Venting Thread

[storybookending]

I have a late August birthday and school in my state used to start around the 20th of August. I started preschool at 3 and K at 4 turning the next age up within the first two weeks. I was the youngest in my class, there were kids that graduated a year behind me that were older than I was. I wish my mom had not started me so soon.

[MomBoss]

Aw, that’s sad. Your poor brother.

It sounds like a huge gap between maturity level and intelligence level.

That is the gap that needs balance in most cases.

He was very mature for his age, just when he was bored..he found a way not to be bored. To this day he is the most responsible person i know and ironically is afraid to get in any sort of trouble
He took honors and AP classes from then on out, graduated above 4.0. Double major in college.
Whenever my mom hears of a child misbehaving in school, she always likes to bring up "maybe they need to be challenged!" Lol

[Country Kids]

Yes!! School is about so much more than academics!
The social emotional aspect is a huge part of whether a child will succeed or fail in many areas of life!

If we can give them (the kids) the gift of time, we've done more for them than anything they learn in school will do.




But that sounds like a reason to hold him back.
Being dependent on someone else and/or not being able to function without each other isn't very healthy at all.

He doesn't need peers his age to mature.
He needs responsibility and the opportunity to think on his own and make his own decisions. He needs to have an opportunity to be in charge. Being the oldest in a mixed age groups helps build that skill in so many ways!

That is basically the foundation to Montessori education....the younger kids learn from the older kids and the older kids benefit tremendously from being the one to "lead" others.




I've never seen any evidence in regards to kids being bored and it hindering their ability to learn. If that was truly the case with your daughter, did they move her up a grade then or did she skip the next grade? Just curious as this is something being discussed in my current class and its a topic I find interesting.

Both kiddo's are totally fine when the other one isn't here. One of them wasn't here for one full week and I couldn't believe the change in the other child. Totally different kiddo, more mature, exploring more, doing things on their own, showing lots of independence.

No, our schools here don't move kiddo's up (not sure why). She did test for TAG in second grade and missed it by not knowing division yet. She was so upset when that happened. She did do a bit higher learning but I don't think she was learning to her full potential because there would be like four learning groups in one room (one teacher/one aide) and they couldn't move to fast because of the lower learners. She was also a very creative learner and one time in middle school (I believe) was told not to spend hours on a project because it would still be worth the same points. Way to squash the way a child learns.

Teachers will give children "Busy" work to keep them occupied if they finish sooner while the other children work. No real learning usually, just worksheets to do while waiting. I would like to maybe see them be able to work on a project or something creative to do.

If you are getting done with your work before others and have nothing to do, yes you will get bored. Then if you are always having to wait for others to catch up to where you are or not be able to move forward when ready, how is that helping you to learn? It creates lots of boredom for these kiddo's, then they get in trouble and sometimes are labeled trouble makers (my daughter never was thankfully) when they are just bored because they know the work, are done and ready to move on.

[LysesKids]

My brother was a child that could have been in school sooner than he should have. He was super bored because he was ahead of everyone else, so he got in trouble. It wasnt until about 5th grade my mom figured out the problem and he began taking harder courses in middle school so that way he would be more challenged.
He used to ask to go to the bathroom and pee all over the walls, start food fights, constantly goofing off.

This describes my daughter ... instead of bathroom breaks she would draw or write poems after her work was done; I fought the school for 6 months to test her IQ @ age 9; turns out they wanted to classify her as special needs because they didn't have resources for gifted kids and they weren't willing to challenge her or let her skip a grade. I started homeschooling her after that fiasco.

[TheMisplacedMidwestMom]

The only kids napping this afternoon are my own.

[sharlan]

My first colonoscopy is scheduled for saturday. Not looking forward to it but one of those special things I get to do since I turned 50::

The prep is a *****, but the procedure is fast.

My Dr gave me suprep instead of the gallon of the other stuff. It was drinkable. Stay as close to the bathroom as possible. I hope you took Friday off for the prep.

[Country Kids]

The prep is a *****, but the procedure is fast.

My Dr gave me suprep instead of the gallon of the other stuff. It was drinkable. Stay as close to the bathroom as possible. I hope you took Friday off for the prep.

I had to drink that gallon of stuff-took me from 6 in the evening till 2 in the morning. When I started to throw it up because my stomach was so full, I quit drinking it but had almost the whole amount down.

A friend of mine went in and hadn't finished theirs and doctor was like nope, need to reschedule. Drove an hour away to have it done and wasn't able to because of not drinking enough.

