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Ugh! I had a family like this once. The children (especially the youngest) were terrors. I had to bite my tongue at pick up and drop off too many times and finally I couldn't do it anymore. The youngest was screaming because she didn't want to wear her shoes instead she wanted to wear her older sisters shoes. The mom told the older sister (only 4 years old) to take off her shoes so the 3 year old could wear them. This meant the 4 year old would have to walk to the car barefoot so she was crying. It wasn't the biggest piece of the bad parenting puzzle that made up this mom but it was the last one. I let it all loose. She didn't ask for my advice but I didn't care. I don't remember exactly what I said but I did say a lot, every single thing I had witnessed in the last few months was out in the open. I said it calmly and even compassionately but of course mom didn't want to hear it. I never saw them again but man was I happy!
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I'm registered, and logged out. Please bear with my need to vent. I've had a BAD BAD week. Short preface: I'm new to doing child care and only have a couple of clients. I'm in college. I'm a mom. My dogs are insane. There we go.
1. New client needs me from 6am to 6pm M-F. Monday morning, no show, no call. Emailed me only after I texted her to see if there was a schedule misunderstanding. Tuesday morning, no call no show. Oops, I didn't check my email. She sent me an email at 3am to tell me she wasn't bringing her child over. Wednesday, screw it. I didn't set an alarm. Haven't heard from her since. Look at her facebook only to find her complaining about not being able to find reliable, trustworthy daycare". HAHA seriously? (and yes, I always see if potential clients have or use facebook...because I am nosy like that. And I google their phone number. Never know what might pop up!)
2. I had a major final exam a few nights ago. I scheduled it at night, through ProctorU so I could take it at home, and when no kids would be at my place. Tell DH that if our son woke up, he needed to tend to him immediately. Son woke up halfway through my exam, I holler for hubby for 20 minutes (while my proctor is watching me on the webcam and can hear every sound I make), and she actually let me use my phone to call his cell to see if he would hear it in the bedroom). ended up having to shut my exam down and deal with it myself. Got a big fat F in the only class I care about. I just can't tell you how competitive grades are in my program, and all of my hard work this entire semester is just down the crapper.
3. I occasionally browse through CL to see if there are "childcare provider wanted" type ads. Tonight I am looking through there, and there are SO many listings for "preschools" and this one ad looked like it was typed up by a 5 year old! A 5 year old who can't spell! There was one advertising all of their medical training. For heaven's sake, if you are going to brag about your mad skillz, at least SPELL defibrillator correctly. My own son needs a preschool program soon, and I will absolutely not hand him over to a "teacher" that cannot differentiate "there" and "their". Oh, and what's with all of these 17 year old babysitters showing pics with their boobs hanging out all everywhere? Wth?! What is wrong with these girls???
4. My little evening guy came over tonight. He walks in the door and grabs a puzzle box off my shelf (right in front of his mom), took the lid off and started throwing the puzzle pieces everywhere. Was goofing off when I asked him if he'd like to pick out a yogurt for his snack, and pulled the bar off my fridge door (the one that holds the food on the shelf in the door). Can't fix it. So. Mad.
...I don't drink. But I am about to start!!! I am just so mentally tired this week. Final exams are done, it's FRIDAY and then I don't think I have any human clients until Monday.
Ok vent over. Probably
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Oh boy, I have a couple of kids that totally act up when mom comes too. It's so irritating. I don't know why the moms allow it. My son was in daycare for 3 years and he never acted like that. He tried maybe once, but I was not having it. I have a dcb in particular who is 2. He has a brother that is 7 months old. The 2 yr old refuses to walk to the car and will stand in my entry way crying or he will make it into the garage and stand there and cry. Mom will carry the baby in the carseat and also the 2 yr old boy at the same time. Mind you, the 2 yr old weighs about a solid 30 =35 lbs. He's large. Not fat, just solid. So, I have no idea how she carries both. Now if it were me? I would let him stand in the garage and I would put the baby in the car and I would get in the drivers seat and wait for him. Bet he would do that 2 days and that's it. Oh, not to mention the times that he refuses to put his shoes/coat on and if she puts his coat on he takes it off. UGH! All the while screaming and crying.Comment
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this "Great Start" program they are forcing on everyone is really starting to get on my nerves!!!!
...now my school district is offering Free preschool part time and full time starting with the age of 2
...who can compete with "free"? This is gonna really effect daycares around here
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I was so furious this morning. I have a part time DCB that is in pre-school. The school has a policy that the pre-schoolers have to be walked all the way in to the classroom in the morning, they do not have anyone standing outside to shuttle them in as they get out of the cars. Luckily, at this time, I only have a 2 yr old that I need to worry about going in with us..the rest of my dcks are school aged. It is a PIA to have to carry/walk the 2yr old in to the school every morning.
Anyhow, this morning dcm shows up with the part timer with 2 huge packs of cupcakes for his birthday that need to be taken to school. I mention that it is going to be "fun" trying to get him, her, the cupcakes, and his backpack into the school. She says...oh, I never thought of that, laughs, and walks off. (Keep in mind that dcm is one of those that coddles him and never makes him carry his own stuff, backpack or otherwise). I ended up carrying the 2 yr old, his backpack, and the lid for the treat container, since it would not fit with the packs of cupcakes in it, and I made him carry the cupcakes. Other than being a PIA, everything gets taken care of. I come around the corner on my way home, and here comes dcm, just leaving for work. She stops, rolls the window down, laughs and asks how it went. Why the heck didn't she take him to school? I have seen her on multiple occasions going by me on her way to work after I have already dropped her son off at school. I would like to wig out on her and ask why she doesn't take him to school every day?
