Venting Thread

[daycarediva]

I got into an argument with dh over the kids sports of all things. BOTH younger ds's wanted to play a higher level/travel league team this year. It was $895 EACH for 12 weeks. (plus expensive supplies)

I found them sports programs that they are equally excited about- but are 1/3 that cost. (supplies included)

I think this area is RIDICULOUS with extra curriculars. ALL of my dcks are in AT LEAST one 'sport' (they are 18 MONTHS-4) One is in 4 and has something EVERY night. Their parents all talk about college scholarships. My own brother got a full ride scholarship, but he was beyond exceptional at his sport. These kids are barely getting play time. They aren't going to play MLB, NFL or NBA folks. Teach them to dress themselves first. HAHA!

[Controlled Chaos]

I got into an argument with dh over the kids sports of all things. BOTH younger ds's wanted to play a higher level/travel league team this year. It was $895 EACH for 12 weeks. (plus expensive supplies)

I found them sports programs that they are equally excited about- but are 1/3 that cost. (supplies included)

I think this area is RIDICULOUS with extra curriculars. ALL of my dcks are in AT LEAST one 'sport' (they are 18 MONTHS-4) One is in 4 and has something EVERY night. Their parents all talk about college scholarships. My own brother got a full ride scholarship, but he was beyond exceptional at his sport. These kids are barely getting play time. They aren't going to play MLB, NFL or NBA folks. Teach them to dress themselves first. HAHA!

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[tehck_1013]

So the grandmother of my dck's aged 2 and 7 picked up today. She was collecting their stuff and turned to ask me "No car seats?" I said "Uh, no, mom didn't leave them today." So she said "Okayyy.... I guess I'll be calling mom to see what the heck she wants me to do." and turns to leave, I said I have an extra one somewhere in the garage at least for little one... She said no it's okay I'll just call mom. So I thought maybe she would go to her car and then call and have her come by. But the next thing I know she's driving away! What the heck! The baby is only two years old and gma lives at least 15 to 20 minutes away.... If I had known she was gonna just drive away I would have kept them until mom got off work Unbelievable.

[NillaWafers]

My new 2yr old DCG has finally settled in, doesn't cry at drop off anymore or spend her entire day hanging out by the door. That's nice, however, she's decided that the best way to get her way is to break down in sobs crying "mama" for every correction I give her.

Here are the things she's sobbed "mama" for more than 5 minutes about:

I put her in timeout for putting her entire hand in butter on the counter (which she put in her mouth!! YUCK!)
For breaking books on my bookcase and scentsy bars
I took away her food that took 45 minutes for her to eat
I asked her to lay down on her mat
I took away the water bottle she had more than 5 minutes to drink from (at naptime no less)
I lectured her for stealing from the plates I was preparing for lunch
I told her not to destroy my board books
Anytime I take away a toy she stole from another kid
Telling her to go play while outside (she just wants to sit next to me)

There's more but I don't feel like writing it all. I know this is all "testing boundaries" and seeing how much I'll let her get away with (not much) but damn is it annoying and I hope she moves on from it soon.

[childcaremom]

This is my second vent about this dcg today

She has only been here 3 weeks and I've sent her home sick twice already. She came back today and mom told me she was fine yesterday. I call bs.

I was clear when I sent her home that she needed to have a full day at home happy and normal routine, eating, playing normally. Mom insisted that she had when she dropped her off.

She was miserable this morning. I put her down for an early nap and she woke up miserable. The last hour was unbearable.

Ugh. TGIF!

[Miss A]

Mondays are so rough. I have a 15MO DCB who will not nap on Mondays! He shouts, laughs, calls out to others, and cries when I lay him down. Today was made worse by dad not bringing him until after 10:30, when his usual drop off is 7:15. Then, dad u formed me that he was going back home, as he had the day off from work. Seriously? Ugh.

[midaycare]

Mondays are so rough. I have a 15MO DCB who will not nap on Mondays! He shouts, laughs, calls out to others, and cries when I lay him down. Today was made worse by dad not bringing him until after 10:30, when his usual drop off is 7:15. Then, dad u formed me that he was going back home, as he had the day off from work. Seriously? Ugh.

Sorry :hug: Some days are so much worse than others!

[Bookworm]

Is there anyway that we can have a Disney-style nap time? The kind where all of the kids are awakened by sweet little birdies wearing scarfs so they will all wake up happy and smiling. Then all of the happy little mice wearing vests will put away the cots while the lady birds change diapers. Sigh!

[ChelseaB]

This is more of a vent because there really isn't much more I can do, and I can't term due to needing the money. So I've just accepted it and will remain persistent to bettering the situation. However...

