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I find your focus is quick to pick up on the negative more then the positive in a condescending manner towards other providers. You have a better then everyone else attitude. I just see it as all of us providers should come together to support our craft, and we all have bad days, bad moments, bad situations and need help, advice etc... I do try to live by- if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. I apologize for my behavior but you did hit a nerve, continue to hit nerves and I am not the only one on this forum that feels this way. I welcome difference of opinions, its how I learn- but not the way you come across (maybe you don't mean the way you come across) Enough said by me.
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so you think we should be supportive, unconditionally? No way. Some providers do not warrant support, they warrant a swift kick in the rear as a wake up call. I agree we all have our off days and need someone to lean on, but when a provider REGULARLY and CONTINUOUSLY VENTS then it is clear that they either need to take a nice long break from the business or move on to something new.Comment
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How is my focus quick to pick up on the negative? In what way was I condescending? ...and how am I displaying a "better than everyone else attitude"?
Nothing I said was directed at any one particular member and I said nothing about anyone else, I stated how "I" felt I" as in "I am saddened...etc"
I apologize if I hit a nerve for you but how do you figure that I continue hitting nerves of others and that alot of forum members feel the same way???? I have been reading this forum for a long time but have never posted prior to right after Thanksgiving so how could I possibly be hitting nerves of other members????
...and no, I didn't mean anything rudely or disrespectfully in ANY of my posts, just sharing an opinon that I have about how I feel. NOTHING was directed at anyone or as a dig to anyone in particular so.....Comment
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another problem I ran into when parents want to observe is that their children are the ones that missbehave. I have and interview that both parents came with their 1yr old child. All the kids where playing when their child decided to take a toy away from my dck (I'm pretty protective with the dck's because they are like my own) so the child starts to cry and hit thier son. Well the parents didn't like it because it was obvious that the child did what he wanted and when he wanted. My dck said sorry but the parents were so mad. They never signed, this is another reason I don't do observations eitherComment
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I had a experience with that as well but, it was with ME not signing them and not the other way around.
It just wasn't a good fit right off the bat. Mom and dad showed up with all their children which is great and we discussed policy and they asked me questions..husband in the back ground I am ashually having to keep walking over to their little son (starting care)and removing him from off the gate...bigger 2 yr old who shld not be climbing on gate. Mom and dad don't seem to be able to help in this and the other boys just mill around the house...which is fine. But youngest is clearly upset. Mom leaves for work dad is just standing there and does not know what to do or say. I ask him if he has any questions and he says no but seems to be lost. In all this I am trying to talk to dad but dcb is having a melt down by that time and now kicking my gate and trying to climb over it and shacking it. I thought he was going to break it. Finally I tell dcd that well if you have any more questions to ask me.... Little guy seems like he'd like to go home now. (In all this I could not get him to play with any child nor did any of the dck want to come near him. It was more of a interview but it was really distracting to try and talk and try to engage the child. In the end I told him that I do have another interview lined up so I wld contact them and let them know. They ended calling back but I decided to take the other family. That family had a sweet little girl and I had only boys so was excited to enroll a little girl for my daughter.
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Im just so thankful I didnt have to go through the process of interviewing a provider! Cant say how I would be!Comment
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They went with me!!!! The observation might have helped but I don't know if I'd do that again.Comment
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This general attitude is why I think a lot of the women on here like to butt heads with you Crystal. This is not the first time I have seen you say something like this. Why do you even come on this board if you think we're all just a bunch of sneaky, neglectful, disinterested providers? Why would you want to be a part of that? I mean after all, you've been doing this for 15 years so wonderfully..........Comment
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Crystal is making radio statements. Last sentence sums it up.Comment
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oh good grief, here we go again.
Go back and RE-READ what I posted. I made it perfectly clear that the posts I was referring to were not recent. Keep in mind, I have been on this forum for two years.....I even stated in a PP that many of those posts were two years ago.
Please, do not put words in my mouth. I never said I "think we're all just a bunch of sneaky, neglectful, disinterested providers?" In fact I said that there are several providers here whom I admire and respect. Those that vent and complain 99% of the time, not so much, but I wouldn't with people IRL either.
But, I did say this, so you know WHY I made the other comment that you quoted:
It has to do with posts I have personally read, where children have been called names, where providers have admitted to allowing children cry for hours at a time, where providers have admittedly "thrown" a child onto their nap mat or MADE them lay there for HOURS, where providers have admitted that they don't like certain kids, where providers have done nothing but bitch and moan in every single post they made about the children AND the parents. I have seen parents come here to ask a question and be berated and attacked by members. I have seen providers admit to trying to place blame on another child in care when an infant in care was SERIUOSLY injured, I have seen providers admit to withholding food...or technically withholding snack while trying to "make" the child eat an old, disgusting meal from earlier in the day as punishment for not eating lunch, I have seen providers admit that they make young children sit in their own feces or urine when they have potty accidents OR make the child clean up the feces themselves....ALL of it on THIS forum...... Frankly, it is disgusting. If you did some digging I assure you, you could find what I speak about....if that's not enough to prove my point, then, well, so be it.
So, FYI, and as I said before, I come here for 1. entertainment 2. a break from reality 3. to help when I can and 4. to get an idea of the "face" of child care in our country today (which very often doesn't appear to be very becoming). However, if you are weary of reading my posts, then just skip them, or put me on ignore
Have a FABULOUS weekend
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Crystal...your giving me some entertainment of sorts today...sorry that it's on your expense.
But, I don't have ANY drama in my life so this is the closest besides TMZ or Perez that I'll go to get it...:
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Besides...you did mention that this is entertainment for you when you get called out on something no matter if it was taken out of context.....
I really am just teasing you
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