I Dont Like DCB VENT (Logged Out) Am I Alone?

[Unregistered]

Am I alone in feeling this way?

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I know this sounds bad but I just have to say it. (Sorry, I promise I am not a bad person).

I really dont like my 1.5 year old dcb. He whines all the time, doesnt speak, doesnt walk, and just screams and pulls the other kids hair for no reason, completely unprompted. He doesn't do anything "cute" or silly or funny. He is here all the time, and it is just problem after problem. His parents are clueless, and constantly making me enforce different rules. They never take him to the doctor. I suspect medical issues and they just are not doing anything. They dont have him on any sort of schedule at all and they spoil him rotten.

I dont want to watch him anymore but I cant afford to lose him right now, so I feel trapped. I have ads out but I have not gotten any "good" replacements yet.

His care is not compromised by how I feel at all. I take excellent care of him and work with him every day, and treat him with loving care. But I have to fake it for him. All of my other dck's I genuinely hug and laugh with and play with, but I just don't "feel" it with this kid. He is just annoying and a pain. Everyday when their parents knock on my door I roll my eyes. I have allowed him to take the joy out of a portion of my day. (Again, I take care of him- I am able to separate my job from my emotions).

Thanks for listening. I hope I am not alone in this. I feel like a bad person for feeling this way but it is how I honestly feel. I just cant stand the kid and I feel stuck right now

[My3cents]

Am I alone in feeling this way?

Registered user logged out for privacy from dcp' due to sensitive topic.

I know this sounds bad but I just have to say it. (Sorry, I promise I am not a bad person).

I really dont like my 1.5 year old dcb. He whines all the time, doesnt speak, doesnt walk, and just screams and pulls the other kids hair for no reason, completely unprompted. He doesn't do anything "cute" or silly or funny. He is here all the time, and it is just problem after problem. His parents are clueless, and constantly making me enforce different rules. They never take him to the doctor. I suspect medical issues and they just are not doing anything. They dont have him on any sort of schedule at all and they spoil him rotten.

I dont want to watch him anymore but I cant afford to lose him right now, so I feel trapped. I have ads out but I have not gotten any "good" replacements yet.

His care is not compromised by how I feel at all. I take excellent care of him and work with him every day, and treat him with loving care. But I have to fake it for him. All of my other dck's I genuinely hug and laugh with and play with, but I just don't "feel" it with this kid. He is just annoying and a pain. Everyday when their parents knock on my door I roll my eyes. I have allowed him to take the joy out of a portion of my day. (Again, I take care of him- I am able to separate my job from my emotions).

Thanks for listening. I hope I am not alone in this. I feel like a bad person for feeling this way but it is how I honestly feel. I just cant stand the kid and I feel stuck right now

your not alone. We are drawn closer to some more then others- I love all my kiddo's and I have a challenging little bunch- Give it time, you might end up falling in love with him when you least expect it.

[Unregistered]

I did not like my Dcb either... He screamed, cried and whined pretty much every day I had him. He wouldn't play or interact with my similar aged son. He literally just walked around crying until he fell asleep. I had him 8mo-18mo and it was awful. I love babies sooo much, but I disliked this kid, he ****ed the life out of me. I tried to give so much love, but he was just such an unhappy little guy....term now you'll be glad for it.

[Soupyszoo]

I could have written the exact same post about my 1.5yo dcb. You are not alone! You can pm me if you need to talk

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ykj82r

I could have written the exact same post about my 1.5yo dcb. You are not alone! You can pm me if you need to talk

Thanks ladies! He is on the list to term asap. I have had an ad out for months now (I was going to term him because his parents brought him sick all the time), but I dont want to take any infants and everyone else wants crazy hours, or doesnt want to pay anything.

I am just so frustrated and every time I look at him I have to force this fake smile and it just stresses me out beyond belief. The crazy thing is that he cries when he leaves my house and doesnt want to go. (Maybe I should be an actress ).

Ugh! So thankful I am not alone.

