Venting Thread

[rhondawarren]

I thought I would come by and vent before I started my work day today .

I started watching this family about three weeks ago. They have a two year old and a four year old. I really hadnt gone through my rates to know what I really should be charging so my rates were set way to low (until now that I have decided to definately change them). So this family started and they arent paying near enough, they have two children and I agreed to watch them two days a week later than my normal closing time. They are full time but there dad "would be picking them up two days a week at 6:20p" and the mom would get them at 5p or 5:30p on the other days. Well now it is that the dad gets them more than the two days a week at 6:20p and when the mom does come to get them she comes when she feels like it most days around 6pm. She has already told me that her shift ends at 4:30p previously.

Anyways .... thats not my biggest vent. The oldest is the little girl. She is 4. Well she is suppose to be potty trained. She doesnt wear a pull up or anything and goes #1 fine. But ... she will not use #2 unless its in her pants. Twice since she has been in my care she has done #2 and both times ... it was in her pants! The first time it happened I called them and the dad said to just clean her up and put her in a diaper. He said she does this all of the time at home. I was like .... ummm really? I thought she was potty trained. So now I have not only charged a rate way to low but I had also given them a discounted rate for the second child (yes ... the one pooping in her pants).


Just had to vent this morning =) I feel better now!

Oh yeah ... they do not bring her a change of clothes either. So yesterday I had to let her wear some of my daughters clothes just so the poor child would have something clean to wear!

[sahm2three]

I am irritated. Assistant showing up whenever the heck she feels like it, parents leaving their kids here for 9 to 10 hours a day on their day off, and then they complain they never see their kids and expect me to be sympathetic. one year old came this morning super grouchy (and haven't been putting him down for morning nap or he doesn't sleep at all in the afternoon), and he is crawling around crying and lying on the floor. Took temp, it is 99.5. Of course mom says it is teeth. In other words, it is my job to deal with it, not hers. I am tired of shoddy parenting. I am tired of having to pick up the slack. If you don't want to deal with your kids, DON'T HAVE THEM!!!! Kids get sick, it is YOUR job to take care of them. It is YOUR job to teach them how to be responsible human beings. NOT MINE. I am so worn out. I need a vacation. But that wouldn't solve anything. I would come back and it would be the same garbage. Wish I knew what the solution was. I could really love this job, if it weren't for the parents.....

[rhondawarren]

Oh, yes, I can't WAIT to babysit your 3 year old and 18 month old at the end of the day on a Friday as a favor to you for no money. Especially when you just spent twenty minutes ranting because your youngest is cranky and won't nap.

LOL To funny!

[AfterSchoolMom]

Oh, yes, I can't WAIT to babysit your 3 year old and 18 month old at the end of the day on a Friday as a favor to you for no money. Especially when you just spent twenty minutes ranting because your youngest is cranky and won't nap.

[rhondawarren]

Pretty sure Im being punked this week

Well .... Let's see

I have had a week in my child care business that I was sure I was being punked! I had a couple of Child Care spots available. I filled two of those spots with a family with two childrens last week. The kids start and the little girl is running around the house talking about her mommy taking her to see her hooter girl friends at work. So apparently ... I am babysitting for a hooter girl. I was unaware of this until she picked up her children (in front of my own children) half dressed. I wasnt impressed.

Anyways ... So she brings her children on Monday and drops them off. I request the payment to be made the first day of drop off. Thinking it was in the bag I didnt mentian it. So she leaves. I have to ask her to pay me ... I mean you dont forget to drop off your kids but you forget to pay me as if I am doing this simply for the fun of it =) I told her from now on she needs to have the payment in my hand before she leaves them on the first day.


Then .... I am watching an infant. Well ... I just started watching him four days a week this week instead of the normal 2 days a week. His mom brings him in this week and says ... Oh yeah I forgot to stop and get him formula so can you just give him some of your milk and I will just get you more milk. I said fine. Thinking he had babyfood ... Nope. He had nothing to eat. Thankfully I had applesauce because none of my children are young enough for baby food. Well the next day she comes in with a gallon of milk and I said you didnt have to do that thinking she bought the milk to replace the milk that he had used the day before from our milk. She said oh well I still didnt stop for formula so here is some milk. She says oh yeah ... I put a little oatmeal in this bowl and thats it. The poor baby!
Im thinking how ... how in the world do you forget your childs food? I mean really ...

Im actually in the process of replacing him. Then I will no longer be accepting infants.


Needless to say ........ I am pretty sure that I am being punked!

[momma2girls]

My middle son was VERY colicky, and his lasted until he was 1. Then he was high needs. My husband says I get all the kids that would be beaten elsewhere! LOL! My son being so colicky gave me a HUGE amount of patience, so I am thankful for that. But I think I DESERVE a good happy baby! It was a terrible day today. One of the worst I have had in a LONG time! So glad the day is over!

I also had one daycare boy that was a yr. and just getting over it, when I moved- UGHH!!!

[sahm2three]

WOW!! I feel badly for you!! In all my yrs. of providing daycare, I have tried to keep about 5 colicky babies. One made it thru it about 2-3 months, and the other ones all over 5 months. I only kept the one baby, and I had to terminate the others. To me, even waiting 2-3 months, is WAY TOO long to deal with a colicky baby!! UGHH!!!! No matter how patient and kind of a person you are, it really takes a HUGE toll on you!!!

