How To Take It?

[Country Kids]

I would almost report this to the police and let him know what he did was not funny, term them and then file a restraining order. This is not at all funny and I would definetly report him to liscensing. The next childcare provider definetly needs to know what happened. Have your husband in uniform or another officer present when you term them and let him know you are very serious about all this.

Also, I'm finding more and more providers are doing field trips with children. It used to be a rareity to find one that did do field trips. Anyway, they may have a hard time finding a no fieldtrip childcare. What do these parents do when their child goes to school and they have fieldtrips. Our fieldtrips sometimes actually involve the parents doing the transportation not the bus company. Will he threaten the teacher?

[Meeko]

That kind of intimidating talk is not excusable in any shape or form, at any time or under any circumstances.
I would term them now.

[sharlan]

I would term this family immediately.

I don't care if he was "just kidding", but don't threaten me in my home.

I tell all of my parents up front, I DO NOT STAY HOME all the time. I run errands, we go on field trips. I live my life in a normal manner. If you are not comfortable with this, then you need to find alternate care. End of discussion.

My husband and I were just discussing where we were going to take the kids on Monday for an outing. He's upset because he didn't get to go camping with us this week.

[sharlan]

I would almost report this to the police and let him know what he did was not funny, term them and then file a restraining order. This is not at all funny and I would definetly report him to liscensing. The next childcare provider definetly needs to know what happened. Have your husband in uniform or another officer present when you term them and let him know you are very serious about all this.

Also, I'm finding more and more providers are doing field trips with children. It used to be a rareity to find one that did do field trips. Anyway, they may have a hard time finding a no fieldtrip childcare. What do these parents do when their child goes to school and they have fieldtrips. Our fieldtrips sometimes actually involve the parents doing the transportation not the bus company. Will he threaten the teacher?

I love when the parents join us on our fieldtrips.

[daycare]

wow.... I know that sometimes people say things, but don't actually mean them. However, this is NOT something you say to the person that cares for your child, joking or not....And not something you say in front of other children,

I would address this situation immediately, don't wait. Don't let it go on for one more second.

If you have already taken the child in, I think that you will need to finish your day and term right when DCP come to pick up. I would contact your LIC or your Military rep. and let them know this morning what happened..

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with a person like this what a bummer....

[laundrymom]

I had a long thought out respoNse but it went to cyber land, my quick dirty fast answer is, call mom, request SHE pick up. ASAP. when she gets there hand her child, their belongings. And a term notice that states " due to threats made against providers life at drop off by <insert dads full name> on July 28, 2011, care is terminated immediately. "


Tell mom that after his reaction and comment that you feel threatened and won't continue care. That sometimes accidents happen and you feel he would do bodily harm to you if their child was injured.

I personally take threats very seriously. I have been literally 2 minutes from a madman with my two oldest. At fairchild AFB in 1994, a man walked into the hospital with a machine gun and opened fire. We had picked up flouride drops, left hospital, drove 3 blocks heard gunfire sirens, dropped my ex off at work, He told me to GET OFF BASE, they searched my car as I left the.base and were on lockdown shortly after. At that point we didn't know what had happened, if it were terrorists, or what. I grew up on bases and I had never been so scared. I drove home and waited, we lived in off base housing. I listened to the radio, waited on a phone call. It was horrifying. 5 killed including an unborn child, and I believe 22 people injured, some were preschool age.

This forever changed me. And my thoughts on threats will not waiver.

[Alexandra]

I am licensed excempt. In my city they only allow you 5 kids including your own and afterschoolers to be licensed. I have 3 children of my own so that will only allow me 2. If I am license exempt I may have 3 kids not including my own. I've talked with other license providers and they told me our city is the only one in the entire state that allows you 5, every other city/town allows you 6 plus 3 afterschoolers. Stinks huh! So either wait till my kids get older or move to another town.

[SimpleMom]

Ok these are the same parents I wrote about in "telling a parent goodbye.' Here goes... The mom tells me Monday she is switching next Monday for Friday and asked if it was a problem. I said well we were suppose to go on a field trip but I guess I can cancel. (He is 1.5 yrs.) Spoke to my husband about it who was suppose to come and says who cares we'll bring him along and each push a stroller. I called mom to ask and said she had to discuss it with dad. Dad showed up this morning and said no they were going to keep him home because they didn't feel comfortable. He said they trust me but not in public. And then he says because if any"thing ever happened to my son I will kill you." He said that right infront of the kids I watch and my father.

Now I know as a parent we think that in our head that if something happened to my kid I'll kill them but would you ever say that to the person who is the provider for your child?

How do I take it? I was planning on telling the parents "goodbye " when she had her baby in October but now I am thinking much sooner.

I would say if he was in any way serious (as opposed to totally being sarcastic) term right away. That's just not very cool to say in front of kids anyway.

[Michael]

Obviously he worries too much about his kid and he expressed it in a dumb way. I think he was talking out of his arse and not serious. Still it should be a wake up call for him and your husband should let him know it.

[MarinaVanessa]

When he said the words, "I will kill you", I would have said....You will never get the chance, you are terminated immediately for threatening me. I would have then handed him the kid and shut the door.

Ditto. Me too. I wouldn't even give them the pleasure of a 2-week notice.

[Alexandra]

Obviously he worries too much about his kid and he expressed it in a dumb way. I think he was talking out of his arse and not serious. Still it should be a wake up call for him and your husband should let him know it.

That's what I think as well, that's why I didn't know if I should brush it under the carpet or terminate.

[SandeeAR]

Obviously he worries too much about his kid and he expressed it in a dumb way. I think he was talking out of his arse and not serious. Still it should be a wake up call for him and your husband should let him know it.

That's what I think as well, that's why I didn't know if I should brush it under the carpet or terminate.

But what IF he was serious? Yes he could have been blowing smoke, but maybe not. How many other children are you putting at risk, if he IS serious? Besides, if he would say that sort of thing in front of the other kids, just think what the future holds when he talks in front of his own child.

I just couldn't/wouldn't take the chance that he isn't serious.

[familyschoolcare]

OP, I think you should take the dad's body language into account when deciding how serious his "threat" was or was not.

[SilverSabre25]

OP, I think you should take the dad's body language into account when deciding how serious his "threat" was or was not.

Regardless, they say there's always an element of truth even in a joke.

[nannyde]

Obviously he worries too much about his kid and he expressed it in a dumb way. I think he was talking out of his arse and not serious. Still it should be a wake up call for him and your husband should let him know it.

your husband should let him know it

Yes

If he was doing alpha male dog he needs to meet your alpha male dog whether you keep them or not.

Parents that think this way don't realize that we are ALREADY under a lot of pressure not to have ANYTHING happen to the kids. We don't need to be told of the consequences because we know they would be bad.