Worst Mommy Of The Year Award!!

[kayla]

I logged out to make this comment as I'm sure I will get some slack for it along way. I was 18 years old when I had my son and I did step up to the plate to be a good mommy but there are a few things that even some grown adults have a tough time with. One of those things is cutting a child's nails. I have had new mothers in their late 30's that refused to cut their babies nails because they were afraid to cut the child. It's no joke, a babies skin is much thinner than ours and it is much easier to nick them with the clippers at that age. I was so, so nervous to cut my son's nails when he was a baby and I understand why some people do not cut them as often as they should be cut.

Also when I had my son the nurse told me not to bathe him everyday as young don't need to be bathed daily.

Did You Know?

A baby's skin is five times thinner than an adult's.
You should bathe your baby no more than three times per week.
You should not use antiseptic wipes on your child's hands.
You should not use soap when bathing a baby.

With that begin said, I don't think it's right to get mad at this mom if she doesn't bathe her child everyday especially before coming to daycare.

Also as far as the dirty clothes, are the clothes dirty because of food begin spilt on them or for other reasons? I do not change my son every time he spills something on his clothes and sometimes I send the children home from daycare with dirty clothes due to spills, playing outside, painting, whatever...

Have you been enforcing that this mom bring proper supplies? Not letting the child attend for the day until you have the supplies you need?

How do you know dcm is too lazy to feed him real food and that's why she uses squeezable food? Does she have to supply the food for daycare? I do not think there is anything wrong giving a child puried food from time to time.

As far as the bf's go. You need to understand that dcm is young. She is 19 years old, she doesn't have a husband to help her and likely really wants someone to be there for her and to support her through her life. At the age of 1 a child isn't going to remember any of the men that dcm dates. I also feel it's mom's business who she moves in and not yours.

As far as the 10 days away goes. What about families who have their children one week on and one week off? Do you frown down on these families too? My son visited his dad's side and still does to this day and when he goes he usually goes for a week or two, sometimes longer in the summer. Does that make me a bad mom because I am not beside my child 24/7? I would think not!

Every parent has their own downfalls, even you are not the best parent in certain areas, just like I am not the best parent in certain areas. We all try the best we can to be the best parent we can be but different personalities and situations lead to different child rearing and that is something that should be accepted not judged, granted there is no abuse or neglect going on.

wow is all i have to say.... you act like i am going after this mother... i only have a problem with him being dirty when he has come 3 days straight in the same clothing... and yes i will complain when his fingers are not cut because i and other children in my care are being scratched by this child. i get that its the mothers business who she moves in but maybe i should turn her in for welfare fraud???? since she doesnt pay for her housing... i think it is extremely pathetic you dont move any joe smoe into your home, i would never... and im just saying her own son didnt want anything to do with her because he had no clue who she was when she came back....i have never cut his skin when cutting his nails.... this mom is lazy and maybe if you met her you would see...!!!!

[Unregistered]

wow is all i have to say.... you act like i am going after this mother... i only have a problem with him being dirty when he has come 3 days straight in the same clothing... and yes i will complain when his fingers are not cut because i and other children in my care are being scratched by this child. i get that its the mothers business who she moves in but maybe i should turn her in for welfare fraud???? since she doesnt pay for her housing... i think it is extremely pathetic you dont move any joe smoe into your home, i would never... and im just saying her own son didnt want anything to do with her because he had no clue who she was when she came back....i have never cut his skin when cutting his nails.... this mom is lazy and maybe if you met her you would see...!!!!

I more or less think it's the words you use such as PATHETIC that shows that you are going after this mom. This is why I took the time out of my day to address your post because I was personally disgusted as to how you would talk about one of your dcm's, one that you haven't even considered terming yet to say the least. How would you feel if one of your dcp's spoke this way, said that the way you did things was PATHETIC behind your back? Your comment, "maybe I should turn her in for welfare fraud" clearing shows the relationship you have with this parent. As a provider you have a responsibility to have a open and clear communicated relationship with the parent's that enrol their children in your care...you are not showing your part of your responsibilities here. You have done a great job at bashing this mom behind her back, but a terrible job of trying to address these issues in a professional manner.

