Venting Thread

[Araem910]

Adhd?

Recently took on a 5 year old and he seems very hyper, talks nonstop ( no, really, nonstop questions &#128563. His number one agenda is to do whatever it takes to get attention. My question is, is it worth it? Is it worth the stress? Maybe I’m just getting too old to do this anymore? My nerves are shot by the end of the day and I’m not upset with him, just exhausted. He doesn’t talk back and he’s not a threat to other children, just overly hyper and requires nonstop attention.

[Blackcat31]

Recently took on a 5 year old and he seems very hyper, talks nonstop ( no, really, nonstop questions &#128563. His number one agenda is to do whatever it takes to get attention. My question is, is it worth it? Is it worth the stress? Maybe I’m just getting too old to do this anymore? My nerves are shot by the end of the day and I’m not upset with him, just exhausted. He doesn’t talk back and he’s not a threat to other children, just overly hyper and requires nonstop attention.

How much sleep and exercise does he get?

In my experience those kids that aren't provided the opportunity to exercise and/or sleep well are the ones that talk non-stop and cannot stop moving. They seem starved for adult attention too.

I don't care to have infants in care buuuuut I know the only way to having a good toddler and/or preschooler is to get them young. Taking on a 5 year old as a new DCK is so difficult as they've already got their own groove going on and as you are experiencing, it's not always a good one.

[Ariana]

Recently took on a 5 year old and he seems very hyper, talks nonstop ( no, really, nonstop questions &#128563. His number one agenda is to do whatever it takes to get attention. My question is, is it worth it? Is it worth the stress? Maybe I’m just getting too old to do this anymore? My nerves are shot by the end of the day and I’m not upset with him, just exhausted. He doesn’t talk back and he’s not a threat to other children, just overly hyper and requires nonstop attention.

I had a similar child and it was due to possible ADHD and anxiety. I found directing him to specific activities and having the day planned helped him a lot. I also made a picture schedule. So when he is annoying you just say “ok thank you, now go play with the X” or get him to clean something up and do little jobs. The kid I had LOVED being outside and loved shovelling, so we would go out every day and I gave him shovelling tasks in the winter and digging, planting tasks in the summer. He was like a border collie, he needed to work

[Ac114]

Recently took on a 5 year old and he seems very hyper, talks nonstop ( no, really, nonstop questions &#128563. His number one agenda is to do whatever it takes to get attention. My question is, is it worth it? Is it worth the stress? Maybe I’m just getting too old to do this anymore? My nerves are shot by the end of the day and I’m not upset with him, just exhausted. He doesn’t talk back and he’s not a threat to other children, just overly hyper and requires nonstop attention.

Definitely sounds like ADHD. My oldest has ADHD and over the years I have learned that giving him tasks help with the behavior. You could give him a job and reward him with a few minutes of conversation and then give him another job and so forth. I’ve also had to set boundaries with my son and say ok, I need quiet time to recharge so I need a break from all your questions right now. These children need to burn a lot more energy than a typical child so exercising him is also important. Something simple as a medicine ball that he can sit on and bounce will help redirect the extra energy.
Good luck!

[Kimskiddos]

I had a similar child and it was due to possible ADHD and anxiety. I found directing him to specific activities and having the day planned helped him a lot. I also made a picture schedule. So when he is annoying you just say “ok thank you, now go play with the X” or get him to clean something up and do little jobs. The kid I had LOVED being outside and loved shovelling, so we would go out every day and I gave him shovelling tasks in the winter and digging, planting tasks in the summer. He was like a border collie, he needed to work

I've also had a couple of similar kiddos , one ADHD and the other on the spectrum but high functioning. I used to have them run laps or do jumping jacks (Of course made a game of it all.) when they got crazy. It really helped a lot.

[Ariana]

DCD contacts me saying they are “having a rough start and will be late”. This is the guy that cannot make it here before 9:15-9:30am every morning. GET UP EARLIER! What is your kid doing for two hours in the morning while you are sleeping? Door is locked at 9:30 dad, so you better get your butt in gear. Good luck when baby #2 arrives

Hmmm wonder why she is delayed

[Ms.Kay]

Friday:
#1. DCD drops sib set...said he was way behind...no time to feed..already bloody screaming 5 mo. I have 4 kids breakfast and catch 3 different buses..at 3 different times. Yes Dad....your time is so much morw valuable than your providers.

