Venting Thread

[trippingontoys]

I've had 5 parents attempt switch days this week! I accommodated the first four, but when the fifth one asked I had to say no. Due to the schedule changes I ended up with Friday off. Yay! But then parent #5 texted me and said "DCB will be there tues-fri this week" He is scheduled mon-thurs. I told her I can't do Friday and I refuse to feel guilty about it!

I'm just wondering how the day care parents would feel if their boss changed their schedule at the last minute every single week? (All of my parents work office jobs with set schedules)

[daycarediva]

annnnnnnnnnnddd same dcb had a dr's appt for a 'mystery rash' that spread and I sent Mom a text today. Appt was right in the middle of nap time. Yep. Smart.

[daycarediva]

Me again!

Yesterday, 7 yo dcb comes after my son (who is 5, but outweighs him by at least 15 muscular pounds) and starts whaling at him. Ds fights back and I immediately get in between them to stop the fight. Dcb said that ds stepped on him while he was laying on the ground. Then he started crying because ds scratched him in the fight. I asked ds about the stepping on him, he said it was on accident. He heard it from me for running through the house. Dcb continues to cry about the scratch. I asked him, what did he think ds was going to do, just let him run in and hit on him? Dcb actually said yes! I reminded him that if he had just came in and told either ds or me that he got stepped on (that's what happens when you lay in the middle of the playroom floor, btw), then there would have been no fight and he would not have gotten scratched. If you don't want to get hurt, don't start a fight! Grrrr.....

Three more weeks til school, three more weeks.....

6 more weeks here!

I have a sibling set that do nothing but fight. The last two days the younger boy has left marks on his big sister for NO REASON. Mom was pretty blaze about it, which is really annoying! That kid can do noooo wrong. grrr.

I did let the dcm know that I found out she lied to me "He ate great so I guess his tummy is feeling better after that nasty stomach bug" I'm evil.

[AmyLeigh]

Me again!

Yesterday, 7 yo dcb comes after my son (who is 5, but outweighs him by at least 15 muscular pounds) and starts whaling at him. Ds fights back and I immediately get in between them to stop the fight. Dcb said that ds stepped on him while he was laying on the ground. Then he started crying because ds scratched him in the fight. I asked ds about the stepping on him, he said it was on accident. He heard it from me for running through the house. Dcb continues to cry about the scratch. I asked him, what did he think ds was going to do, just let him run in and hit on him? Dcb actually said yes! I reminded him that if he had just came in and told either ds or me that he got stepped on (that's what happens when you lay in the middle of the playroom floor, btw), then there would have been no fight and he would not have gotten scratched. If you don't want to get hurt, don't start a fight! Grrrr.....

Three more weeks til school, three more weeks.....

[texascare]

Why do parents always have an excuse for their child? Sometimes I really just want to say "OK look your child was behaving like a brat so she got sat in time out, it isn't going to kill her but she needs to learn"....I have one that is hitting and it is bad. I have talked to the parents over and over. Mom said to me, "maybe she is just letting her presence be known".
I don't allow hitting or bullying and when it does begin, I try to put a stop to it right away. Mom just laughs it off. Just very frustrating sometimes....

[SilverSabre25]

DCG burst into tears about a single drop of water getting on her knee. If this is how today is going to go, I'm going to make DH come home so I can go back to bed... :/

[momma2girls]

DCM lied to me! She called yesterday before her drop off time and said DCB (just turned 2) had a low grade fever (highest of 99.9 rectally, so not really a fever) all day Sunday and still wasn't up to par so she was keeping him home. He came today and she told me that she really thought it was just teeth/plus a busy birthday weekend. Dad picked up today and told me that he threw up ALLLLL DAY Sunday (after his birthday party Saturday) AND other DCG went to his party and ate like CRAP today and is already staying home tomorrow. I just do NOT understand the lying. She was within my policy to return him to care today (24 hours fever and symptom free) and aside from being a bit blah he was acting and participating just fine.

I would honestly let them both know, that you know, they brought the child, even after vomiting the dat before. I have never terminated on the spot, but I would have liked to. Tell them that you have a 24 hr.. rule, and it will not be tolerated again. I also added in my contract dishonesty will not be tolerated.

[momma2girls]

DCM lied to me! She called yesterday before her drop off time and said DCB (just turned 2) had a low grade fever (highest of 99.9 rectally, so not really a fever) all day Sunday and still wasn't up to par so she was keeping him home. He came today and she told me that she really thought it was just teeth/plus a busy birthday weekend. Dad picked up today and told me that he threw up ALLLLL DAY Sunday (after his birthday party Saturday) AND other DCG went to his party and ate like CRAP today and is already staying home tomorrow. I just do NOT understand the lying. She was within my policy to return him to care today (24 hours fever and symptom free) and aside from being a bit blah he was acting and participating just fine.

I have learned the hard way on this topic as well. Even if you think you have the greatest parents in the world, it seems like something always happens. I thought I had the best parents, til one day, they both started lying to me!!! OHHH!!! This makes me so mad!!!!!

[daycarediva]

DCM lied to me! She called yesterday before her drop off time and said DCB (just turned 2) had a low grade fever (highest of 99.9 rectally, so not really a fever) all day Sunday and still wasn't up to par so she was keeping him home. He came today and she told me that she really thought it was just teeth/plus a busy birthday weekend. Dad picked up today and told me that he threw up ALLLLL DAY Sunday (after his birthday party Saturday) AND other DCG went to his party and ate like CRAP today and is already staying home tomorrow. I just do NOT understand the lying. She was within my policy to return him to care today (24 hours fever and symptom free) and aside from being a bit blah he was acting and participating just fine.