With that being said, my own mother moved her bf in on the second date no joke! I do NOT consider my mom pathetic. They have been together for 2 years now and are as happy as can be! I moved in with my son's dad 2 weeks into our relationship and stayed with him for 3.5 years and yes I was happy until the very end. I guess I just don't see how you can judge this lady for moving a bf in when you don't know anything about the situation and it's none of your business to begin with.

Do you change your clothes everyday? I don't. Maybe the mom doesn't think that her child's clothes are really that dirty. Washing clothes is expensive, especially when they can be worn more than once. What do you consider dirty?

If the nails really bother you that bad then term. She doesn't have to cut her son's nails, that doesn't make her a bad mom anymore that it makes you a good provider to cut his nails. But good for you for never cutting his skin, it is not always that easy, especially when a child doesn't want to sit long enough to get it done. The way her child is with you is likely not the same as he is with his own mother.

You need to remember YOUR JOB is not to decide how a parent runs their life. Granted there is no abuse or neglect. This is a situation that would not be considered abuse or neglect. Mom's are allowed to leave their children in the attendance of a trusted adult if they need to leave town to get something done. Mom's are allowed to have vacations. YOUR JOB is to be the best provider to this child that you can be and to be open and communicate any concerns you have with the child's parent. If after all of this you are still finding yourself unhappy then it is time to term. Nothing more.

[My3cents]

I more or less think it's the words you use such as PATHETIC that shows that you are going after this mom. This is why I took the time out of my day to address your post because I was personally disgusted as to how you would talk about one of your dcm's, one that you haven't even considered terming yet to say the least. How would you feel if one of your dcp's spoke this way, said that the way you did things was PATHETIC behind your back? Your comment, "maybe I should turn her in for welfare fraud" clearing shows the relationship you have with this parent. As a provider you have a responsibility to have a open and clear communicated relationship with the parent's that enrol their children in your care...you are not showing your part of your responsibilities here. You have done a great job at bashing this mom behind her back, but a terrible job of trying to address these issues in a professional manner.

With that being said, my own mother moved her bf in on the second date no joke! I do NOT consider my mom pathetic. They have been together for 2 years now and are as happy as can be! I moved in with my son's dad 2 weeks into our relationship and stayed with him for 3.5 years and yes I was happy until the very end. I guess I just don't see how you can judge this lady for moving a bf in when you don't know anything about the situation and it's none of your business to begin with.

Do you change your clothes everyday? I don't. Maybe the mom doesn't think that her child's clothes are really that dirty. Washing clothes is expensive, especially when they can be worn more than once. What do you consider dirty?

If the nails really bother you that bad then term. She doesn't have to cut her son's nails, that doesn't make her a bad mom anymore that it makes you a good provider to cut his nails. But good for you for never cutting his skin, it is not always that easy, especially when a child doesn't want to sit long enough to get it done. The way her child is with you is likely not the same as he is with his own mother.

You need to remember YOUR JOB is not to decide how a parent runs their life. Granted there is no abuse or neglect. This is a situation that would not be considered abuse or neglect. Mom's are allowed to leave their children in the attendance of a trusted adult if they need to leave town to get something done. Mom's are allowed to have vacations. YOUR JOB is to be the best provider to this child that you can be and to be open and communicate any concerns you have with the child's parent. If after all of this you are still finding yourself unhappy then it is time to term. Nothing more.

I get where the OP is coming from. This mom doesn't care and its breaking the providers heart, because she does care- As I said before, don't hesitate to call this mom in and report her, I am reading that you clearly see signs that this mom needs more help, and help to get off her lazy butt and care for her child. I got that the kid is dirty above and beyond the normal. Suggest parenting classes, they will teach the young Mom that just doesn't have it in her to care for this little guy. Red Flags went up everywhere for me. I don't feel the provider is just picking to pick, a concern is there. Everyone lives there life different. This sounded to me above and beyond different. Neglect. To me it sounded like the provider has and is continuing to help this young mom out and is doing her job well as a provider. I also got that she is communicating with the parent but the parent is not listening, or doing anything about the problems at hand. The Op is venting here.............let her! Again your mandated OP if you feel this child needs more help then what the parent is giving, your best interest is to make that call for the child. They will look into it and decide-
Best-

[Unregistered]

Proper Care

A good parent provides holistic care, in which, physical care means proper hygiene! A child with extremely long nails is a sign that the parent does not want to take the time to ensure proper hygiene. My dog does not want his nails cut, and his resistance only means that the task will take longer than anticipated....cuz I love him and care about his hygiene! A child is like a flower, who with proper or unproper care, will florish...or not. It's so sad to see a parent act the way she does...that's what happens when unexpected pregnancy happens. Put your foot down and report her if you feel it's for the best interest of the child. Parent like this will only continue this behavior unless someone stands up for this child! I wonder what happens when this child is in her care...maybe someone needs to investigate...

