Venting Thread

[Bookworm]

You know how some of you post about kids with shoes too small? Well I have the opposite problem. Would it physically kill you to buy shoes that fit. I get that they want superhero shoes but if they don't have them in their size don't buy them. DCB ran out of 2 sizes too small shoes 4x today on the playground. Why can't they realize that their kids will never grow into them because they are usually torn up in 2 months.

[BumbleBee]

it may sound bad to you, but I find that because I'm neutral that parents need to vent too. I don't mind because most parents don't have anyone to complain too.

Sorry, I should have clarified. The parents I was talking about are my own parents, not daycare parents.

Good advice and I will keep that in mind for next time. Thanks!

[Blackcat31]

I am a new daycare provider and I am wondering if I am just to sensitive to do this. I get back from my unpaid vacation to find out -one child will be leaving for a month (who last I heard was going to start coming full time) (no payment left to hold her spot as per contract), .

If they didn't pay you a deposit that is required according to your contract, then it is up to you to enforce the contract and get the deposit from them or do not save their space.

-one child is cutting back their days (more lost income),

I charge more for part time care then drop in. If I had a family wanting to drop to part time from full time, I would make sure they understand that full time ALWAYS trumps part time and they will be subject to losing their space all together if they drop down to part time. Plus 3 days of part time care here is almost as much as full time so the income loss wouldn't be that significant.

- Then when I asked one family if they may consider a MWF schedule since they now come part time in order to help accomidate another PT infant they threatened to pull their child. I am trying to make ends meet the best I can and I can not understand the logic of these families.

The logic is that families will always do what works best for them, as they should. If it doesn't work for you to do any days besides MWF then don't do it. I would simply tell them the only part time space you have is either MWF or T Th and that is it. I don't ask parents to accommodate me, I just let them know what I am willing to do and a varying schedule is not something I will do.

Do they think I have a tree that grows money in my backyard and that I can hold a spot for everyone to come anytime that is conenient for them? This has left me so upset I don't know what to do with these demanding families, I wish I could turn back the clock and start again.

It isn't that they think you have a money tree, although I wish we all did , it is just that they are looking out for themselves and we all do that. It is human nature. If you can't afford to hold a spot for any of them, don't do it. Advertise and find replacement families. You arein charge of your business and if you don't take charge, you get walked on.

I am sorry you are going through this at all. Child care is a tough business and not one where out income is ever guaranteed so you have to do what works for you.

To sensitive to provide daycare?

I am a new daycare provider and I am wondering if I am just to sensitive to do this. I get back from my unpaid vacation to find out -one child will be leaving for a month (who last I heard was going to start coming full time) (no payment left to hold her spot as per contract), -one child is cutting back their days (more lost income), -a new family is starting later than expected, -another new child that was set to start is moving, I get bombarded with this info. in just two days time. Then when I asked one family if they may consider a MWF schedule since they now come part time in order to help accomidate another PT infant they threatened to pull their child. I am trying to make ends meet the best I can and I can not understand the logic of these families. Do they think I have a tree that grows money in my backyard and that I can hold a spot for everyone to come anytime that is conenient for them? This has left me so upset I don't know what to do with these demanding families, I wish I could turn back the clock and start again.

[countrymom]

my sister is coming over with her 4 yr old dd. wish me luck. She got banned from my house because her dd is a spoiled brat who needs her arse smacked, instead she gets her way, screams all the time and throws tantrums and my sister gives into her. The only reason she is coming over is because she has birthday gifts for my kids, her dd will open them before my kids anyways. Oh, all the kids hate her too.

[countrymom]

13 days before I officially open my home daycare and my seperated but still legally married parents decide to use me as a sounding board regarding their latest fight.

No, I'm not going to choose sides. No, I'm not going to listen to each of you drag the other persons name through the mud.

You both have jobs, paid for houses/cars, and enough individual money to live off of for the rest of your lives. You live 400 miles away from each other and have been seperated for 9 years. Sign the stupid divorce papers already and leave me out of it!

it may sound bad to you, but I find that because I'm neutral that parents need to vent too. I don't mind because most parents don't have anyone to complain too.

[survivingtexas]

Has school started yet?

I love my kids and sometimes they help me with the daycare stuff but please can they go back to school already?? The house is louder, they are just as needy sometimes and they don't take naps!!!

[daycarediva]

Wow. Some parents are soooooo self-centered. If it's that big of a deal for her, she can take her own bloody kids to the library!

