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Agreed! And mine all woke up SUPER crabby after nap. So many activities were planned for today, and not a single one was done because of the serious Monday funk on these Kiddos. Tomorrow better be better!
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I about vented the same thing. All my responses to my ads have been, well this one can do it for this price and blah blah blah. A lot of emails, no interviews. I'm beyond frustrated. I wish you luck, we should just start flagging all the SAHM's ads.This area is sooooo damn saturated with SAHM wannabe babysitters that one even had the nerve to mimic my ad on Craigslist. I guess I should be flattered but holy heck, back the heck off. I spent a lot of time and energy making my website, coming up with my ads and all that. And for what? To be one of 1000 others in this god forsaken area that think they can do it too.
I really don't want to resort to retail or another stupid arse center.....
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Why? Just why?!? I have THAT baby. The one who has been raised with attachment parenting. The one that SCREAMS (not just cries, absolutely screams bloody murder). She is nursed to sleep (she does NOT drink from bottles), and DCM admits that she is NEVER alone with anyone else, Mom is always around (even dad never has her without mom). Except me. Baby will only remain relatively calm if I'm holding her. Sometimes. I do my best to entertain her with toys and books, but if I even get up to assist another child, she screams and crawls after me. I will do my best to redirect her attention, picking her up and replacing her with her things -- nope. She continues to scream and crawls right back after me. She is only here for maybe 2 hrs 2 days a week in the afternoon. She has already had nap and breastmilk, I'll often give her her food lunch. Otherwise, we spend the rest of our time listening to her scream.
I'm at my wits end. I do want to help this mom because she is wonderful. But baby is miserable and will want to crawl to the door where mom exited and cry for her. I often spend the first few minutes with her leaning toward that door, waiting for mom to come back. I have never...it only gets worse as the hours drag on. Mom has come back and picked her up before when it was absolutely unacceptable -- she understands the issues, but I don't know if home life is changing to help accommodate baby. I feel like I just need to term and wash my hands of the situation, but I hate admitting defeat and don't want to let this lovely family down. Agh. Only 40 more minutes to go.
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:hug: terminating is NOT defeat. I wish providers didnt automatically feel that way. Its not YOUR job to fix anything.Why? Just why?!? I have THAT baby. The one who has been raised with attachment parenting. The one that SCREAMS (not just cries, absolutely screams bloody murder). She is nursed to sleep (she does NOT drink from bottles), and DCM admits that she is NEVER alone with anyone else, Mom is always around (even dad never has her without mom). Except me. Baby will only remain relatively calm if I'm holding her. Sometimes. I do my best to entertain her with toys and books, but if I even get up to assist another child, she screams and crawls after me. I will do my best to redirect her attention, picking her up and replacing her with her things -- nope. She continues to scream and crawls right back after me. She is only here for maybe 2 hrs 2 days a week in the afternoon. She has already had nap and breastmilk, I'll often give her her food lunch. Otherwise, we spend the rest of our time listening to her scream.
I'm at my wits end. I do want to help this mom because she is wonderful. But baby is miserable and will want to crawl to the door where mom exited and cry for her. I often spend the first few minutes with her leaning toward that door, waiting for mom to come back. I have never...it only gets worse as the hours drag on. Mom has come back and picked her up before when it was absolutely unacceptable -- she understands the issues, but I don't know if home life is changing to help accommodate baby. I feel like I just need to term and wash my hands of the situation, but I hate admitting defeat and don't want to let this lovely family down. Agh. Only 40 more minutes to go.
In this situation its no different than me putting you in the desert and telling you to pour yourself a glass of water. Its simply not doable.
Mom is not giving her child the skills to thrive in child care and that leaves you basically rowing against the current....kwim?
Mom might be the nicest mom ever but nice doesnt fix this.
NOamount of money would be worth it for me to continue on. I would term. Especially because its not even full time income.Comment
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Completely agree with BC about letting the baby go. Two hours 2 days a week isn't going to fix anything. Is she hoping to build into FT? I still wouldn't do it. A family group isn't built for adding another child this high maintenance. Takes away so much from everyone else, especially you!!
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I sent dcg1 and dcg2 home at 3 today with 101 temps. dcg1 mom said "I have meds that will fix her up and will see you in the morn".....I said "no ma'am, she has to be fever free for 24 hours without meds".....she looked at me like I was not human:
: We will see how this plays out! The mom of dcg2 said she knew when she left dcg2 this morn, she didn't feel good
Providers should NOT have to tell parents when to bring and not bring their child to daycare....I get tired of "telling" all the time!
