Eating and Spoiled Kid Issue WWYD?

[Springdaze]

So kid refuses to eat his sandwich from home. wants MY food. throws his food on the floor and jumps on it, now its smashed and he has nothing to eat. He did it because he thinks I will give in to him. I dont want to give him anything, but cant let him starve. Now his sister who IS eating her food wants some of my food too! I dont and wont do the food program, so thats not a solution!

Thanks!

[Blackcat31]

How old are these children and what are your policies for meals and snacks? Are they provided 100% by the parent?

[Zoe]

If the kids bring their own food and that's the way you want it done, then stick to your guns! The kid threw his food on the floor, well.....then I guess he doesn't eat! If you give in and give him some of your food, then he'll know that he can do this to you every day. I know it's hard letting the child go hungry, but he needs to learn that he can't act that way!

I always say "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit". My group can say it in unison, they know my rule so well. It's kinda cute actually.

[cheerfuldom]

he won't starve in one day

[Springdaze]

the parents supply lunch, I supply snacks but most pack plenty of their own. I dont mind giving extra of my food, if they eat whats brought from home first. BTW, I gave him 4 saltines and thats it! oh, and he is 4 and a half next month.

[cheerfuldom]

oh he's old enough to learn. no crackers or anything....eat what mama brought or go hungry till the next snack (at which point I would pull out the same item for him that his mom brought)

[Springdaze]

I wonder what "the book" says though??? Of course the licensing people have never worked with a child most times anyway!

[Cat Herder]

If it is the first time, I'd give Mom a quick call. Give her two choices. A. Bring something by quick B. Allow him to eat what you provide.

I know I'd feed him, I am actually doing it for my ENTIRE group right now (in the vent section if you are interested) because it will effect everyones day.

My rule is meal times are to be stress free.

[laundrymom]

Throwing food means you aren't hungry,... Wash your hands and go lay down.

[Cat Herder]

Throwing food means you aren't hungry,... Wash your hands and go lay down.

As a parent, I agree...

As a provider, I know it would ruin the rest of the day unless I had a LARGE snack planned...

[meganlavonnesmommy]

If you give him something else, he will learn that if he throws a fit, he gets what he wants.

If you DONT give him something else, he will learn that if he throws a fit, he gets nothing, and next time he will eat what he brought in the first place.

It sounds harsh, but if that is what he brought, that is what he can eat, or not eat, the choice is his.

But then he goes hungry until the next snack/meal. He wont starve in a few hours.

[youretooloud]

well, the child who threw his food would go sit in the other room.

The one who IS eating, i'd give her some of our lunch if I had enough, and if she ate her own lunch. I never want a child to be hungry... but, I won't give in to anybody who is wasting/throwing food. I will not have a power struggle over food with anybody. "Eat or don't eat.. I don't care".

[SandeeAR]

Maybe I'm just a meany, but a stomped on lunch eats just like a fresh lunch. Especially if it is a sandwich. I would have sat him down and served him what he stomped on. After a couple of times of that for lunch, he would stop doing it.

BTW, if you can't tell....I don't do spoiled

[grandmom]

I totally agree with SandeeAR. I'd give him ONE chance to eat the smashed sandwich. Then I'd bag it up and give it to mom when she picked up. No substitutes if he didn't eat. NONE. And, I'd serve snack that I knew was a challenge for him (read: something he doesn't like).

Never give in to a terrorist (or terrorizing child in this case).

[SandeeAR]

I totally agree with SandeeAR. I'd give him ONE chance to eat the smashed sandwich. Then I'd bag it up and give it to mom when she picked up. No substitutes if he didn't eat. NONE. And, I'd serve snack that I knew was a challenge for him (read: something he doesn't like).

Never give in to a terrorist (or terrorizing child in this case).

AMEN!!! Sounds like we came from the same "old school"::