Venting Thread

[sharlan]

That sounds a lot like my eldest grandson, the 4 yo. He's gotten a lot better in the past 7 or 8 mos, but he would focus on one thing and stay on it forever. 2 special ed preschool teachers said he shows definite signs of Asperger's, but our local school district said no, it was because he lived in a child centered home.

At 2, he didn't really communicate his wants or needs, but could name every shark, whale, dolphin, etc. Between 3 and 4 it was trains, he knew everything about trains, but still didn't really communicate.

He's still a little quirky, but doing good.

[morgan24]

Nothing I can do about this so I'll just vent about it and get it off my chest. I have a dcb who is going to be 3 in Feb. He is obsessed with Thomas the train, he carries a Thomas the train book as a security book. He talks about trains all the time, points outside and sees trains. It's so annoying because it's constant. He also twists his hair, he just got his head shaved and now he rubs it. He cries over stupid stuff, like his sock is crooked. His twin is the complete opposite, she is out going and plays with every one. Not her brother, he sits there talking about trains or rubbing his head. He's also not potty trained and cries if you talk about it and he repeats everything you say to him, like if he needs his diaper changed and I tell him lets go to the bathroom, he says lets go to the bathroom and it goes on and on. He is my least favorite to deal with.

[Country Kids]

Hmmm

I'll take the actual words please.

We actually have a teacher at my sons school that teachers the sign for potty to the kindergardeners. That is what they have to use instead of using the words, I guess its less distracting if they sign it.

[nannyde]

What do you mean that you don't accept sign language "potty?" Doing daycare for 10 years and I have taught all kids how to use sign language, "potty" when they need to go. It works very good.

Hmmm

I'll take the actual words please.

[safechner]

Good for you

Make sure you emphasize that she has to SAY the words "I have to go potty". You don't accept sign language or nonverbal behavior. It has to be the actual words.

What do you mean that you don't accept sign language "potty?" Doing daycare for 10 years and I have taught all kids how to use sign language, "potty" when they need to go. It works very good.

[nannyde]

I have my info about potty training from NannyDe, waiting and ready to go for when they do ask!

Good for you

Make sure you emphasize that she has to SAY the words "I have to go potty". You don't accept sign language or nonverbal behavior. It has to be the actual words.

With a child that young I would not even discuss potty training. I wouldn't agree to putting them on the potty or having parent conferences regarding training. At this age they need to work on it completely at home without involving child care. He's too young to even conference about it with the parents.

[Sunchimes]

I think that is where the mom of my 15 mo old is heading. She's always pushed her to do things early, and the last 2 mornings, she came in telling me that the baby woke up with a dry diaper. My first thought was that she wasn't getting enough water and I would keep an eye on it. Mom's explanation was that she was finally old enough to "hold" it that long.

She has a new baby due in a couple of months, and I'm afraid she is going to want her potty trained by the time it arrives.

[LittleD]

Had my newest family, of 16 mth old, tell me they are going to try potty training! Sweet child is not goof with communication, but every time mom goes to toilet, child is right there wanting to imitate. Likes to sit on the potty. She hasn't asked me to try here, but has mentioned/hinted several times. I smile, nod and say "Good luck with that! Let me know how it's going!" I have my info about potty training from NannyDe, waiting and ready to go for when they do ask!

[nannyde]

I completely agree. Why is daycare the first thing they blame when their kiddo is sick? We actually clean and sanitize the things their children put in their mouth...the walmart shopping cart not so sanitary

Because if they claim the illness is FROM daycare then they believe the child should be able to BE at daycare when they are sick.

It's the providers fault the kid is sick
The kids at daycare have already been exposed

This kind of thinking is one major brick in the wall of parents purposely bringing sick and/or doped up kids to care. It makes them feel better about their decision to lie to the provider and mask illness.

It makes them feel A LOT better if they believe the provider caused it and the other kids aren't at increased risk because they have already been exposed and likely were the carrier of the illness to their child.

