Venting Thread

[amberrose3dg]

Just because you've been laid back about it doesn't mean you can't change it now...

I would write up a memo or short note letting parents know that you were kind enough to not have a policy about being late because your clients were all respectful enough to not abuse your generosity and take advantage but now that is no longer the case so you are implementing a new late policy.

You don't have to go from 0-10 on the strictness scale but you can compromise....maybe give each family 3 "get out of jail" free cards per year... use when necessary but if they are late more than 3X then have a fee. A stiff fee so they use those 3 free passes wisely and not for silly things like running with friends.

I like bc post as usual.

[Blackcat31]

I am so bad at setting boundaries with my families. I know what I need to do, but when it comes time to do it, I don't. I don't care if parents are 5 minutes late here and there because of work issues so my families are used to me being lax about it. It's when I find out that I'm being taken advantage of that kind of hurts. I hate to be "all or nothing" about allowing late pick ups, but come on!

I was told dcm would be picking up on Friday. Dcd works far away and can't make it to pick up on time. 5 minutes before closing, I get a text from dcd that he was going to be late. Fine, I figured mom had a last minute meeting with a parent, that happens frequently. Come to find out on Facebook that mom was out running with her friends. I would love to go workout with my friends, but I'm watching her kids. I have allowed lateness for so long though it doesn't seem right to get petty about it now. Sometimes I hate people.

Just because you've been laid back about it doesn't mean you can't change it now...

I would write up a memo or short note letting parents know that you were kind enough to not have a policy about being late because your clients were all respectful enough to not abuse your generosity and take advantage but now that is no longer the case so you are implementing a new late policy.

You don't have to go from 0-10 on the strictness scale but you can compromise....maybe give each family 3 "get out of jail" free cards per year... use when necessary but if they are late more than 3X then have a fee. A stiff fee so they use those 3 free passes wisely and not for silly things like running with friends.

[Ac114]

I am so bad at setting boundaries with my families. I know what I need to do, but when it comes time to do it, I don't. I don't care if parents are 5 minutes late here and there because of work issues so my families are used to me being lax about it. It's when I find out that I'm being taken advantage of that kind of hurts. I hate to be "all or nothing" about allowing late pick ups, but come on!

I was told dcm would be picking up on Friday. Dcd works far away and can't make it to pick up on time. 5 minutes before closing, I get a text from dcd that he was going to be late. Fine, I figured mom had a last minute meeting with a parent, that happens frequently. Come to find out on Facebook that mom was out running with her friends. I would love to go workout with my friends, but I'm watching her kids. I have allowed lateness for so long though it doesn't seem right to get petty about it now. Sometimes I hate people.

I’m sorry 😩 it’s never too late to set boundaries! And once you do, you will feel much better about it. I’ve been lax before in the past and similar things have happened that you mentioned above so when I receive a text that someone is going to be late, I say that’s fine but don’t forget to add the $10 fee to next weeks pay.

[amberrose3dg]

I am so bad at setting boundaries with my families. I know what I need to do, but when it comes time to do it, I don't. I don't care if parents are 5 minutes late here and there because of work issues so my families are used to me being lax about it. It's when I find out that I'm being taken advantage of that kind of hurts. I hate to be "all or nothing" about allowing late pick ups, but come on!

I was told dcm would be picking up on Friday. Dcd works far away and can't make it to pick up on time. 5 minutes before closing, I get a text from dcd that he was going to be late. Fine, I figured mom had a last minute meeting with a parent, that happens frequently. Come to find out on Facebook that mom was out running with her friends. I would love to go workout with my friends, but I'm watching her kids. I have allowed lateness for so long though it doesn't seem right to get petty about it now. Sometimes I hate people.

See that I would of charged them for. They told you a few minutes before closing. I am finally at the point that no one no matter what is taking advantage of me. I do not care why you are late if it happens more than two or three times I will terminate. The more you do for people the more they take advantage of you.

[Indoorvoice]

I am so bad at setting boundaries with my families. I know what I need to do, but when it comes time to do it, I don't. I don't care if parents are 5 minutes late here and there because of work issues so my families are used to me being lax about it. It's when I find out that I'm being taken advantage of that kind of hurts. I hate to be "all or nothing" about allowing late pick ups, but come on!