My middle son was VERY colicky, and his lasted until he was 1. Then he was high needs. My husband says I get all the kids that would be beaten elsewhere! LOL! My son being so colicky gave me a HUGE amount of patience, so I am thankful for that. But I think I DESERVE a good happy baby! It was a terrible day today. One of the worst I have had in a LONG time! So glad the day is over!

[momma2girls]

In addition to the above vent, here is my afternoon so far: one of the 2 year olds has refused to play in the play area since nap got over and is screaming bloody murder (he is my screamer who I have had since he was 4.5 months old and was super duper colicky). One of the 1 yo's started crying about a half hour after nap and snack was over, and is back in bed. OMG. I would have bet money THIS week was the full moon! Holy crap!

WOW!! I feel badly for you!! In all my yrs. of providing daycare, I have tried to keep about 5 colicky babies. One made it thru it about 2-3 months, and the other ones all over 5 months. I only kept the one baby, and I had to terminate the others. To me, even waiting 2-3 months, is WAY TOO long to deal with a colicky baby!! UGHH!!!! No matter how patient and kind of a person you are, it really takes a HUGE toll on you!!!

[sahm2three]

In addition to the above vent, here is my afternoon so far: one of the 2 year olds has refused to play in the play area since nap got over and is screaming bloody murder (he is my screamer who I have had since he was 4.5 months old and was super duper colicky). One of the 1 yo's started crying about a half hour after nap and snack was over, and is back in bed. OMG. I would have bet money THIS week was the full moon! Holy crap!

[sahm2three]

Colicky baby won't sleep, and cries like he is on fire the entire time he is awake. He is 5 months old. He needs to sleep. He slept about 10 mins this morning, and hasn't slept this afternoon. The kids walk around with their hands on their ears. They always ask why he cries all the time. One of the 1 year olds won't sleep either. It has been a rough day. I am ready for 5:00 to come!

[SilverSabre25]

Dumb husband.

Dumb, dumb, DUMB husband.

He had an hour for lunch so he came home today. I am exhausted from getting 3 hours or less sleep each night for the past three/four days and so before he left to go back to work he went downstairs to get the wakey baby for me. Baby naps in the same room with the rest of the dcks.

Well, DH (D does NOT equal DEAR here!) turned off the white noise!!!

NINCOMPOOP!!!!!

I didn't realize it until ten minutes later when my three dck were running shrieking out of the naproom, only HALFWAY through nap!!!

I went down stairs and I admit, yelled a little bit, making them go lay back down. I am SO tired and really needed a break today...not that I get much of one with DS barely napping and dcbaby just woken up but they are still easier than three LOUD preschoolers.

I called DH and burst into tears. He said, "Oh I'm sorry, I completely spaced out on that!" and then said he needed to go. Jerk. I know there's nothing he can do but still...HE doesn't have to suffer the consequences of his stupidity, AS USUAL. I am ALWAYS the one that gets to suffer from whatever new STUPID thing he's come up with to do.

[mema]

I am soooooo glad today is over. 5 year old asked to use the restroom. I asked him if he could wait a few minutes. He said yes. Few minutes later I asked if he still had to go, nope. Ok. Just before rest time I asked him to go. He was taking awhile. Comes out with poop on the back of his pants, shirt and socks. I asked him to stop and get back in the bathroom. There was poop EVERYWHERE Apparently earlier he didn't have to go anymore because he used his underware instead of the toilet I told him next time if he can't wait to say something. so I spent 1/2 of rest time cleaning the bathroom and the carpet where he walked out in his poopy socks. While this is going on the 1 1/2 year old is screaming in his pnp because he didn't want to nap.

[DaycareMama]

Never ever hire family to work for you. Such a flippin nightmare!! I have never met a person so useless. Now to figure out how to fix this problem ....

[AmyLeigh]

Bad timing!!

Now is not the time for me to be so stressed!!!
DH is working long hours, with more accounts coming on his route. That's good for the pocketbook, bad for his energy levels. Our children act up more when they don't get much Daddy time.
We are spending any and almost all free time helping out with building our new church. That should only last through the middle of April at the longest. So worthwhile I know, but again...time is stretched.
I have pretty much decided to remove my 2 kids out of the virtual academy and do hs'ing independently, so I have been trying to muddle through all the curriculum choices. There are soooo many choices.
And 2 dcb's have been acting up worse than ever. If I can get through the summer with them, then mom will have to find care for them after school starts.
I really need some quiet time to sort through all of the thoughts that are running circles in my head. I can't seem to get a grip on any one thing...ugghh hate ADD.
At least our family vacation is coming up soon....day spa...beach....Here I come!

[greenhouse]

Well...yes...I am judging them for this one! They chose to circumcise their son and are complaining to me about how he's "sore" and how it "looks awful" when they made the CHOICE to cause him this pain! Circumcision is a choice and they made it, I don't think they should be complaining to me about it!

I am caring for the child, I don't mind that...I DO mind not being warned (when I asked directly) that he's screaming bloody murder at diaper changes, needs this antibiotic cream put on which makes him scream *even more* and that he scream at other random times during the day for no apparent reason but are probably related to his poor sore little boy bits!

I don't judge them for their choice even though I do NOT agree with either the choice or their reasons (And I have a son of my own tyvm, so it's not like I have no clue..I also have three nephews...)...I am judging them for complaining about their choice and seeing their choice as such an inconvenience and imposition to them! "Ugh it was an awful weekend, he screamed soooo much"

This is a venting thread. I'm venting. Get over it. It doesn't affect my care of the poor kid, for goodness sake! I'm giving him extra cuddles and snuggles and apologizing for all the pain. I suppose that's wrong, huh?

!!