Personal Visitor at Daycare

[DanceMom]

I know personally there is NO way I can sit and have friends over all day - I have NO time to sit and Chit Chat all day with another adult - I am way to busy with the kids for that.....

It is HER business but she needs to RESPECT her Clients and listen to their concerns and if she is not willing to do as the client wishes then its probably not a business for her to be in...you unfortunately have to do what your clients want you to do - NO NOT ALL THE TIME - but they do pay your bills - They do pay for QUALITY CARE - and I know I couldnt give quality care to any of these kids if I had friends over..Even ONE friend over. Ive had friends stop by, Mother in law stop by and as soon as that second adult is there and your eyes are not on those kids something happens - With my kids my eyes and attention need to be on them the entire day - I barely can get to the bathroom !!! ( I'm off today...)

I can see the parents point in this one..

[jen]

I think it's laughable that a provider would go on and on about being professional and NO guests, NO phone calls...yet they have hundreds of posts on multiple websites...during business hours.

Apparently, a phone call or guest is out of the question, but the computer is A-OK!

What a joke!

[nannyde]

I think playdates are great, and it gives the kids an opportunity to socialize with other kids that aren't around all the time. I wouldn't think that was unprofessional, it is in a way business related. Kids...playing...socializing...so on...

I was thinking about this last night and trying to think of the last time I had someone be at the house while I was working.

My Dad came in May. He's 70 and he drove straight thru from South Dakota to come visit for a week. He brought my family and dck's a full cooler of meats from South Dakota. We switched to a fully grass fed meat diet after watching Food Inc. He watched Food Inc and HE switched too ;-) Anyway, we have had so many discussions about it during our journeys and he offered to bring us food that he accessed there.

He brought us venison, elk, phesant, and buffalo. It was SO nice of him to do that for my kids. When he came thru he needed to stop here and drop off the frozen meats as they needed to go into the freezer. I took him downstairs to meet the kids and I wanted the kids to thank him for doing this for us.

I think it's important for kids to know where their food comes from. We have had deliveries during the day for our meats, grains, veggies, and fruits. I try to schedule them at a time where the farmers who serve us get a chance to SEE the kids they feed and the kids to meet the people who provide our food.

So there are times when having a visitor is something that I think is good for the kids. There are times when I think having a visitor is good for the visitor.

I'm not of the mindset that it's unprofessional to have visitors during work hours. I don't think babysitting the kids while you visit on the phone or have a friend over is so complicated. The kids can entertain themselves. As long as you are supervising them and the person isn't left alone with the kids it should be up to the provider to decide. I don't do it because the kids act up. I don't "not" do it because it's unproffessional. I'm just a babysitter so I don't need to be all kinds of proffessional.

If there is a particular visitor the parents didn't like then yes... I think the parent has a right to offer to have their kid out of the day care on any of those days.

[Crystal]

I think it's laughable that a provider would go on and on about being professional and NO guests, NO phone calls...yet they have hundreds of posts on multiple websites...during business hours.

Apparently, a phone call or guest is out of the question, but the computer is A-OK!

What a joke!

Hahaha! You're right, it IS laughable....BUT, I have regularly scheduled breaks and at minimum two assistants here to provide tose breaks. AND, most of my posts are before work or during naptime. AND, my hundreds of posts, on TWO websites, are over several months....not like I do it all day.

All the posts in this thread from yesterday were during naptime. My first post this morning was before work. MY posts now are when I am on break and my husband and daughter are working with the children.

[Crystal]

Oh I've noticed. I also noticed you referred to the previous thread "Now, before I get blasted by some providers for saying she should not have guests, and accused of probably lying because I MUST have guests over during hours.....

I'm responding to THAT part of the post where YOU brought it up.

I never brought up another thread. YOU did. And I was talking about the providers in THIS thread who I KNEW would have something to say about it, because they basically said the OP was wrong....

[jen]

Hahaha! You're right, it IS laughable....BUT, I have regularly scheduled breaks and at minimum two assistants here to provide tose breaks. AND, most of my posts are before work or during naptime. AND, my hundreds of posts, on TWO websites, are over several months....not like I do it all day.

But even with those scheduled breaks and two assistants you NEVER take a phone call! Of course not. You won't even visit with the grandparents, rather you have them escorted off the property by your husband.

Uhhh huh. Makes perfect sense.

[nannyde]

I never brought up another thread. YOU did. And I was talking about the providers in THIS thread who I KNEW would have something to say about it, because they basically said the OP was wrong....

I stand corrected. I didn't see there was someone else on this thread who thought you weren't telling the truth.

[Crystal]

No, I don't talk on the phone. I'll answer the phone, but will not stay on the phone. Honestly, I don't remember the last time I got a personal call during business hours because my friends an family respect the fact that i am working and they call me after hours.

