I Am THE Unregistered Problem Causer

[Unregistered]

A lot of you have been coming down on me for posting as "unregistered." To let everyone know, I actually am a registered user.

Sorry to cause such a stir.

I did the post about naptime naps- it was a genuine question. I also posed the question about parents wondering what the providers are doing while on the internet because that was also a question that I had when my child was in daycare. I of course use the internet while watching kids in our playroom, because honestly, I can't micromanage every aspect of their play. I needed to know how to respond to one of the parents, from their point of view, about being online during the day. And YUP, the crazy interview story was mine too- and it was 100% true.

I got a lot of helpful information from everyone- I just needed to know other's point of views. I did not know that my genuine questions were causing "problems."

I post unregistered because I like my anonymity, in the event that a parent goes on this forum and figures out that I was the one asking controversial questions. Yes, I do believe that if a parent really wants to find their provider on here it wouldn't be that hard, and then they could see all of the problems, complaints, etc that was posted. You know they will NEVER see the GOOD things you had to say because the bad always outweighs the good. Can you really blame me for being unregistered? I always respond- its not like I post something and then stop posting or commenting.

I have genuine questions, and feel that it is safest for me to ask them unregistered. I have never insulted anyone, attacked anyone, or anything other than ask questions that come to my mind. I am not the single line snarky comment poster (promise those are not mine)- I engage in genuine conversations.

Well, apparently your moderators are now "watching me very carefully." I do not know what that means exactly, but I don't like the sound of that so I am not going to be posting anymore. Sad, because I really enjoyed you all, but "the nail that sticks out gets hammered" and since my questions made everyone so mad I will just stop.

Sorry if I bothered anyone with my questions that I asked unregistered. I am very thankful that I did not ask the other questions that were on my mind- you guys are right, you are harsh on the unregistered people . But please understand that not all unregistered people are trolls, trying to cause problems.

Good luck to all of you with your daycares, I have learned a lot from this forum.
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[SilverSabre25]

We don't want you to leave. We want you to choose one username, stick with it, and well, stick with it. We want you to be clear on whether you are a parent or a provider, what state you're in (or don't disclose it, but don't lie please), etc.

We don't mind unregistered posts from registered users when they a) own up to being registered and b) are posting a sensitive topic.

We have had issues in the past where people posting unregistered having harrassed members. Many times, the unregistered posts are controversial and pot-stirring.

We are a fairly close-knit group of FRIENDS and we like to know who is posting. We don't ID with actual names, but we do ID with usernames...and when someone is being extremely flaky and confusing, posting on the same topic under two or even three identities, all of them posing very, very different views, well...we get a bit antsy.

We are here for support, and so are the mods--we notice something that seems off, and so for the protection of all our friends on the board, we keep an eye on it.

I'm sorry you feel attacked; that was not the intention. You have, however, been posting LOTS of pot-stirring things unregistered, and your TWO usernames have been responding on the SAME threads with differing viewpoints. THAT is what we would rather not have happen, please.

Anonymity is great...deliberate deception, well, not so much.

[JenNJ]

I wish you would stay. I think it is silly for people to get so worked up over an internet forum. Anyway, I wish you would post more. I enjoy hearing everyone's opinions!

[Blackcat31]

I agree with Silver!! You aren't making anyone mad really just super confused as to your motive.

I also just don't understand the outright lying about stuff. :confused: If you want to be anonymous, I completely get that, but why post contradicting things and appear as though you are really and truly looking for help and/or advice if it isn't real?

If you have real questions, simply ask them. I also wonder why you ask questions and then answer yourself as if lending support or advice?

I am sorry you feel attacked but I for one feel duped. Duped by a fellow provider who asks questions she says are real but then answers herself and uses two different user names as if you have two different opinions.

I stick up for unregistered posters all the time because I do truly believe they are looking for a place to vent, share and get advice. I refuse to stick up for someone who has purposely mis-led others here about where she is coming from and why?

You state in one post that you are a provider and yet in another you say you are a parent with questions about your provider. ?????

I also understand the need for privacy but I think there are many members on this forum that have managed to give advice and get support all while reamaining completely and 100% unknown to others (even DCF's who might be reading this forum).

So I am sorry but I guess I just don't buy that either. Your apology about causing "problems" (your words NOT mine) sounds a bit like you are trying to play the victim and I think that you should simply stand behind what you say and do and not look for people to view you as the injured party here.

I just don't have alot of respect for people who try to say they are something they aren't and then do the whole pouting "I'm going home and never coming back" routine. BTDT.

I also really enjoy reading other people's perspectives and learning as well as venting here so I really do sincerely hope you choose to stay, however if you do stay; a bit of advice: If you really want to be accepted and respected here, then just be who you are and ask a question if you have one, but by all means, please just be real.

[JenNJ]

Clearly I had no idea what was found on. So why using unregistered PLUS 2 user names. I don't get it. Do you have multiple personalities? Lol.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Are you also the one who started the" thank you "post too?

[Blackcat31]

Are you also the one who started the" thank you "post too?

Nope, not her.

