DCG May Have Broke My Sons Nose..Now What?

[legomom922]

I know this sounds crazy, but DCG 2.5, was playing with my almost 15 yr old DS. He was laying on his bed and she was climbing and jumping on him etc. She also was playing with her Big ceranmic piggy bank that I gave her for Christmas, ya know, those big ones that Target was carrying? All the different colors and designs, have you seen them? Well anyway, she took the pig and without realizing what she was doing, dropped it from above her head onto my DS's face! His nose sewlled up instantly, and he wa sin a ton of pain! I called the Dr on call, and we have to see how it is tomorrow, but she says there is nothing anyone can do for a broken nose anyway, but if he has any problem breathing through his nose, to let her know. So 2 things: If there are any Dr bills that come from this, can I have DCM pay them? And 2, I'm really mad at DCG for doing this, even though I know she is a little kid, but still MY DS is now very hurt. What do I do? Is there any liability on the parents end?

[Michael]

Sorry to hear that. Hope its not broken.

[Lucy]

First off, so sorry to hear about your son. That had to hurt REALLY bad! And I do understand you being angry at the 2 1/2 yo girl. However, it was an innocent accident. They were playing. It wasn't in anger. I feel stuff like that, although distressing to all involved, kind of goes with the territory. I would in no way expect the parents to pay the bills. That being said, if I were the parent, I would offer anyway. But that's just how I roll.

[QualiTcare]

I doubt it'll be an issue, but the parents wouldn't have to pay. It happened on your watch, it's your responsibility. That's how it works.

[AfterSchoolMom]

she says there is nothing anyone can do for a broken nose anyway

I just wanted to address this. Please take your son to the Dr. anyway (hopefully a different one than the one that told you this!!). I broke my nose as a child playing baseball (the ball hit me in the face). They may not be able to do much about a broken nose in that they can't put a cast on it or anything, but you really need to make sure that if it is broken, it's a clean break and didn't misalign the bones in your son's nose or cause any facial fractures. I'm not trying to scare you, but I ended up having to have surgery to fix mine. I'd get an x-ray at the very least if I were you.

[mac60]

Yes, there are things that can be done for a broken nose, I have been there, done that unfortunately, myself. Take him to the doctor, make sure it is "straight", and go from there.

[Crystal]

First, I agree with pp that this should not be a parent liability. Clearly it was an accident, and your son IS 15, it's not like she walked up and knocked the daylights out of another two year old.

On another note, and I know some will probably not like what I am about to say, but I'm going to say it anyway becasue I feel it is important.

Your son, at 15, should not be wrestling around with a two year old on his bed. I am NOT saying he would ever do anything, BUT it could be percieved by a parent who walks in and sees it as something other than what it is. Frankly, she shouldn't even be in his bedroom. I'd be very careful about allowing this.

[legomom922]

First, I agree with pp that this should not be a parent liability. Clearly it was an accident, and your son IS 15, it's not like she walked up and knocked the daylights out of another two year old.

On another note, and I know some will probably not like what I am about to say, but I'm going to say it anyway becasue I feel it is important.

Your son, at 15, should not be wrestling around with a two year old on his bed. I am NOT saying he would ever do anything, BUT it could be percieved by a parent who walks in and sees it as something other than what it is. Frankly, she shouldn't even be in his bedroom. I'd be very careful about allowing this.

I not concerned about a simple Dr visits bill, I was more concerned along the lines of if there was a more serious injury that resulted from it, surgery, etc.

2nd, I have had this DCG since she was 4 months old, (she will be 3 in march) and we have a extremely close relationship with this family, more friendship than business/professional, and the family knows how close DCG is to DS, as he is more like a big brother to her, and has even babysat her on ocassion as well. DCG absolutely adores DS, so I understand your thinking, but this is more of a personnal/friendship relationship. In fact when DCM shower was broken, she had a key to my house and let herself in at 5am to use our shower.

I would still be upset w/anyone who hurt DS weather it be a relative, sibling, neighbor or friend, so it's no different, I love her, but I wa smore worried of more serious complications stemming from the injury. Come to think of it, I do have insurance and it covers my kids too, so maybe it would be covered under that anyway since it was under working hrs IF something horrible came from it.

Figures this would have to happen on a day I also worked OT and her from 630am-730pm for no extra fee.......

[QualiTcare]

Now don't be silly. I'm sure she needs a male figure in her life and nobody would think anything of a big brother doing the same thing!

[alyssyn]

Sorry about your son's nose, ouch!! I don't think the dcg's parents should be held responsible. This happened at your house under your watch. I also agree with what Crystal said, you just never know about people and what they may think in some situations. Something that is perfectly innocent to us can be seen a different way with someone else.
Also, with no offense, wouldn't a ceramic piggy bank be an object not to be played with? :confused:

[jen]

So if one of your daycare kids accidentally hurt another child, would you pick up the bill?

[jen]

Come to think of it, I do have insurance and it covers my kids too, so maybe it would be covered under that anyway since it was under working hrs IF something horrible came from it.

Why wouldn't your health insurance cover it?

[QualiTcare]

So if one of your daycare kids accidentally hurt another child, would you pick up the bill?

Providers definitely are responsible for the bill in these situations. When an incident occurs, the parents aren't even supposed to know who the other child is that was involved so I don't see how anyone could think otherwise.

[Lilbutterflie]

Oh my gosh! How painful this must be for your son! I can't imagine...

I also understand being angry with her. When your child is hurt in an accident caused by another child, first instinct is for "Momma Bear" to come out and protect your child! Though this was just an accident. And she's 2. I'm sure she feels terrible about what happened.

I know how close these two must be, but I agree with PP in saying the two of them should never be alone in his room together. I know you are sure that nothing would ever happen, but you just never know what kind of accusations could come out of that.

I do definitely think x-rays are in order. Just to make sure everything can heal correctly. Poor guy.

[jen]

Providers definitely are responsible for the bill in these situations. When an incident occurs, the parents aren't even supposed to know who the other child is that was involved so I don't see how anyone could think otherwise.

Let me re-phrase, if your child got hit in the face in gym class, would you expect the school to pay the bill? In our school district, the parent is responsible for all injuries and is expected to have health insurance to cover it. I don't know a single parent who wouldn't simply see this as one of the joys of parent-hood.

A neighbor kid hit my son in the face with a shovel, my son needed stitches and it did leave a scar. It NEVER crossed my mind to ask the kids parents to pay the bill or the co-pay. The attitude that OTHER people should pay (when we aren't talking about neglect) is one of my biggest pet peeves.