I was told dcm would be picking up on Friday. Dcd works far away and can't make it to pick up on time. 5 minutes before closing, I get a text from dcd that he was going to be late. Fine, I figured mom had a last minute meeting with a parent, that happens frequently. Come to find out on Facebook that mom was out running with her friends. I would love to go workout with my friends, but I'm watching her kids. I have allowed lateness for so long though it doesn't seem right to get petty about it now. Sometimes I hate people.

[jenjen28]

They say I am snappy!!

I am a director... I explain to my employees the rules and train them correctly. When they make one mistake I explain to them what they have done and we correct it. I get very tired and stressed when they continually disobey rules. I give them warnings and write ups. I am a nice person, I just expect my employees to do their best. We have a very important job of keeping the children safe and when they do crazy things and go against authority I have to step in and be firm, now a few(mostly young) employees are saying I am too "itchy" and snappy... I try to be nice but they disrespect me and continue to be so rude and unprofessional... I know they can do good work but they just will not!! I hate being called rude and snappy... what can I do!!! Please help!! We have staff meetings.. I keep everything fun and I always ask for their input!!!

[storybookending]

Tuesday night everyone is gone except one family. The 3 year old was going to the bathroom. She does this independently and has for over a year. I go in to do something.. I cannot remember what and I notice the water in the toilet is yellow. I figure she forgot to flush but also thought it was weird that there was no toilet paper in the toilet. I flush it and it comes back up even more yellow. This was only in the bathroom not the kitchen, we checked. Idk anything about plumbing so I call my dad and go about my plans for the night and head over to my brother and SIL’s house for dinner. While there I get a text from my neighbor and he is having the same issue. Literal hours go by and it’s now 9PM. I go home, the water is now a deeper yellow and not only in the bathroom but now the kitchen, it has a slight odor. Local police department posts on Facebook that the cause of the is due to a water main break and to not drink or cook with the water. Seeing this I run to Walmart at 9:30PM and grab a couple gallons of water for the next day in case it isn’t cleared up. An hour or so later there is a post that the utility company says the water is safe to drink and the yellow color is due to high iron content. The Facebook mob of people came out in full force saying high iron in water can mess with certain medications and cause problems urinating and HOW DARE YOU TELL PEOPLE THEY CAN DRINK IT. Things got heated. I just read along as I’m not a social media poster in the slightest and I also know zero facts about what is being discussed. I woke up in the morning and the water was fine. Now it’s 3 days later and I go to wash my hands and bam! Yellow water is back! Guess who will now always have a couple back up gallons of water on back up? This girl. Oh also I have been washing clothes all morning and I’m sure they smell

[amberrose3dg]

Oh I replied quickly letting her know I was watching and that he was simply crawling when it happened. It was sort of laughed off but I swear it was one of those comments that you know darn good and well was meant to be mean. I close for good in 5 days and this little one will be missed the least of all my dck.

Good for you!

[HappyEverAfter]

Ooh I hope you said something to dcm?? Wait til it happens on her watch!!! I always hate to see little ones hurt but when they come in and it's happened while with parents, I always feel better knowing they'll understand. Hopefully.

Oh I replied quickly letting her know I was watching and that he was simply crawling when it happened. It was sort of laughed off but I swear it was one of those comments that you know darn good and well was meant to be mean. I close for good in 5 days and this little one will be missed the least of all my dck.

[HappyEverAfter]

I am not sure I would continue to care for this child. A comment like that shows that mom doesn’t trust you and I cannot and will not work for a parent that doesn’t trust me.. there is enough liability in this job as it is I do not need a parent that is going to react this way every time their child gets a scrape.

I’m closing for good in 5 days so he won’t be with me much longer. I believe I only will have him 3 more days total. Of all the children I’ve had, he will be missed the least.