Did you have to drink yours through out the day? I was able to start mine once all the kiddo's went home.

Doing it on a Saturday would be great because you wouldn't have to take anytime off from work! Never heard of that being an option.

[sharlan]

I had to drink that gallon of stuff-took me from 6 in the evening till 2 in the morning. When I started to throw it up because my stomach was so full, I quit drinking it but had almost the whole amount down.

A friend of mine went in and hadn't finished theirs and doctor was like nope, need to reschedule. Drove an hour away to have it done and wasn't able to because of not drinking enough.

Did you have to drink yours through out the day? I was able to start mine once all the kiddo's went home.

Doing it on a Saturday would be great because you wouldn't have to take anytime off from work! Never heard of that being an option.

I had to drink the suprep with 32 ounces of water over an hour at 2 pm and again at 9 pm

[Play Care]

Yesterday for the first time in a year, I had six kids in attendance. It was AWESOME. We were busy, the kids were able to choose different playmates if they weren't feeling the one they were with, etc. I have always loved having a full house as it usually makes the day so much better.

I had one parent express shock I had "so many!" and ask how many the State allowed I ran low last year due to having an influx of PT infants (including theirs) but that was the exception to the rule. Generally I try to have ALL spots filled so I can, you know, make a living.

[amberrose3dg]

Yesterday for the first time in a year, I had six kids in attendance. It was AWESOME. We were busy, the kids were able to choose different playmates if they weren't feeling the one they were with, etc. I have always loved having a full house as it usually makes the day so much better.

I had one parent express shock I had "so many!" and ask how many the State allowed I ran low last year due to having an influx of PT infants (including theirs) but that was the exception to the rule. Generally I try to have ALL spots filled so I can, you know, make a living.

Yeah cause we all do this to be nice right. I hate when they talk about how much money it is or paying for vacation time. You are welcome to go somewhere else.

[ChelseaB]

Ugh. I’ve asked and asked people over the years to make drop off as quick as possible since prolonging it is what usually gives kids the chance to act up. Of course, I have one DCP who sticks around EVERY morning and has to carefully unpack all of DCB toys and belongings out of his bag for him, even though he’s screaming bloody murder if another child even comes near them. Which I make perfectly clear that:
1 - I prefer no personal items from home and am not responsible for them.
2 - I don’t allow that behavior. Kids understand that if their possession becomes an item of conflict, it will be put right away. She even knows this is my rule, as she’ll remind him that if he doesn’t share, Mrs. C will put them away. Okay....make me the bad guy, I really don’t care.

She then hugs and kisses on him until he does start crying, saying he wants to go home. Which, she finally leaves after working him up. Then, I am forced to put every item right back away and correct his screaming (which obviously disturbs the other kids in care). Not that she cares about that. Ughhh. He is an only child, so he already struggles with sharing, etc. no matter how often I reiterate my rules, she still insists on THEIR routine.

Well, I’m about to force a new routine of “Bye-Bye Outside” because my morning is busy enough without waiting 10 minutes for you to leave while giving snowflake treatment. This family is considering pre-k this fall and I hope they do. They’ll be in for a serious wake up call, if they think I am strict.

[MomBoss]

Why is it when a child is sick, the first question parents ask "anyone at daycare have...?"
Like theres no other way a child can get sick
Plus this child has pink eye...literally so many situations can cause pink eye.
Nope no one here has it! Sorry DCP, blame is on you! Lol

[Blackcat31]

Why is it when a child is sick, the first question parents ask "anyone at daycare have...?"
Like theres no other way a child can get sick
Plus this child has pink eye...literally so many situations can cause pink eye.
Nope no one here has it! Sorry DCP, blame is on you! Lol

I try to turn it around on the parent.... and try to reply with something like"

"No! Thank you for keeping Johnny home today! I certainly don't want him to get anyone here sick."

or

"No, no one here is sick at all but thank you for the head's up now I can forewarn other parents as to what symptoms to watch for. Hopefully you didn't drag it home from the office and catch it too!"

[Jdy2222]

Runny nose? Fever? Whining constantly when not being responded to immediately? Whining when frustrated? Not eating? Eating too much? Not napping? Napping a lot? Not sleeping at home? Excessive crying? Pulling at ear? Runny diapers?

Well, of course, it's teething.

Give me a stinking break.

[Febby]

11 month old DD finally went down for her nap. The other infant has been asleep for about 2 hours and the rest of the group went down at 12 (and they all went straight to sleep!). Why does mine insist on being the difficult one?