DCB (who is almost 2) comes off as a sweet-natured kid. However, he is really a bully (or at least trying to turn into one), and he is very "persistent" himself. He pinches, hits, bites, shoves, etc when he doesn't get his way. My DC area is in my living room, so he continually climbs onto the furniture and attempts to jump, bounce it crawl all over it, no matter how many times I correct him and remind him that the couch is for sitting etc and no matter how many times I remove him from it. As soon as I turn to attend to another child, he is back at it. He will grab toys from other children and attempts to hoard them since he has no intention on actually playing with them. He will climb onto the baby gates and do everything he can to pull them down, posing risks to himself and the other kids. Grabs the curtains and tries to twirl them or swing on them. When we go outside, he sometimes attempts to take off (my yard isn't fenced, but it's big enough that we have room), and I'll immediately pick him up and sit him down at the picnic table with me. If he continues, then we are forced to retreat inside for the remainder of the day. At meal times, he always throws his food onto the floor and has started a couple of the other kids at it too. I immediately remove the food from him and take it as a sign that he is not hungry. But even with that and more reminders that we don't throw food, the next meal is the same. And let's not forget that he also shows aggression toward my cats by smacking at them (they have free roam of the house but generally avoid the DCK).

Yeah, I reread that and realize just how bad it sounds. However, he is one of my full timers, and his mother is awesome to work with. She is a great parent, a role model that other DC parents could learn from. Plus, I'm having difficulty filling one of my openings due to the time of year and my area goes through hot and cold spurts of needing DC. However, she is a teacher, so I won't have him come summer. And I'm certain she isn't considering paying to hold his spot, so I'm seriously considering taking that time to replace him. Ughhhh...sorry y'all, I realistically know what I need to do, but unless he gets even worse, I'm going to have to make him my shadow.

**sigh**

Thanks for taking the time to read, I just had to get that out. This kid seriously stresses me out. Lol.

[MsLisa]

My only assistant called off this morning AGAIN....complaining she was "exhausted" from "studying" all night. Yeah, enjoy your sleep princess.....

MEANWHILE, I get there EVERY DAY at 6:30am on the dot, WITH my own 8yr old ready to go. Get 4 more kids right off the bat and do all the needed paperwork for the day while simultaneously interacting with the before-care kids. By myself. No problem.
She normally wanders in anywhere between 7:10 - 7:20am (scheduled for 7am mind you). Sits in one of the bean bag chairs, barely interact with kids, telling me her life problems while simultaneously surfing her phone. If it weren't for the early buses in the afternoon that come when I go to pick up my daughter, I would do the whole damn thing myself.

I have only ever taken 2 days off, a funeral and stomach bug. She has taken off numerous of mornings for various reasons and I even let her leave early for stupid s**t like concerts or dinners. I'm so tired of 20-something dipsh*ts.

[Blackcat31]

This is more of a vent because there really isn't much more I can do, and I can't term due to needing the money. So I've just accepted it and will remain persistent to bettering the situation. However...

DCB (who is almost 2) comes off as a sweet-natured kid. However, he is really a bully (or at least trying to turn into one), and he is very "persistent" himself. He pinches, hits, bites, shoves, etc when he doesn't get his way. My DC area is in my living room, so he continually climbs onto the furniture and attempts to jump, bounce it crawl all over it, no matter how many times I correct him and remind him that the couch is for sitting etc and no matter how many times I remove him from it. As soon as I turn to attend to another child, he is back at it. He will grab toys from other children and attempts to hoard them since he has no intention on actually playing with them. He will climb onto the baby gates and do everything he can to pull them down, posing risks to himself and the other kids. Grabs the curtains and tries to twirl them or swing on them. When we go outside, he sometimes attempts to take off (my yard isn't fenced, but it's big enough that we have room), and I'll immediately pick him up and sit him down at the picnic table with me. If he continues, then we are forced to retreat inside for the remainder of the day. At meal times, he always throws his food onto the floor and has started a couple of the other kids at it too. I immediately remove the food from him and take it as a sign that he is not hungry. But even with that and more reminders that we don't throw food, the next meal is the same. And let's not forget that he also shows aggression toward my cats by smacking at them (they have free roam of the house but generally avoid the DCK).

Yeah, I reread that and realize just how bad it sounds. However, he is one of my full timers, and his mother is awesome to work with. She is a great parent, a role model that other DC parents could learn from. Plus, I'm having difficulty filling one of my openings due to the time of year and my area goes through hot and cold spurts of needing DC. However, she is a teacher, so I won't have him come summer. And I'm certain she isn't considering paying to hold his spot, so I'm seriously considering taking that time to replace him. Ughhhh...sorry y'all, I realistically know what I need to do, but unless he gets even worse, I'm going to have to make him my shadow.

**sigh**

Thanks for taking the time to read, I just had to get that out. This kid seriously stresses me out. Lol.

:hug:

I know you said you can't term and I fully understand that but honestly that kid would stress me out too and part of me thinks maybe the solution lies somewhere you didn't think about looking...

Mom.

You said she is a model daycare client and a great parent but I have to ask, if she is such a great parent why is her kid such a bully? ....and that is what he is doing. I'm sorry but if the things he does at your house were strictly managed at home, I am betting he would not behave that way at your house and if he did or tried, mom should have the answer as to how to stop it then. kwim?