I am thinking of terming these people anyway...they pay late, have a different schedule every week, drop him off on days he is not scheduled to be here. On top of all that, the 2yr old's mom is pregnant and due in January. I will be getting the baby in March. Not sure how I am going to wrangle an infant and a 2 yr old into the school, so I am going to term them in March when the baby arrives. I think that because of the school's policy of walking the pre-schoolers in, I am going to make a new transportation policy...as in I will not provide preschool transport.Comment
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I just saw on my Facebook that a girl I went to school with has her kids at a daycare in town. I don't mean to be judgey but her pics always look like her house is dirty, the play area is kinda dumpy and the kids always look all dirty too. She always posts weird personal things and about how sick she is and the problems in her life. I worked with her before and know her SIL and I think she's nice but a just doesn't seem like a stable person. I just don't understand how she's full and I'm nearly empty. I haven't even been getting calls! This other provider doesn't have an ad on CL, only a Facebook, Yelp, and our local R&R. How is she full and I'm empty?!?! I haven't had interviews with these people so it's not like they chose her over me or something, but I just feel like I'm missing something here.Comment
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Parents are all looking for something different.
Some look for quality
Some look for cheap
Some look for strict illness policies
Some look for a provider who takes sick kids
Some look for providers who let them pay late, arrive late and don't make their kids take a nap.
Sometimes it's the person and not the program, the house or the curriculum used.... sometimes a person is not the cleanest, fanciest, most educated or the cheapest....sometimes the personality of the provider is all it takes to make that connection between parent and provider.
THAT (the connection/relationship) is THE most important aspect of whether or not a client signs on or not IMHO.
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So as a gift for my MIL we do grandkid pics every year to update her wall at home. So my SIL comes over yesterday (DH's brother's wife) at about 5pm because she saw that my other SIL (DH's sister) came to my house to pick her son up (I watch him FT). So anyway, she comes over, brings her 2 kids (they live next door) and her, my DH's sister and my DH all sit in the living room/playroom while I'm still doing daycare to look through and pick out pictures for my MIL.
Her 7yo DS immediately begins to play very loudly and starts playing "guns" and "killing games". I have to remind him at least four times that at my house that isn't allowed while I have daycare kids. He then proceeds to wrestle with my 9yo DD, they both get in trouble and in front of SIL I have to tell him "you know the rules. I don't want to have to send you home". She says nothing. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!
While this is happening her 1yo DD is climbing on, pulling on, scratching on, pulling on DCKs faces and hair and finally BITING! None of the DCKs got bit but a few got pushed and my so. And nephew (the one I watch) both got bit. I was breast feeding when she started to wallop on a 1yo DCB and then proceeded to pull on his face and hair all the while I'm saying OUT LOUD "****** no. No pull. No hit. ****** no HIT!" SIL was no help until I had to call her name and tell her "****** is hitting and scratching him". Then my other SIL takes DCB and sits him on the couch for protection all while my neice runs wild and bites my nephew then my son. Great. DCB did nothing wrong and he gets to be punished by sitting out while she's allowed to go unsupervised running wild terrorizing the other kids.
Why is it that FAMILY always seems to be the most inconsiderate ones? She lives next door for crying out loud. They could have gone to her house to do this or at least she could have controlled her children. okay, rant over.
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I have a dcg who is really struggling right now. 3.5 years old. LOTS going on at home, I had to have her shadow me several weeks ago due to aggression towards others. Now that's done and it's towards herself.
At breakfast she spilled milk, she was upset about it and started stabbing herself in the hand with the fork (thankfully those plastic kid ones so it didn't do any lasting damage)
she was mad about the placement of her nap mat, and instead of moving it (like she normally would) she lost it and started banging her head on the floor HARD over and over again! I picked her up to stop that and held her for a bit. As soon as she calmed down she said "I not hitting my friends! No tell my Mommy!"
The fork stabbing was enough to make my other dcg cry out (I was cleaning up the milk off the floor) "HELP! Miss. ****! STOP IT DCG!"
The head banging was enough that my 14yo dd heard it from the other room and came RUNNING into the room to see what was going on, because of course DCG is screaming at the top of her lungs as she is doing it. Her forehead is all red and puffy.
I did tell dcg that it isn't ok to hurt herself either. Hurting feels bad. If she wants to be angry, she can hit the pillows, or the couch, or color a mean picture.
Back to her shadowing me. *sigh*Comment
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the vacation child
what is worse than a child who was held for every minute including nights for two weeks......one that is that and jetlagged. he also stopped holding his bottle and appears to be rejecting itComment
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Yes, Mom and I both know and it's being handled appropriately. She is seeing a child psychologist. The issues are from her father (past physical abuse) and the court ordered her to visit him. It was supervised, but obviously brought up a LOT of things for my little doll. She is such a jewel, and one of the sweetest, kindest, most loving child I have ever met when Dad is out of the picture so I am dealing with it and hoping for improvement.Comment
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Vent
First, I had ungrateful parents who gave me attitude because I changed the seating in our van. Mind you I pick up their children in the morning so they dont have to walk in cold! I really felt like turning around and telling her she could just walk herself!
Then we have a 2 yr old who does the "wet noodle" with his body and had a meltdown in my lap. (He does this often when he doesnt get his way) Except, he went from "wet noodle" to springing into the air and nailed my chin. I wanted to screaM!
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