I Am THE Unregistered Problem Causer

[Unregistered]

well, I'm a mod on a parenting site and we don't allow anon. users to reg. several accounts, because that means trouble. Also, I think its strange that you would post anon for a basic question, you said your dh made fun of your name, why is he on your account, who is watching you and why would a parent ask the question "what do we do all day" unless you are doing nothing all day and sleeping during the day. I have a feeling that you got caught and wanted some support.

Wrong... I have never slept while watching the kids. I have thought about it, which is why I asked the question. But have I ever done it? Nope, not even once. Always assuming the worst in people... a sad aspect of our society unfortunately

My husband made fun of my name because he said it was lame. I was excited about having a support system and being able to discuss my job with others so I showed him the forum. He isn't on my account- I never said he was, again, another wrong assumption.

And I never said, "what do you do all day," I asked how were the children being watched if you are able to post to a forum throughout the day. I asked that question because I post to the forum throught the day, and IF a parent ever were to ask me how I was able to be online and watch the children, I wanted to know how to respond.

I have never been "caught" doing anything I am not supposed to be doing because I am a very caring provider, I love my kids, I always put them first, and I do an amazing job. Always. I go above and beyond all the time, every time.

Some of you are too much- seriously!?! LOL! This is an ONLINE forum, with people all over the country, and Canada too. Who cares if I ask a question that you don't like? If you dont like it, don't answer it. Who cares if I changed my username? I have no established relationships on this forum- heck, I didn't even think anyone would even notice, let alone take the time to track my IP address. I never attacked anyone. I never was rude. I never was insulting. So bottom line, who cares?

I had questions. I still do have more questions I would love answered, but this is not a safe place to ask those questions, obviously, if people are going to track who you are and what you post and then gang up on you because they don't like what you have to say.

Be careful ladies, the Moderator Gods are watching you (just kidding-kind of). Is this some kind of futuristic Star Trek episode I'm unaware of? (I'm a big science fiction nerd, if you can't tell).

And some of your comments were just plain mean. You don't know me. I don't know you. Why do you think your way of living is better than my way of living? People are all different, and their differences need to be respected.

***Bottom line- this forum is a place to gain information. I know that a small group of you have become friends, and that is wonderful. I am not looking for friends online (I'm not knocking it - its just not for me), I am looking for information. Sometimes, you get a completely different answer asking a question from the viewpoint of a parent than from the viewpoint as a provider. People answer you differently if you say you are a parent than if you say you are a provider. People answer differently if you post as a registered user or an unregistered user. There is a valid bias, and the only way to eliminate the bias is to pose different questions from different viewpoints, and compile the information to assess the most commonly given answer. This methodology can be statistically evaluated, if necessary.

My suggestion to you all is to not be so harsh on unregistered users, and whether or not it is purposeful, try not to gang up on people who you really don't know. Please respect someone's differences. And, if you don't like it, just ignore it, no need for the snarky comments. (I have decided to use the word snarky more frequently in my daily life, as it seems to be a favorite word on this forum). LOL

Have a wonderful day everyone. I don't know if anyone else finds this entertaining, I certainly do- not only have I learned a lot about daycare, I have also learned a lot about human behavior. I wonder if there are any studies concerning the psychology of online forums. Hmmm... maybe I will finish my master's in Psychology afterall...

[nannyde]

OK I give-its Nannyde I bet-::::::

Ok maybe a long shot but you never know!

Naw

I've never posted unregistered anywhere. Since a good lot of these posts have some sort of "nannyde is the devil" posts you can rest assured that's not me.

[Unregistered]

I applaud your honesty about your intentions and kinda who you are in a way. Now i need to go find the old Unregistered posts and see what all the drama is about! haha I did read the one about daycare providers being on the internet. I thought it seemed a little weird but wasn't sure why. Now I knows. Pretty interesting!

Thank you MamaBear! I am glad that you are able to view the big picture

If everyone thought the same way, it would be a pretty boring world.

Have a great day!

[Unregistered]

Naw

I've never posted unregistered anywhere. Since a good lot of these posts have some sort of "nannyde is the devil" posts you can rest assured that's not me.

