I accepted a temporary family for the summer. I’m so glad they’re temporary. Every morning, it’s negotiation after negotiation to get them in door. And OMG, the special treat crap! “If you show me how to walk into Ms. GirlMomma’s, you’ll get a special treat when I pick you up!” One day, DCM tried to look at me (in a mom-to-mom way) and said, “I don’t even know what special treat I’m going to give them today.” I ignored her, I can’t relate. My girls don’t get special treats when they do what is expected of them.
I don’t engage in the twins ridiculous behavior or persuade them to come in. I force the parents figure it out. At 4YO, they are fully capable of walking in the door when they’re asked to do so by an adult. It’s the parents fault for not setting clear expectations and boundaries for the child.
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Guest repliedI realize this is a general question but I have to ask? What happened to parents and children? Closed in 2016 reopened in 2022. The toddlers and preschoolers are leading the parents. They come in the house when they’re ready, consistently bickering, breaking toys, very “needy”. I have a quality program w/experiential curriculum. We cook, engage in sensory play etc. however they can not attend to a task more than five minutes. I absolutely love working with children this is the first time in 20 years that I absolutely hate opening my door in the morning. I used to look fwd. to my day. Am I the only one? -
e.j. I don't take school agers, either....this sister ages out in a few weeks to start school. That's a good response, I'll try that! -
I've had older siblings that have done the same thing and it's just one of the reasons I don't usually let school age siblings come during the summer or on school vacation weeks if I can help it. I once had to tell an older kid, "You're a great big sister and I know B*** loves you. When you're here at daycare, though, your job is to play and be a kid. It's my job to make sure your sister is taken care of. Why don't you go play and have some fun and I'll take care of B***." -
Siblings...
I don't mind then, but I've got one set that are aeveral yeara apart. Big sister is always saying things like "are you going to feed him?", "don't forget to give him his water", "he's all done, you need to get him down", "he's crying".
Like, yes. I know what I'm doing. Thank you
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My kindy child was KICKING my door this morning so I open the door and say 'now what's this kicking all about'...dcm looks clueless, never even acted like she heard me....I took the 1.5 year old sibling by the hand and told dcb5 to come on in......this is his LAST WEEK.....down to hours till dcb5 leaves.....she is BEGGING me still to keep him when schools out...... NOPE NOPE NOPE, did I say NOPE....uhm NOPE......NOPE....another text......NOPE....another text....still NOPE! 
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My heart goes out to you! It can make for a long, miserable summer. I had 3 kids going off to school last year and although they were all good kids, the energy level was through the roof. I couldn't wait until September when they were all due to ship out.
After kicking myself so many times over the years during the summer months, I've learned to tell parents I don't have any openings for kids over the age of 5. Sometimes it's obvious that I do have an opening, so I end up taking an older sibling who used to be enrolled here just for a day or two. As much as I still love them all, having them back for the day is enough to remind me why I no longer take school aged kids for the summer. -
@gumdrops
I have my DD11, dcb10 and Dcg6.5 (ds5 that starts school in the fall but he still plays with the daycare kids and plays in his room during nap)
My DD has summer work that I assigned her, she has 45 minutes to do in the morning. I print packets offline for dcg6.5. I bought science kits off Amazon for the dcb10. He does a kit a week, there is six kids per box in the boxes cost about $20. He's only here two days a week and just assembles during free play.
All the kids are required to read it quietly for 20-30 minutes at the beginning of nap time. They bring books from home but if they request something I'll grab it from the library.
Then for June it they made a book. They had to write and illustrate the book. Then I stapled it and made a cover. My daughter read hers to the kids during circle time.
For July they're making their own game board. They have to name the game, come up with rules and make pieces. Then everything will get laminated and put in a bag for them to take home. And they can play the game before they take it home.
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Every year I tell myself DO NOT TAKE SCHOOL AGE KIDS IN THE SUMMER! Then every year I want to work with my teacher family, so I allow them to keep their kids at home in the summer and I pick up another regular family's school age kids and by July I want to bang my head against the wall! They are good kids, but they get bored and loud and I hate my job! It doesn't help that this year I have another DCK who will be going to K in the fall, so it's like having 3 school agers...all boys....all loud!Leave a comment:
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I think you hit the nail on the head - I think they like starting drama. I’m usually very nice and won’t engage but I was so angry Friday that I sent a reply text that said something like it’s such a shame you didn’t express your concerns before confirming in June since we’ve already paid for the bus. Dcm replied yea it’s such a shame I didn’t know about the seating situation in June and I guess we can participate in the fundraising…
..: that’s where I’m confused… I gave them all the info; how did they think their kid was going to go on the bus? I listed the info and even linked the bus safety info… then fundraising is over. Everyone turned it in Thursday and I placed the order Friday so too little too late
But it is what it is: I’m actively trying to replace. I
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sahm1225 They state that they have safety concerns and have opted out of the trip & fundraising. And claim that their job will not allow them to take off work but yet they work at home and then at Father's Day complain about the gifts or lack thereof. I'm sorry but if I were you, I would either have a meeting with them and discuss ALL of their concerns or I would quit listening to their complaining because it sounds like to me all they enjoy doing is creating drama and love to have something started.Leave a comment:
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This is vent but at the same time it’s funny: same family I’ve vented about above about the lack of Father’s Day gifts, so one that has had a star on the calendar that kept getting moved up.
we have a field trip next week. We’re taking a school bus. Parents have been helping with fundraising and it’s going amazing. Every family said YES before we booked. Every family (even infants who are not attending) has helped with fundraising. It’s been cute fun stuff and we needed to raise $100 which two families were wanting to donate outright to help so it’s been amazing and so much fun. We borrowed a popcorn maker from our local school and my kids and former teenage daycare kids sold popcorn. It’s just been really nice.
That family hasn’t participated in anything. despite TONs of ways to participate. Today they say there’s safety concerns so they’re opting out of trip AND fundraising. I gave a different option - (both work from home, flexible jobs). Drive dck to/from field trip. Nope saying work isn’t flexible and they can’t take the day off.., so that means that they need to pay for the day AND keep dck home ♀️. Not sure they’ve thought things through but I just submitted the final numbers to the bus company and I have their texts confirming they are not attending soooLeave a comment:
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DCG keeps snapping at me and screaming. She is not listening. Ex I say "X you it is your turn to go potty". DCG screams "I don't want to go potty". I say "dcg, I was talking to x." DCG "Oh".
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