Venting Thread

**MunchkinWrangler** · 04-05-2016, 08:38 AM

Originally posted by Leigh

I swear that I would be more satisfied if I lit a $50 bill on fire every day rather than bothering to cook meals. These kids eat on the way here, they eat on the way home, and they know that they can have all the garbage they want when they get home. They have basically stopped eating anything at my house. I make things that I know they like (pancakes for breakfast has always been one of their favorites, for example), and they don't touch it. The only thing they are willing to eat is fruit, and only if it's a sweet one. I DO hear all day, though, that they're hungry and they ask for chips, pudding, fruit snacks, and pop tarts. It drives me nuts that I have to put all this effort into meal planning, shopping, food prep and then it all goes in the freaking trash can. I had a good group of eaters-now, no one eats a thing.

I'm with you!! The struggle is real!

Drives me nuts, and I my location got brought down a tier so the food program is almost not worth it.

**Leigh** · 04-06-2016, 07:26 AM

Easter Bunny

I feel so bad for one of my 4 year olds. Breakfast conversation turned to what someone got from the Easter Bunny. The 4 year old got upset and said "I didn't get anything from the Easter Bunny". His mom had mentioned that she just didn't have the energy for coloring eggs this year, but I never would have thought that she would have skipped baskets for her kids who have gotten them before! I wish I had sent baskets home with my kids this year, now.

**childcaremom** · 04-06-2016, 10:53 AM

Ok, I must parent differently but if someone says my child does not look well and has a low temp, I'm going to pick her up. Not wait for the magical exclusion temp to be reached. Or, at the very least, I'm going to check in to see how she is doing. And then I'm certainly not going to go gallavanting, visiting all over, so that it will take me longer to pick up if I need to. Especially if I am home on mat leave and NOT WORKING.

**finsup** · 04-07-2016, 10:13 AM

Ugh!!! Why is "what hours do you need?" Such a difficult question?!
First email "Monday-Friday potentially full time" ...gives no hours when asked.
Second email "well I'm a SAHM but looking for work" ...OK, then we could do a part time schedule or you could pay a holding fee if we're a good fit. "It's too hard to do that when I'm not working". *sigh* contact me when you have a job then....
Third email: " hours vary sometime between 8-5, 3-4 days a week and one night I work until 7." OK, which night? Does it change? Explain this a bit more...

Really people, just tell me what you need or explain a weird schedule to me. I will work with it but you've got to explain what you're dealing with.

**hope** · 04-07-2016, 10:26 AM

Originally posted by finsup

Ugh!!! Why is "what hours do you need?" Such a difficult question?!
First email "Monday-Friday potentially full time" ...gives no hours when asked.
Second email "well I'm a SAHM but looking for work" ...OK, then we could do a part time schedule or you could pay a holding fee if we're a good fit. "It's too hard to do that when I'm not working". *sigh* contact me when you have a job then....
Third email: " hours vary sometime between 8-5, 3-4 days a week and one night I work until 7." OK, which night? Does it change? Explain this a bit more...

Really people, just tell me what you need or explain a weird schedule to me. I will work with it but you've got to explain what you're dealing with.

I had this problem with an interview yesterday. I asked what hours were needed. Dcm starts a new job Monday. She said she didn't know her hours yet. She thinks she may be making her own hours because she "thinks her job has something to do with sales". WHAT?!?!?!?!? You accepted a job that you dont know the hours for. Oh, and you don't know the job description either.

**finsup** · 04-07-2016, 10:48 AM

Originally posted by hope

I had this problem with an interview yesterday. I asked what hours were needed. Dcm starts a new job Monday. She said she didn't know her hours yet. She thinks she may be making her own hours because she "thinks her job has something to do with sales". WHAT?!?!?!?!? You accepted a job that you dont know the hours for. Oh, and you don't know the job description either.

Oh wow! Smh...I'd be like well, you may want to call your boss and check in and then get back to me. Assuming you know who your boss is...(that last part would take every bit of self restraint for me not to say

).

**Snowmom** · 04-07-2016, 11:10 AM

Gotta love when you take an online course with message boards and chat room requirements... and someone in class takes it upon themselves to tell you that your policies you've shared in class aren't realistic and are too strict.

If the comments were backed by experience, I might be willing to give it some thought. But, nope; this person hasn't even been in the field yet. Not even a day. "Just starting the process".