[Christian Mother]

I don't think I've ever posted unregistered...but I can tell you that I am not ashamed or scared if a parent of mine reads my posts. I won't go out and say "hey read what I post on here..some of it is about you"...but in a turn about way I wish sometimes a parent would read them bc some of those things hurt my feelings or I feel I did something wrong and I need others advise or at least a rub back when I am upset. I need to vent and I really believe that the parents I have can read these posts first with a open heart and not get upset right away bc we all get frustrated with our job, families, kids... in this job we need an outlet. I need to be able to come here and talk to my co works. No one else could possible understand the way everyone else here does. We may not all agree but we are here for each other.

If your posting under 2 diff. register names. It needs to be 1. All of us take the risk of posting and yes you have the choice to post unregistered if you are concerned about the subject matter but you take the chance that other viewers have a view that you might not care for. It's the same for posting. Many people are concerned for you and the kids so when you post subjects that are sensitive expect to get some frank answers. Subjects that are touchy are going to get touchy. When I started I started with one child grade school age that started arriving at 5am in the morning. I asked his mother if it was ok to place a blow up bed in my room and when he came in the mornings he could lay down before school time. I would lay in my bed for an hr and when the alarm clock went off him, me, and my son would get up...my daughter at the time was a baby so she didn't get up that early. My husband got up at 4:30am for work he wasn't home. I never new that you couldn't sleep while you where watching a child while being paid to watch them. I watch her son as a favor to our neighbor who was dating her at the time and knew I wanted to start watching children in my home. For me I thought it was common since to ask all those questions with the parents first about did she want him to go back to sleep when he got here and since it was a very early arrival and I wasn't charging for that would she mind if I went back to bed. She really didn't mind in the least. Now she was very young in her mid 20's and me at the time was coming up to my 30's. I think that a older parent might care for that. I believe though that if you knew them and had a friendship relationship with them they would be ok with that but I think that it's something you need to discuss at the interview stage. Knowing what I know now..I would not take children at 5am in the morning bc I couldn't work a 5am to 5pm shift...I know my breaking point and that is it. I don't know if your really pregnant with twins and was just really wanting to know if it was ok to be able to sleep while the kids napped but i agree with the posts on their that if you felt that tired you need to lighten your load and care for your self and unborn children. You need all the rest you can get. Or you need to speak with the parents on resting up while the kids sleep...not ashually sleeping up laying down on the couch and watching tv and put your feet up. I know it is hard to stay awake when it's quiet...It is nap time here and as I write this I am getting sleepy but I know that in about 40 min I need to feed the baby and my son gets home from school and we need to do home work before the other littles get up from nap. I don't think you should leave this forum and I am glad you learned a lot. But be honest on who you are and why your here. Yes, people won't always agree but you'll gain a lot of respect just by being you and being honest. You have a friend here in me and that is a start.. If I knew who to request as a friend I would.

[Cat Herder]

I guess it is time for the forum cycle......

I think there are many of us who have registered under one name, but changed to a new username over the years for different reasons.... Most folks send out PM's to let their friends know who they are AND why they changed.

I guess it just never occurred to me anyone would be using BOTH (at least) user names to post under :confused: Especially in the same threads WITH differing viewpoints....while also posting unregistered.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Nope, not her.

Oh come on give us a hint!!!!

[Unregistered]

I changed my username because my husband said my first one was lame and made fun of me for it. to my knowledge, I did not purposely go back to the original name in an attempt to deceive anyone, if I did it was an accident out of habit.

I might have responded under my username because I probably forgot to log out to keep the unregistered's consistently unregistered.

For the opposing viewpoints, I am not quite sure what you mean- I know that I feel different ways at different times, and that I am learning and trying to grow, so I am not always 100% consistent. I'm still pretty young and growing into myself. I may be a bit flaky by nature, but malicious and intentionally trying to be deceptive is not me. Posing a question from another viewpoint other than my own, or a response even to see how people react to gain personal insight and knowledge is just in my nature. One of my degrees is in Psychology and I am just naturally inquisitive, and perhaps a little unorthodox concerning my quest for information.

I can appreciate that you may be unhappy with my methodology, and I can respect that. Again, I offer my apologies, please understand that I was only trying to gain information to improve my daycare ventures.

Either way, I think I should take a break for a while. I feel like there is a bias against me by your group of friends, and even though you say there is not it makes me feel very, well, sad kinda.

[Country Kids]

OK I give-its Nannyde I bet-::::::

Ok maybe a long shot but you never know!

[Countrygal]

I don't think I responded much to any of them, because I felt they sounded "snarky" and I don't respond to posts like that.

If you had, for example, just asked "I see some of you on here a lot during the day - how can you do that and be giving the kids enough attention", I think you would have had more responders and more legitimate responses. It was the inuendos that I don't answer. Give me a straightforward question, and I"ll try my best. Tell me I'm doing something wrong and I won't even respond. Walk a mile in my shoes.......

ps - I have no trouble with you remaining as long as you treat us all with respect. Just as I try to treat you. {{HUGS}}

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Ok un-registered, just tell us who you are so we can all just move on.

People make mistakes, but we cant forgive and forget unless we can understand who you are.

I wont make snarky comments.

[SilverSabre25]

No, not anyone who's a long established member.

We really don't mean to drive you away--really. You have been posting under several names and at least one of your unreg posts pretended to be a parent asking about your provider.

We are always happy to have new members--we just get concerned when someone seems to be trying to hide something.