[Unregistered]

Like I said if I had not seen my child in that long that would be my first priority... Not my bf, who is probably using her!!!! I am just disgusted.... I hope her son doesnt even recognize her when she comes to pick him up.... This saddens me!!! If you couldnt take care of him properly maybe you should let your parents raise him...[/QUOTE]

I think this is just rude. Well the child didn't want to go home with his mom so I hope you feel good about yourself. Out of 5 DCK's only 2 go running to their parents and don't cling to me and cry when they go home. I know for a fact that the 3 DCK's have excellent parents. As parents we all make mistakes. I was a young parent with my daughter. I made some mistakes. We moved into my finace's place when she was little and it didn't work out. The next time around I made sure I was married before we lived with another man. I did some childish things, here and there, but I'm sure that if you asked he then and now she would have always chose me over my supportive parents that helped me care for her. I was her mother. I'm 15 years older now. Have two new little ones. Consider myself to be an excellent mother. Not perfect, but good.

Life is busy. I do not bath my children every day. My 3 year old has marker all over his feet from yesterday, I took a wet wipe the 2 year olds feet to try to clean the up today. Hopefully tonight I can get the in the tub, but yesterday we were at the doctor and walmart to pick up the perscription and it was time for bed within 20 minutes. My daughter was bathed every night. Clothes changed all the time. Now I'm more relaxed with the boys. We at home all the time. Jammies stay on all Sunday if they stay clean and we don't go any where. I would rather snuggle and read a story with the boys for 20 mins before bed than fight over a bath. My mother is a teacher at the school district. She washes kids clothes and coats because they smell like cat pee. CPS really doesn't want to get involved for "dirty" kids. If they otherwise are healthy, being fed, and not a abused being dirty isn't a priority for them.

I personally get frustrated with single moms quickly moving in with men, but truthfully it isn't my buisness. Personally I think two people should be married before living together, but if I started judging people with my beliefs I would be a hated woman. I'll keep my beliefs to my family. Pass them down to my children and leave the judging to someone a whole lot bigger than me.

[MrsB]

It makes me really sad to see kids like this not be a parents priority, but I dont always think long nails and dirty clothes is a sign of neglect to be reported. I think it can be a sign of neglect but not neglect in and of itself. I have had plenty of kids come here that are in foster care with long nails and already worn clothes.
As for the mother being gone so much. Good thing the mom has the sense enough to leave him with Gma and Gpa! We have all seen what happens to a child when a mom decides to trapse (sp?) around town partying with their child! KWIM?
I have to remind myself everyday to try not to judge. It is my job to provide a safe and loving environment and alot of times I end up providing more nurturing than they get at home. I can't control what goes on at home and as I hate being judged by others I try not to judge other parents for their decisions. If you see something that is reportable, report it and try and be objective about the situation. We can't all grow up with a wonderful mother as you!happyfacehappyface

I have another question to those talking about kids with long nails. Do you really have that much scratching going on? I have never checked a childs fingernails and never had a problem with a kid getting scratched that much. My DCKS hardly ever have enough physical contact to worry about that. As for my own children, I am one of those parents that never used clippers and have accidently cut down to far or clipped the end of their finger. I have always bit them if I felt one was too long. Anyone else done this? Or am I just the crazy one?

Oh just for the record I will admit I lost the mother of the month award! I didnt notice until I picked up my 6yr old DD from school that she had worn the same clothes that she had worn the day before which included the grass stained knees from the previous days recess! Yikes!

[AmyLeigh]

I read this yesterday and the same thought keeps coming to my mind....

