Worst Mommy Of The Year Award!!

[kayla]

Ok so I have a mom she is 19. I get that she is young, but some people should not be aloud to have children. So about 3 weeks ago she started dating this guy, mind you there have been about 6 different guys shes dated since I started watching her son at 4 mos old. Well 2 weeks ago she moved him into her house. Well around that time she told me they were going to take a trip to the cities, It was supposed to only be a week, mind you her child is only 1... Well supposedly her car broke down so it ended up being longer,she did not see her child for 10 days. Today her dad tells me she will be picking up her kid today, come to find out she got to town today around 12 and tells me shes coming at 430!!! Wow to me that is f*****g pathetic. If I had not seen my chid in that long I would have picked him up the moment I got to town. Obviously she doesnt give 2 s***s about her son.... Anyone else think this is wrong..

It's not the only reason I say she should not be a mother... The other reasons include her son not coming bathed him coming in clothes that are dirty, never cutting his fingernails, not bringing proper supplies, feeding him squeezable food because she is too lazy to have him eat real food.... I just do not understand ppl and there parenting...

Like I said if I had not seen my child in that long that would be my first priority... Not my bf, who is probably using her!!!! I am just disgusted.... I hope her son doesnt even recognize her when she comes to pick him up.... This saddens me!!! If you couldnt take care of him properly maybe you should let your parents raise him...

[daycare]

Ok so I have a mom she is 19. I get that she is young, but some people should not be aloud to have children. So about 3 weeks ago she started dating this guy, mind you there have been about 6 different guys shes dated since I started watching her son at 4 mos old. Well 2 weeks ago she moved him into her house. Well around that time she told me they were going to take a trip to the cities, It was supposed to only be a week, mind you her child is only 1... Well supposedly her car broke down so it ended up being longer,she did not see her child for 10 days. Today her dad tells me she will be picking up her kid today, come to find out she got to town today around 12 and tells me shes coming at 430!!! Wow to me that is f*****g pathetic. If I had not seen my chid in that long I would have picked him up the moment I got to town. Obviously she doesnt give 2 s***s about her son.... Anyone else think this is wrong..

It's not the only reason I say she should not be a mother... The other reasons include her son not coming bathed him coming in clothes that are dirty, never cutting his fingernails, not bringing proper supplies, feeding him squeezable food because she is too lazy to have him eat real food.... I just do not understand ppl and there parenting...

Like I said if I had not seen my child in that long that would be my first priority... Not my bf, who is probably using her!!!! I am just disgusted.... I hope her son doesnt even recognize her when she comes to pick him up.... This saddens me!!! If you couldnt take care of him properly maybe you should let your parents raise him...

In this case, I would be blaming the grandparents....seems like they are enabling their daughter and not making her step up to her responsibility. Yes she is still a child herself, but no one is forcing her to take care of her responsibility, then she won't do it when someone else will. Especially at no cost to her.....

[MissK]

In this case, I would be blaming the grandparents....seems like they are enabling their daughter and not making her step up to her responsibility. Yes she is still a child herself, but no one is forcing her to take care of her responsibility, then she won't do it when someone else will. Especially at no cost to her.....

There could be someone to this...though of course there are probably many things that play into this girl's behavior.
I was 18 when I had my daughter and while I was young it was the best thing that could have happened to me. I was headed down a bad path with an even badder (yep...I just went there : guy and having my daughter really straightened me out and opened my eyes.
I didn't have somebody babying me and telling me I deserved to act like a teenager and they'd watch my baby (or anything else silly like that...) - no - I deserved to act like a mom no matter how old I was.
I won't lie - it does amaze me that some people don't feel this way when they have a child - what can ya do...?

[cheerfuldom]

thats very sad but for the baby's sake, as long as I was getting paid, I would go the extra mile and just cut his nails and such myself. I dont normally ever do that but clearly this mom is in way over her head with motherhood.

[wdmmom]

In this case, I would be blaming the grandparents....seems like they are enabling their daughter and not making her step up to her responsibility. Yes she is still a child herself, but no one is forcing her to take care of her responsibility, then she won't do it when someone else will. Especially at no cost to her.....

Yep!!!! I couldn't agree more!