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HUGE pet peeve of mine, as well. I switched to the 24/48 rule because of dcps like this.I sent dcg1 and dcg2 home at 3 today with 101 temps. dcg1 mom said "I have meds that will fix her up and will see you in the morn".....I said "no ma'am, she has to be fever free for 24 hours without meds".....she looked at me like I was not human:: We will see how this plays out! The mom of dcg2 said she knew when she left dcg2 this morn, she didn't feel good Providers should NOT have to tell parents when to bring and not bring their child to daycare....I get tired of "telling" all the time! Comment
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DCB 4 had a huge potty accident five minutes before pick up yesterday, I won't go into gross details but the fact that he tried to clean it up himself made things so much worse
I clean up kiddo first, say you need to not hold it so long and ask for help if you have an accident. Then clean up nd sanitize bathroom. Quietly out of earshot tell diva DCM what happened, I can tell she is emberrassed and doesn't want to hear it. Today. I get phone call from DCD saying how emberrassed DCB is and how much they trust me butDCB hasn't had an accident in a very long time and and he's not trying be over protective but.....
But what! Your kid pooped himself...get over it. DCM had Dad call me a few months ago to grill me about a time out.
Hate to break it to you DCM your child isn't perfect. I really mind feeling like I will get reprimanded by DCD everytime DCM feels a little emberrassed about typical kid behaviors.Comment
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Somehow it's YOUR fault that their kid pooped his pants? It would have been so hard not to tell DCD and DCM how STOOOOPID they are!DCB 4 had a huge potty accident five minutes before pick up yesterday, I won't go into gross details but the fact that he tried to clean it up himself made things so much worse I clean up kiddo first, say you need to not hold it so long and ask for help if you have an accident. Then clean up nd sanitize bathroom. Quietly out of earshot tell diva DCM what happened, I can tell she is emberrassed and doesn't want to hear it. Today. I get phone call from DCD saying how emberrassed DCB is and how much they trust me butDCB hasn't had an accident in a very long time and and he's not trying be over protective but.....
But what! Your kid pooped himself...get over it. DCM had Dad call me a few months ago to grill me about a time out.
Hate to break it to you DCM your child isn't perfect. I really mind feeling like I will get reprimanded by DCD everytime DCM feels a little emberrassed about typical kid behaviors..
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I would be telling DCM that the next time DCD calls you to "yell" at you, it will be the last time. I would terminate care over something like that because it is nothing short of disrespectful and rude!DCB 4 had a huge potty accident five minutes before pick up yesterday, I won't go into gross details but the fact that he tried to clean it up himself made things so much worse I clean up kiddo first, say you need to not hold it so long and ask for help if you have an accident. Then clean up nd sanitize bathroom. Quietly out of earshot tell diva DCM what happened, I can tell she is emberrassed and doesn't want to hear it. Today. I get phone call from DCD saying how emberrassed DCB is and how much they trust me butDCB hasn't had an accident in a very long time and and he's not trying be over protective but.....
But what! Your kid pooped himself...get over it. DCM had Dad call me a few months ago to grill me about a time out.
Hate to break it to you DCM your child isn't perfect. I really mind feeling like I will get reprimanded by DCD everytime DCM feels a little emberrassed about typical kid behaviors.
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It's 3:25 where I live. Do you all think it's too early to open a bottle of wine? Kidding, sort of. When will this week end? I've been working on daycare paperwork, taxes, spring cleaning, organization, and more this week on top of kids who are just WAY too full of energy this week. I really need to get on ADD meds. Seriously. Too much started, nothing finished.Comment
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It is very rude. I'm not sure I can recover my feelings towards this family at this point. How about an 'i'm so sorry that happened'. Not that I need an apology but after cleaning up a substantial mess I really don't need a reeming. DCB only comes 3days a week after pre-k and only becouse they are long time clients. I would have given their tuition back to not have to clean up that mess.
To make things worse, their baby is on the wait list. I don't see that happening.Comment
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Well open a window and take a nice long deep clean-air breath!! And then sing Hallelujah tomorrow's Friday!!
Does dcm have dh call over every little thing? Is that somehow supposed to intimidate you to change what you're doing or something? I hope you were firm and assertive with him, tell him next time you'll call him from work to come clean it up instead.
I think I'd get my wait list out and start making calls, then give them 2 weeks saying you're no longer a good fit for their ds.Comment
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