5yr Old DCB Is Too Rough With My 3m Daughter!

[Unregistered]

get him his own baby

This is a great time to really talk to him about how delicate the baby is, and how to be a good dad when he is grown up. 9 and 11 yos no touch baby either "It was great the first week while we were getting to know each other", you tell them, "and thanks for your help, but its important for me to feed the baby and you guys can visit while I do or go play. "

Babies are exciting and he does want to play, so get some big baby dolls for the crew and let him mimic you with his. Also - invest in an Ergo and do not let the Baby out of your arms or eyesight for a split second.

Keep your numbers low and manageable and take baby off with your mom to a quiet room part of the time. Never leave baby unattended - Your mom takes a break with the baby too.

[Abigail]

I would never let the kids start helping with the baby at such a young age. When you start, it just gets worse. We have a 5 and 6 month old and soon a 6 week old. I personally don't let ANY child--sibling or not--get closer than an arms length. I explain to the child that only the teachers (my co-workers and I) are allowed to handle the babies. All kids need to stay an arms length away and I explain that it's because babies can't say "Hey, give me some space please" because they're too little so I do it for them until they're old enough....close to 12 months really.

[Hunni Bee]

Other days there are 2 girls there, age 9 and 11, and I let them feed my baby as long as they sit on the couch.

Yeah, that's risky. They may be gentle and responsible, but your daughter is too young to let other children feed/care for her. She could choke and the children may not even notice. (I'm sure you're close by, but still...) Plus I don't know what the regs are in your area, but we could get into big trouble here for allowing children to care for other children...but it is your own daughter, so I'm not sure.

I would do a no-touching (or a feet-only) rule for the baby with everybody. The 5yo really doesn't get that he's too young and rough to play/touch the baby, all he sees is he's the only one who can't. So it's going to continue to the be sore spot with him, especially since there aren't any other kids there his age yet (I'm assuming).