5yr Old DCB Is Too Rough With My 3m Daughter!

[Christina72684]

I just opened last week, and have several PT kids, but one FT 5yr old DCB. He's a typical boy, just like his parents warned us. He plays A LOT, doesn't nap, sometimes lies, and often doesn't listen. I'm okay with most of that, but I'm not okay with how rough he is with my 3 month old baby girl. He constantly wants to get in her face, kissing her all over, tickling her pretty hard, patting her way too hard, tries to pick her up, wants to get in her swing with her, etc. My mom (who works with me) and I constantly ask/tell him to stop and explain that she's fragile and you need to be easy with her, but he just won't listen and stop.

Any advice?

[Auntie]

Have you told him, that hurts her when you tickle her.

Tell him we don't kiss our friends at daycare kisses are for our mom's and dads, aunts, uncles, grandparents. (family)

Tell him only you are the one to pick up chidren. Children do not pick up children.

One person to the swing.

keep your hands to yourself.

[sharlan]

I would do whatever it took to keep your baby away from this little boy. NEVER, EVER leave her alone in the same room with him for 30 secs.

[kidkair]

Enforce a no touching rule. It's tough since you've just started and haven't been able to raise these kids in your care. Check out Nannyde's blog on here as she's got an article about surrendering to baby and not touching or playing with babies who can't move. Put him in time out every time he gets close to the baby and he'll figure it out. Be patient as he's learning about you just as you are learning about him.

[Auntie]

Oh I thought I read 3 yr old omg a 3 month old wow yeah definately tell him he can NOT touch the baby period.

[laundrymom]

NO TOUCH MY BABY!!!! Loudly. Period. Each time, every touch. I don't share my babies that young.

[Michael]

NO TOUCH MY BABY!!!! Loudly. Period. Each time, every touch. I don't share my babies that young.

Nannyde had a great article on this called Surrender to the Baby: https://www.daycare.com/nannyde/surr...o-the-baby.htm

[Pammie]

Around here I have a "no touching babies" rule if the baby is out of my arms. When I'm holding an infant the other children are welcome to shower the baby with affection - but I'm able to super closely monitor all of the touches

My advice is just make it a rule that NO ONE touches the babies unless you're holding them.

[CheekyChick]

I would simply tell him... Until the baby is a bit older, no touching, tickling, kissing, or touching. PERIOD.

[Meyou]

We have a don't touch the baby rule as well. Enforced until the babies are walking for the most part. I only take 2 babies at a time and they start later for me due to the long canadian mat leave.

Another thing to consider is that you're dealing with some adjustment behavior too. DCB isn't used to you or your rules and will need lots of reminders before the point is driven home that he has new rules to follow. Not touching the baby is just one of them. Be consistant and he'll figure it out in a few weeks.

Good luck and congrats on your new daycare.

[daysofelijah]

Eek! No touching babies! Daycare kids may not touch immobile babies. Dcks never, ever, ever pick up a baby. I could lose my license if I was letting kids pick up babies. If I am holding the baby they may possibly be allowed to touch their feet, but that is it! Do not let dcks touch the babies! Scary!

[jen]

NO touching the babies!

[Cat Herder]

I set up my playroom so that no child could get to the infants even if they wanted to.

Simplified my life.

It is worth thinking about.

[sahm2three]

I just opened last week, and have several PT kids, but one FT 5yr old DCB. He's a typical boy, just like his parents warned us. He plays A LOT, doesn't nap, sometimes lies, and often doesn't listen. I'm okay with most of that, but I'm not okay with how rough he is with my 3 month old baby girl. He constantly wants to get in her face, kissing her all over, tickling her pretty hard, patting her way too hard, tries to pick her up, wants to get in her swing with her, etc. My mom (who works with me) and I constantly ask/tell him to stop and explain that she's fragile and you need to be easy with her, but he just won't listen and stop.

Any advice?

I sectioned off an area of my living room and most of it is for the 3 and unders and the rest is for infants. I am able to lie them on the floor without having to worry about the toddlers trampling them, they are able to sit in their bouncers or whatever without being pawed at. Maybe you could section off a small area that the older kids aren't allowed to go in to? Otherwise, I would say just lay down the ground rules. Good luck!

[Christina72684]

Thanks for all the advice! I think one problem he has is that he's the only child I'm watching some days. Other days there are 2 girls there, age 9 and 11, and I let them feed my baby as long as they sit on the couch. I think he might get jealous and since he sees them do it he thinks he should be able to touch her too. I just keep telling him that when he gets older he can, but every now and then he asks, "Am I old enough to touch the baby yet?"