#2 mom who wants her 2.5 yr old to go to bed at 730 everynight.....tells me that she called the pediatrician...and he said I have to nap her for 1 hr. Yes mom....did you tell the pediatrician she ends up in your bed every nite? Did you tell the pediatrician she has her ipad the moment she gets home? and no I love not having a 20 min break in my 11 hr day!

My wine is already breathing.......

[Cat Herder]

Friday:
#1. DCD drops sib set...said he was way behind...no time to feed..already bloody screaming 5 mo. I have 4 kids breakfast and catch 3 different buses..at 3 different times. Yes Dad....your time is so much morw valuable than your providers.

#2 mom who wants her 2.5 yr old to go to bed at 730 everynight.....tells me that she called the pediatrician...and he said I have to nap her for 1 hr. Yes mom....did you tell the pediatrician she ends up in your bed every nite? Did you tell the pediatrician she has her ipad the moment she gets home? and no I love not having a 20 min break in my 11 hr day!

My wine is already breathing.......

I am going to assume you told them both NO and to get their priorities straight. ::

[Snowmom]

A set of siblings put notice in Wednesday (expected w/3rd on the way) and another child today.

It's always the holidays.

[Meadow]

Dcm comes in with dcg 3 today and stays for an hour while she cries. I am relatively new to daycare and don't know how to manage these situations. This is the only dcm that actually comes in past the entryway at dropoff. After half an hour of trying to talk dcg down, she caves and says "lets call grandma and see if she can come get you". So, she puts the phone on speaker and calls, no answer, dcm tells dcg "oh shoot, you will have to stay here since grandma didn't answer" .... and hysterical crying for another half hour. Then proceeds to start a craft with her to make her calm down, at the table that I am trying to prepare breakfast on. This has put my whole schedule back an hour. I can handle a crying kid at dropoff, I cant handle a parent sticking around that long.

Ugh. Mondays.

[Josiegirl]

Dcm comes in with dcg 3 today and stays for an hour while she cries. I am relatively new to daycare and don't know how to manage these situations. This is the only dcm that actually comes in past the entryway at dropoff. After half an hour of trying to talk dcg down, she caves and says "lets call grandma and see if she can come get you". So, she puts the phone on speaker and calls, no answer, dcm tells dcg "oh shoot, you will have to stay here since grandma didn't answer" .... and hysterical crying for another half hour. Then proceeds to start a craft with her to make her calm down, at the table that I am trying to prepare breakfast on. This has put my whole schedule back an hour. I can handle a crying kid at dropoff, I cant handle a parent sticking around that long.

Ugh. Mondays.

Oh my. I know you're new at this but that needs to stop. Yikes. Dcm is only making it worse by playing into it all and not giving you a chance to bond with dcg.

[Ac114]

Dcm comes in with dcg 3 today and stays for an hour while she cries. I am relatively new to daycare and don't know how to manage these situations. This is the only dcm that actually comes in past the entryway at dropoff. After half an hour of trying to talk dcg down, she caves and says "lets call grandma and see if she can come get you". So, she puts the phone on speaker and calls, no answer, dcm tells dcg "oh shoot, you will have to stay here since grandma didn't answer" .... and hysterical crying for another half hour. Then proceeds to start a craft with her to make her calm down, at the table that I am trying to prepare breakfast on. This has put my whole schedule back an hour. I can handle a crying kid at dropoff, I cant handle a parent sticking around that long.

Ugh. Mondays.

Time for bye bye outside!

[CountryRoads]

Dck got new, very sparkly shoes.

I now have glitter all over my floor

[Cat Herder]

Dck got new, very sparkly shoes.

I now have glitter all over my floor

Just wait until one of the littles has it in their eyes. I banned those forever ago. I still get pushback from time to time, but holdfast. I don't miss those crocs with the plugin pegs, either. So fun fishing those out of toddlers mouths before they choke.

[Ariana]

Read on a moms page:
“What do you get your cleaner for Christmas”?
Answers ranged from $100 bonus to 2 months worth of work bonus, spa days, etc

“What do you get your daycare provider for Christmas”?
Answers ranged from nothing to homemade cookies, books for the daycare to gift cards.

Interesting