figure out why we tend to click easily with some families and not with others. Have any of you ladies figured it out because I sure would like to know.

[littlemissmuffet]

What's with the 1.5 year olds? I don't necessarily NOT LIKE my 1.5dcb... but he's most definitely my least favorite and most trouble in handling. I normally LOVE working with children this age... but this particular boy can be a nightmare. He is extremely whiney - cries every single time he is told NO, cries every single time he falls (even gently) on his bum, cries every single time he is served food he doesn't like (but ends up eating it anyways). Mom and dad spoil him absolutely rotten - which I am sure is more than half the battle. They also had him on baby food until way passed 12 months... and now almost every time mom talks about what he had for supper (which is often) it was pizza, ravioli, frozen baby dinners or some other garbage food. Mom thinks her little man is a genius, which I wish I could confirm... he's actually quite far behind developmentally.

[Unregistered]

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Do you think it's a coincidence that it seems many of the children who are whiney, disruptive, tantrum-y are all the first to arrive and last to leave? I also have a child like that in care.

[WDW]

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[SunshineMama]

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Do you think it's a coincidence that it seems many of the children who are whiney, disruptive, tantrum-y are all the first to arrive and last to leave? I also have a child like that in care.

Great point! I have this kiddo 11 hours a day, every day. He here now, tellin for no reason and waking up my entire household.

[Blackcat31]

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Do you think it's a coincidence that it seems many of the children who are whiney, disruptive, tantrum-y are all the first to arrive and last to leave? I also have a child like that in care.

I am on the opposite end of that line of thinking.

My worst behaved kids are the part timers.

I have two kids who come from open until close everyday of the week and they are by far my best kids.

[Country Kids]

I am on the opposite end of that line of thinking.

My worst behaved kids are the part timers.

I have two kids who come from open until close everyday of the week and they are by far my best kids.

My part-timers are my best! When I did just preschool all my kids were just a dream to have.

Why were/are they so good? I've just concluded because they get to actually see mom and dad a good number of hours a day. Mine that are here from the time their eyes open to late in the day don't seem to see the parents as much and its just seems to cause behavioral problems.

[dEHmom]

I understand how you feel. Truly do. Sounds like my own child!

I am going to say a few things, and I hope they don't come across the wrong way.

1. I can almost guarantee, even with your faking it, this child KNOWS or senses and the energy you give off is feeding it. I bet the parents of this child are dealing with the same issues too, and the child KNOWS that too. He feels like he doesn't belong and he is lashing out how he knows how to.

2. At 1.5 yo, i wouldn't expect him to have a large vocabulary, and in my experience, not many boys are talking more than mom and dad at that age. It will come with time. HOWEVER, children who don't have the words only know how to communicate through physical and what limited vocabulary or sounds that they do have. When my ds was 3yo he still wasn't talking, so he made noises, cried, whined and became physical all the time. The crying and whining was his frustration from not being able to communicate. It literally took a toll on all of us.

3. Flame suit on! If you are unhappy and your attempts to help this child isn't working out, you need to term RIGHT NOW, and not just keep him because you cannot afford to lose him. I don't think this is right at all. Things will work out financially for you. I know how hard it is to struggle and make ends meet, but it's not fair to you, that child, OR the other kids in care to suffer because of money.

I know this wasn't really ADVICE but it's something to think about. This child may be acting out this way because he cannot communicate, is frustrated and he feels like he doesn't belong.

[dEHmom]

I have 2 DCBs like this. No matter how hard I try, I just can't click with these two. The same with their parents. I have days when this really bothers me but for some reason the connection won't happen. And it doesn't help when one of them is there EVERYDAY from open to close. He NEVER misses a day. Not a one. At least with the other DCB, he mom is very good about keeping him home when she is off and genuinely loves spending time with him. They never get invited to any of the other kids B-Day parties or invited on play dates and it really is sad.

I've never been able to figure out why we tend to click easily with some families and not with others. Have any of you ladies figured it out because I sure would like to know.

in the spiritual thread it was mentioned how kids sense or see the world differently. They tend to have a 6th sense for things, and they know.

One of my dcg's that I had I really disliked for a long time. But she did grow on me. She is one of the bratty ones I have posted before, sneaky, and always bad, whining etc. She is not 1.75 yo and has improved greatly, and is one of my favorites by far now (not that I play favorites, I love all my dck's equally, but sometimes they just don't click right away and take time).





I wonder, maybe the dcb on the op's post is treated poorly at home, and is just crying out because of it. I'm not implyin that the parents are bad parents, but maybe they are busy and he is not really "seen" at home. Maybe it's just sort of a pick up, go home, eat, go to bed type deal?

[Nellie]

I understand how you feel. Truly do. Sounds like my own child!

I am going to say a few things, and I hope they don't come across the wrong way.

1. I can almost guarantee, even with your faking it, this child KNOWS or senses and the energy you give off is feeding it. I bet the parents of this child are dealing with the same issues too, and the child KNOWS that too. He feels like he doesn't belong and he is lashing out how he knows how to.

2. At 1.5 yo, i wouldn't expect him to have a large vocabulary, and in my experience, not many boys are talking more than mom and dad at that age. It will come with time. HOWEVER, children who don't have the words only know how to communicate through physical and what limited vocabulary or sounds that they do have. When my ds was 3yo he still wasn't talking, so he made noises, cried, whined and became physical all the time. The crying and whining was his frustration from not being able to communicate. It literally took a toll on all of us.

3. Flame suit on! If you are unhappy and your attempts to help this child isn't working out, you need to term RIGHT NOW, and not just keep him because you cannot afford to lose him. I don't think this is right at all. Things will work out financially for you. I know how hard it is to struggle and make ends meet, but it's not fair to you, that child, OR the other kids in care to suffer because of money.

I know this wasn't really ADVICE but it's something to think about. This child may be acting out this way because he cannot communicate, is frustrated and he feels like he doesn't belong.

I agree with kids having a 6th sense about things. I try really hard at bonding with a child that I may not care for. Every time they do something that I don't care for I think of a positive about them. Lots of cuddling, hugs, one on one time for a few weeks. I won't talk bad about the child after DC to my husband and will only bringn up a few cute things the child did that day. I have only been in the situation twice. But I desided that if after the 2 weeks and I still felt the same way about the child I would term. I don't feel like it is fair for the child. Luckly I have never had to term. Best luck to you.