If you think this is the worst mother.. You have been blessed by seeing only good ones.
I think I have posted that I used to work for CPS. It was there that I understood what is really happening out there. Mothers leaving their children home alone for days on end because they are so high they can't find their way home. No food in the house whatsoever. Homes so filthy, the social workers threw away her clothes after doing a walk through. Children so thankful to have sheets on the beds at their foster homes. Babies who are born high on meth and scream during the 2 hour visitation with mom.
In comparison, an overwhelmed 19 yo who takes off for a few days and may not be the best at keeping the child immaculate is nothing. She may not get mother of the year award, and I understand your frustration. I would ask for a change of clothing for the child, and throw his dirty clothes in the laundry. Choose one day a week to trim his nails so he doesn't scratch himself or others. Those little things will help mom and the child. Maybe she doesn't get it, maybe she never will. But, you are in a good position to help teach her by example. Focus on the child while he is in your care and let mom reap the results of her actions. We all know it catches up to us at one point or another.

[Sugar Magnolia]

I an with Anyleigh on this. The women who throw their newborns in trash cans are probably more qualified to win worst mother award. OP, it is a little over the top to title your post "worst mother of the year" That is mean spirited. I would have worded it "concerned young mother is making poor choices." Also, if you don't agree with state assistance, please stop accepting it. I agree that her behavior is concerning, but please try not to pass judgement, and please do report her if you are convinced she is neglecting the child.

[AllDeezBabies]

OP have you tried talking to her? Like on a personal level regarding her child? I know that as providers we are mandated reporters but I would hate for you to take that drastic step without first speaking to her about it.

Just have a talk with her out of naturral concern and care for her child. You are with him for 1/3 or more of his day and I think it is only fair that you speak to her. You never know what she knows or doesn't know. Maybe her parents aren't really "parents" to her. Maybe she is going through some things. Not an excuse but you may never know.

[Sugar Magnolia]

OP have you tried talking to her? Like on a personal level regarding her child? I know that as providers we are mandated reporters but I would hate for you to take that drastic step without first speaking to her about it.

Just have a talk with her out of naturral concern and care for her child. You are with him for 1/3 or more of his day and I think it is only fair that you speak to her. You never know what she knows or doesn't know. Maybe her parents aren't really "parents" to her. Maybe she is going through some things. Not an excuse but you may never know.

I agree with this totally.

[Country Kids]

I reread this several times before writing my response. It seems everyone is very concerned about the long fingernails, dirty clothes, etc. These were all in the second paragraph, did no one read the first one?

I think this is where the op is very concerned and probably has a right. The child is one and she has watched him for 8 months. In that time the mom has had 6 boyfriends and she must have mentioned them for the op to know this. That seems quite a bit for someone that has a child-even a 19 year old.

Also, the mom left for a week and it turned into 10 days. I'm not sure if the week was 5 days/7 days but it turned out longer then expected. How far are the big cities-I'm not sure but I would be doing what I could to even have my baby brought to me.

The mom came into town 4 1/2 hours before she came to get her baby she hadn't seen in 10 days! Wow-I bet if it was any of us that would have been our first priority. I personally would have been making arrangements as a mom to pick my child up and be there as soon as I came into town.

Saying "Worst Mother of the Year" may have been extreme but I see the frustration from the op. Your heart should be breaking for a child who is 1 and living this way. Remember she's venting and she has the right to do that without being judged. It does get old taking care of dirty children every day I'm sure. Kids don't have to be bathed every day but taking a washcloth, soap and water and giving them a sponge bath doesn't take long. I'm not sure what she means by dirty but if there is food and what ever from the day before or longer yes, that is an issue. I have perfectly clean children in my care but guess what once in awhile someone gets scratched and its not fun and mine get there nails trimmed. The mom even told the op to give the child a bath because thats what the county was paying her for! I'm sure any veteran provider here would have given her an earful or termed on the spot.

Yes, there are children at there who have it much, much worse but this little one could be on the way there. Obviously the mom has been talked to on this stuff and doesn't care. So why let it go any further if it can be stopped now. Maybe this mom needs a real, real wake up call!

[My3cents]

I reread this several times before writing my response. It seems everyone is very concerned about the long fingernails, dirty clothes, etc. These were all in the second paragraph, did no one read the first one?

I think this is where the op is very concerned and probably has a right. The child is one and she has watched him for 8 months. In that time the mom has had 6 boyfriends and she must have mentioned them for the op to know this. That seems quite a bit for someone that has a child-even a 19 year old.

Also, the mom left for a week and it turned into 10 days. I'm not sure if the week was 5 days/7 days but it turned out longer then expected. How far are the big cities-I'm not sure but I would be doing what I could to even have my baby brought to me.

