Venting Thread

[Lyss]

Ugh!!! We have a significant amount of snow (which we rarely get) and are expected to get more. Schools/gov't offices/businesses are closed.

All my families have called in, except one. My most 'cautious' family too!! The family where DCM picks up if there's a lot of planes flying overhead (she's concerned of chemtrails) or will leave town if there is a fire near her house but apparently icy roads are fine... argh!

[SilverSabre25]

Most common cause of my deciding to quit (which I do most days at some point, ) is DCB1.75yo and his screech-cry. He has one cry, which he uses for everything, and when he cries he gets slimey (nose, drool, tears, everything. It's really gross) and rubs his hands in his face and his face and hands all over me....multiple times a day, for everything from being bored to being bitten.

[jgcp]

Why is it the worst dck I have is the first to show up and the last to leave??? I think the universe hates me uggg and she wakes everyone else up an hour before they should. Fml

[JoseyJo]

Why is it the worst dck I have is the first to show up and the last to leave??? I think the universe hates me uggg and she wakes everyone else up an hour before they should. Fml

I think above is VERY common - I think it is one of two reasons, or maybe both in some cases:

1. Child is a handful so parents choose to spend as little times as possible with the child- leaving them at daycare, relatives, playdates, sports activities, etc as much of the time as possible.

2. The parents choose not to spend time with their child due to mixed up priorities- being a workaholic, liking to party, needing extreme amounts of "me" time, etc, so the child is acting up because they miss their parents and don't have a strong primary care giver laying down the law.

Parents who don't spend lots of time with their children also tend not to see the importance of manners, discipline, and self help because they aren't with their child enough for it to really make a difference to them if they have to wipe 5 yo Timmy's behind once a week.

I feel for you! I had a dcb whose parents were just like that. Never figured out if it was 1 or 2 but in either case the result is the same- a sad/grouchy/testing/"high spirited"/annoying brat- and it's all the parent's fault IMO!!!

[racemom]

I think above is VERY common - I think it is one of two reasons, or maybe both in some cases:

1. Child is a handful so parents choose to spend as little times as possible with the child- leaving them at daycare, relatives, playdates, sports activities, etc as much of the time as possible.

2. The parents choose not to spend time with their child due to mixed up priorities- being a workaholic, liking to party, needing extreme amounts of "me" time, etc, so the child is acting up because they miss their parents and don't have a strong primary care giver laying down the law.

Parents who don't spend lots of time with their children also tend not to see the importance of manners, discipline, and self help because they aren't with their child enough for it to really make a difference to them if they have to wipe 5 yo Timmy's behind once a week.

I feel for you! I had a dcb whose parents were just like that. Never figured out if it was 1 or 2 but in either case the result is the same- a sad/grouchy/testing/"high spirited"/annoying brat- and it's all the parent's fault IMO!!!

I think it is both 1 & 2. Number 1 happens because number 2 is the way these children are treated. I find in my experience any way the children that go from day care to grandmas or any other sort of care crave attention and often do not know the right way to recieve it so they become difficult.

[providerandmomof4]

Everyone has a horrible snotty, sneezy,germs flying, little boogery hands touching everything. Aah! Now today two of them have the smelly, runny, not quite diarrhea but horribe loose bm! And to top it off, I tell dcd that dcg had diarrhea today so please moniter the situation and without missing a beat he asks dcg if she is ready to go and eat KFC buffet. Seriously?Did he hear a word I said? Just get out...he was late at pickup too
!!!

[mema]

I think if parents come in saying good luck, don't know how your day is going to go, that they should have to take their child(ren) home and find out how the day is gonn go. Parents, be the parent-PUT YOUR CHILD TO BED

[DaycareMomma]

Dear 13 month old dcg,

Will you EVER wake up from a nap without crying like a damn infant?! I am so sick and tired of listening to your crying while everyone else is waking up nice and pleasant.

Sincerely,
Your cranky daycare provider

PS While you are at it, why don't you learn that no matter what mom lets you get away with at home, pulling hair, pushing my daughters face into the floor, biting, hiting and being held all the time are NOT ACCEPTABLE HERE. The rules have not changed in the 11 months you have been here!

[TwinKristi]

^^ ugh I had one who did this until he left at 23mos. Seriously woke up like someone stabbed him in the eye every.single.day! Mom hated it too but nothing worked for getting him to stop. Going in made it worse sometimes. I would go in and tell him it's still nap time and he needs to be quiet because Jack & Jill were still asleep. Sometimes he would quiet for 30 min, sometimes more/less. When he was sick he slept horribly and it made nap time horrible. Since he left I've been able to get everyone down for nap until this week! Not sure what changed but naps have been horrible this week!!

[Oss_cc]

Ugh. Today is my one day a week with 5 yo non napper DCG and her 2.5 yo younger sister. My 4 yo DD rarely takes naps, I decide on a day by day basis if she needs one. Of course with DCG here, no way will she nap. I let them play quietly (color, leappads etc) and they are usually pretty good, but today they decided to randomly be noisy and wake up all the other kids an hour early. Thanks, girls!

[TwinKristi]

Ugh. Today is my one day a week with 5 yo non napper DCG and her 2.5 yo younger sister. My 4 yo DD rarely takes naps, I decide on a day by day basis if she needs one. Of course with DCG here, no way will she nap. I let them play quietly (color, leappads etc) and they are usually pretty good, but today they decided to randomly be noisy and wake up all the other kids an hour early. Thanks, girls!

That was my day yesterday... Two drop ins were woken up but the hustle and bustle of the SA kids coming home but the other 2 slept through it. I said they could quietly lay there but laying there turns into giggling and playing so I had to separate them and they still managed to wake up the other 2... Today it was my DS who was doing it and woke up DCB. Kids!!

[Meyou]

3 year old DCG I really, really want to give you your valentine's box and treats this afternoon. I want you to have fun and enjoy yourself. The fact you took off your pants and put them on as a hat at naptime indicates you don't feel the same way about this afternoon as I do.

[childcaremom]

Dear DCP#1, Thank you for telling me that you will be picking up one hour later today, and that you would let me know about Tuesday and Wednesday. Please read my memo to you that lets you know that you may make requests and I will then refuse them.

Dear DCP#2, Thank you for sending splash pants for your child when it is -19 (so bloody cold) instead of snow pants. It is winter and cold and yes, that means you will need to bring her snow pants or else pick her up.

Dear Monday, I am done with you.

A seriously annoyed dc provider

[Wubby]

I just found this forum. Wow a place to vent. happyface
Dear DCM, When you call and say daughter 14mos. has a double ear infection and daughter 4 yrs has an ear infection, a bad cough (your words), a bright red throat, and let us not forget the pinkish red eye that could be a cold in her eye or an infection. And my response is "Call me tomorrow and we will see how their doing" Your response " What, I can't bring them, but I have a dentist appointment at 1" THAT'S RIGHT. Pull your head out of your butt.....
Thank rant over.

[Sunshine74]

OT, but I am sick again! I just got over bronchitis, now I have a cold. Hopefully it doesn't move back into my chest. I really need to build up my immunity somehow.