How do I Ask This and if it Unreasonable

[youretooloud]

I think there are those crazy times where too many things are going on at once, and anybody would put the baby in a seat and maybe even prop a bottle... but, you've seen this more than once... so, I think she feels like this is acceptable, and even normal.

Unless actual chaos has just broken out, it isn't acceptable to put a baby in his or her carseat for any length of time. I'd also look for a new provider, she seems very nice, but I think she's not really as dedicated to this job as she should be. You could find someone who's more interested in doing the job correctly.

[JenNJ]

You need a new daycare arrangement. This one is not working out BC she is not able to tend to your child.

[daycare]

I have learned to never jump to conclusions and assume. Talk to the provider about it and see what she says first. It could be that she is putting the child in the car seat to get the child ready to go.

I used to do that so that it was not a long process at pick up time. As we all know when there is another adult figure in the house the kids go nuts. So I would put the baby in the car seat about 5 minutes before the child was to be picked up to speed up the pickup process.

After you talk to the provider and you still don't feel comfortable then i would take the child out.

I think that even if you take the car seat with you and the provider is not using it properly she will find something else to use in it's place. JMO

[Unregistered]

I agree

I have to be honest here...

I would just find another provider. She may be a very nice lady, but it doesn't really sound as though she is meeting the needs of the child or following licensing rules. Either way, she should know better and, in my opinion, calls her judgement in to question.

I agree. Hopefully you have a backup in the meantime. I wouldn't leave your child there, even during the notice period. Sometimes friends will watch kids temporarily for free or maybe if you agree to switch babysitting for them on a weekend or something. Even with full time care, always be sure you have a backup on a moments notice for situations just like this.

[AnythingsPossible]

Would it really be any better if the baby were in a bouncer or bumbo every time mom came for pick up?

OP-you may want to speak with the provider before you pull your child from care. maybe when you pick up is an extra crazy time of day. propping the bottle is a HUGE no, and if you decide to stay with her make it clear you don't want the bottle propped. but maybe she has the infant in the car seat at that time due to the things that are going on with the rest of the group.

I used to have a mom whose little one was in the playpen everyday when she came to pick up. her baby wasn't in the playpen all day, it just so happened that when this mom picked up is when we were in clean up mode and i felt it was best to have the baby out of the way. i told the mom why her little seemed to always be in the playpen at pick up and she completly understood.

Communication would be good if you do truly like the provider.