Ugh.

**Ariana** · 04-07-2016, 11:19 AM

Originally posted by Snowmom

Gotta love when you take an online course with message boards and chat room requirements... and someone in class takes it upon themselves to tell you that your policies you've shared in class aren't realistic and are too strict.

If the comments were backed by experience, I might be willing to give it some thought. But, nope; this person hasn't even been in the field yet. Not even a day. "Just starting the process".

Ugh.

You and I both know they will learn

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I wonder what the average amount of times a caregiver updates her contract from the beginning of her career to the end?:

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**Ariana** · 04-07-2016, 11:22 AM

Originally posted by hope

I had this problem with an interview yesterday. I asked what hours were needed. Dcm starts a new job Monday. She said she didn't know her hours yet. She thinks she may be making her own hours because she "thinks her job has something to do with sales". WHAT?!?!?!?!? You accepted a job that you dont know the hours for. Oh, and you don't know the job description either.

What the??? :confused: Is this some sort of "placement" for some agency? I personally wouldn't hesitate to ask her what is up!

I had something similar. Mom told me in the interview she was a teacher but it turns out she is a supply teacher who basically goes from contract to contract (she was not clear about this in the interview at all). She has switched jobs twice already since September! Thankfully it hasn't affected the hours but commute time now is really bad.

**LysesKids** · 04-07-2016, 11:27 AM

Originally posted by Ariana

You and I both know they will learn

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I wonder what the average amount of times a caregiver updates her contract from the beginning of her career to the end?:

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Thankfully I found a mentor in 2000 when I started so I at least had a short contract from day one... its been updated at least 10 times since (last as of 2 months ago); policies have been updated yearly

**Snowmom** · 04-07-2016, 11:50 AM

Originally posted by Ariana

You and I both know they will learn

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I wonder what the average amount of times a caregiver updates her contract from the beginning of her career to the end?:

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Ohh my goodness, yes.
I wish I could say "yea, let me know how you feel in a year".

I'm going on my 9th year and I think I've updated mine every single year.
And that's about 5 little changes I've made throughout the year compiled into one "actual" update to the families at the end of the year.

**hope** · 04-07-2016, 03:03 PM

Thanks dcm for being late on a day that my DD has softball. I have accommodated your extended hours many, many times. Dcg has sat most nights with my family at the dinner table so you could work late. All I ask is that you pick up by 5:30 on days my children have activities. Dd's practice is at 6pm across town and it is now 6:03 and I haven't heard from you.

**lovemydaycare0912** · 04-07-2016, 05:03 PM

Originally posted by hope

Thanks dcm for being late on a day that my DD has softball. I have accommodated your extended hours many, many times. Dcg has sat most nights with my family at the dinner table so you could work late. All I ask is that you pick up by 5:30 on days my children have activities. Dd's practice is at 6pm across town and it is now 6:03 and I haven't heard from you.

I hope you charge a late fee and/or term if it is excessive. That is disrespectful and she does not care at all. You probably have my old dcm

jk..

**LysesKids** · 04-07-2016, 06:18 PM

Originally posted by lovemydaycare0912

I hope you charge a late fee and/or term if it is excessive. That is disrespectful and she does not care at all. You probably have my old dcm

jk..

Oh no... after one late, they are warned that if they show up late again and mess up my online class then yep, they are facing immediate termination.

I was lucky my parents were around when i did have soccer and T ball when my 2 oldest were younger (single mom) otherwise I would have been up a creek. Now I don't take disrespect so lightly and a few families found out the hard way - I socked them with late fees that amounted to over $100 more than once. Now, 2nd time it doubles, 3rd time - termination.

If a parent needs later hours on a regular basis then we re-write the contract and they pay higher fees to compensate, but nope... I don't do late anymore just because your hours changed last minute.

**Second Home** · 04-08-2016, 05:29 AM

Yesterday I get a comment on my facebook daycare ad . It said that my ad wording was familiar and they accused me of stealing their ad . My ad has been the same on that particular since last August , and I have used the same basic description for years when putting up fliers and iin my Craigslist ads .

I was a bit upset as I did not copy my ad from anyone else . But to accuse me on my ad was not necessary . I have never even seen this person post an ad on any of the daycare pages , and I check all posts daily .

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