Kid Told Me He Is Going To See His New Daycare...

[Crystal]

I Must clarify this or it will drive me bonkers.....it is an extra 2.50/per week...not 70.00. I am not that nuts! so 70.25 per kid or 140.50 for the two kid families not a big increase at all. especially for 40-50 hours a week of care.

My bad....I misread your post.

[Crystal]

First off, I am so sad to read this....I am so sorry that anyone has slammed you. I think a lot of times people get into with each other and they some how say things that are hurtful to you. I know that no one wants to be rejected or to be put down. PLEASE consider staying. I don't know who you are, but I know that your experiences teach us all lessons.

Let the other people post their thoughts and opinions and don't take it to heart. I have been where you are. Realize that there are a million different walks of life here.

Everyday I get slammed because of where I came from, my religion and my beliefs. I get attacked with words daily. I get called Habib and other horrible words. I pay the price for what someone else did from a country near mine. Here is the only place I am not judged, but yet respect that I can say anything I want freely. YOu can too. I tell you this, not to try to justify their wrong, but because here there is no judgement, only thought and opinions. You have to take it as that...

Please stay....

Nobody slammed her. In fact, I stated that I do feel badly for her. I just happen to think parents deserve some respect too.....if these parents bailed on her, I could understand, BUT that is not the case.

[Crystal]

Honestly it sounds like they don't have the money to come up with the deposit for the kids slot in day care. They are telling the kid that he will go at a time when it is far enough away so they can get the cash it's gonna take to get in the door.

There's SOME chance that they are doing this to get the provider back into check. I hope that's not true. They may be looking for day care and saying the day care will start a month and a half away because looking and talking are free.

You REALLY make alot of assumptions about parents. I see it from you all the time. Why is it that you are so jaded when it comes to parents....you seem to think they are ALL out to get us?

THIS is the type of thing I am SICK of. From EVERY provider who does this on a regualr basis. It is disgusting.

[Crystal]

Crystal, it was not about the money for the OP, She just wanted WHAT WAS OWED TO HER!! And even if she was closed Thanksgiving week, the DCP still would owe her 2 weeks of pay!!

Again hopefully one day a few of your parents would not try this on you!

OP>>>>Just Saying is BACKING YOU 100%.. here is some good vibes for you that you will get a daycare call in 5 days to fill your spot and then BOOT that family out your door!!

HUGS, HUGS, HUGS and more HUGS!!!

Nothing was owed to her. They are not leaving yet. When they bail and don't pay, that is when she would have a legitimite reason to complain about WHAT WAS OWED TO HER.

[Kaddidle Care]

I'm sorry the OP feels she needs to leave. But she can change her mind.

Nothing for nothing, she's not being paid enough to watch those 2 children. If this family leaves, hopefully she will fill the slots with 2 children at $100.00 per week or more each.

Everything for a reason.

[Crystal]

When I decided to open my daycare, I told my boss that I would be leaving. I told him that I was going to stay till I got my first child. He was happy for me....he said he was sad he was loosing his best worker and he even told me to use some of my vacation days to work on my daycare rooms or he would pay me out for all them. So YES I was HONEST with my boss. And the day I enrolled my first 2 children (Thursday & they started on a Monday) I went in on Friday and said this is my last day and my boss was SO happy for me.

There are still people like myself that have MORALS and I believe in honesty! Smiles!

So, then.... If you, for whatever reason, decided that you did not want to care for a particular child, would you start advertising to fill the spot and THEN tell the parent, after you found a replacement, that they are losing their childcare, or would you be upfront and say hey, I really don't like you, so I am going to start advertising to fill your spot?????

[Crystal]

I'm sorry the OP feels she needs to leave. But she can change her mind.

Nothing for nothing, she's not being paid enough to watch those 2 children. If this family leaves, hopefully she will fill the slots with 2 children at $100.00 per week or more each.

Everything for a reason.

I agree.....$70 per week is too low.

[dEHmom]

everyone has given their opinion on the situation BEFORE the provider approached the parents, BUT now that the provider has asked them the question and they are avoiding her, what do you think she should do now. WHAT SHOULD THE OP DO NOW CONSIDERING THEY ARE AVOIDING THE WHOLE SITUATION.

I think right now she needs to think about what is best for her and her business. NOW they have told her they don't like the increase and decided to look elsewhere. Once again though, I don't know that this is reason to terminate them, but I think the real issue is the way they are treating her NOW that they've told her this.

If their behavior or attitude remain this way, it's creating a hostile environment. Therefore, grounds for termination. It's always awkward finishing up the last days when you know a child is leaving for another provider no matter the situation. But if it's beyond awkward, and it's affecting the care of the child, then she has every right to decide to term.