Just for the record.... I NEVER had an ill word to say about you.... the MOD GODs can verify that if they want to look at all of my posts. Hope you guys don't find Mod Gods offensive, I think it's funny personally but if it bothers you tell me and I wont use that terminology again).

And last thing to everyone who says that they would never post things their parents don't already know.... Are you being truthful?

Have you ever complained about a child? Would you tell a parent "I am so tired today and I have a headache, and your whiny child is going to make it worse?" or ugh... "I am thinking about terminating your family but I'm not sure."

I would never want a family to know I was thinking about terminating them , or that I feel hung over today, or that I may need extra time off for maternity leave, or that I contemplated taking a nap, or that I am sick of dcd looking at my boobs when he drops kids off, etc etc etc. I'm not saying all of these are true, just saying that there are things that need to be gotten off of people's chests sometimes, and not every feeling that I have needs to be told to the parents.

[Daycaremomof2]

Drumroll Please.......

This is mostly for Lil'MissPeeps, since she's dying to know the real identity of the unregistered culprit: It's me Well, this is my "lame" sign in name, according to my dh- I changed it to a different one. Maybe I will reveal that sometime too


I responded to a few of you via unregistered, but I see that the moderators have yet to approve what I have said. I hope that they post it, because I stand by every single word that I said in them, and I think there is a lot of value to be gained by everyone.

Gosh, I said that I was done with this forum but its just so interesting

I did want to add this to to my unregistered posts that have not yet been moderator approved as I just noticed that this thread was tagged with the word “forum terrorist,” and that struck a big note to me, especially since I lost a family member in a real terrorist attack on 9/11. That is a very serious word and should not be taken lightly, so this post is probably the first angry post that I have ever done on a forum, and hopefully, the last. I need to vent.

Terrorist? Really? That is what you call someone different from yourselves who asks pertinent questions that are directly related to forum material?

A mother, wife, daycare provider, and upstanding citizen of the United States has just been labeled a “forum terrorist,” why again? For having 2 user names and posting unregistered? I HAVE NEVER INSULTED ANYONE! MY ORIGINAL QUESTIONS WERE REAL QUESTIONS! I CREATED THIS THREAD AS AN APOLOGY FOR UPSETTING YOU AND EXPLAINED MYSELF! –And you tag it with the words forum terrorist? That is uncalled for and unfair.

I will provide some definitions to educate you on the word terrorist:

ter•ror•ist
   ˈtɛr ər ɪstShow Spelled[ter-er-ist]
noun
1.
a person, usually a member of a group, who uses or advocates terrorism.
2.
a person who terrorizes or frightens others.

(Have any of you felt frightened or terrorized about me asking how you can be on the internet while doing childcare, or about taking a cat nap while the kids are asleep)?


ter•ror•ism
   ˈtɛr əˌrɪz əmShow Spelled[ter-uh-riz-uh m] Show IPA
noun
1.
the use of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce, especially for political purposes.
2.
the state of fear and submission produced by terrorism or terrorization.
3.
a terroristic method of governing or of resisting a government.

(Has there been any use of violence for political purposes)? I, however, have felt intimidated and bullied by some of these posts, that directly attacked me and called me names, which I never did to you.

I am starting to believe that this forum is controlled by a very small group of people who bully others with conflicting viewpoints from their own; you say that you welcome me to stay on this forum, but tag my thread as "forum terrorist." That's a little conflicting, and it feels like crap, honestly.

And yes, calling someone a forum terrorist when they havn’t had any mal-intent whatsoever is a form of cyber-bullying. Tracking someone's IP address, and letting them know that they are being watched is also a form of bullying. I feel threatened and slightly unnerved, even if that wasn't the original intention.

People have a right to free speech. I should be able to say whatever I want to say in whatever manner I want to say it is. This is the United States America- not the United States of the Daycare Forum Moderators. And I know that was "snarky," but so is calling me a forum terrorist when all I wanted to do was gather information, so let's just call that even.

So now unregistered posters who also have a username and have changed it, and who post things about naps, the internet, etc, are “forum terrorists.”

Wow. Thank goodness our government isn’t run like this forum. Some of you have no respect for anybody else's personalities or ways of life.

