Worst Mommy Of The Year Award!!

[countrymom]

Today I gave my two week notice because this morning this mom showed up with the baby and he had snot crusted over his entire face (it was a thick covering over his entire face and in his hair), he was in his pajamas still and and extremely full diaper. Leading me to believe she picked him out of bed and brought him without taking any time to clean him up. I also called the cps office and made a complaint. I am glad everyone on here thinks I was in the wrong for saying worst mommy of the year award. I am sry if everyone feels like I was wrong for putting that. Yes I know there are way worse parents out there, I was venting. I am extremely sad to see this little boy go, I love him so much. Also I might have forgot to ad that she rarely buckles him into his carseat because she is lazy, This also leads me to believe she could care less. I also voiced all my opinions to the county social worker. I have also called cps on this mother before and nothing was done. I really hope his grandparents step in and take over, because they take very good care of him. This will be the last time I post on this issue as apparently I was in the wrong for even saying anything.

I agree with you, except I would have called her some more nasty names. I can't believe some of you are so obsessed about the dirty finger nails, that you missed the part where she left him with a dcp. Who does this, who treats their child like trash. Yes she is a poor mother. I bet you that next year she'll be nocked up with another kid.

[Blackcat31]

......another perfect example of a thread that required support but instead got nothing but criticism.

[Country Kids]

......another perfect example of a thread that required support but instead got nothing but criticism.

I agree 100% with this.

I think before responding to any thread please read what the op is writing! It seems in this case most everyone skipped the ENTIRE first paragraph.

[MrsB]

Okay after I reread my post and all of Kayla's comments, First I would like to apologize to Kayla if you felt attacked by my comments. To be honest, I was trying to remain more neutral and was addressing some of the others comments about reporting this mother for child abuse/neglect.

In hindsight I could have been more supportive of you. I am sorry! To be honest, sometime in these forums, I am not truely sure what the OP's is wanting to get out of the post. An opinion? or support? In the future I will try and be more mindful of the OP's intent of the post. I have done plenty of venting on here myself and will continue to do so! I hope this post doesnt detour you from continuing either!

[daycare]

Okay after I reread my post and all of Kayla's comments, First I would like to apologize to Kayla if you felt attacked by my comments. To be honest, I was trying to remain more neutral and was addressing some of the others comments about reporting this mother for child abuse/neglect.

In hindsight I could have been more supportive of you. I am sorry! To be honest, sometime in these forums, I am not truely sure what the OP's is wanting to get out of the post. An opinion? or support? In the future I will try and be more mindful of the OP's intent of the post. I have done plenty of venting on here myself and will continue to do so! I hope this post doesnt detour you from continuing either!

very sweet of you to make her feel better. I have to agree that it is hard to really know and understand what the OP is trying to accomplish by their post. I think about this all the time when I post stuff. I don't want to have to write a book and explain it all, so it sometimes comes out wrong or I don't get the answers I hoped for.

Kayla, Please keep trying to post. I had a hard time at first too. As you can see by the number of post I have, I didn't give up.

[AmyLeigh]

Today I gave my two week notice because this morning this mom showed up with the baby and he had snot crusted over his entire face (it was a thick covering over his entire face and in his hair), he was in his pajamas still and and extremely full diaper. Leading me to believe she picked him out of bed and brought him without taking any time to clean him up. I also called the cps office and made a complaint. I am glad everyone on here thinks I was in the wrong for saying worst mommy of the year award. I am sry if everyone feels like I was wrong for putting that. Yes I know there are way worse parents out there, I was venting. I am extremely sad to see this little boy go, I love him so much. Also I might have forgot to ad that she rarely buckles him into his carseat because she is lazy, This also leads me to believe she could care less. I also voiced all my opinions to the county social worker. I have also called cps on this mother before and nothing was done. I really hope his grandparents step in and take over, because they take very good care of him. This will be the last time I post on this issue as apparently I was in the wrong for even saying anything.

1.) Too bad you felt you had to term. You obviously care about the child. But your reasons are understood.

2.) Not buckling the car seat! That is reportable to the police immediately!!! I was told to call 911 if I saw a child not properly restrained in a moving vehicle. I don't care who you are or what your excuses are....children need to be properly restrained.

3.) Reporting to CPS. I believe we all had this discussion before. Things that aren't great parenting isn't bad enough for the state to step in. There has to be obvious abuse or neglect in order for action to be taken. But they have your report on record in case the situation gets worse.

4.) When we vent, we are emotional. We don't necessarily want to see the situation from a different POV, but that is what we get when we post our vents. You are frustrated with the situation, we all get that. You care about the child, we get that too. Maybe you will see that when you are able to look at this more objectively.

((((Hugs)))) This has been a really trying situation for you. I hope you are able to get a good family to fill the space.

[Blackcat31]

I agree 100% with this.

I think before responding to any thread please read what the op is writing! It seems in this case most everyone skipped the ENTIRE first paragraph.

I think it is important to not only get a feel for what an poster is saying but what they are like in general. Most of us are not fly by night members but women (and men) who have been conversing back and forth for a a while now and we kind of "know" what someone is like just from the way they speak and the things they speak of. And of course there is always the general rule that if we are unsure what exactly a person meant of how they meant it, to simply ask.

I mean no question is a dumb question and asking for further explanation or some clarity is far more supportive and proactive than immediately criticizing someone.

I think it is always important to remember that how we all see things varys from not only person to person but from area to are as well. We are all different, we all use different words and actions and no one way should be considered the only way to say or do anything.

I often answer a post and then when I go back and re-read it, feel differently or sometimes even take the post in a completely different way than I originally did. There were a few on here who even said they took a step back and thought about things before posting, which IMHO, is not a bad thing to do at all.

[AllDeezBabies]

Today I gave my two week notice because this morning this mom showed up with the baby and he had snot crusted over his entire face (it was a thick covering over his entire face and in his hair), he was in his pajamas still and and extremely full diaper. Leading me to believe she picked him out of bed and brought him without taking any time to clean him up. I also called the cps office and made a complaint. I am glad everyone on here thinks I was in the wrong for saying worst mommy of the year award. I am sry if everyone feels like I was wrong for putting that. Yes I know there are way worse parents out there, I was venting. I am extremely sad to see this little boy go, I love him so much. Also I might have forgot to ad that she rarely buckles him into his carseat because she is lazy, This also leads me to believe she could care less. I also voiced all my opinions to the county social worker. I have also called cps on this mother before and nothing was done. I really hope his grandparents step in and take over, because they take very good care of him. This will be the last time I post on this issue as apparently I was in the wrong for even saying anything.

I wasn't attacking you. I just think motherhood is getting to her and she may need a real nurturer to have a heart to heart with her.