[daycarediva]

Sounds like she is mostly entertained at home with electronics and is going through withdrawls while at your house.

....just a thought, but have you tried rewarding her for going so many hours or dys WITHOUT complaining? Nothing worse than listening to a kid who believes she/he is bored and whines about it all day....

All of the big kids have punch cards (just something I printed and use a hole punch for). If they get all 5 punches, they pick out of the prize box on Friday. She doesn't even care, or try to earn them at all. "My Mom will buy me better stuff than that this weekend." My dcb goes nuts when he gets a punch, because then Mom rewards him with computer time (15minutes) at home. It is his only screen time. So atleast it works for him! He's an angel!

[momma2girls]

Had to let go of another family today. Had a new family start last week on Wed. They agreed to pay me $60 for that week and then the next week we agreed that on Friday they would pay me for that week and ahead for the next week since normally I require the payment up front. So I watched her on Wed. Got up Thur morning (even made earlier than my normal hours so that they could drop her off early), I waited for her to get there and she never showed. I finally got a text when she was suppose to be here that he lost his job and they wouldnt be able to bring her. So ... I didnt keep her Thur or Fri but got up at 5am Thur morning and showered so I would be ready for them to drop her off.

This week they didnt need a sitter on Monday, so they had me watch her yesterday (longer hours than we agreed normally) and they didnt bring me any money. So I sent her a message last night and she never text me bck. So I text her this morning and told her that she needed to bring me $20 for today when she drops the little girl off. (I was going to let yesterday go since they were having financial trouble) So I get a text from her this morning that said ... I dont see why I need to bring you $20 for today when I already paid you for last week. Well my rates are $60 a week for part time for 3 days or less. We discussed this when we first talked and they agreed. But now she felt that she shouldnt have to pay that. So I told her bring the $20 or dont bring her. So they got mad at me. I had thought about letting it go and just let them start paying again next week but they couldnt even tell me if they would be able to bring me the money for next week on Monday. So I figured ... its going to be an ongoing battle to be paid AND last night she text me and says "How many diapers were in her bag?" I said 5. Then I called her to see why she asked that. She said oh .... well great now I have no diapers left! Like she was mad at me.

They sent her in with shorts soaked from milk she had spilt all over herself and no extra clothes to change in to. Plus ... 5 diapers. The child was here ALL day! I changed her 4 times and was about to change her again when her mom got here. I was trying to make the diapers last but the little girl would pee and then stick her hand in her diaper and say ewwww and walk around trying to touch my kids. But they acted like I was trying to keep some of their diapers or something. So I told her look ... my kids are 12, 10 and 6. None of the kids I babysit for except for you daughter even wears diapers so ... I have no use for diapers.

So ........ to make a long story short she calls me yelling at me this morning, throwing the f word around so I said you know what .... I think you just need to find another sitter because I have no interest in watching your daughter anymore.

So her husband text me for like 15 minutes afterwards telling me how I was taking advantage of them and they would find a REAL daycare since I am just a babysitter! I stopped responding to his texts so he finally quit!

What is wrong with people? Ugh!

Cant wait until my checks are enough from my online business so I can stop babysitting its becoming more of a pain than enjoyment anymore!

I totally agree with you!!!

[Blackcat31]

6 more weeks until school starts, 6 more weeks until school starts. I can do it, right?


My SA dcg (9) is here from 6-6 m-f. She complains 24/7. It drives me nuts. "I don't want to go for a walk today, I want to watch a movie. I hate playing outside. Can we go to the playground? (at playground she whines that it's hot and sits) Can you put netflix on for me? Can you get your laptop out so I can use it? Can I go play xbox in (ds's) room? I need a banging my head against the wall smiley.

Sounds like she is mostly entertained at home with electronics and is going through withdrawls while at your house.

....just a thought, but have you tried rewarding her for going so many hours or dys WITHOUT complaining? Nothing worse than listening to a kid who believes she/he is bored and whines about it all day....

[SilverSabre25]

I'm beginning to suspect that dcb is coming in his overnight diaper. It never gets as full during the day as it is in the AM...

[daycarediva]

6 more weeks until school starts, 6 more weeks until school starts. I can do it, right?


My SA dcg (9) is here from 6-6 m-f. She complains 24/7. It drives me nuts. "I don't want to go for a walk today, I want to watch a movie. I hate playing outside. Can we go to the playground? (at playground she whines that it's hot and sits) Can you put netflix on for me? Can you get your laptop out so I can use it? Can I go play xbox in (ds's) room? I need a banging my head against the wall smiley.

[mysonsmom1]

fustrated and scared

Started my home daycare business with high hopes. Knowing that being with children is the best thing that I could have ever done. SOOOOO, what I quickly learned is that this can be a tough industry. I never really have problems with the children.. Even on their worst days, I can handle them. What really bothers me is when the parents sign contracts, say that they understand the policy and refuses to comply to the policies. I cant count on my hand the number of times parents have came up with an excuse why they couldn’t give a two week notice. Excuses as to why the tuition cant be paid on time. How they didn’t know that the tuition is due if their child is present or not. The hardest thing to swallow is that some are quick to point the finger at me for asking them to comply to the contract. Errr. (in my best tiger voice). Bills are still due regardless if they are here or not. Some want me to hold a slot open for them that they won’t pay to reserve but they don’t want me to fill the slot with any other children to insure that they will have childcare when their child returns from vacation. I want to be loyal to my clients and I really want to have slots avail for all of the children that have been here. Yet, its putting my family into jeopardy and I don’t want to choose between paying my bills or being loyal to my clients. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Ive already tried to fill the slots with summer children but even they go on vacation...