I am not the unregistered poster attacking NannyDe, or any of that other crap that mean, rude people try to pull.

Sorry so long, but it really struck a nerve to see my explanation of my posts and apology for incidentally bothering anyone with my multiple usernames tagged with the word "terrorist" in it. That is just awful, and it is really an insult to the victims of real terrorism. Thank you for bringing up horrific, sad, old memories of the awful terrorist attack on our country, because you don't agree with me. Wow.

[Blackcat31]

FWIW~ anyone can add tags. That job is not left to the moderators.

[Hunni Bee]

The only time I've posted as unregistered is if I had a sensitive issue and i didn't need my post traced back to me by parents or my employer. I'm one of the handful of members on here who works in a center so i have to be careful. But there's certain things i need to ask or get off my chest that i may be disciplined at work for, and this forum gives me the platform to do it. I thank God for it.

However, I've never posted as unregistered to "hide" my identity from other members, and I've always made it clear that i am a registered member. I've also never commented on a thread as unregistered unless it was mine. To me, that's a bit cowardly, and it also keeps you from getting the most out of this forum.

Just my two cents.

[nannyde]

Just for the record.... I NEVER had an ill word to say about you.... the MOD GODs can verify that if they want to look at all of my posts. Hope you guys don't find Mod Gods offensive, I think it's funny personally but if it bothers you tell me and I wont use that terminology again).

And last thing to everyone who says that they would never post things their parents don't already know.... Are you being truthful?

Have you ever complained about a child? Would you tell a parent "I am so tired today and I have a headache, and your whiny child is going to make it worse?" or ugh... "I am thinking about terminating your family but I'm not sure."

I would never want a family to know I was thinking about terminating them , or that I feel hung over today, or that I may need extra time off for maternity leave, or that I contemplated taking a nap, or that I am sick of dcd looking at my boobs when he drops kids off, etc etc etc. I'm not saying all of these are true, just saying that there are things that need to be gotten off of people's chests sometimes, and not every feeling that I have needs to be told to the parents.

I don't post things I don't want my daycare parents to know. My daycare parents read daycare.com I'm out with my real name and they all know my username. They are pictured in the last blog I wrote. Very cute they be ;-)

[Heidi]

well, I was going to stay completely out of this, but I can't.

If a person who regularly posts here wants to ask a question or vent anonymously, it seems like common courtesy to state

"I am a registered user, but would like to remain anonymous"

I have read that many times, and find it respectful. We may not be "real" friend in "real" life, but we are a support system, and should be as "real" as possible.

[Cat Herder]

FWIW~ anyone can add tags. That job is not left to the moderators.

I added the tag "forum terrorist".... It linked to OTHER threads like this. I did NOT make it up.

Get over yourself OP.... it was not a label on YOU. It was a TAG to other posts similar in nature...WOW.

I specifically wanted to find that thread with the "forum ettiquette" video.....and I vaguely recalled one from last year (or the year before?) that was pretty extreme. I think the State and Police were involved? Maybe someone can just add the links here if the TAG is so offensive... I can't find it.

The forum archives are the most interesting part of this forum to me.... the evolution of it all is fascinating. It had NOTHING to do with you, OP.

[My3cents]

A lot of you have been coming down on me for posting as "unregistered." To let everyone know, I actually am a registered user.

Sorry to cause such a stir.

I did the post about naptime naps- it was a genuine question. I also posed the question about parents wondering what the providers are doing while on the internet because that was also a question that I had when my child was in daycare. I of course use the internet while watching kids in our playroom, because honestly, I can't micromanage every aspect of their play. I needed to know how to respond to one of the parents, from their point of view, about being online during the day. And YUP, the crazy interview story was mine too- and it was 100% true.

I got a lot of helpful information from everyone- I just needed to know other's point of views. I did not know that my genuine questions were causing "problems."

I post unregistered because I like my anonymity, in the event that a parent goes on this forum and figures out that I was the one asking controversial questions. Yes, I do believe that if a parent really wants to find their provider on here it wouldn't be that hard, and then they could see all of the problems, complaints, etc that was posted. You know they will NEVER see the GOOD things you had to say because the bad always outweighs the good. Can you really blame me for being unregistered? I always respond- its not like I post something and then stop posting or commenting.

