Another kid always sick

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Unregistered, your problem is you can't handle the plain truth. It has little to nothing to do with Nan and her presentation. She gets down to brass tacks and tells it like it is. Personally, I prefer her "presentation" to sugar coating and petting any day.
Checks and balances in a "facility"? Ha! I worked in a facility for over ten years. Nope. All checks and balances meant was that the director's favorites could get away with things like wiping a kid's face with the same rag she just wiped the floor with; yanking kids by the arm; leaving the room to chit chat while her partner was left with 8 infants on her own. And those are just the tip of the iceberg. If I couldn't "hack it" in a facility it was for those reasons. I recommend (if you can "hack it") a book titled Doing Time. It may enlighten you. You will see that it's not always that darn child care provider but too often the parents who are the problem. I often say it isn't the kids I care for who are difficult, it's their parents.

http://www.amazon.com/Doing-Time-Rea...rds=doing+time

This is also true of my experience in daycare centers. I worked at two while getting my teaching degree. I worked at two expensive daycare centers in an expensive part of town. I reported child abuse and that employee didn't leave the facility until 2 YEARS later. Yes, years. I cited multiple people witnessing it and this was a videod facility. Actually, both of them were and the parents watched the videos but there WERE certain areas the video cameras couldn't see and the "bad people" knew about them. I said NEVER again and I have stood by that while a buddy of mine in my community works for the ONE large daycare center here and it is also filled with issues. To be a little more specific, rooms with very small children are left without an adult there for a few minutes at a time, children have wandered outside of the facility and are walking the streets, employees mistreat the children, etc. So, checks and balances? Not so much.

[Angelsj]

AngelSJ,


I think Nan means consequences like the bully mother, the venting mother, the needy mother and the "my child!!!" mother interfering with your day or pay.

Especially views like the OP states that decide which child is costing her child's happiness... from a fraction of the actual days viewing. Judging and condemning another infant/parent then giving an altimatum... my child or theirs.

Ahh, Hmmm, no problem there. The ultimatum gets to leave. Immediately, if not sooner.

I once had a mother with three little girls. Loved the kids, and they were "perfect" parents. Paid on time, showed up on time, etc. I watched the girls for over three years.
One day, she picked up her kids and noticed the dad there to pick up two more. Dad was white, and kids were obviously not. She asked me if mom was "colored" (seriously??) then proceeded to tell me it was her kids or "those kids." I packed up all her kids' things and handed them to her, telling her she was no longer welcome in my home, as of right now. I don't do ultimatums.

[Thriftylady]

Ahh, Hmmm, no problem there. The ultimatum gets to leave. Immediately, if not sooner.

I once had a mother with three little girls. Loved the kids, and they were "perfect" parents. Paid on time, showed up on time, etc. I watched the girls for over three years.
One day, she picked up her kids and noticed the dad there to pick up two more. Dad was white, and kids were obviously not. She asked me if mom was "colored" (seriously??) then proceeded to tell me it was her kids or "those kids." I packed up all her kids' things and handed them to her, telling her she was no longer welcome in my home, as of right now. I don't do ultimatums.

I would have done the same thing. Whatever did the poor father say? When we had foster kids, we had some African American boys and a guy DH worked with asked "are those all your kids?". DH answered yes and the guy said "so your wife used to be married to a black man?". I can't believe the nerve of some people like it was the kids fault they were with our family who loved them instead of their own.

[Angelsj]

I would have done the same thing. Whatever did the poor father say? When we had foster kids, we had some African American boys and a guy DH worked with asked "are those all your kids?". DH answered yes and the guy said "so your wife used to be married to a black man?". I can't believe the nerve of some people like it was the kids fault they were with our family who loved them instead of their own.

People are mind boggling. The dad was amazing...actually the whole family was amazing. After he recovered from shock at her audacity (and she had gone) he first said a very sincere "Thank you." Then he just chuckled and said, "Racism is alive and well in the 20th century."

[LysesKids]

I have had people refuse to interview once they see my website... it
s very obviouse I accept everyone . Heck even my own grankids are biracial

Nowen days you can't discriminate and I feel sorry for the kids of those type parents

[suehelen]

This thread is exactly why no breastfeeding mother will ever be allowed to come and breastfeed her child in my house during my work hours.