[Crystal]

So Crystal, from what you are saying, you believe that a provider shouldn't care about their income? They shouldn't worry about how they are going to provide for their family, or pay the bills, or even buy the food for the dcks?! How on earth can you say that a provider should care about the family before their income?! That's just stupid in my opinion...why work then?! Obviously you aren't fully taking in what everyone is saying because you wouldn't be getting so riled up over this. The majority of the posts have stated that the parent should have handled this differently by either NOT telling the child OR by telling the PROVIDER first before the child. This is a forum, where everyone can voice their own opinions..yours included. Why post anything at all if all you are going to do is belittle other providers.

Whatever....I cannot have this discussion with people who CLEARLY only care about the provider side of it....it's the same ol' same ol' here....providers covering their own asses and the parent is always wrong. I am sick of hearing this same old song............ :confused::confused:

No, I am not saying the provider should not care about their income. Of course they should. BUT, this parent still has ample time to give notice and the provider has ample time to replace them. I disagree that the parent was disrespectful.

And my part of the post that you quoted.....with all due respect, I say that because I have been on this forum for 2 years and I have heard all of this garbage about parents for 2 years and it has gotten really old.............

[Crystal]

I think right now she needs to think about what is best for her and her business. NOW they have told her they don't like the increase and decided to look elsewhere. Once again though, I don't know that this is reason to terminate them, but I think the real issue is the way they are treating her NOW that they've told her this.

If their behavior or attitude remain this way, it's creating a hostile environment. Therefore, grounds for termination. It's always awkward finishing up the last days when you know a child is leaving for another provider no matter the situation. But if it's beyond awkward, and it's affecting the care of the child, then she has every right to decide to term.

I agree. Now that it is out in the open, you do what is best for everyone involved. ESPECIALLY for the child.

[Christian Mother]

Quote=Countrymom- everyone has given their opinion on the situation BEFORE the provider approached the parents, BUT now that the provider has asked them the question and they are avoiding her, what do you think she should do now. WHAT SHOULD THE OP DO NOW CONSIDERING THEY ARE AVOIDING THE WHOLE SITUATION.

I think right now she needs to think about what is best for her and her business. NOW they have told her they don't like the increase and decided to look elsewhere. Once again though, I don't know that this is reason to terminate them, but I think the real issue is the way they are treating her NOW that they've told her this.

If their behavior or attitude remain this way, it's creating a hostile environment. Therefore, grounds for termination. It's always awkward finishing up the last days when you know a child is leaving for another provider no matter the situation. But if it's beyond awkward, and it's affecting the care of the child, then she has every right to decide to term.

I agree...I think at this point it's best to start advertising for a replacement family. It will be hard though bc there is no ashually date that they will transition out. She can ask the parents when they'd like to start and let them know that the family that is being replaced has 2 wk per their contact since they couldn't start til then. Then she can draw up her 2 wk term paper work for that family and give it to them. Here is the problem I see with the parents. Yes, I agree in that they have the right to go out and look for other daycares see what the going rate is...it's kind of like interviewing for a job in sorts. The thing is...they took the job or daycare. However long it took them to look around wasn't given to the provider. She was blind sided. So now she has 2 wks to look. Well now she can start looking on her own and find a replacement. But, here's another thing dcb said end of xmas he'd be moving why didn't the parents say the same thing so the provider would have a good amount of time to start looking also? It's terrible to know your being replaced but not know when...if she just waited and then one day get a 2 wk notice she may take her a lot longer to find someone to replace that family...I think I'm writing a run on sentence...::

[Just Saying]

So, then.... If you, for whatever reason, decided that you did not want to care for a particular child, would you start advertising to fill the spot and THEN tell the parent, after you found a replacement, that they are losing their childcare, or would you be upfront and say hey, I really don't like you, so I am going to start advertising to fill your spot?????

No, I would tell the parent FIRST and I would be honest about why it was not working. And Crystal, why in the world would I say "I really don't like you"? That remark was kinda childish!

[Country Kids]

Why are the parents in such a panic if the provider isn't even doing anything untile SEPTEMBER!!!! Seriously, its not like she doing it the start of Dec., she gave like a 11 month notice.

Also, since she knows they are leaving could she just tell them she considers that their two week notice and at the end of two weeks-bye,bye. Would that be a correct thing to do?

[Unregistered]

No, I think you should just start looking to fill the spot.

Totally agree! I wouldn't say anything. I don't accept termination papers during vacations or on weekends. I have taken quite a few to a collection agency AND have been paid.
On a side note: Take a paid vacation! I take 10 days throughout the year. They are days most of my dc parents have off anyways. You deserve a paid vacay!

[Crystal]

No, I would tell the parent FIRST and I would be honest about why it was not working. And Crystal, why in the world would I say "I really don't like you"? That remark was kinda childish!

I was being sarcastic...not childish.... Yeah, I shouldn't say something like that, but when Nan says the provider should be able to term a child by telling the CHILD so that the child informs the parent, it's all good. Whatever.

I guess I'll just have to take your word that you would tell the parent first.....but as you have read on this forum, I am sure, MOST providers WOULD NOT tell the parent first....in fact, in this very thread it has been stated that this provider should look for a replacement without telling the family.