I have genuine questions, and feel that it is safest for me to ask them unregistered. I have never insulted anyone, attacked anyone, or anything other than ask questions that come to my mind. I am not the single line snarky comment poster (promise those are not mine)- I engage in genuine conversations.

Well, apparently your moderators are now "watching me very carefully." I do not know what that means exactly, but I don't like the sound of that so I am not going to be posting anymore. Sad, because I really enjoyed you all, but "the nail that sticks out gets hammered" and since my questions made everyone so mad I will just stop.

Sorry if I bothered anyone with my questions that I asked unregistered. I am very thankful that I did not ask the other questions that were on my mind- you guys are right, you are harsh on the unregistered people . But please understand that not all unregistered people are trolls, trying to cause problems.

Good luck to all of you with your daycares, I have learned a lot from this forum.
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How about just fixing this and moving on......you have apologized so now lets move forward happyface

[Live and Learn]

I suspect that a person who chooses to sign in under three separate identities is really enjoying all of the attention they are receiving from this thread.

Reminds me to not reward the barking dog or tantruming two year old.

Idk, people are funny.

[Daycaremomof2]

well, I was going to stay completely out of this, but I can't.

If a person who regularly posts here wants to ask a question or vent anonymously, it seems like common courtesy to state

"I am a registered user, but would like to remain anonymous"

I have read that many times, and find it respectful. We may not be "real" friend in "real" life, but we are a support system, and should be as "real" as possible.

I wasn't a regular poster and was new to the forum so I was unaware of the common forum courtesies. This was my first forum, aside from the ones we did in college. It makes sense, I suppose, but why does it matter to say you are registered and would like to remain anonymous? I understand now, that's the way it's done, but why? Just curious. :confused:

[melskids]

Just for the record.... I NEVER had an ill word to say about you.... the MOD GODs can verify that if they want to look at all of my posts. Hope you guys don't find Mod Gods offensive, I think it's funny personally but if it bothers you tell me and I wont use that terminology again).

And last thing to everyone who says that they would never post things their parents don't already know.... Are you being truthful?
Have you ever complained about a child? Would you tell a parent "I am so tired today and I have a headache, and your whiny child is going to make it worse?" or ugh... "I am thinking about terminating your family but I'm not sure."

I would never want a family to know I was thinking about terminating them , or that I feel hung over today, or that I may need extra time off for maternity leave, or that I contemplated taking a nap, or that I am sick of dcd looking at my boobs when he drops kids off, etc etc etc. I'm not saying all of these are true, just saying that there are things that need to be gotten off of people's chests sometimes, and not every feeling that I have needs to be told to the parents.

Yes. I am being truthful. I would never post anything I don't want my daycare parents to know, or the rest of the world for that matter...on here, facebook, wherever.

And yes, If I have something to say to my parents, I say it. Whether its "i have a headache today..Im sorry, but I just couldn't handle little timmy's outbursts the way I should have" ( I JUST had this convo with a mom last week!) or "hey....eyes up here" I have no problem saying it.

And honestly, I dont get all the hoopalaa and upset. I mean, you have a username, and if you dont disclose any personal information, no one knows who you are anyway. Why flip flop back and forth between usernames or being unregistered?

[Daycaremomof2]

I added the tag "forum terrorist".... It linked to OTHER threads like this. I did NOT make it up.

Get over yourself OP.... it was not a label on YOU. It was a TAG to other posts similar in nature...WOW.

I specifically wanted to find that thread with the "forum ettiquette" video.....and I vaguely recalled one from last year (or the year before?) that was pretty extreme. I think the State and Police were involved? Maybe someone can just add the links here if the TAG is so offensive... I can't find it.

The forum archives are the most interesting part of this forum to me.... the evolution of it all is fascinating. It had NOTHING to do with you, OP.

I would honestly like to see that forum etiquette post. I wonder why the police would be involved? I supposed if you were directly threatening or slandering someone that would make sense.

I don't know forum etiquette. I don't know that anyone can add that. I just saw a thread that I posted tagged with the word terrorist and it was offensive to me.