I would start there (mom) and have her find a solution that works before he harms someone else (or himself).

I would also have that kid be my shadow everyday. As for throwing food. Serve him one bite at a time. Have him "earn" the right to have more than one bite at a time served to him by showing you good table manners.

[ChelseaB]

:hug:

I know you said you can't term and I fully understand that but honestly that kid would stress me out too and part of me thinks maybe the solution lies somewhere you didn't think about looking...

Mom.

You said she is a model daycare client and a great parent but I have to ask, if she is such a great parent why is her kid such a bully? ....and that is what he is doing. I'm sorry but if the things he does at your house were strictly managed at home, I am betting he would not behave that way at your house and if he did or tried, mom should have the answer as to how to stop it then. kwim?

I would start there (mom) and have her find a solution that works before he harms someone else (or himself).

I would also have that kid be my shadow everyday. As for throwing food. Serve him one bite at a time. Have him "earn" the right to have more than one bite at a time served to him by showing you good table manners.

You're right, BC, I have a feeling that the answer does lie with mom. He has an older SA brother at home, and she has admitted that they rough house, although she has claimed that she has been stopping it. So his aggression probably lies with how he plays with his older brother and carrying that over here. Mom is super nice too, so I have a feeling that he is bulldozing over her in a sense. As for the food, I will have to try that, my fried brain didn't register taking it back to the basics with one bite at a time! So perhaps that should help with that!

One detail I forgot to mention is that he is a referral by a provider friend, and I've had him since school 2 weeks before school started (so the beginning of August). His previous provider moved during the summer, and her new home is inconveniently located for them to continue care with her...although I'm beginning to question if that's the full story. Lol. He has adjusted quickly here, he just doesn't listen... But thank you again BC, I will have to try your advice and see if it helps!!!

[ChelseaB]

My only assistant called off this morning AGAIN....complaining she was "exhausted" from "studying" all night. Yeah, enjoy your sleep princess.....

MEANWHILE, I get there EVERY DAY at 6:30am on the dot, WITH my own 8yr old ready to go. Get 4 more kids right off the bat and do all the needed paperwork for the day while simultaneously interacting with the before-care kids. By myself. No problem.
She normally wanders in anywhere between 7:10 - 7:20am (scheduled for 7am mind you). Sits in one of the bean bag chairs, barely interact with kids, telling me her life problems while simultaneously surfing her phone. If it weren't for the early buses in the afternoon that come when I go to pick up my daughter, I would do the whole damn thing myself.

I have only ever taken 2 days off, a funeral and stomach bug. She has taken off numerous of mornings for various reasons and I even let her leave early for stupid s**t like concerts or dinners. I'm so tired of 20-something dipsh*ts.

Good grief, Lady! I'd be ticked if I were in your shoes! Honestly, I'd be firing her and finding someone who actually performed the duties they are being paid to do! No reason for all that, and she's obviously taking advantage of you. At least put her on "probation" and force her to improve her performance or risk losing her job!

[Febby]

Good grief, Lady! I'd be ticked if I were in your shoes! Honestly, I'd be firing her and finding someone who actually performed the duties they are being paid to do! No reason for all that, and she's obviously taking advantage of you. At least put her on "probation" and force her to improve her performance or risk losing her job!

This.

My center would have fired me the first time they saw my phone. Or the first time I was late without a solid reason. Or if I ever called in because I was exhausted from studying.

[Sunshine74]

Warning, this may be long.

Today was one of those days where things couldn't have gone much worse. The roof leaked overnight, and water got in the phone/internet box. Biggest problem with that is our fire alarm is connected to an alarm company who automatically alerts the fire dept when the alarm goes off. With not phone line, we were not connected to the alarm company and the alarm box beeps a high pitched beep once every 5 seconds until it is reconnected. It can be silenced, but nothing we did worked to silence it. So my director was in a horrible mood and biting everyone's (staff) heads off.

Then in our classroom, the kids were wound up because we've been stuck inside for two days. Several of them got up on the wrong side of their beds and it was tantrum city all morning. Our (very) challenging dcg was on a roll today, she needed a teacher basically one on one for much of the day. We thought things would turn around after nap, but dcb woke up in the middle of nap and decided he wanted to go home. When he was told it wasn't time yet, he threw a fit, pushed the teacher away from him when she was trying to console him, and ended up waking up a few of the other kids almost an hour before we usually get up. Including challenging dcg. Which made the afternoon pretty much as bad as the morning.

Then at the end of the day, I had to go talk to the staff member who dispenses medication in another room, and I took our challenging dcg with me so that 1- the other teacher in my room woudn't be out of ratio, and 2- because dcg was on the warpath. The staff member I went to talk to asked me if dcg needed anything and I said, "No, I just can't leave her in the room right now, she's on a roll." And dcd was standing right behind me.

Sigh. Tomorrow is another day.