I understand that it is not a grandparents responsibility to raise their grandchildren but when you have children having children, either the parent needs to step up or the grandparents should step in!

[MissK]

thats very sad but for the baby's sake, as long as I was getting paid, I would go the extra mile and just cut his nails and such myself. I dont normally ever do that but clearly this mom is in way over her head with motherhood.

[kayla]

well she just picked him up and he didnt even want to go with her. he kept clinging to me, shes all that doesnt make me feel good. everytime i put him down he came back to me and didnt want to go with her

[cheerfuldom]

how awful....next time, meet them at the door, hand off the baby or set him down outside the door and then say goodbye and close the door. Letting the pick up drag on is only going to make things worse. Its so sad that she has been away for 10 days.

[Kaddidle Care]

well she just picked him up and he didnt even want to go with her. he kept clinging to me, shes all that doesnt make me feel good. everytime i put him down he came back to me and didnt want to go with her

Unfortunately that's because You are the Mommy in this case. Poor kid.

[kayla]

I do cut his nails for him.. But that is only because I get sick of being scratched... I am having a hard time finding good families... I only have one good family that I know never asks about the rules, because she already knows them....

[SunshineMama]

Ok so I have a mom she is 19. I get that she is young, but some people should not be aloud to have children. So about 3 weeks ago she started dating this guy, mind you there have been about 6 different guys shes dated since I started watching her son at 4 mos old. Well 2 weeks ago she moved him into her house. Well around that time she told me they were going to take a trip to the cities, It was supposed to only be a week, mind you her child is only 1... Well supposedly her car broke down so it ended up being longer,she did not see her child for 10 days. Today her dad tells me she will be picking up her kid today, come to find out she got to town today around 12 and tells me shes coming at 430!!! Wow to me that is f*****g pathetic. If I had not seen my chid in that long I would have picked him up the moment I got to town. Obviously she doesnt give 2 s***s about her son.... Anyone else think this is wrong..

It's not the only reason I say she should not be a mother... The other reasons include her son not coming bathed him coming in clothes that are dirty, never cutting his fingernails, not bringing proper supplies, feeding him squeezable food because she is too lazy to have him eat real food.... I just do not understand ppl and there parenting...

Like I said if I had not seen my child in that long that would be my first priority... Not my bf, who is probably using her!!!! I am just disgusted.... I hope her son doesnt even recognize her when she comes to pick him up.... This saddens me!!! If you couldnt take care of him properly maybe you should let your parents raise him...

Sad but I have grown, reponsible adult dcp' who are like that too- vacations for over a week, not bathing regularly, always long fingernails and toenails. And these dcp's work in corporate america, wear Tiffany' jewelry everyday, drive a 40k car...

The poor girl is only 19 years old, she can't even begin to comprehend the world outside of herself right now. Yes, she needs to be a better mother and she needs to grow up fast. No judgment to you, (I totally understand you being frustrated- I would be too), but can you help her? Can you tell her to cut the baby's fingernails, etc? I know it isnt your place, but I think this may be one of those, "It takes a village to raise a child" situations. Clearly she needs guidance. Maybe you can sit down and talk to her? Tell her you know how hard life must be for her and you want to help- in the best interest of the baby.

As for the boyfriend- he could be a great guy or a loser, she is probably looking for prince charming and selling herself short in the process.

Good luck- tough situation you are in! I hope it improves

[SunshineMama]

thats very sad but for the baby's sake, as long as I was getting paid, I would go the extra mile and just cut his nails and such myself. I dont normally ever do that but clearly this mom is in way over her head with motherhood.

Me too.

[kayla]

In my opinion it does not matter if the guy is great or a loser, she should have taken time to get to know him before even introducing the child let alone moving him in. And I have approached the other stuff in a gentle way she just gets very defensive... One time she even had the ordasity to tell me to give him a bath, not ask, and when I looked at her she said thats what the county was paying me for (she is on subsidy), I stopped her and said no they are not paying me to give your child a bath, that is not my responsibility. I have other kids here, I cant just leave and go bathe your child because you do not have time... To me she is one of those people that thinks everyone owes her something.

