Venting Thread

[girlmomma]

I sent a notification a few hours ago that DCK hadn’t gone to the restroom all day, seemed to be holding it. DCP text me to say, “Try hugging DCK (while on the toilet) because it provides comfort at a good angle so DCK can go.” Ummm no. I politely declined.

wtf. I can’t make this up if I tried.

[girlmomma]

I have been doing drop off at the door for at least a year now. I don’t let parents go beyond my front door because it’s not necessary, especially at drop off because the DCK will act out.

I enrolled a new family and DCM seems to push her way in EVERY time she comes in. It’s become really annoying.

Today, I open the door and say “Good morning!” DCM proceeds to barge right past me and goes straight to my bathroom with DCKs. Leaves the door WIDE open while I have other DCKs here while her kids play the “I gotta go potty” game with her so she doesn’t leave. This lasted 18 mins! After the potty game, we had to play the one more hug and kiss game.

I finally suggested to her that perhaps they should do bye bye at the car and just exchange them with me at the door to prevent this game they’re playing with her.

She didn’t seem pleased that I called it what it was, a game. I guess we’ll see how tomorrow goes.

[Annalee]

dcg3.5 has been congested with phlegm all week and it's allergy season here; BUT she has thrown up this morning due to phlegm but I still called dcm as coughing has been going on all week so she text back 'I know it's allergy related but dcg want take her allergy meds' UHMMMM, who is the big one and who is the little one in this fam. I said 'well you will have to pick up every time she does this so I would suggest she take her meds'. dcm...'oh, ok'. I bet they get this fixed qucikly! It's probably just zyrtec of somethingFyi......this was throw up all over her; I have dealt with the spit up phlegm all week.....whatever she had ate before arrival was all over her clothes!

[Alwaysgreener]

I keep my screen door locked at all times for safety reasons. I see so many parents try to open my door on my cameras. I have two dogs. They’re not aggressive, but they’re still animals. Common sense isn’t very common anymore.

I use to lock all the time but my DH interestingly complained that when he got home the door was locked. He fails to lock it in the morning before work and DCD has walked in the morning while I was in the bathroom. DH left after dcg went home and did not lock it, we were outside and I had just given a warning so I could get this dcd into the house for a diaper change. Then DCD steps out of my house onto the porch 15 minutes earlier than their avg. Without thinking he took her home, and she left with a wet diaper. As families go, it has not been a problem until this one, even if they do come in, they stay at the door except this family.


Today, they were 30 minutes later than the contract time. No call or text, just late, I had other kids here and was waiting for her to serve lunch. I texted and mon=ments later they pulled in, both parents came but dcd brought her inside.

[girlmomma]

DCD walked right in again. I know it is on me for not locking the door after the last pick up but he was also early and dcm normally picks up. ugh!!!

I keep my screen door locked at all times for safety reasons. I see so many parents try to open my door on my cameras. I have two dogs. They’re not aggressive, but they’re still animals. Common sense isn’t very common anymore.

[Alwaysgreener]

DCD walked right in again. I know it is on me for not locking the door after the last pick up but he was also early and dcm normally picks up. ugh!!!

[CarryingOn]

Decided yesterday that I’m not accepting any new childcare subsidy vouchers in 2022. I also do not anticipate any new families who have them joining my daycare this year. Not saying it’s impossible but in my experience, chances are low.

It was always an idea I flirted with because, from the start, I highly disliked the idea of being paid after the fact. I only decided to accept vouchers to increase my chances of getting clients when I was first starting out. I didn’t want to pigeon hole myself.

But time has marched on and so has my daycare. I have improved it greatly. I’ve put in so much time, care, and money. And I still hate the idea of getting paid after the fact. I don’t feel like childcare subsidy families should be an exception to my policy.

It also hit me, I mean reallllly hit me, how ridiculous it is that the state puts the onus on daycares instead of families. You have to inform them when so and so was absent, you have to inform them when you’re closed, you have to possibly be audited. I’m not their employee. Why am I subjecting myself to this stuff? Especially when, if something happens, and the state doesn’t pay out for whatever reason, I’ll never recoup that money. Why is the responsibility falling on daycare owners?

Personally, I’m not against childcare subsidy itself but the state can give the money to the parents and find some way for them to prove that they used it for childcare.

[Cat Herder]

Just reading this now CH but you said everything I've always felt, so eloquently. You need to be a spokesperson somewhere!! If every provider told their state legislature this and had dcparents send the word along, maybe it'd be a way to change things. But then, there's the free preschool issue. Another sign of thinking of costs taking priority of what's best for kids.

