How do I Ask This and if it Unreasonable

[Unregistered]

So my lo is 6 months old. He just started daycare about 2 weeks ago for only 3 days a week. She is an in home daycare and a very nice lady. My concern is that when I've fine to pick him up she has him in his car seat. Not like she has him ready to go, but a if that's where hes been for a while.i asked her if she needs a baby mat to let him lay under, or to help him practice sitting. She said oh she has one she just didn't think of that. So the next time I came he was being held, so I felt better. Then yesterday I went to get him and he's in hits car seat, with a bottle propped up on a blanket and the bottles empty. Ok now I'm pissed. But there was other moms there so I didn't wanna stay anything.
My worry is that he's in there alot, and he's not having time to lay or sit... And I'm very bad with bringing things up like this. I don't want her to feel like I don't think she knows what she's doing. Or that I'm one if those moms... But how should i approach this with out seeming rude or picky. Is it because she's got little toddlers to deal with too? Ill but whatever equipment she needs, its just the fact of saying something that's got me! Help!

[Ms. Stephanie]

That is UNACCEPTABLE! How many children does she care for? I am also very confused as to why she would be putting her in her car seat? Does she not have proper infant equipment to put her in? A bouncy, swing, or jumpy?

[Ms. Stephanie]

I would definitely say something. could you take the car seat with you when you leave?

[Unregistered]

Ok... So how do I say it without coming across a if she doesn't know what shes doing.

[WDW]

I would definitely say something. could you take the car seat with you when you leave?

This was my suggestion. As a provider, I love when parents take the seats.. not because I use them during the day - I don't - but I don't have a ton of room to store them, and the kids play with them, etc. She can't put him there if she doesn't have it - however, you still have to say something because if she is putting him there for an extended period, she will find somewhere else to "store" him...

[sharlan]

Try leaving your carseat in the car, bring in the baby and his bag, only.

You may want to casually ask her how he spends his day.

[Cat Herder]

Is your provider Registered/Licensed?

If so she knows, without a doubt, that is against the rules in a HUGE way.

That runs the risk of positional asphyxia; not even mentioning the developmental issues. Not good.

Just ask her. Carry the child in / Leave your car seat in your car. Please.

You may need to pull that child, so be prepared with a backup provider (you should always have one ).

[daysofelijah]

Take the seat with you and kindly ask she not prop the bottle to feed the baby. Licensed providers are specifically instructed that they are not allowed to prop the bottle to feed the baby, at least here anway.

[jen]

I have to be honest here...

I would just find another provider. She may be a very nice lady, but it doesn't really sound as though she is meeting the needs of the child or following licensing rules. Either way, she should know better and, in my opinion, calls her judgement in to question.

[Live and Learn]

I have to be honest here...

I would just find another provider. She may be a very nice lady, but it doesn't really sound as though she is meeting the needs of the child or following licensing rules. Either way, she should know better and, in my opinion, calls her judgement in to question.

Yup

[SilverSabre25]

I have to be honest here...

I would just find another provider. She may be a very nice lady, but it doesn't really sound as though she is meeting the needs of the child or following licensing rules. Either way, she should know better and, in my opinion, calls her judgement in to question.

I agree with this completely. Even if you take the car seat, talk to her about not propping the bottle, ask her to put him on the floor, etc, you have no way of confirming that she's not just stashing him somewhere for the whole day and doing all those things anyway, no matter what she says. She just doesn't sound like she ought to be caring for infants.

[Unregistered]

I, too, would find a different provider. Leaving the baby in the car seat and propping the bottle are both unacceptable, in my opinion.

[Mom_of_two]

I am a provider, and mom of two little ones (I also used to work outside the home and my 3 year old was in daycare til she was 2.) I would most definitely find a different provider!! All of that is unacceptable, and dangerous!!

[momma2girls]

I would definitely say something. could you take the car seat with you when you leave?

This is what I was going to respond with. Also ask her if she has a bouncy seat, lay mat, bumbo,swing, jump a roo, etc.....

[Blackcat31]

In my state it is against licensing regs to leave a child in their car seat AND to prop a bottle. YOU are your child's voice. Speak up. Ask your provider what she does with your child during the day; if possible, drop in at varying times and check. Also as others have said, take your car seat with you. Have your provider show you the infant items she has and how she uses them with your child. I would take advantage of the open door policy most providers have and use it.