The mom came into town 4 1/2 hours before she came to get her baby she hadn't seen in 10 days! Wow-I bet if it was any of us that would have been our first priority. I personally would have been making arrangements as a mom to pick my child up and be there as soon as I came into town.

Saying "Worst Mother of the Year" may have been extreme but I see the frustration from the op. Your heart should be breaking for a child who is 1 and living this way. Remember she's venting and she has the right to do that without being judged. It does get old taking care of dirty children every day I'm sure. Kids don't have to be bathed every day but taking a washcloth, soap and water and giving them a sponge bath doesn't take long. I'm not sure what she means by dirty but if there is food and what ever from the day before or longer yes, that is an issue. I have perfectly clean children in my care but guess what once in awhile someone gets scratched and its not fun and mine get there nails trimmed. The mom even told the op to give the child a bath because thats what the county was paying her for! I'm sure any veteran provider here would have given her an earful or termed on the spot.

Yes, there are children at there who have it much, much worse but this little one could be on the way there. Obviously the mom has been talked to on this stuff and doesn't care. So why let it go any further if it can be stopped now. Maybe this mom needs a real, real wake up call!

Bingo! As I said before, RED FLAGS all over the place for me on this.

I am also taken back that being a half bleep parent is excepted. Why? When have we become so laxed in it being ok? The worse cases out there don't make it ok. Shouldn't we have some standard as to how we care for our children and shouldn't it start at home?

ex CPS worker my heart goes out to you, I know the things you have seen and dealt with and its gutt wrenching, but don't forget the bad ones that are not horrific cases. That is how they end up being horrific-- too much overlook and mental thinking that their are worse cases. If the goverment is involved, helping then there should be a higher standard for parents that are using welfare. Parenting classes, giving back to the community,work. $ given out should not be able to be used for anything but the basic needs for the child/parent. Basic. It has become a way of life and a form of entitlement, and one generation after another. People on welfare, long lifers, have it better made then the average working American. Struggle to make a cell phone payment, but if your on assistance you qualify for a free one, free dental, free daycare, free doctors visits and medical, heck if your a porka you can even have the surgery done free to get thin, schooling- you can play around in college not have a goal of what your going to do with your life with that college education, housing, food, heat assistance. It doesn't end. If you have more kids, you get more money, if your kids have anything wrong with them you can get more money. Then your kids can go to summer camp, get free lunches, free free free...... America is lazy- because it is all free. I am not talking about welfare as a hand up. I am talking about the over abundance of lazyness, the life longers on it that we are allowing and the ok attitude of it all. Ever watched your local walmart the first of the month- sad. We see people carts filled with junk food and things we can't afford as a two working family. Anyway I went off on this..... it is irritating to me.

I am just glad Countrykids that I was not the only one seeing this in this light. I was beginning to wonder what was wrong with me for a sec

OP let us know how this turns out. BEST- God Bless you for caring about this child-

[AmyLeigh]

I reread this several times before writing my response. It seems everyone is very concerned about the long fingernails, dirty clothes, etc. These were all in the second paragraph, did no one read the first one?

I think this is where the op is very concerned and probably has a right. The child is one and she has watched him for 8 months. In that time the mom has had 6 boyfriends and she must have mentioned them for the op to know this. That seems quite a bit for someone that has a child-even a 19 year old.

Also, the mom left for a week and it turned into 10 days. I'm not sure if the week was 5 days/7 days but it turned out longer then expected. How far are the big cities-I'm not sure but I would be doing what I could to even have my baby brought to me.

The mom came into town 4 1/2 hours before she came to get her baby she hadn't seen in 10 days! Wow-I bet if it was any of us that would have been our first priority. I personally would have been making arrangements as a mom to pick my child up and be there as soon as I came into town.

Saying "Worst Mother of the Year" may have been extreme but I see the frustration from the op. Your heart should be breaking for a child who is 1 and living this way. Remember she's venting and she has the right to do that without being judged. It does get old taking care of dirty children every day I'm sure. Kids don't have to be bathed every day but taking a washcloth, soap and water and giving them a sponge bath doesn't take long. I'm not sure what she means by dirty but if there is food and what ever from the day before or longer yes, that is an issue. I have perfectly clean children in my care but guess what once in awhile someone gets scratched and its not fun and mine get there nails trimmed. The mom even told the op to give the child a bath because thats what the county was paying her for! I'm sure any veteran provider here would have given her an earful or termed on the spot.