It is not even about the "free preschool". The state wants access to the funding that comes with "free" preschool. They feed off of it just like the money from the school system. They just see it as another income stream.

They will demand "quality" while we are footing the bill to push us out, then once they have it they will cut budgets and lower standards the same way they did with public schooling. Nothing new here but young voters who never learned the history of the education system and daycare. .

[Josiegirl]

I am offended that daycare providers are being forced into pretending to be teachers. Care providers are more valuable to a young childs development than a preschool "teacher" can ever be. Without that foundation, kids can't continue to grow and learn, they shut down. We do not have to be "teachers" to be an important part of these kids lives. Young children need caretakers and safe places to explore, not teachers.

I added a preschool curriculum because I was forced to by licensing. Kids get enough of that from age 5 on.... I wanted to provide care and a safe, fun place to spend the day full of healthy food, interesting toys and happy peers to learn from.

My step sisters and neices are teachers. They have masters degrees and earned the title teacher. Preschool is a made up concept that is entirely irrelevant by age 6. It has been proven so many times. What can't be replaced is good food, safety, a sense of belonging and mental health, the things that care provides. That is the foundation these kids need, not preschool.

Basic needs first, then school.

Just reading this now CH but you said everything I've always felt, so eloquently. You need to be a spokesperson somewhere!! If every provider told their state legislature this and had dcparents send the word along, maybe it'd be a way to change things. But then, there's the free preschool issue. Another sign of thinking of costs taking priority of what's best for kids.

[Cat Herder]

I am offended that daycare providers are being forced into pretending to be teachers. Care providers are more valuable to a young childs development than a preschool "teacher" can ever be. Without that foundation, kids can't continue to grow and learn, they shut down. We do not have to be "teachers" to be an important part of these kids lives. Young children need caretakers and safe places to explore, not teachers.

I added a preschool curriculum because I was forced to by licensing. Kids get enough of that from age 5 on.... I wanted to provide care and a safe, fun place to spend the day full of healthy food, interesting toys and happy peers to learn from.

My step sisters and neices are teachers. They have masters degrees and earned the title teacher. Preschool is a made up concept that is entirely irrelevant by age 6. It has been proven so many times. What can't be replaced is good food, safety, a sense of belonging and mental health, the things that care provides. That is the foundation these kids need, not preschool.

Basic needs first, then school.

[Snowmom]

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Why is it, that adults who work at a preschool building outside of the home are called teachers, but an adult who does in-home preschool is not considered a teacher?

I get so offended that I do the same, if not more, than the preschool that is offered here, but I don't get credit for it! When dcks go to preschool for 2 hours, it's "school", but when they come here, it's "Miss ******* house". I offer an amazing curriculum and put my own money back into my business all the time. It ****s to not get the recognition and just be known as a sitter. Just a pet peeve of mine and made me feel a little down today :/

I hear ya. That's frustrating and definitely under appreciated.

Personally, I do WAY more than most preschools do in terms of school prep (social, emotional and academically). But I honestly am glad I don't have the label of teacher. It less pressuring when I want to have just a play day or switch things up.
I started out doing pretty minimal curriculum in the beginning. But in the past decade or so, there's a serious pressure to include more and more academics from both state and clientele. It's maddening really.

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Why is it, that adults who work at a preschool building outside of the home are called teachers, but an adult who does in-home preschool is not considered a teacher?

I get so offended that I do the same, if not more, than the preschool that is offered here, but I don't get credit for it! When dcks go to preschool for 2 hours, it's "school", but when they come here, it's "Miss ******* house". I offer an amazing curriculum and put my own money back into my business all the time. It ****s to not get the recognition and just be known as a sitter. Just a pet peeve of mine and made me feel a little down today :/

[dolores]

Just love when the kids get old enough to tell me that dad gave them medicine this morning :/

...and other things going on in their homes and family life

Just love when the kids get old enough to tell me that dad gave them medicine this morning :/

[CarryingOn]

I wish there wasn't alway something with the parents I come into contact with.

Wanting to enroll but oop! she doesn't vaccinate her child. Not in this lifetime. It would be just my luck.

Wanting their child to attend but oop! they don't get paid until 2025. No! And don't ask in the first place.

Is it really that hard to send the child's doctor a health form to fill out? One that the state has required of me to have on hand?

Why, yes I can tell that you're trying to weasel out of paying the tuition for the days that you chose for your kids to attend now that you've realized I'm holding you to it. Maybe you should've thought about how you were going to pay childcare tuition for two children, before you had the second child.

You didn't know childcare wasn't free? How? My prices are too expensive but you want your child to be in care 40 hours a week at the least and you'd basically be paying under 5 dollars an hour when it's all broken down?