Venting Thread

[SilverSabre25]

Wow!!!! Judgemental much? I don't think it's ANY of your business if people choose to circumcise their children.If you can't care for him then please don't!

Dcd is all "oh it's awful, it made me wince in pain" and I'm all, "DUDE you CHOSE to do this to your child! How DARE you say that when you CHOSE to inflict this pain on him to 'give him a pretty penis'?" Yes, that's a direct quote...ugh. I had regained a modicum of respect for these parents when I saw that dcb was uncirc'd, but nope, not anymore! He just wasn't "done" at birth for medical reasons.

Well...yes...I am judging them for this one! They chose to circumcise their son and are complaining to me about how he's "sore" and how it "looks awful" when they made the CHOICE to cause him this pain! Circumcision is a choice and they made it, I don't think they should be complaining to me about it!

I am caring for the child, I don't mind that...I DO mind not being warned (when I asked directly) that he's screaming bloody murder at diaper changes, needs this antibiotic cream put on which makes him scream *even more* and that he scream at other random times during the day for no apparent reason but are probably related to his poor sore little boy bits!

I don't judge them for their choice even though I do NOT agree with either the choice or their reasons (And I have a son of my own tyvm, so it's not like I have no clue..I also have three nephews...)...I am judging them for complaining about their choice and seeing their choice as such an inconvenience and imposition to them! "Ugh it was an awful weekend, he screamed soooo much"

This is a venting thread. I'm venting. Get over it. It doesn't affect my care of the poor kid, for goodness sake! I'm giving him extra cuddles and snuggles and apologizing for all the pain. I suppose that's wrong, huh?

Wow!!!! Judgemental much? I don't think it's ANY of your business if people choose to circumcise their children.If you can't care for him then please don't!

Dcd is all "oh it's awful, it made me wince in pain" and I'm all, "DUDE you CHOSE to do this to your child! How DARE you say that when you CHOSE to inflict this pain on him to 'give him a pretty penis'?" Yes, that's a direct quote...ugh. I had regained a modicum of respect for these parents when I saw that dcb was uncirc'd, but nope, not anymore! He just wasn't "done" at birth for medical reasons.[/QUOTE]

[SilverSabre25]

DH had to leave for work early and when he got me up I found that I am horribly dizzy...almost can't walk, very hard to function dizzy. It ****s. His sympathy? Next to zero. Grrreat...two babies and two older dcks and I am so very dizzy. Not sure what to do except try not to move very much.

AND 6 mo dcb was circumcised on Friday and I of course have to deal with the "aftermath" of it...I guess it's mostly just putting a cream on him at every diaper change but I *asked* last week what I would have to do to care for it and they said nothing, that he was supposed to be fine by today! I feel lied to and I don't like it. I have exactly ZERO experience with circumcision care and told them that. *sigh* poor baby.

Dcd is all "oh it's awful, it made me wince in pain" and I'm all, "DUDE you CHOSE to do this to your child! How DARE you say that when you CHOSE to inflict this pain on him to 'give him a pretty penis'?" Yes, that's a direct quote...ugh. I had regained a modicum of respect for these parents when I saw that dcb was uncirc'd, but nope, not anymore! He just wasn't "done" at birth for medical reasons.

[AfterSchoolMom]

Tell me about it! I let it go this time because this is a normally GREAT family. However, they will not be attending tomorrow without a check.

[momofboys]

Early drop off + nonpayment = Monday.

Bad way to start the work week!

[AfterSchoolMom]

Early drop off + nonpayment = Monday.

[greenhouse]

What happened to my sweet baby who never cried- he turned two and reciveved his tantrum papers. Holy cow! I am exhausted. Thank goodness it's 6:15 and he's gone to bed.

[VTMom]

Only day 4 or a 6 day school vacation. I'm going to have a nervous breakdown! DCB who has been a challenge from day 1 (he was here for a year and a half before going to summer camp and then school) is here on winter break (kindergartener) and I'm ready to lose it! He still takes 80% of my energy/attention with his fits, hitting, screaming, etc. This has been the longest week of my life! Next Wednesday will feel like heaven!!!

...and release...

[Springdaze]

Love to see this on my DCP facebook status, especially when she cant even pay her 40 a week copay for 2 kids!

home on my day off... just waiting to get my tattoo done by *********later today so excited and then off to spend some quality me time

[MrsB]

Last night was a rough night! Both of my DD are sick (ages 16 mos and 6 yrs) and took turns most of the night keeping me up. I think I got maybe 2 hours of sleep.

I am just praying that since I am so tired it doesnt drop my immune system so I get this nasty cold too.

Hopefully my group of little tigers will take it easy on me. I am feeling a bit like an injured antelope. Injured antelope doesnt doesnt usually fare well with tigers, but I will find the strength somewhere. I usually do.

[Meyou]

I only have 4 days left with my problem family before their termination date which is great. But seeing Dad in my driveway waiting for me to open AGAIN to drop off the kids when I know Mom is at home sleeping really got to me this morning.

Only 4 more days...I can do anything for 4 days. I can even bite my tongue for 4 more days.

[sharlan]

I just walked out to my garage and found my sil having a cigarette!

#1 He knows it's illegal, I make my niece smoke in her car across the street. #2 I've never seen him with a cigarette in over 10 years.

I found one in the flower bed yesterday and wondered where it came from, now I know. I am not too happy with him right now.