[Ac114]

Dear DCM's- if I have told you once I have told you a thousand times, DO NOT BRING YOYR CHILD'S BLANKIE OR LOVIE INTO MY HOME!! You child DOES NOT use or need them here. There is absolutely no reason for you to continue to bring a chewed on, ****ed on, drooled on, smelly, crusty, stained blankie or lovie into my house and expect to leave it here. And when I watch you wipe your kids nose with it and your fingers, and you expect to leave that nasty blanket on my entryway counter and touch the door handle with your snotty hand, you are not earning any brownie points with me. Seriously, my kid lives here and even his blankie is not allowed out of his room.

SO over parents who continue to attempt buck the rules after MONTHS! of constant reminders and enforcements.

I despise loveys! I have a DCG 3 who is so dependent on hers and the parents think it’s cute, until she goes to preschool in the fall and can not have it there. She wipes her nose on it daily and I alsways take it away and put it up. The first thing she says when mom walks in the door is “I wasn’t allowed to have ____ today” mom replies, it’s ok hunny mommies here and you can have it now.

Teach her to not be so dependent on it. It’s the same little girl that leaves it here and parents drive back at all hours in the evening to pick it up.

[Snowmom]

Oooooooomg I hate age 4.

Why do I even take kids who are older than 3. They turn into monsters, I sweeaaarrrr.

[Miss A]

Dear DCM's- if I have told you once I have told you a thousand times, DO NOT BRING YOYR CHILD'S BLANKIE OR LOVIE INTO MY HOME!! You child DOES NOT use or need them here. There is absolutely no reason for you to continue to bring a chewed on, ****ed on, drooled on, smelly, crusty, stained blankie or lovie into my house and expect to leave it here. And when I watch you wipe your kids nose with it and your fingers, and you expect to leave that nasty blanket on my entryway counter and touch the door handle with your snotty hand, you are not earning any brownie points with me. Seriously, my kid lives here and even his blankie is not allowed out of his room.

SO over parents who continue to attempt buck the rules after MONTHS! of constant reminders and enforcements.

[storybookending]

Dcb is crawling across hardwood floor to me, his hand slips and causes his head to fall and he hit his mouth on the wood. I immediately scooped him up and looked and sure enough his lip was busted. He cried and his lip bled but both stopped less than 2 minutes later after I applied a cold washcloth. I texted parents to let them know and they asked if his tooth was okay. It was and I told them so. Dcb did fine the rest of the day, playing, eating and napping normally. At pick up, dcm makes the comment “that’s what happens when you don’t watch him.” Uh, I WAS watching him. He was the only kid there. He had my FULL attention. I was sitting on the floor in an open area playing with him. Was I holding him nonstop? No. I was letting him crawl around. Kids his age fall all the time when learning to crawl and walk. It was a busted lip, not a broken leg. And it was handled immediately. And reported to parents immediately. I really hate snide commentary that has no purpose other than to make me feel inferior.

I am not sure I would continue to care for this child. A comment like that shows that mom doesn’t trust you and I cannot and will not work for a parent that doesn’t trust me.. there is enough liability in this job as it is I do not need a parent that is going to react this way every time their child gets a scrape.

[Josiegirl]

Dcb is crawling across hardwood floor to me, his hand slips and causes his head to fall and he hit his mouth on the wood. I immediately scooped him up and looked and sure enough his lip was busted. He cried and his lip bled but both stopped less than 2 minutes later after I applied a cold washcloth. I texted parents to let them know and they asked if his tooth was okay. It was and I told them so. Dcb did fine the rest of the day, playing, eating and napping normally. At pick up, dcm makes the comment “that’s what happens when you don’t watch him.” Uh, I WAS watching him. He was the only kid there. He had my FULL attention. I was sitting on the floor in an open area playing with him. Was I holding him nonstop? No. I was letting him crawl around. Kids his age fall all the time when learning to crawl and walk. It was a busted lip, not a broken leg. And it was handled immediately. And reported to parents immediately. I really hate snide commentary that has no purpose other than to make me feel inferior.

Ooh I hope you said something to dcm?? Wait til it happens on her watch!!! I always hate to see little ones hurt but when they come in and it's happened while with parents, I always feel better knowing they'll understand. Hopefully.