Venting Thread

[amberrose3dg]

:hug: That age is tough.....

I am forever repeating "Don't TELL me; SHOW me" when the kids adapt a method of justifying bad behavior with a simple "Sorry". Sorry doesn't fix it. It's just the wrapping paper on the gift. If they (general they) are truly sorry they will assist fixing the situation and by changing their behavior in the future.

I'm sorry this happened. It seems like you fix one thing and something else is immediately "out of order"

First day back from 10 days off. My assistant comes in and tells me how she needs to leave early cause her boyfriend got arrested. I mean come on she got almost extra week off cause she "mixed" up my vacation dates and booked plane tickets that were nonrefundable.
Guys I'm so done. Few more weeks and I'm going to only before and after care.

[Blackcat31]

ARGH Mad at myself and at dcg.
I have a bunch of soft balls over a gate that the dcks have to ask to play with because well, they're balls and it's inside the house. So after lunch dcb asked if he could have a ball to play with, I said sure, as long as you don't throw it in the air. I said it like 3 times. I was cleaning up the 2 little ones and almost done and dcb comes running into the kitchen, telling me dcg threw the ball, hit the ceiling fan, it fell. Well, this kid is a constant tattler so I went in, assuming he'd over-dramatized what happened. My fan was wobbling and a blade was on the floor.:confused: My fault; balls don't belong in the house(if we take them outside to play with my dogs pop them). But I figured telling a 4.5 and 5 yo to not throw them in the air........
*I said I'm sorry* she says. With her as long as she says sorry, then everything's just fine. I've been trying to tell her saying sorry is just part of anything she does. You can't constantly hit people and just say sorry. You can't do anything/everything you please, thinking sorry will make it all better.

Ugh, just a vent. Gonna be a long summer.

:hug: That age is tough.....

I am forever repeating "Don't TELL me; SHOW me" when the kids adapt a method of justifying bad behavior with a simple "Sorry". Sorry doesn't fix it. It's just the wrapping paper on the gift. If they (general they) are truly sorry they will assist fixing the situation and by changing their behavior in the future.

I'm sorry this happened. It seems like you fix one thing and something else is immediately "out of order"

[Josiegirl]

ARGH Mad at myself and at dcg.
I have a bunch of soft balls over a gate that the dcks have to ask to play with because well, they're balls and it's inside the house. So after lunch dcb asked if he could have a ball to play with, I said sure, as long as you don't throw it in the air. I said it like 3 times. I was cleaning up the 2 little ones and almost done and dcb comes running into the kitchen, telling me dcg threw the ball, hit the ceiling fan, it fell. Well, this kid is a constant tattler so I went in, assuming he'd over-dramatized what happened. My fan was wobbling and a blade was on the floor.:confused: My fault; balls don't belong in the house(if we take them outside to play with my dogs pop them). But I figured telling a 4.5 and 5 yo to not throw them in the air........
*I said I'm sorry* she says. With her as long as she says sorry, then everything's just fine. I've been trying to tell her saying sorry is just part of anything she does. You can't constantly hit people and just say sorry. You can't do anything/everything you please, thinking sorry will make it all better.

Ugh, just a vent. Gonna be a long summer.

[Ac114]

Why don’t parents teach their kids that they sit at the table while the eat instead of literally doing anything but sitting on their bottoms? Every child in my care except mine tries to get up at some point to dance, walk in the living room, basically anything but sit at the table. It’s driving me crazy!

[amberrose3dg]

DCF went on vacation to Florida and got back yesterday. They asked before they left if they had to pay for the week and of course they did. DCB 2.5 was not supposed to come at all this week until they were told they had to pay, so he’s here today and tomorrow. He did not go on vacation with them and was left with their neighbor. Guess who is still off for the rest of the week and DCB is here? Like you didn’t miss your child while you were gone for 5 days?

This is why I do not like certain parents
That poor kid. I have a boy his parents left with grandma so they could vacation alone. Sent him to daycare all week. Then they got back and sent him to daycare instead of spending any time with him.

[Vesta]

Do you think the parents use that threatening "It's your fault if I punish you in this way" phrase? "Don't make me count to 10" kinda thing?

Probably. She also has older siblings that sound like they are a huge handful. Lots of little threats today.

[Pestle]

"Don't make me dump this plate of food over."
Why no, I will not make you dump that plate of food over almost 5 DCG, but I will make you lay down on your cot since you are obviously experiencing some sort of sleep deprevation psychosis.
2 more weeks then adios!

Do you think the parents use that threatening "It's your fault if I punish you in this way" phrase? "Don't make me count to 10" kinda thing?

[Vesta]

"Don't make me dump this plate of food over."
Why no, I will not make you dump that plate of food over almost 5 DCG, but I will make you lay down on your cot since you are obviously experiencing some sort of sleep deprevation psychosis.
2 more weeks then adios!

[Josiegirl]

DCF went on vacation to Florida and got back yesterday. They asked before they left if they had to pay for the week and of course they did. DCB 2.5 was not supposed to come at all this week until they were told they had to pay, so he’s here today and tomorrow. He did not go on vacation with them and was left with their neighbor. Guess who is still off for the rest of the week and DCB is here? Like you didn’t miss your child while you were gone for 5 days?

Wow, that's one of THE saddest things I've heard in quite awhile.

[Josiegirl]

Grrrr 21 mo dcg climbed out of crib this a.m. so I tried putting her on a cot for nap time this afternoon. Nap will be over in 45 minutes and I finally put her back in the crib, watching her every second. Knew this day would come sooner than later. I've tried a cot with her before, gave it a few weeks and she just would not settle down. After dealing with her sister all morning, I NEED QUIET TIME!!!!!

[Ac114]

DCF went on vacation to Florida and got back yesterday. They asked before they left if they had to pay for the week and of course they did. DCB 2.5 was not supposed to come at all this week until they were told they had to pay, so he’s here today and tomorrow. He did not go on vacation with them and was left with their neighbor. Guess who is still off for the rest of the week and DCB is here? Like you didn’t miss your child while you were gone for 5 days?

[Josiegirl]

I had lots of fun at yard sales last weekend, found some really cool stuff and was so excited for Monday morning to come so I could share my treasures with the dcks.

WTH was I thinking? Cool new stuff always causes problems because kids want it all for themselves and if anyone even looks at the toys, all he!! breaks loose.

In a rut

These children. I have a playroom full of toys. So many choices. Even enough to rotate things. During "free play" (while I make lunch or do dishes) they have free choice of toys. Every single day they choose the same darn box of Duplo Legos. Every darn day. Sometimes I take it away for a week, just so they have to choose something different. As soon as it returns, back to Legos, all day, every day. As soon as we finish the "preschool" part of our morning, it's "can i get the legos out?"
It wouldn't bother me so much if there weren't constant arguments about who gets the wheels, how long he's had the wheels, I want that piece, etc. And, they build the exact same stuff - every day. Makes me want to scream.
That's all.

[amberrose3dg]

Dad drops off DCB at 2:15pm today. Right in the middle of nap time. When my day would have ended at 4 is now ending at 5:30. Im so pissed.

Did you know he was dropping off that late? I would be too. Ugh

[Ac114]

Dad drops off DCB at 2:15pm today. Right in the middle of nap time. When my day would have ended at 4 is now ending at 5:30. Im so pissed.