And, I don't have granma and grandpa "escorted off the property" They are my husbands parents, he will visit with them outside and then they leave. AND, they are heavy smokers, they KNOW they aren't allowed in my home during business hours because of the smell.

[Crystal]

I stand corrected. I didn't see there was someone else on this thread who thought you weren't telling the truth.

Like I said, I KNEW it WOULD happen. Not that it already had.

And, again, I am done being baited into defending myself.

[JenNJ]

I don't see the issue with visitors. The main visitors I have are my best friend and her 2 children who come for playdates since her kids don't go to daycare/summer camp. She deals with her 2 (and usually my 2 becasue they love her) while I do my thing. Usually we are outside on the playground and I am able to supervise all the kids while having a conversation.

The other visitor I have is my mother in law. She sometimes stops off to say hello and plays with all the kids, reads stories, etc. All the kids love her and she is my back up provider.

Looking at it as a parent and a provider, I dont see how either one is unprofessional.

[Crystal]

I don't see the issue with visitors. The main visitors I have are my best friend and her 2 children who come for playdates since her kids don't go to daycare/summer camp. She deals with her 2 (and usually my 2 becasue they love her) while I do my thing. Usually we are outside on the playground and I am able to supervise all the kids while having a conversation.

The other visitor I have is my mother in law. She sometimes stops off to say hello and plays with all the kids, reads stories, etc. All the kids love her and she is my back up provider.

Looking at it as a parent and a provider, I dont see how either one is unprofessional.

I agree with you. As I said in a previous post about playdates. And, if your MIL is a back up provider, then that is also totally accetable. I was only referring to random friends "hangin out" at the daycare, as this is what the OP was referring too.

[Janet]

Nan

I was thinking about this last night and trying to think of the last time I had someone be at the house while I was working.

My Dad came in May. He's 70 and he drove straight thru from South Dakota to come visit for a week. He brought my family and dck's a full cooler of meats from South Dakota. We switched to a fully grass fed meat diet after watching Food Inc. He watched Food Inc and HE switched too ;-) Anyway, we have had so many discussions about it during our journeys and he offered to bring us food that he accessed there.

He brought us venison, elk, phesant, and buffalo. It was SO nice of him to do that for my kids. When he came thru he needed to stop here and drop off the frozen meats as they needed to go into the freezer. I took him downstairs to meet the kids and I wanted the kids to thank him for doing this for us.

I think it's important for kids to know where their food comes from. We have had deliveries during the day for our meats, grains, veggies, and fruits. I try to schedule them at a time where the farmers who serve us get a chance to SEE the kids they feed and the kids to meet the people who provide our food.

So there are times when having a visitor is something that I think is good for the kids. There are times when I think having a visitor is good for the visitor.

I'm not of the mindset that it's unprofessional to have visitors during work hours. I don't think babysitting the kids while you visit on the phone or have a friend over is so complicated. The kids can entertain themselves. As long as you are supervising them and the person isn't left alone with the kids it should be up to the provider to decide. I don't do it because the kids act up. I don't "not" do it because it's unproffessional. I'm just a babysitter so I don't need to be all kinds of proffessional.

If there is a particular visitor the parents didn't like then yes... I think the parent has a right to offer to have their kid out of the day care on any of those days.

Nan, I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love that you have your kids take an interest in where their food is coming from and I love that you had your daycare kids meet your dad so that they could thank him for the meat!

I don't go out of my way to stop people from coming over to visit with me unless they are the type of people who want my full attention and in that case, I have no time for them. I have a couple friends who will stop by but it is because they are bringing kids with them and the kids all play together and we play with them.

Also, every year I have a "Career Week" lesson plan and part of the lesson plan is that I have people come in to visit with the kids and to talk about their professions and the kids have a question and answer session with the people who come to talk about their jobs. This time we had the following careers represented :
Massage therapist
Program director/DJ for a radio station
EMC engineer
Naturopath
Phlebotomist
County clerk
Nurse
Firefighter
Boat builder

Yep, some of those people were "strangers" but I think that the benefit that they provided by graciously giving their time to talking to my kids about their careers greatly outweighed the risk (which was non-existent because I was sitting with them, listening to the spreakers.

[Crystal]

Are you really trying to compare a friend coming to visit and hang out, which is what this thread was about, with providing educational experiences for the children? WOW, you guys will do anything just to disagree with me, huh? I'm flattered, really

[Janet]

I'm not trying to disagree with you, Crystal

Are you really trying to compare a friend coming to visit and hang out, which is what this thread was about, with providing educational experiences for the children? WOW, you guys will do anything just to disagree with me, huh? I'm flattered, really

Just trying to point out that just because a person comes over to a provider's house (friend or not) it doesn't neccessarily mean that a provider won't do her job.

[Crystal]

But, Janet, providing educational experiences IS your job....hanging out with friends is not. AGAIN, let me clarify, I am not talking about playdates or educational experiences, I am referring to having friends "hang out" as was the original topic here.

Good-day.