Yes, there are children at there who have it much, much worse but this little one could be on the way there. Obviously the mom has been talked to on this stuff and doesn't care. So why let it go any further if it can be stopped now. Maybe this mom needs a real, real wake up call!

Oh I totally understand the frustration. I would be frustrated too, honestly. But we have to realize that we are doing this because we love children and want the best for them. Not everybody can show love the same way. We who have high standards have to be careful not to impose our values on others. I have to remind myself of that almost daily. Dcm's love life is really none of Op's business, no matter how disheartening it is, even if dcm tells op about each and every man. If dcm made arrangements with her parents for the child while she was gone, then she didn't abandon him. Not the best parent, no. But not the worst, either. Dcm probably tells herself that everyday. I feel sorry for dcm. She is probably overwhelmed, scared, doesn't know how to be a good parent, looking for prince charming/daddy for her son. She is shutting down. She doesn't know where to start. It's so much easier to leave and let someone who knows what to do take over. Judging her and calling her names (even in frustration) isn't going to help.
Parenting classes would do her some good. Are there parenting classes available in your community? Maybe find a flyer for them and post it on your parents' board. Or you can help her become a better parent yourself. But she is not going to take advice from anyone who is not respectful of her. Kindly saying things like dcb loves *** food to eat when he is here, in case she is looking for something different to feed him; oh I love this outfit on him, you must too, since he wears it so much, by the way I saw WalMart was having a sale on baby clothes, in case you need some new ones; oh, mom, please trim his nails tonight after his bath so he doesn't scratch his precious face. When said nicely, advice is much easier to take. If said in a condenscending, self righteous way, there is no way in HE$$ that she is going to listen. She may even pull the child and who knows who will be looking out for him after that.

[kayla]

just an update

Today I gave my two week notice because this morning this mom showed up with the baby and he had snot crusted over his entire face (it was a thick covering over his entire face and in his hair), he was in his pajamas still and and extremely full diaper. Leading me to believe she picked him out of bed and brought him without taking any time to clean him up. I also called the cps office and made a complaint. I am glad everyone on here thinks I was in the wrong for saying worst mommy of the year award. I am sry if everyone feels like I was wrong for putting that. Yes I know there are way worse parents out there, I was venting. I am extremely sad to see this little boy go, I love him so much. Also I might have forgot to ad that she rarely buckles him into his carseat because she is lazy, This also leads me to believe she could care less. I also voiced all my opinions to the county social worker. I have also called cps on this mother before and nothing was done. I really hope his grandparents step in and take over, because they take very good care of him. This will be the last time I post on this issue as apparently I was in the wrong for even saying anything.

[daycare]

Today I gave my two week notice because this morning this mom showed up with the baby and he had snot crusted over his entire face (it was a thick covering over his entire face and in his hair), he was in his pajamas still and and extremely full diaper. Leading me to believe she picked him out of bed and brought him without taking any time to clean him up. I also called the cps office and made a complaint. I am glad everyone on here thinks I was in the wrong for saying worst mommy of the year award. I am sry if everyone feels like I was wrong for putting that. Yes I know there are way worse parents out there, I was venting. I am extremely sad to see this little boy go, I love him so much. Also I might have forgot to ad that she rarely buckles him into his carseat because she is lazy, This also leads me to believe she could care less. I also voiced all my opinions to the county social worker. I have also called cps on this mother before and nothing was done. I really hope his grandparents step in and take over, because they take very good care of him. This will be the last time I post on this issue as apparently I was in the wrong for even saying anything.

I am so sorry that you were attacked..NOt nice. Yes this person does not sound like she is a good mom and sadly, you are the one who has to deal with it first hand.

Iknow that for myself, I can't always expalin the issue in full detail from start to tend, so no one on here truly does understand all of it. I believe you that this mom could win this award.

You did not do anything wrong, everyone has different views and opinions, which are also not right or wrong, just are what they are.

Just like you, I hope that something turns around for this mom. Perhaps a wake up call from CPS might work. Or maybe the GP will help out. Lets just hope that she does not have another one. You know what they say. Most teen moms will have a second child within 2 years of their first.

Good luck with all of this and big hugs to you