How To Take It?

[Alexandra]

Ok these are the same parents I wrote about in "telling a parent goodbye.' Here goes... The mom tells me Monday she is switching next Monday for Friday and asked if it was a problem. I said well we were suppose to go on a field trip but I guess I can cancel. (He is 1.5 yrs.) Spoke to my husband about it who was suppose to come and says who cares we'll bring him along and each push a stroller. I called mom to ask and said she had to discuss it with dad. Dad showed up this morning and said no they were going to keep him home because they didn't feel comfortable. He said they trust me but not in public. And then he says because if any"thing ever happened to my son I will kill you." He said that right infront of the kids I watch and my father.

Now I know as a parent we think that in our head that if something happened to my kid I'll kill them but would you ever say that to the person who is the provider for your child?

How do I take it? I was planning on telling the parents "goodbye " when she had her baby in October but now I am thinking much sooner.

[SilverSabre25]

Yikes...I'd be wrapping that boy in cotton and trying to make sure he didn't get so much as a bruise or a bit of a scrape. That would scare the (crud) out of me.

I would be thinking of terming much sooner, too...that's just...scary.

[daysofelijah]

Buh-BYE! I would never let that man in my house again, my dh would definitely never let a person who threatened my life into the home! I would give immediate termination or if you feel the need give the mom two weeks notice and say her dh is not welcome to pick up or drop off if they choose to use the two weeks.

[Crystal]

I would not tolerate that. I would have termed him on the spot. NEVER, EVER would I allow someone to threaten me with violence like that, and NEVER, EVER would I care for someone's child if they did not trust me to care for and protect their child 100% of the time. Your father should have said something to him.................

[nannyde]

I would not tolerate that. I would have termed him on the spot. NEVER, EVER would I allow someone to threaten me with violence like that, and NEVER, EVER would I care for someone's child if they did not trust me to care for and protect their child 100% of the time. Your father should have said something to him.................

See above

That would be a deal breaker to me.

[wdmmom]

Yep, I would have bid my farewell right then and there. WHO ARE YOU to run your mouth to me in MY house and threaten my life?! ADIOS A-HOLE!

[Blackcat31]

Buh-BYE! I would never let that man in my house again, my dh would definitely never let a person who threatened my life into the home! I would give immediate termination or if you feel the need give the mom two weeks notice and say her dh is not welcome to pick up or drop off if they choose to use the two weeks.

I agree with daysofelijah 100%!! I personally would probably not even give the two weeks notice and explain to both parents exactly why. Speaking to another person in that manner is inexcusable! Imagine if he were to have made that comment to the Kindergarten teacher. He would have made it two feet out the door before he was arrested for terroristict threats.

Now, I do fully understand a parents instinctual need to protect their child but that was completely inappropriate. You can think what you want but to say it outloud, even in jest is not okay. I would term immediately and report it to my licensor as soon as possible.

I would not tolerate that. I would have termed him on the spot. NEVER, EVER would I allow someone to threaten me with violence like that, and NEVER, EVER would I care for someone's child if they did not trust me to care for and protect their child 100% of the time. Your father should have said something to him.................

I also agree one of the most important parts of the provider-parent relationship is trust. If it isn't there, then I am not right for you and your family is not right for me.

[Meyou]

I would not tolerate that. I would have termed him on the spot. NEVER, EVER would I allow someone to threaten me with violence like that, and NEVER, EVER would I care for someone's child if they did not trust me to care for and protect their child 100% of the time. Your father should have said something to him.................

This. I would never want to see him again.

[SandeeAR]

When he said the words, "I will kill you", I would have said....You will never get the chance, you are terminated immediately for threatening me. I would have then handed him the kid and shut the door.

[Zoe]

I agree with everyone. That would have scared the crap out of me and I would always be wondering how serious he was. I'd be willing to be that if he had the gall to even say that out loud, then he was actually serious.

Get rid of this family NOW! And maybe have your husband present when you do it.

[Alexandra]

My father didn't hear it because all the kids were talking loud. He said good thing he didn't hear it or he would have been a dead man. The dad didn't yell at me and say it he just said it in a sentence and I stood there with my mouth dropped open and nothing coming out. Ofcourse my husband who is a coreections officer () is at work and can't recieve calls so I can not wait for him to get home.

[jen]

Whoa! That is way out of line. Buh bye!

[Alexandra]

Weird but the dad said he didn't feel comfortable now but if he was 3 then it was different.

[flightlessbird11]

Really?? I'd have told him BUH-BYE and don't let the doorknob hit you in the
a$$ on the way out!

What a jerk! Term! Also, I agree with a previous poster that said that if a parent doesnt trust you 100% of the time, then they need to find somewhere else. Not cool.

[JenNJ]

Bye psychopath!