O...M...G....How Much Do You Hold Your Newborns?!

[frgsonmysox]

As a parent I'd be livid if a daycare worker let my child cry it out without my permission. Crying it out has long term consequences.

[momofsix]

If he wants to be held facing out, could it be you're putting some pressure on his tummy and that feels good to him?

[Heidi]

Here is a website that may help a little. Janet Lansbury was trained at RIE (resources for infant educarers):

http://www.janetlansbury.com/category/parenting/babys-day/

[Unregistered]

ANd this is why I am glad I live in Canada where the maternity leave is 50 weeks...it's also hard for a little one who is almost a year old but they are starting to be able to play and relate to other kids easier...the youngest that kids used to start here was 5 1/2 months and I lucked out with most of the babies I ever had here..they adjusted fairly quickly.

A baby that is 2 1/2 months old is probably needing his mommy! I couldn't imagine having a tiny baby here to look after with the other kids here too...I know that people have to work but imagine that poor little thing being thrust out into the world when he's barely com into it and hasn't even had time to adjust to being with his own parents...???

[KEG123]

nvm...deleted post...

[Ariana]

He HATES the 2 different carriers I have. One is a sling, and the other a wrap. He wants to be held facing out and upright all the time. The second he feels himself lowering he starts. I understand babies need to be held and loved on. But if a baby needs to be held ALL the time, they don't belong in a daycare with other kids. They belong with a nanny.

Then if this is what you think you need to discuss this with mom. I wouldn't be comfortable with a care provider letting my child CIO. They are 3 months old!! I just don't agree with it. This is why I don't provide infant care. What about a bouncy chair or a swing?

Bjorn is the ONLY way my daughter would be worn. She hated all slings and wraps. As for the comment about it being bad on babies spines and hips there is absolutely NO evidence of this. Baby Bjorn is an award winning carrier. I wore my child in it all the time and she has no issues.

[Ariana]

So my new newborn is colicky AND spoiled ROTTEN. Ugh. Why do parents do this to their daycare providers!? Obviously they can't help the colicky part necessarily, but the spoiled part.....If he isn't being held and bounced constantly, he screams this high pitched loud scream.

This comment just doesn't sit right with me. How can a newborn be spoiled? Where is the empathy?

[Crystal]

As a parent I'd be livid if a daycare worker let my child cry it out without my permission. Crying it out has long term consequences.

Thank you.

[Mandy_Jane]

This comment just doesn't sit right with me. How can a newborn be spoiled? Where is the empathy?

Yeah, I totally agree. A newborn simply CAN NOT be spoiled! Sounds like maybe infants aren't for her. Babies can not even soothe themselves when they are that little. I read something once that says until they are around 6 months old, they just simply can not self soothe. If you don't pick them up and comfort them, they just lose it and have an all out meltdown They need a human there to cuddle them, love them, rock them, pat them and do whatever it takes to calm them down. And ESPECIALLY if they are colicky. That means the poor baby is literally in pain. I just can't imagine leaving a newborn to suffer and cry without doing something to help calm the poor child.

[Crystal]

so, he stops screaming when you hold and bounce him? or he continues, but you feel like at least you're doing something...

According to infant expert Magda Gerber, we tend to OVER stimulate our infants. Jossling, swinging, patting, etc. Her answer would be put him in a quiet area, and allow him to self soothe. A soft breeze and a curtain to watch, or some white noise nearby. She might also suggest you help him find his thumb, although I prefer the old binkies (can be taken away when older...thumb not so much).

This would explain why many young infants sleep all day and want to be awake at night. Think about the lighting and noise level in a nursery at night. Mom is engaged and quiet, the lighting is soft, noise level low. After the quiet of the womb for 9 months, the world can be a lot to cope with at first.



Try it...maybe it'll work for this guy, maybe not. It's better than carrying him while he's screaming in your ear!

Thank you. I love Magda Gerber and the "educarer" philosophy to infant care. Nice post and great advice

[sahm2three]

This comment just doesn't sit right with me. How can a newborn be spoiled? Where is the empathy?

Are you kidding? If I didn't have any empathy, I wouldn't have bothered posting anything! I would LOVE to just hold him all day long, but I CAN'T! How is that fair to the other kids in care?! We have not been able to do any Christmas projects because we have to constantly hold him and walk with him all day long. I am not kidding, all day long! If he were just content to sit in our laps or on our shoulder that would be one thing. But you have to constantly be bouncing and walking. That is what is hard, and yes, we have to lie him down and let him cry to attend to the other kids from time to time. I never said I laid him down and let him just cry or CIO. I wore my own kids. I tried my wrap and sling, which worked for all of my newborns. I am trying here. The reason I say he is spoiled is because the second he feels himself being lowered he starts crying. Not like spoiled like bratty, but spoiled like just totally used to being held.

[sahm2three]

Ok, I MAY have found something that helps. I tried one of the other babies Dr. Brown bottles and he was so much more calm after his bottle. He actually let us lie him in the bouncer for a bit. Still being calm.....fingers crossed.

[Sugar Magnolia]

This comment just doesn't sit right with me. How can a newborn be spoiled? Where is the empathy?

Ditto. Agree. Its a TINY baby. Also agree w frogsonmysocks about being furious over CIO. Sorry doesn't sound appropriate at all. 10 weeks.

[Ariana]

Are you kidding? If I didn't have any empathy, I wouldn't have bothered posting anything! I would LOVE to just hold him all day long, but I CAN'T! How is that fair to the other kids in care?! We have not been able to do any Christmas projects because we have to constantly hold him and walk with him all day long. I am not kidding, all day long! If he were just content to sit in our laps or on our shoulder that would be one thing. But you have to constantly be bouncing and walking. That is what is hard, and yes, we have to lie him down and let him cry to attend to the other kids from time to time. I never said I laid him down and let him just cry or CIO. I wore my own kids. I tried my wrap and sling, which worked for all of my newborns. I am trying here. The reason I say he is spoiled is because the second he feels himself being lowered he starts crying. Not like spoiled like bratty, but spoiled like just totally used to being held.

I think it's just the way your post came across. I apologize if this is not the way it was meant. It seemed like you were saying he was spoiled and you didn't want to deal with it.

[sahm2three]

Ditto. Agree. Its a TINY baby. Also agree w frogsonmysocks about being furious over CIO. Sorry doesn't sound appropriate at all. 10 weeks.

OMG! I NEVER said I let this child CIO. Where are you people reading this?!?!?!?! I said I have had to put him down and he has cried while he was put down, but this was only while we had to attend to other things! SHEESH. I would NEVER let a baby this young CIO.