[momma2girls]

Well today a 6 month old baby came to my daycare, sounding awful!! She has been gradually getting worse and worse. I have told the Mom at pick up, how she has been all week, and getting worse. THis am sounded horrible. She is in a good mood, just sounds terrible, coughing and even breathing. I let her take naps, here and got worse throughout the day. Is in a great mood, but has been all week, and still sleeping great. I listened to her lungs after her afternoon nap, and sound bad. I let the Mom know, and told her, she really needs to be seen by the DR. Her Mom can't talk herself, hasn't been able to all week. So she tells me today, that she took the day off today, because she wouldn't be able to talk to her students. OMG!! I couldn't believe it!! If I would have known she was sitting at home all dang day, I would have called her and told she needs to take her to the DR. I am worried about RSV with her. I have a little 2 yr old of my own, plus 3 other daycare children, that she just infected. I tried my hardest to keep her away from everyone today!!! I had to keep my mouth closed when she told me she was home all day!! Well she will not be returning tomorrow needless to say, and if the DR. has her on an antibiotic, she will not be returning til next week. We will see. I am so mad right now!! WOW!!! I hope my own children and myself do not get it!!

[Blackcat31]

I wonder if you meant to post this as it's own thread. I can do that for you if you meant to.

The best termination letters are simple; "As of [date] I will no longer be able to provide services" kind of things.

As far as dcb, I think autism is probably right on the money. It's good that he's already in evaluations for it. If you truly feel that you are not equipped to handle his issues, then by all means terminate him.

Good luck.

She did actually post as a separate thread a few hours before she posted the same thing as a vent. https://www.daycare.com/forum/showth...373#post198373

[SilverSabre25]

I have had a child in my care for 3 months now. He is almost 3 years old. He is affecting the other children in my care. He is very abusive to me and to them and screams and cries all day. Mom was recently approached by his previous caregiver about him possibly having a problem. He is in the process of being tested for autism. Mom dropped him off this morning and made the comment that I was very good at concealing his behavior from her. I am very upset by this statement because I feel I have told her every time there was an issue. I did not come right out and say I think he is autistic. At first I thought he had seperation anxiety and was willing to work through it. It has become far more than I can handle and I have other children in my care to consider. I have included a list of the behavior issues for comment. I must give them notice. I do not know where to begin. I feel I have to be very careful with this situation. I desperately need help composing my termination letter.

In the morning when he is dropped off he cries and screams. This isn't all the time, but it happens a lot. Most children only had separation anxiety for the first couple of days or weeks. It has been months for him.

Leaving to go home in the evening is a tough transition too. He cries and whines and wants to be carried. I have begun to wonder if it is because he doesn't want to walk down stairs for fear of falling.

When I am preparing meals he sits at the table and watches me. I tell him to go play and he repeats me go play. He runs to look at other children and then quickly runs back to table. Almost like he forgot what he was doing. If he has to sit in another chair other than the one he is used to, he throws a tantrum and cries. I've noticed that he throws his plate on the floor, but only if there are peas on it. Peas seem to trigger something he doesn't like. Sometimes when he is eating his body shakes. I have only noticed it when we are sitting down not standing or playing. When I wash his face with a washcloth after meals he screams and pinches my arm. I do it as gentle as
possible and he still does not like his face touched. Recently he has started to spit his food out. I haven't noticed it being a specific food.

He has a hard time with any transition (cleaning up, moving on to a new activity, parents coming) anything that is different. When we transition to anything he screams, cries and whines. Any change for him causes great fear. If he does not want to do something, he hits whatever is close to him. He hits the table in a demanding manner or the nearest friend.

I recently rearranged the playroom and I could not get him to go in it. It took a lot of encouragement and he can finally play in there. When parents come to pick up their children he holds his right hand over his forehead and begins to shake and sometimes closes his eyes or rolls them back into his head.

Going potty is hit or miss with him. Some days he is great and cooperative and other days he screams and cries when I take him to the bathroom. He has not ever told me he needs to go or expressed feelings about it. I change all diapers with gloves and he is really afraid of them. The entire time I am changing him he cries, fights, kicks, wiggles and does not take his eyes off of the gloves. He has a look of fear on his face. I have tried changing without the gloves and he still fights and kicks and moves without the crying and fear of the gloves.

He does not engage with other children and isolates himself almost 100% of the time.

He is very attached to certain toys and stuffed animals. He walks around with the same item in his hand all day. I've noticed that he has started talking to the stuffed animal. You cannot understand what he is saying when he is talking to it.

He seems to have irritable bowel. Some days his poop is almost diarrhea and up to five times a day.

Repeats only what you say and cannot express his own feelings.

Repeats the same sentence or words several times even if I have responded already.

Does not remember that an action is wrong even though he has sat in time out for the same action several times.

He seems very clumsy. He is always falling. When we are outside playing he seems very confused. I have to direct him to the slide in order for him to play. And he stays on the slide until I move him to another toy. He has a hard time making his own decision to play with something different. Going up and down the stairs is very hard for him and he almost always has to be carried up or down. If I do not carry him he stands at the top or bottom of the stairs and screams.

It is very hard to get through to him. He seems to look at you but right through you.

He is very smart when it comes to letters, numbers and music. He is drawn to any toy that involves these 3 things and far surpasses the other children his age when it comes to knowing his letters, sounds and numbers.

I wonder if you meant to post this as it's own thread. I can do that for you if you meant to.

The best termination letters are simple; "As of [date] I will no longer be able to provide services" kind of things.

As far as dcb, I think autism is probably right on the money. It's good that he's already in evaluations for it. If you truly feel that you are not equipped to handle his issues, then by all means terminate him.

Good luck.