Venting Thread

[CedarCreek]

Pick up for dcb is 4:00. Dcm is new and I just went over the late fees with her for going outside of contracted hours without prior notice.

She just texted me: hey, I'm at work and his grandma is running late. She will pick him up at 5:30.

Me: okay, I will add your $30 late fee to his tuition next week.

Her: oh..okay. I'll see if she can come earlier.

seriously? I'm really tired of these people TELLING ME that they are picking up at a different time. No. You ask and I see if I can accommodate.

[mom2many]

Seriously....

Just need to get a few things off my chest....

I've had 10 yo dcg f/t M-F for 7 years. Mom asked at beginning of summer if she could pay for less days and not be held to the normal contract during vacation, so that dcg could spend part of the summer with friends, relatives, etc and not miss out on some fun summer activities. Per contract, she was allowed 1 unpaid week off for vacation, plus any days that I took off were also unpaid.

I had explained that if she pulled her, I could not guarantee a spot in the fall, but would be willing to meet her halfway for the summer and that she would be required to pay me a minimum of 10 days per month (basically 1/2 her normal rate) and could bring her more if she needed, but that was the minimum pay I would require to hold her spot. She thought that was great and agreed to that.

In June, she ended up paying for 2 extra days of care than was required and in July, she did not attend at all the first part of the month. I was off from July 4-12 (6 of those days were my unpaid time off) and I was open 15 days total in the month of July. When she returned dcm hands me a check and says, "I deducted off the 6 days you were on vacation." I stood there with my mouth open thinking..."so you agreed to pay 10 days for the entire month and I took off 6 days, which left 15 other days for her to come whenever you chose, but NOW you think you only owe me for 4 days and NOT the agreed to 10. How is this right/fair?!? You can't have it both ways!" I don't normally charge for my time off, but she had agreed to pay for part time and it wasn't like I was not available for the 10 days!

I explained that when she was f/t we had a contract and this summer her status had temporarily changed and that maybe I had not been completely clear. I had never navigated through a change like this and one would think after 27 years, I would be more adept at thinking through things better. I simply told her what I'd expected to transpire and that next time I would be more crystal clear...ERRRRRR

It would not be so frustrating, but I've done more than the norm getting dcg ready for dance- complete with hair in bun, taking dcg to dance occasionally when needed, making an extra trip to school at pick up, because she has an extracurricular activity and provided care past my 6 pm closing on numerous occasions (almost once a week!) at no extra charge, because she calls saying she is stuck in traffic. I have willingly helped her with these things, so I'm not finding issue with these things alone... just wish she was not such a taker! It's getting old, but then again so am I! Maybe at 52, I am not as tolerant as I used to be! ::

[Lyss]

Ugh! I took vacation days last week so I haven't seen DCKs in 5 days and holy cow it's been a rough week so far! Makes me almost not want to take a vacation again (almost)!

DCBaby has screamed 24/7 the last 2 days unless held and the once great sleeper won't nap more than 20 minutes without screaming!! She used to take a 1.25 hour am nap, 2.5 hour afternoon nap, and 1 hour evening nap but now I can barely get 20 minutes out of her.

DCGs (1.5 & 3) have been a hot mess of tantrums and whining, plus they seem to have forgotten every rule.

DCG 2.5 has been whining constantly about wanting to watch tv "Mommy lets me watch it all day! I want tv!!" and wont participate in anything, just lays in front of where the tv is mounted.

[Blackcat31]

I have a REALLY cranky 1.5 yr old.

The family just got back from a week's vacation.... nothing wrong with DCK, just that apparently someone taught them during their time off that they needed to be held 24/7.....

Months of hard work, routine and consistency gone in just one week

I texted DCM to let her know to be "on alert" as I may need to send child home...

Mom's answer...."Oh, when 'B' gets like that, just pick them up. Or feed them. That works every time"

Seriously???

[Play Care]

My 3 yo dc boy is signed up for preschool in September. In June I mentioned to mom that his speech was not coming along as I'd hoped and he is still having massive drool issues. On top of that he is in no way shape or form ready to potty train (and I've tried) and will still have a BM in his diaper and not care. Mom seemed completely unconcerned until I made it clear that I was only doing ONE pick up and drop off to preschool and I was not going to be the one leaving work to go get him/ change him.
They are away on vacation this week and she told me she's hoping he will be potty trained when they come back...
I refuse to stress about this. I've done what I can and its not my issue.
(Now just remind me of that)

[Play Care]

My DCG must have gotten into her Dad's cologne bottle. Her bag, jacket, and lovey smelled terrible - I had to wash the bag and all the contents (spare clothing, bathing suit, etc.) because I couldn't take it.

