Would This Upset You?

[Guest]

So I found out the other day that our child care provider posted something on facebook regarding how fussy are 6 month old was all morning along the lines of "nothing better than dealing with a fussy 6 month old all day. We are friends with our provider, but do not have facebook, but several of our shared friends do. Should I be upset this? We are starting to get concerned because there are many days where she just seems to be frustrated when we pick up our kids and she has already said she can't do it next year (she said she had other reasons). I'm thinking it may be time to just change, but I'm concerned with how she will react as I believe they need the money.

I should note that I'm not concerned at the time for my kids safety, but just worried that they are being watched by somebody that is miserable half the time.

[Cat Herder]

they need the money.
worried that they are being watched by somebody that is miserable half the time.

I am sorry to say so, but this is not a good mixture IMHO.

Trust your gut.

[DCMomOf3]

I am totally with Catherder on this. I would trust your gut. If it were me, I'd be concerned and would personally find a new provider.

Best of luck!

[jen]

Was she your friend before she was your provider? Either way I guess, you consider her a friend now, so I'd just start by talking to her.

I don't know if I'd be upset abou the facebook thing, unless of course it was mean spirited! I would never post about my daycare clients, but I would post about my own kids...maybe she thinks of yours, like hers?

[Jewels]

I would be super irritated about this......And I bet shes burned out, and your child is probably not getting the TLC they really need. Everyone has rough days, But I would never show my parents if I were frustrated, if I'm so frustrated that I can't hide it, thats pretty bad, and I wouldn't want my child there.

[Shane]

I would be super irritated about this......And I bet shes burned out, and your child is probably not getting the TLC they really need. Everyone has rough days, But I would never show my parents if I were frustrated, if I'm so frustrated that I can't hide it, thats pretty bad, and I wouldn't want my child there.

That is where we are kinda at. A lot of the times when she has had a bad day, she can come off really bad. There have been a few times when the first thing she says is "your oldest was horrible today". But then she really doesn't have much else to say other than maybe he pushed one of her kids for a toy or something like that. She'll look like she just wants to get the kids out of her sight. But other days when she is in a better mood she won't make a big deal out of a pushing incident. I think because we are friends she probably doesn't treat us the way she would another family when it comes to communicating.

[Michael]

That is where we are kinda at. A lot of the times when she has had a bad day, she can come off really bad. There have been a few times when the first thing she says is "your oldest was horrible today". But then she really doesn't have much else to say other than maybe he pushed one of her kids for a toy or something like that. She'll look like she just wants to get the kids out of her sight. But other days when she is in a better mood she won't make a big deal out of a pushing incident. I think because we are friends she probably doesn't treat us the way she would another family when it comes to communicating.

Welcome to the Daycare.com Forum Shane!

[MissAnn]

So I found out the other day that our child care provider posted something on facebook regarding how fussy are 6 month old was all morning along the lines of "nothing better than dealing with a fussy 6 month old all day. We are friends with our provider, but do not have facebook, but several of our shared friends do. Should I be upset this? We are starting to get concerned because there are many days where she just seems to be frustrated when we pick up our kids and she has already said she can't do it next year (she said she had other reasons). I'm thinking it may be time to just change, but I'm concerned with how she will react as I believe they need the money.

I should note that I'm not concerned at the time for my kids safety, but just worried that they are being watched by somebody that is miserable half the time.

That is not acceptable. I have a preschool in my home and I also have a facebook page for my program. Parents signed a release for me to post photos and they choose they want the pictures tagged or not. I only say positive things....never ever anything negative. Maybe you could just talk to her about it....ask her to not say anything on FB about your child....or only positive.

[MissAnn]

"your oldest was horrible today".

I have never ever ever said anything like this to a parent. That is not acceptable. If that was said in front on your child...then shame on her.

[JenNJ]

Find a new provider NOW. Before her frustration gets the best of her. Your primary concern should be your baby, not her financial situation.

[Candyland]

I'm with everyone else...find someone new. She has too much time on her hands to be posting things like this. and it's obvious, she's frustrated.

[lvt77]

I am in the middle of the road on this..

From her perspective maybe she had a really bad day and felt the need to vent about it... All of us do it on here, she just did it on face book..

I dont know anything about FB, so I am not too sure if that was the right place to vent. Would you feel the same way if you read it on here??

If so, then we are all guilty of it....

[dEHmom]

I agree, that friendship and business should not mix. Maybe she feels like she is comfortable enough to be open with you, and finds that maybe she doesn't have to have a smile on her face whens he hands off your kids.

BUT I don't think that is acceptable at all.

On the facebook side of it, she obviously knows that if she writes that, it will get back to you. I mean, if you have mutual friends, and she knows you're not on there, she knows someone else is. So, I don't think she would've thought better of posting it had you actually been a friend of hers on facebook.

I definitely think, it should be discussed in a professional, mature, and respectful manner. And let her know you've found care elsewhere, or that you will be looking elsewhere.

[QualiTcare]

i don't know - i think it's pretty common to say things like "oh, don't you just love a fussy baby" or "my kids are driving me crazy"

i guess it depends on the context - one person can say "i'm gonna kill myself" and it means nothing and another person says "i'm gonna kill myself" and they really do it.

i don't think without knowing the person that we can say she is frustrated based on a post like that - but if you think she seems frustrated otherwise then i'd def. find other care.

[jen]

i don't know - i think it's pretty common to say things like "oh, don't you just love a fussy baby" or "my kids are driving me crazy"

i guess it depends on the context - one person can say "i'm gonna kill myself" and it means nothing and another person says "i'm gonna kill myself" and they really do it.

i don't think without knowing the person that we can say she is frustrated based on a post like that - but if you think she seems frustrated otherwise then i'd def. find other care.

I handed over one of my kiddos last night and said...

"Good luck to you, you will need it!"

My parents know me, know the kid can be a handful, and know that regardless of the fact that he can drive me, his parents, and his grandparents nuts from time to time, we still like/love him and it wasn't meant with disrespect. Like Q said, it's all about the context.