[small_steps]

I know.....

I guess it is only obvious when it happens to someone else?

I just don't understand why the first person they want to blame is me when they have taken their kids to Walmart and fast food restaraunt playgrounds 3 times this week already.

Eh, like I said, I am having a bad week. TGIF!!!!!!!!

I completely agree. Why is daycare the first thing they blame when their kiddo is sick? We actually clean and sanitize the things their children put in their mouth...the walmart shopping cart not so sanitary

[Cat Herder]

(Please forgive me Cat...because I do feel for you, but I can't help it....)

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I love when we have to point out the obvious....

I know.....

I guess it is only obvious when it happens to someone else?

I just don't understand why the first person they want to blame is me when they have taken their kids to Walmart and fast food restaraunt playgrounds 3 times this week already.

Eh, like I said, I am having a bad week. TGIF!!!!!!!!

[Blackcat31]

DCM: "Have you changed cleaners? It seems I am having to take twice as many sick days as last winter. I am going to get fired!!!!"

Me: "No, hun. Same cleaner, same routine. Maybe it is because you have twice as many kids as last winter?"

DCM: " Oh, yeah, I guess that makes sense."

Yep, I am having a Good Morning.....

(Please forgive me Cat...because I do feel for you, but I can't help it....)

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I love when we have to point out the obvious....

[Cat Herder]

DCM: "Have you changed cleaners? It seems I am having to take twice as many sick days as last winter. I am going to get fired!!!!"

Me: "No, hun. Same cleaner, same routine. Maybe it is because you have twice as many kids as last winter?"

DCM: " Oh, yeah, I guess that makes sense."

Yep, I am having a Good Morning.....

[Christian Mother]

My policy states that if they are scheduled for that day and I am open they have to pay for that day unless they give me two weeks notice and then they can use one of their 10 days I give each year for parents to take the kids out for vacation. And her kids are scheduled for Fridays when the holiday falls. I also require them to pay if they take off a sick day. The only time I don't require payment is if I close due. I plan to update my policies and have the parents sign again, but I doubt it will make a difference. I've been trying for 6 months to get one parent to understand I open at 7:15, not 7:07.

Then I would call her and if she doesn't answer advise her per message that per your guys contract that your paid regardless of federal holidays. If she wish's to take a day off it needs to be in writing..and a text message will not be excepted as form of writing. Let her know that she can use 1 of the 10 days you give her as a free holiday if that is how she wishes to use it. Other wise she will still need to pay. As far as opening time lock your door turn the lights out and if someone comes knocking that early don't answer. Not til 7:15am right on the dot. Then turn lights on and unlock your door at 7:15am if you have a parent upset tell them that you do NOT open up til then. If they continue to come early then will not be welcomed in to daycare. If they get upset advise them that if they wish to have a meeting on changing the time to best fit there needs to schedule one with you. Then at that time you can determine if you'd like to open early...but make sure you charge a extra fee for that service. I guarantee that if you put a fee to it that they will not come early or they will wait in their car.

What is in your phb and contract about paid holidays? Do you have anything in there about being paid regardless of whether the kids are in care or not? You might need to make a change this upcoming yr with that new policy. I ashually need to do that this yr as well. That way I am covered. Regardless as to whether the parent has a personal day or sick day what have you. If they decide to take it off and keep there child home then they will still have to pay regardless. Specially if daycare is open. She paid for that day so she always has the option to bring dck's to you....

My policy states that if they are scheduled for that day and I am open they have to pay for that day unless they give me two weeks notice and then they can use one of their 10 days I give each year for parents to take the kids out for vacation. And her kids are scheduled for Fridays when the holiday falls. I also require them to pay if they take off a sick day. The only time I don't require payment is if I close due. I plan to update my policies and have the parents sign again, but I doubt it will make a difference. I've been trying for 6 months to get one parent to understand I open at 7:15, not 7:07.