Eating and Spoiled Kid Issue WWYD?

[Springdaze]

Again today at breakfast! YAY! Gives me 2 snacks and I tell him to pick one, he wont and screams and throws them both. then one breaks open and spills all over the floor, he doesnt care because now he wants the other thing! I told him to eat his cereal and he dumps THAT on the floor!!!!!!!! Its a good thing this job pays so well!!!!::

This is the same kid, 4.5 and refused to sit on the potty. One day he decided he wanted to, and has never had an accident! While thats great, he should have "decided" to do it 2 years ago!
Excuse me for a second....Your Done, go play!

[countrymom]

what a great game he's playing NOT!! sounds like "if he throws a temper tantrum then he will get his way" do not give him any pleasure in his game, acually you should have thrown the food too and then seen what he would have done.

[Springdaze]

sometimes his mom and grandma, with whom they all live with, picks them up. One day I am not kidding you the grandma said "Daughter, just give it to him, I cant listen to it right now!" nice!!!!!!!!

[Cat Herder]

If he has thrown all his provided food (assuming that this a program that does not provide food?) then I would call for him to be picked up.

If I don't have a way to provide proper care then he can't stay.

Make it Mom's problem.

He goes to school in a few months!!! SHE has got to get this under control.

I, personally, would not allow food from home.

It set's you up for failure, IMHO.

[Unregistered]

I agree with the previous posters. "You get what you get and you don't make a fit" is said daily here and every kids knows it. He will not starve in a matter of hours. It should not turn into a big deal if he chooses not to eat. He is choosing not to eat by not being able to function with the group. I would not even allow him at the table. As soon as he is not using his manners he would be removed and placed on the other side of the kitchen wall and he would wait there (with books) until the rest of the group is done. I would not mention it again. Don't give him the control. At my house, you make a bad choice and there are consequences and the rest of the group moves on and functions with or without you. I have seen many kids go all day without eating (regularly) and not a one has starved- ever.

[e.j.]

sometimes his mom and grandma, with whom they all live with, picks them up. One day I am not kidding you the grandma said "Daughter, just give it to him, I cant listen to it right now!" nice!!!!!!!!

This same scenario is probably repeated multiple times every day and he's learned that grandma will overrule mom and mom will cave to grandma. You get to deal with the end result.

At mealtime, I view my job to be serving the kids a good, nutritious meal. Their job is to eat it or not. You did your job; he made a choice not to eat the meal you served. He'd go hungry until the next meal in my house. Also, if he had a choice between 2 snacks and threw one.....he wouldn't get the chance to throw the second. He'd be done as soon as that first snack went airborne.