[littlemissmuffet]

You're definitely not alone. I don't know of ANY childcare provder who doesn't every so often has a child in their care that they don't like. Children are little people, and it's completely unrealistic to think we can go through life liking every other person we meet. I hope that you can find a replacement and term... for your own happiness and the little boy's too. Good luck.

[Unregistered]

You are not alone.

Your little one is probably very perceptive and realizes that you don't love him as much as you do the others. I believe kids "feel" far more than we give them credit for. Your home just may not be the right situation for him.

I have a SA that I just can't love no matter what I try. This child does very little beyond walking around in circles being bored. I am really looking forward to school getting out.

[Heidi]

Are you regulated in your state?

If so, aren't the parents required to have a health exam done every 6 months until the child is 2, or don't you have that there?


I can imagine what a challenge this is...I have been in your situation, although it was an older child. I admire that you are still able to give him good care.

[wdmmom]

If you are to the point where he is wearing you out mentally, now would be the time to go full force in finding a replacement.

Personally, I wouldn't want to have to work with a child each and everyday that was a pain. If you are unhappy, you can bet he is unhappy. I would never want to take care of a child that was unhappy here. Find a replacement and simply tell the family he hasn't adapted well or if you want to sugar coat it, you could just tell them that you aren't going to be caring for children under 2 anymore.

[countrymom]

I've been there, its hard and its draining. I hope you can replace him soon.

[temom]

No you are not alone, just a few of us have the guts to say it out loud. I think its not really the kid fault its mostly to do with how he is being bought up. They are the mini versions of what the parents are like. I used to get through my day saying to my self, all kids are born innocent and a clean slate, what the turn out to be is what the parents and the families teach them to be. Hang in there hopefully you will get a replacement soon. It not good for you or the kid to be in an environment with this kinda tension.

[DaisyMamma]

I could have written the exact same post about my 1.5yo dcb. You are not alone! You can pm me if you need to talk

I have one as well ! 1.5yoDCB. He is spoiled at home, gets every thing he wants. So here when I tell him no, he screams, hits, falls on the floor. Granted he is only 18mo, but it's an all day long thing. He walks around crying all day. He arrives before all the other kids and leaves after all the other kids and unfortunately is a big part of my income AND is a friend of a friend :confused:

[cheerfuldom]

I'm sorry you are going thru this. If I knew for sure that a parent was not taking their child to checkups and I felt that there were concerning issues, I would have to speak up, regardless of the money. I have one special needs girl here and I am not going to lie, she is not as lovable as the other kids....she is delayed in every way, does not connect well with others verbally or emotionally, and cries more than any other kid, including the baby (which makes sense since she doesnt have the social skills or verbal skills to express herself in any other way). There is no way I could continue on with her care if the parents werent actively seeking help, going to therapies with her and that type of thing.

[Unregistered]

I have one as well ! 1.5yoDCB. He is spoiled at home, gets every thing he wants. So here when I tell him no, he screams, hits, falls on the floor. Granted he is only 18mo, but it's an all day long thing. He walks around crying all day. He arrives before all the other kids and leaves after all the other kids and unfortunately is a big part of my income AND is a friend of a friend :confused:

ME TOO! This kid is a friend of a friend, which makes it a sticky situation, AND he is here firt and leaves last! I dont know what I should do to advertise other than Craig's list. I am pregnant though, and I dont know how many people want to use a pregnant provider, which also complicates the issue.

A lot of people are having issues with 1.5 year olds- is it the age? If I tough it out will he outgrow it or am I doomed?

[Soupyszoo]

I have one as well ! 1.5yoDCB. He is spoiled at home, gets every thing he wants. So here when I tell him no, he screams, hits, falls on the floor. Granted he is only 18mo, but it's an all day long thing. He walks around crying all day. He arrives before all the other kids and leaves after all the other kids and unfortunately is a big part of my income AND is a friend of a friend :confused:

Its crazy that there are so many kids like this! Again you've described my dcb! I can't imagine what home life is like with this kid! The family must be miserable or oblivious! Or BOTH!