She is RIGHT NOW! Dcg made a HUGE fuss about it and I told her to ask her Mom to take her.

[BumbleBee]

Registered but logged out for sensitive reasons.

Worst Monday ever! I need to redo this day completely.

1. My brother informed me not to say the name of my unborn child, which we just decided what we wanted to name her. It's the same nickname as one my baby sis wants to name her future second daughter. He doesn't want me to say my baby's name bc it's my sis' special week (getting married Sat.)

2. Microwave decided to die while preparing lunch.

3. Cops are across the street again (were there at lunch) because of a domestic violence or eviction at a rental house. The cops were parked in front of my house, and they scared one of my daycare moms.

4. I have a potty-training 3yo. She wanted to wear panties (when she's only pottied twice her at my house. Dcd settled for pullup). My daughter just got a brand new mattress set yesterday. I put dcg in a diaper since she never pottied ALL morning when I tried to get her to go. After nap (she sleeps in dd's room bc she can't sleep around the others), dcg had soaked through a comforter, 2 sheets, and onto the new mattress.

I hope your Tuesday went better!

[BumbleBee]

13 days before I officially open my home daycare and my seperated but still legally married parents decide to use me as a sounding board regarding their latest fight.

No, I'm not going to choose sides. No, I'm not going to listen to each of you drag the other persons name through the mud.

You both have jobs, paid for houses/cars, and enough individual money to live off of for the rest of your lives. You live 400 miles away from each other and have been seperated for 9 years. Sign the stupid divorce papers already and leave me out of it!

[BumbleBee]

Oh, and she brought dck's library passes 'IN CASE I CHANGED MY MIND AND MADE IT FAIR'. Not happening. Nosy brat.

Wow. Some parents are soooooo self-centered. If it's that big of a deal for her, she can take her own bloody kids to the library!

[daycarediva]

Oh, and she brought dck's library passes 'IN CASE I CHANGED MY MIND AND MADE IT FAIR'. Not happening. Nosy brat.

[daycarediva]

one of my daycare parents is the boss of another of my daycare parents. The boss is divorced and apparantly my dcm doesn't like bosses exwife. Because of their custody agreement, bosses exwife doesn't have to drop off dcb until almost 11 two days a week. I agreed to the change (she used to bring him in anyway early but now because of the custody agreement she wants that morning time with him, since she won't see him that evening.) TOTALLY UNDERSTANDABLE. I rearranged our schedule to change library day to a 'dad custody day/early drop off' but it happens to be the day dcm's kids are off. She came in today (first week on the new calendar the changes go into effect) complaining up a storm and I finally had to tell her that it was none of her business. She said she was going to 'have a long talk' with the divorced DCD! WTH!!!!!!!!!!!!! I kindly told her not to, that it was really none of her business and that it was very unprofessional. None of the other parents are even aware of why the change was made, but since she knows the dcd I feel like she is trying to start trouble.

[Hunni Bee]

LOL I have to say when I am having a bad day I always read these and know I'm not alone so today is my turn to add one.............

I have this dcb that started last week he's 2.5yrs old and is big as a 4yr old. He's used to being at home with his mom so dc is new to him. EVERY morning when she drops him off he freaks out and throws the biggest temper tantrum, same at nap time, same when the other kids are getting picked up and same during the day when I ask him to do or not to do things. He does what he wants when he wants. So dcm has been giving him gummy worms for breakfast. The other day I took them from him and asked her not to bring them again. He freaked!!!!! She tries to bribe him when she drops him off, we go by a schedule each day. So when he gets here he always wants to go outside and play. So rather then just tell him NO she says........well maybe when I leave Ms ?????? will let you go outside and play. So when I say no he freaks and these aren't like little temper tantrums these are throw my body all over the floor and kick and scream tantrums!!!! I have 3 2yr olds that are potty training (he's already potty trained) and I have a set of stickers that were bought just for those kids for going potty. Everyday he wants them too now if it wasn't for all the other "i want my way" outburst during the day I wouldn't care if he got a sticker but I tried to explain they are special for the girls the first couple days he freaked when I said no but now he doesn't ask until his mom gets here. And of course she says sure you can have a sticker just ask Ms ?????? to get you one!!!! The one time I explained to her that they were special for the other kids and she kind of got an attitude with me like they are only stickers and they are only stickers but they are a special reward for the girls going potty. So today the dcm picks up her son and shes talking to me about his naptime which is about 2hrs (1.5hrs after his tantrum) she wants me to only let him sleep for 30-60 minutes cause apparently he isn't going to bed until midnight at home. Now when she started here (and in her paper work she filled out) she told me that she's been lazy with his bed time and that she usually doesn't put him down until 11-midnight. This kid is in charge, when I told her no that I am not only going to give him a 30-60 minute nap she got an attitude and said that he's taking to long of a nap here and causing him not to sleep at home.............NO YOU NEED TO SEND HIM TO BED AND STOP LETTING HIM RUN YOUR LIFE!!!!! So instead of telling her that I just told her that she'll have to figure something else out for him cause he naps during that time and I'm not waking him up! So tonight I bought him his own pack of spider man stickers and I am going to have a talk with them in the morning and as long as he doesn't freak out and have a tantrum through out the day he will get a sticker cause I am at my whits end with him and can't take much more. I have a waiting list so it wouldn't matter if I let him go but I hate letting parents go cause I just feel weird having that conversation but it's really driving me insane and I watch a 4 month old as well that he constantly wakes up with all these tantrums so then I have both of them crying!