[My3cents]

Ok so I have a mom she is 19. I get that she is young, but some people should not be aloud to have children. So about 3 weeks ago she started dating this guy, mind you there have been about 6 different guys shes dated since I started watching her son at 4 mos old. Well 2 weeks ago she moved him into her house. Well around that time she told me they were going to take a trip to the cities, It was supposed to only be a week, mind you her child is only 1... Well supposedly her car broke down so it ended up being longer,she did not see her child for 10 days. Today her dad tells me she will be picking up her kid today, come to find out she got to town today around 12 and tells me shes coming at 430!!! Wow to me that is f*****g pathetic. If I had not seen my chid in that long I would have picked him up the moment I got to town. Obviously she doesnt give 2 s***s about her son.... Anyone else think this is wrong..

It's not the only reason I say she should not be a mother... The other reasons include her son not coming bathed him coming in clothes that are dirty, never cutting his fingernails, not bringing proper supplies, feeding him squeezable food because she is too lazy to have him eat real food.... I just do not understand ppl and there parenting...

Like I said if I had not seen my child in that long that would be my first priority... Not my bf, who is probably using her!!!! I am just disgusted.... I hope her son doesnt even recognize her when she comes to pick him up.... This saddens me!!! If you couldnt take care of him properly maybe you should let your parents raise him...

your a mandated reporter. If this child is not being taken care of properly it is your duty to report her. Call Child Protective Services. Get this on record. Remind her the next time she runs her mouth at you that you are a mandated reporter for the State and not bathing a child is considered neglect. You might be the one person that can influence this young selfish mom and turn her life around for the sake of that little guy. Don't even think twice about doing it either. You will open a can of worms that will make a better life for that little.

I can go into this subject with so much...been there, am there, and it stinks and its a powerless feeling that can really depress anyone that has a right mind and cares.

Sending you a hug. Remember it is one thing to help someone but it is another thing to enable them. She will never step up to her responsibility if you don't demand that she does. Your a caregiver, not the parent. It sounds like this little guy is a paycheck to her.:confused:

[Unregistered]

I logged out to make this comment as I'm sure I will get some slack for it along way. I was 18 years old when I had my son and I did step up to the plate to be a good mommy but there are a few things that even some grown adults have a tough time with. One of those things is cutting a child's nails. I have had new mothers in their late 30's that refused to cut their babies nails because they were afraid to cut the child. It's no joke, a babies skin is much thinner than ours and it is much easier to nick them with the clippers at that age. I was so, so nervous to cut my son's nails when he was a baby and I understand why some people do not cut them as often as they should be cut.

Also when I had my son the nurse told me not to bathe him everyday as young don't need to be bathed daily.

Did You Know?

A baby's skin is five times thinner than an adult's.
You should bathe your baby no more than three times per week.
You should not use antiseptic wipes on your child's hands.
You should not use soap when bathing a baby.

With that begin said, I don't think it's right to get mad at this mom if she doesn't bathe her child everyday especially before coming to daycare.

Also as far as the dirty clothes, are the clothes dirty because of food begin spilt on them or for other reasons? I do not change my son every time he spills something on his clothes and sometimes I send the children home from daycare with dirty clothes due to spills, playing outside, painting, whatever...

Have you been enforcing that this mom bring proper supplies? Not letting the child attend for the day until you have the supplies you need?

How do you know dcm is too lazy to feed him real food and that's why she uses squeezable food? Does she have to supply the food for daycare? I do not think there is anything wrong giving a child puried food from time to time.

As far as the bf's go. You need to understand that dcm is young. She is 19 years old, she doesn't have a husband to help her and likely really wants someone to be there for her and to support her through her life. At the age of 1 a child isn't going to remember any of the men that dcm dates. I also feel it's mom's business who she moves in and not yours.

As far as the 10 days away goes. What about families who have their children one week on and one week off? Do you frown down on these families too? My son visited his dad's side and still does to this day and when he goes he usually goes for a week or two, sometimes longer in the summer. Does that make me a bad mom because I am not beside my child 24/7? I would think not!

Every parent has their own downfalls, even you are not the best parent in certain areas, just like I am not the best parent in certain areas. We all try the best we can to be the best parent we can be but different personalities and situations lead to different child rearing and that is something that should be accepted not judged, granted there is no abuse or neglect going on.