[CedarCreek]

Cut off for drop off here is 9am.

9:06 and the two brothers are knocking on my door.

I answered and told dcd this was his only warning, I will not accept them next time. He says he lost his keys. I'm sure he did...

[Lefse&Kids]

Counting Down the Days till BYE BYE

I finally termed a dkf I couldn't stand any longer. The dcb is 5, not potty trained AT ALL, doesn't know how to drink from a cup (dcm says she only uses sippy cups at home), smells horribly like urine everyday, and constantly breaks all the dc toys (dcm says she "gave up" and just lets him throw whatever toy he wants to at home) URRRG!

I blame the parents soley, the boy listens well to me when mom is not around.

Mom says he has undiagnosed adhd (although, bases on what I've experienced, I'd say he probably has a touch of autism).

The mom (who constantly brings up that she lost over 50 lbs already), CHECKS HERSELF OUT in ANY reflective surface in my home! I mean any surface (my fridge, microwave door, window, mirror, ANYTHING....It is very obvious, she does a head tilt, a "rump" check, a hair flip, and a shirt "fix". It is soooooooo annoying (but me and my husband get a good laugh everyday after they leave: And pleeeease don't get me started on her self involved drama that I hear about (the same thing) every day.

But the reason i'm terming is that she refuses to live in reality that her son may have some medical background to his lack of potty training, or that she hasn't done enough at home. Either way, she says "he's just stubborn like me" or "he's just going through one of his cute phases".

I'm tired of changing a 5 year olds messes and replacing dc toys because he wants to break them....I just won't do it anymore. GOOD LUCK TO HER and finding a preschool that allows any child not to be potty trained and destroy property.......9 DAYS LEFT. YES!!!!!

[Sunshine74]

Thursday the batteries in the carbon monoxide alarm in our room got too low, so it started beeping (you know, that loud, high pitched beep that means the batteries are dying).... in the middle of nap! We went down for nap late because of our picnic in the park, and it woke up our four loudest dck's. Which meant everyone was up early. Ugh, it was a rough afternoon.

[Lil'DinoEggs]

Please, don't let me interfere

Ug, stinks when I have plans to do stuff at quiet time but everyone is awake. Oh well!

[MsLaura529]

I used to have a nice 2 solid hours of pure quiet during nap time ... Now I have a new DCK who thinks this is time to scream and whine (no crying, just ear piercing screaming and whining for Mommy and Daddy) for over half of nap time. I am constantly getting up and down and reminding him it is nap time and time to be quiet and mommy and daddy will be here after nap. I feel like I don't get that much needed break anymore ... didn't even get to finish my lunch today before it all began.

[blandino]

I used to have a nice 2 solid hours of pure quiet during nap time ... Now I have a new DCK who thinks this is time to scream and whine (no crying, just ear piercing screaming and whining for Mommy and Daddy) for over half of nap time. I am constantly getting up and down and reminding him it is nap time and time to be quiet and mommy and daddy will be here after nap. I feel like I don't get that much needed break anymore ... didn't even get to finish my lunch today before it all began.

I used to have the same. But now we have new infants, so no one is ever napping ALL at the same time. I miss having everyone down at once.

[MotherNature]

I only have one kid on Tuesdays- the 4 month old dcg who gets here at 7:20 or so. At 7:40, no sign of her & dad has only been a few minutes late once. Right as I'm about to text him, he texts me saying he's running late. It's 8:30, & they're still not here. My 2.5 yr old & I could've slept in. :/ I know you can't predict that, but it would've been nice.

[Play Care]

We were supposed to have a company coming this week to add some drainage to our yard (not in the day care area) and so far we haven't heard from them. I was looking forward to it because I knew the dck would have loved to watch. But aside from that - we really need more drainage!!

[Magic]

vent

parents that use the contract as fire starter
changing guidlines of contract
payment, times, late . early ...no show no call
no respect this is a bussiness
no respect that I have life after children
bascialy telling me how I am running my day care and being suprised when I remind them of what the contract that they signed says