Wow............I feel much better now! LOL happyface

wow....kid probably runs over Mom like a Mack truck. With the stickers, I wouldn't bribe him or say anything about them - I'd catch him doing something good and comment and give the sticker. But you'll still run into him thinking he should get a sticker for everything he does. Honestly...

You say you have a waiting list. This kid is causing all kids of chaos, and Mom is absolutely no help, actually the opposite of help. I'd give him two more weeks and term. You'll find that having that conversation is much easier than dealing with that kind of craziness daily.

[daycaremom76]

LOL I have to say when I am having a bad day I always read these and know I'm not alone so today is my turn to add one.............

I have this dcb that started last week he's 2.5yrs old and is big as a 4yr old. He's used to being at home with his mom so dc is new to him. EVERY morning when she drops him off he freaks out and throws the biggest temper tantrum, same at nap time, same when the other kids are getting picked up and same during the day when I ask him to do or not to do things. He does what he wants when he wants. So dcm has been giving him gummy worms for breakfast. The other day I took them from him and asked her not to bring them again. He freaked!!!!! She tries to bribe him when she drops him off, we go by a schedule each day. So when he gets here he always wants to go outside and play. So rather then just tell him NO she says........well maybe when I leave Ms ?????? will let you go outside and play. So when I say no he freaks and these aren't like little temper tantrums these are throw my body all over the floor and kick and scream tantrums!!!! I have 3 2yr olds that are potty training (he's already potty trained) and I have a set of stickers that were bought just for those kids for going potty. Everyday he wants them too now if it wasn't for all the other "i want my way" outburst during the day I wouldn't care if he got a sticker but I tried to explain they are special for the girls the first couple days he freaked when I said no but now he doesn't ask until his mom gets here. And of course she says sure you can have a sticker just ask Ms ?????? to get you one!!!! The one time I explained to her that they were special for the other kids and she kind of got an attitude with me like they are only stickers and they are only stickers but they are a special reward for the girls going potty. So today the dcm picks up her son and shes talking to me about his naptime which is about 2hrs (1.5hrs after his tantrum) she wants me to only let him sleep for 30-60 minutes cause apparently he isn't going to bed until midnight at home. Now when she started here (and in her paper work she filled out) she told me that she's been lazy with his bed time and that she usually doesn't put him down until 11-midnight. This kid is in charge, when I told her no that I am not only going to give him a 30-60 minute nap she got an attitude and said that he's taking to long of a nap here and causing him not to sleep at home.............NO YOU NEED TO SEND HIM TO BED AND STOP LETTING HIM RUN YOUR LIFE!!!!! So instead of telling her that I just told her that she'll have to figure something else out for him cause he naps during that time and I'm not waking him up! So tonight I bought him his own pack of spider man stickers and I am going to have a talk with them in the morning and as long as he doesn't freak out and have a tantrum through out the day he will get a sticker cause I am at my whits end with him and can't take much more. I have a waiting list so it wouldn't matter if I let him go but I hate letting parents go cause I just feel weird having that conversation but it's really driving me insane and I watch a 4 month old as well that he constantly wakes up with all these tantrums so then I have both of them crying!

Wow............I feel much better now! LOL happyface